‘If I contribute to help pay your woman’s dowry, I must ‘sample’ her’ confesses Captain Kale

Captain Kale has advised ladies not to help men pay their dowry as that is an act of desperation on their side and they may regret later.

According to Kale, men who allow women to pay their own dowry should call themselves for a ‘meeting’.

Ladies, I’ve said this and I’ll repeat again and again. Don’t ever help your man pay the dowry, yes don’t, never ever.

And to you men, what the hell are you thinking asking or allowing her to help you pay the dowry? Are you mad?

Captain Kale goes ahead to question men who allow their women to help pay dowry.

According to Kale one would rather be a bachelor than allow their girlfriend pay their own dowry.

Are you crazy? Also, as a man, if you can’t be able to pay the dowry, then don’t marry, better be a bachelor.

Yaani why should you organize for a fundraiser for your dowry or even for your ruracio or wedding?

Captain Kale adds

I swear mimi nikikuchangia lazima nikaonje your wife And to these people who help kuchanga, you’re just but fools, you’re wasted brains. Yes, I just said that.

Kale adds that there are only a few instances where harambees are allowed.

And the only point I advise people to do a mchango, is maybe ya kanisa, school fee or hospital bill.

So what is your opinion on ladies who pay their own dowry?

Would you? Put your answer in the comments section.

‘Pay dowry or give us back our daughter,’ Diana Maruas family warns Bahati

Diana Marua and her husband Bahati have once again aired their dirty linen in public after Diana’s family came to demand for dowry.

Diana and Bahati are expecting their second child and her family is furious.

Diana Marua

During their reality show, Diana’s family demanded dowry before Diana decides to get more children.

Where is Bahati? Are you hiding him? We have come all the way from Kisumu and we came to see him.

We are very angry.

This is your second child and Bahati promised to come pay dowry and he did not.

We want dowry. Don’t combine efforts with your man so that he does not pay dowry.

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Diana’s family adds,

We have been sent by the elders.

This is the second child and the 3rd and 4th one will come before we receive anything.

Diana Marua and Bahati
Diana Marua and Bahati

Ladies: This is how to dress for this cold weather and still look classy!

An agitated Diana responds

This is my house and you are being disrespectful. If there is a problem let us sit down and talk about it.

How do you know that Bahati has no paid my dowry?

What elders have sent you?

Bahati was nowhere to be seen as the ugly scene unfolded and it is obvious that Diana was agitated.

Bahati’s brother came to Diana’s rescue by telling her family to keep off given that everything had been sorted with the elders.

How are women involved in the dowry process? he asks

We finished the dowry process with the elders if there is anything remaining let the elders come themselves.

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‘If you can afford Jameson then pay dowry,’ shouts Mwalimu Kingangi

Mwalimu Kingangi has revealed why he does not look forward to dowry traditions in Kenya being overlooked.

He says that the move will help erode this treasured culture.

The admission came after Maina Kageni confessed that a friend of his was recently asked for Ksh 1 million as dowry.

According to Maina, this is absurd but according to Mwalimu 1 million is OK.

The same way he gets money for Jameson is the same way he should look for dowry.

Ruracio is the Court of Appeal when it comes to marriage.

The problem with young people is that they want shorts cuts but they do not understand that shortcuts do not work.

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Mwalimu adds that its time people respected efforts put by parents on their kids.

You need to realize that this woman has been brought up by a village. Harambees have been held to educate her to become the doctor she is.

Mwalimu Kingangi adds,

You think that by giving her a space at Whisky River that is enough to make her your wife?

Marriage is not a joke so go out there and look for dowry.

Men how much would you pay as dowry for your woman?

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‘I am being asked for Ksh 4.9 million dowry,’ cries shocked Kenyan man

A Kenyan man left Maina Kageni flabbergasted after he confessed what he and his friends were asked as part of the dowry.

According to the man, the family of the girl asked for cash over the fact that the girl suckled her mother’s breasts dry during childhood.

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He says,

We went for a dowry ceremony among the Duruma.

We were asked to give cash to them for helping seducing our woman .

Maina you have to pay this ‘fee’ in cash.

We gave all the cash we had, we even had to ask for cash through Mpesa.

By the end of it all we had given Ksh 1.5 million.

She never showed up on our wedding day only to resurface carrying another man’s baby

The caller adds,

We were also asked for cash to compensate the fact that the woman we wanted had left her mums’ breast dry.

According to the elders lazima tungelipia.

Another fan adds,

My wife is South African and I have been asked for 700,000 South African Rand which is Ksh 4.9 million.

We have a kid and I love her so I have no option here.

The money is a lot given that elders from her home are still asking for more stuff.

Her whole family is here but they want me to take the dowry to South Africa.

Why do they take advantage of us men?

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Daughter narrates devastating story of how her dad died soon after receiving dowry

An 80-year-old man from Passenga in Ol Kalou, Nyandarua county died mysteriously on Friday night, just hours after receiving a dowry from his son-in-law.

Ndung’u Kabiru’s lifeless body was discovered next to his bedroom door by his daughter, Jenifer Wanjiru who had gone to check on him on Saturday morning.

Wanjiru told the Star her father had visitors who brought him the dowry on Friday evening.

The party ended at 6 pm after which both guests and family members left for their homes.

However, on Saturday morning when Wanjiru went to check on Kabiru who lives alone, she found the door to his house unlocked.

“I entered and saw him lying next to the bedroom door. I called a neighbour who assisted me to put him on the sofa and then we called a doctor,” she said

She said the doctor told them their father had already passed away hours before.

Wanjiru said it was difficult to establish what killed Kabiru given that there were no signs of a struggle in his house and he had no physical injury.

She suspected he could have taken too much alcohol.

Her sentiments were echoed by Passenga chief, Daniel Muniu.

Muniu said it could be after the party, someone might have brought him alcohol that killed him since he was a known drunkard. Three empty bottles of Vienna vodka were recovered at the scene.

Muniu confirmed nothing had been taken from Kabiru’s house including the money brought by his in-laws as dowry price. He did not say how much it was, but said the in-laws confirmed it was intact.

The body was moved by police to J.M.Memorial mortuary, Ol kalou where a postmortem will be carried out to ascertain the cause of his death.

-The Star

I paid my own dowry and my husband still dumped me after losing my leg

A lady by the name Maggie left many in shock after she revealed that she actually used her own cash to help her husband pay for her dowry, and she was eventually dumped.

Speaking in an exclusive interview, Maggie, narrated how she met her ex- husband while in University and the two fell in love amid warnings from her parents not to marry the young man.

Desperate not to lose her soul mate, she had to lie to her parents that her fiance was a wealthy man in a bid to convince them to give their blessings for her to finally tie the knot with his prince charming.

Destined to keep her man, she actually forked out Sh100,000 from her own pocket to help the poor soul settle the bride price – wait for it… he still dumped her!

Maggie, despite her undying love and sacrifice for her man, she was dumped after she lost her leg following a road accident.

She narrated;

I helped my husband settle my bride price. I loved him unconditionally and he was not employed. We met in the university and my parents were against our union so I had to lie that he is a wealthy man.

She added:

I gave him Sh100,000 which he used to pay for my dowry but he later on dumped me. I was involved in a horrible accident and after one of my legs was amputated, he said he could not live with me since I was unable to have a baby.

But I am now doing okay emotionally because I was counseled.

68-year-old Saudi Prince pays Sh4Million as dowry for bride

Saudi Prince Sultan Bin Salman is the newest husband in town. The 68-year-old Saudi Prince married a 25-year-old woman in a colourful wedding that left many talking for days.

The Saudi Prince, paid a bride price of 50 million dollars equivalent to Ksh4,547,362,500. An amount that can build a nice mall in Nairobi.

Sultan Bin Salman married his young bride in an extravagant ceremony and a series of videos from the ceremony have been shared online.

Saudi Prince Sultan Bin Salman


The wedding convoy had between 20-30 white Range Rovers and more than 35 large boxes were offloaded from a white luxurious bus to be presented to the bride’s family. The bride was also gifted Diamonds. A chariot filled with gifts for the bride and her family was also seen at the venue of the wedding.

The bride wore an expensive wedding gown. One Amal Abdul shared the news on Twitter and she tweeted:


Check out the photos


Saudi Prince Sultan Bin Salman
The Bride


Saudi Prince Sultan Bin Salman

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City tycoon flies family and friends in four choppers to pay dowry in Kitui

A remote village in Mwingi was stirred awake last Saturday after a flamboyant city businessman accompanied by several MPs arrived in four choppers to pay dowry for his bride.

Nairobi businessman Henry Waswa shocked the sleepy Nzatani village in Kitui county, after landing in style to pay bride price for Moreen Tabitha. A fleet of high-end vehicles was on standby to pick the guests.

The groom, from Bungoma county, was accompanied by youthful legislators, led by area MP Charles Nguna (Mwingi West), Babu Owino (Embakasi East), Caleb Amisi (Saboti) and Alfred Keter (Nandi Hills).

Waswa was in the news last year after he offered a free air ticket to Saleh Wanjala, aka Bungoma’s ‘James Bond’, who hit the headlines after hanging on a helicopter in Bungoma carrying the body of Jacob Juma.

The trader, who has interests in the entertainment and real estate industry, hosted Saleh and his family to a luncheon at his home in Lavington.

And true to his philanthropic spirit, Waswa, who donned West African regalia and flashy ornaments on Saturday, threw a whole night party for the villagers. All hotels and guest rooms in Kitui on the day he was in town were fully occupied by his guests.

According to a budget of the event seen by the Nairobian, Sh5 million was spent on the event, with a ring the couple exchanged costing a whopping Sh1.6 million.

Details are scanty as to how much bride price was paid, though the heavy presence of security could be a pointer that a hefty amount of money exchanged hands.

The lovebirds are said to have been flown to an unknown destination outside the country for the main wedding.

Check out photos from the posh ceremony.







“Can I Help My Husband Pay My Bride Price?” Woman Asks After Hubby Looses Job Before Dowry Payment

Girls, what would you do if your man lost his job at a time when he was supposed to settle your bridal price?

Well, a distressed lady has come out to ask if it’s okay to give her husband the money needed to settle the vital payment in any marriage.

Bride price:

A token, money, property, or other form of wealth paid by a groom or his family to the parents of the woman he has just married or is just about to marry.

In Africa, bride price is mostly paid before the couple officially exchanges vows, in a ceremony that is commonly known as ‘Ruracio’ in Kenya, and from the stories I’ve heard, it’s worse for a man who can’t afford to part with any money if he’s not financially stable.

Bride price payment ceremony

For your in-laws to respect you as a man, it is believed that you have to go the extra mile and offer a lump sum payment either in cash or property. This was the challenge one distraught woman was dealing with when she revealed that her husband lost his job when he had just negotiated the bride price.

At this point, he had to use all the savings he had to offset a loan, the same money that he was going to use to pay the dowry.

This pushed the woman to seek advice on whether it’s okay to help him with this; Here’s the woman’s dilemma;

Can you help your husband pay your dowry? My husband lost his job recently due to down sizing at his company. It was so sudden. He had taken a house loan which he used to be deducted from his salary but since he lost his job, he paid it with all the savings he had accumulated to prevent the bank from recalling the house. He had planned to pay my dowry this year. 

But he has no job and no savings. He feels so bad because he had already negotiated the price and doesn’t have enough money. He doesn’t want to postpone it and is so stressed out. I am the only one working for now. Can I just give him the money to go and pay the dowry since he had genuinely saved up for it and prepared so well but had to give up all his savings so that we can retain our house?

Girls, what would you do if you found yourself in this situation?




Kenyan woman ordered to payback bride price

A woman has been ordered to pay back dowry, and college fees paid by her husband. This is after an appeal court delivered a landmark ruling granting her estranged husband a divorce and refund of monies paid as bride price.

The man and his wife had been embroiled in a legal battle for a while now, according to an article published on the Nation.

The man, a 45-year-old school administrator, will also receive a refund of college fees he had paid for his wife, Ms Everline Kerubo Makini. James Mayaka paid the money for her to attend the Narok Teacher’s college between 2002 and 2004.

According to the Nation, Ms Makini had appealed against an earlier ruling by the High Court in Kisii in February 2015 but judges Wanjiru Karanja, Festus Azangalala and Gatembu Kairu ruled last week that the appeal case had no merit and upheld the finding of the lower court.

The Nation continues to report that the High Court had ordered Ms Makini to refund Sh205,000, being part payment for bride price and the fees paid for her college education, plus interest.

Mr Mayaka had petitioned the court to order Ms Makini to pay back the Sh209,000 he paid for her at the college and that she also be ordered to refund the Sh120,000 bride price.

But the court ordered Ms Makini to refund part of the amount for each category; Sh104,000 for college fees and Sh60,000 for dowry, amounting to Sh164,000.

The figure, however, rises to Sh205,000 after factoring in the interest.

Speaking to the Nation on phone, Mr Mayaka who is from Mosebeti village in Nyamira County welcomed the ruling saying: “I am happy that there is justice for the oppressed.”

He said he will now concentrate on fighting for the custody of their two children aged 11 and 13 in a court in Nyamira.

“She took our children and I would want to legally have them back because I know they are suffering,” he said, adding that his estranged wife deserted their matrimonial home in 2009. They were married under Kisii customary law in 2000 and solemnised their wedding in 2004 at the Nyamira District Commissioner’s office.

He encouraged men facing similar circumstances to seek justice, adding: “Many are just ignorant and do not know that they can seek and get justice from courts.”

13 year old girl married off to 64-year old man attempts suicide

A 13 year old girl attempted to commit suicide after being forcefully married off to a 64 year old man in Elgeyo Marakwet County.

The standard 7 pupil was beaten up and married off to a wealthy 64 year old village elder who had already paid dowry to her parents.

She stayed with the man for two days before she consumed pesticide poison at the man’s home in Koloa Division, Baringo East sub-county.

Women MPs led by Eusila Ngenyi of Uasin Gishu has complained of increased cases of gender based violence and other abuses against children in the region.

Maina Njenga pays dowry for his late wife

Former Mungiki leader Maina Njenga has paid his murdered wife’s bride price ahead of the burial on Wednesday.

Grace Wairimu will now be buried  as  Njenga’s rightful wife at his Laikipia ranch.

In accordance to Kikuyu traditions a man is not allowed to bury his wife without paying the full dowry.

Wairimu’s mother Elizabeth Nyambere recieved the dowry on Saturday at a lowkey ceremony at her Njiru home.

Njenga was escorted by his elder brother, Peter. A goat was laughtered and shared among guests, this was as a sign of togetherness.

Later on he called a meeting at his Karen home and said that the maasai in Kitengela has forgiven him and that he has been allowed to bury his wife .

-The Star

We finally have an App to help calculate bride price in Kenya

Bride price also known as dowry is an amount of money or property given to the parent’s of a girl by the groom upon stating intention to marry their daughter. In some cultures the girl gives the dowry to the parents of the groom.

In Kenya bride price negotiations involve meetings laced with cultural rituals and visits to rural homes while trying to negotiate with the elders about the true value of the girl one is to marry. But now there is no need for all that hustle because there is an app that can actually calculate bride price called bride price Kenya.

The app contains different body features and a price tag attached to it. The body features include height, weight, leg shape, facial beauty, skin color, facial quality, education, cooking skills, employment, the derrière, teeth and residency.

The price ranges from as low as Sh -25,000 if you have bleached your skin to Sh 100,000 if you have a PHD. The app then issues you will the tallied bride price and also a certificate.

bride price

Bride price results from brideprice.co.ke