There are things to keep in mind when you’re single and searching. Being brave and assertive means putting yourself out there in ways you haven’t before, but still being comfortable about it. Sitting at home and giving up isn’t a good strategy. You need to get out, to increase your chances of bumping into people who will likely be a good match for you.
• Don’t ever tell yourself men are only interested in younger women – There are men who seek younger women, but there are also those who’re interested in older and mature partners. They are looking for women their age-mates who’re intelligent and fun.
• You have to develop a sense of expectation – Your mindset makes things a reality, so if you set an expectation that you’ll meet someone great, you’re more likely to make that happen.
• You’ll likely meet someone when you’re least expecting it – If you’re outgoing, friendly and participate in social activities, you’ll more likely be noticed. Be open, receptive and have a good attitude.
• Look and feel your best. You don’t have to look like a model, but dress comfortably so that you look contemporary. Get a make-over to feel good about yourself and remove any facet of insecurity.
• Watch your negative self-talk. Women often talk down and badger themselves only to end up feeling less worthy than they are. While the culture is youth-centered, a majority of the population is old and aging, so there are a lot of people out there like you. Honor the wisdom and experience that age has brought you.
• Always be gratuitous with the person you’re with. You never know if that someone you’re dating or meeting could have a friend who may be your potential partner. What you say and do will linger.
• Always meet your new date in a casual environment. The location should be safe and the meeting should be spent in a short-interval, around other people. This way you remain in your comfort zone and can make a quick escape if you feel it isn’t worth your time.
• Prepare ahead and have conversation topics. Some people are better at talking with new people or making small conversation while others find it difficult. It’s good to have some questions planned ahead to help open the door to communication and avoid an awkward silence.
• Ask questions on important topics – Note their responses and see how they react to get a better feel for their character. You don’t want to be probing, but it gives you a good idea about who they are and what they’re looking for in a relationship.
• Try to find out if they’re ready to date again and if they’ve let go of their past. If you don’t get that information early on, you may be fooled and deceived into things that aren’t constructive to the relationship.
• Be a good listener. Refer back a little bit to earlier conversation so they know that you’re listening and paying attention. If they dominate the conversation, then that’s a red flag that they’re so self absorbed they don’t care about who you are.