‘I had given up on ever having children of our own’ Dj Soxxy Opens Up About His Miracle Babies After Wife’s Battle With PCOs

Celebrated gospel DJ  Soxxy opened up about the struggle they went through as a couple to conceive, due to his wife’s medical history with PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome) .

Born Jackson Kamau but known to many as Soxxy, the gospel DJ has been married to Anne Kamau for the last 6 years and together they have two kids. The couple who got married in June 2014, had their life planned out but what they did not know is that GOD had other plans for them.

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He says

Like any relationship, it has not been easy. I remember when we were getting to know each other, she confided in me that she may never be able to have children because of a condition she had, called PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome). At that point, I didn’t even consider what she had just told me because having children or not was not a big deal to me and at that point I hadn’t thought she was going to be my wife. Perhaps it was love that was clouding my judgement, because after all, they say love makes you do and say very foolish things.”

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In the beginning of the young marriage, the couple had decided to delay getting kids so that they could at least enjoy each others company. That did not bother DJ Soxxy, but it did bother his wife. He says

“Once in a while she would hint that we should start trying for a child but I would be adamant because we had agreed on how long we will wait. Slowly Anne began to get depressed and the roughest season in our marriage began.”

DJ Soxxy and his wife

Anne’s depression was the push that Soxxy needed to start trying for a baby

I gave in and we started trying for a baby. In that season I realized why people say “mtoto ni zawadi kutoka kwa Mungu.” (Children are a gift from God). We always assume that it’s the contraceptive that allows you or keeps you from not being able to conceive but alas, I came to realize that conception is one of those things only God, the Giver of life, can do.”

Days passed, weeks, months, years yet nothing. All this time Soxxy’s wife was on constant medical attention, moving from one drug to another and yet none of the interventions were working.

The frustrations, helplessness began causing a rift in their young marriage because Anne felt like he was not supporting her enough.

I did not know what else to do, considering I always accompanied her to her doctor’s appointments, listened to her when she needed to vent and gave her a shoulder to cry on.”

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Their  house became a warehouse for pregnancy test kits because apparently his wife felt kits sold locally were substandard and sent a friend in the UK to buy her dozens of pregnancy kits.

On the issue of PCOS DJ Soxxy says,

“The problem with the PCOS condition is that the hormones lie to the body that it is pregnant, hence at times when my wife would do the home test, the kit would show that she is pregnant only for her hopes to be shattered when she goes to the gynaecologist and she is told there was nothing.”

He continues

“At one point, I began wondering if perhaps I was the one who had a problem (not a very common thought among our species). You know we always laugh about the phrase “shooting blanks” but at that point this had stopped being a laughing matter. I started researching about it and looking around to find out if there was any man in my circles who had ever gone for a fertility procedure and what it entailed.”

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He adds that with time [email protected] which was supposed to be enjoyed turned into a dread session given that he started feeling inadequate.DJ Soxxy says

“I started feeling like an “insufficient” sperm donor. The doctors advise did not help me much as he recommended that we have sex on a schedule. Trust me even though this may have meant more sex it wasn’t as good as it sounds. Woe unto me if I came home late or dared to say I was tired! That would be cause for us to fight for the rest of the month and yes still perform my “rightful duty” nonetheless. She even started doing weird things like keeping her legs up for like 30 minutes after a session to assist the “boys” swim deeper. (There are things we men will never understand 🙂).”

Trouble conceiving affected the couple so much to the extent of them avoiding social gatherings or even the church to avoid uninvited questions.

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“My wife didn’t want people asking her why we were ‘keeping them’ and not getting babies. Anytime someone jokingly commented “Mumetuweka sana, mnangojea nini?” (Why are you keeping us waiting), I knew that was the end of that day and the week ahead would be hell.”

This went on for months. More tears, more pregnancy tests, more doctors’ visits until the doctor finally made the call and told them, ”I have done everything possible as a doctor to help you guys conceive and now we need to look at other alternatives.

He gave  two options; we try IVF (In Vitro Fertilization- an assisted reproductive technology of fertilization by extracting eggs, retrieving a sperm sample, and then manually combining an egg and sperm in a laboratory dish) or surgery both of which were still not 100% guarantee.”

Soxxy adds

“At this point Anne and I had given up on ever having children of our own and all we could do is pray and wait. I remember coming home from work in December only to find 3 pregnancy kits on our bed all indicating positive – I would know! I had become somewhat an expert pregnancy kit reader. I asked whose pregnancy kits they were as if they could have been someone else’s.”

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Even with the evidence of the three kits, the couple refrained from getting too excited to avoid dashed hopes. The couple decided to give it sometime before visiting a gynaecologist.

We were pregnant! The doctor was possibly more excited about the good news than we were. What a journey!  “People often lightly say that the final report is not the doctors, but God’s.” For us these words will remain very dear for ages to come.

The couple is now blessed with two kids Eliana Wairimu whom they consider a miracle baby and Ethan Wambage.

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DJ Soxxy’s miracle baby Eliana Wanjiku

He is a proud father and a true manifestation that miracles indeed do happen.

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8 Lessons Dj Soxxy’s wife has learnt in marriage

DJ Soxxy and wife Ciiku wa soxxy have celebrated their 8th year in marriage with a trip to Dubai.

They are one of the celebrity couples who have given other young couples something to admire in marriage.

Ciiku wa Soxxy took to her social media to pen a long beautiful message to hubby which read;

#tbt❤️ To 8years ago when I chose to stick by this guy @djsoxxy..

Before I got married, I read somewhere ‘marriage is not for the faint of heart’ and I thought kwani how hard is marriage..

DJ-SOXXY-WIFE

It’s the only institution you get a certificate before you even start the course….

Some of you have inboxed me and requested I do my 8 lessons in 8years and I will take up the challenge..

May it be interactive and let’s all learn from each other…

Look out for my next post #1of8 
#8in8 #family #marriagelessons#marriageisworkbutworthit#marriageshouldthrivenotsurvive

 

The long lesson post read,

I started my marriage journey by standing in front of God and man. So God should always be an important person in your marriage. Looking back and seeing the toughest bumps we have crossed or overcome.. I doubt we would still be standing were it not for God. 

It’s important for you as the wife to have your own spiritual nourishment, for the husband his own, for the 2 of you together, for the children individually and for the whole family together.

Prayer has calmed me when all I wanted to do was yell, prayer has sorted out stuff even before I knew what was coming my way and prayer has healed us when we didn’t know whether healing would occur. So I can’t emphasize this enough… Pray, seek God all the time. 

Some lady contacted me asking me how can I make my husband do date nights with me and I told her you can’t make or change him, pray about it.

I could tell that’s not the answer she wanted to hear, she contacted me around 3/4 months later she prayed about it everyday and God started moving and they were doing their 3rd date night.

Guess we love to complicate things, overthink, over analyze.. Relax and just Put God in it… #1of8#marriageshouldthrivenotsurvive#marriageworks#marriageisworkbutworthit

 

 

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Dj Soxxy’s 8th wedding anniversary is what dreams are made of

Celebrated gospel deejay DJ Soxxy and his wife Ciku are celebrating their 8th marriage anniversary.

The power couple has been through a lot of challenges, but they’re grateful to God. They are parents to two lovely children.

 

In a lengthy letter she penned on their marriage anniversary, DJ Soxxy’s wife showered him with love and narrated their life experience as a young couple.

In the last 8 years we have challenged, tested, pushed, pulled, fought, raged and cried together. We have struggled. We have pushed each other to the limit and continued to ask for more. We have taken each other outside of our comfort zones, kicking and screaming. We have triggered each other in ways that brought us to our knees. We have tested boundaries only to test them again and again. We have chosen our own selfish needs and wants over the other’s. We have fought for our independence and freedom while trying to remain a team. We have navigated careers and our own personal growth while trying to evolve as a couple. We have let our insecurities and fears influence our choices and behaviors. We have failed each other again and again.

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She continued,

In the last 8 years we have also inspired, loved, laughed, encouraged, supported, surrendered, created and grown together. We have loved. We have patiently waited as we discovered who we are as individuals and the work we each want to do in the world. We have soothed, supported and held each other’s hands through the scary unpredictability of life. We have listened when we didn’t want to. We have moved through grief and loss together. We have waited when we were impatient. We have trusted when consumed with doubt. We have changed even when it was uncomfortable. We have taken risks. We have forgiven. We have shined light on the darker parts of ourselves. We have surrendered old behaviors, wounds and stories. We have learned how to bend without breaking our own sense of self. We have encouraged each other to keep reaching and chasing after our dreams. We have said yes to adventures that weren’t our own so we could watch the other shine. We have created, birthed and worked hard to raise two beautiful, kind, empowered children. We have chosen each other again and again.

Being together for eight years is not a walk in the park. Ciku says it requires dedication.

What I know for sure after 8 years of being married is that it sure isn’t perfect, it requires effort and awareness and is navigated by CHOICE. It is a choice that you make every day and then that every day becomes 1 year, 5 years, 10 years, a lifetime. It is a choice of choosing to return to each other again and again.. I love you @djsoxxy.

 

The K24 TV gospel show host also showered his wife with love on their eighth anniversary and his message read;

Today we celebrated 8 years of God’s faithfulness in our marriage.. Just like the years have been full of ups and downs, our 8th anniversary today has been full of exactly that.. Started the day having to rush @ciikuwasoxxy to hospital in a foreign land and spending half the day receiving medicine through her veins… either way, when God is in control, the story always ends well. I thank God for you and look forward to many more happy and fruitful years @ciikuwasoxxy Love you.

The mother of two commented on his post and she wrote,

I thank God for you too and after 8years you know when I say I love you.. I don’t just say it.. It comes from a deep point😘😘.

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‘I love how you leave dirty socks at the door’ Soxxy’s wife celebrates him

Gospel spin master DJ Soxxy turned a year older and while people drink and make merry his wife Ciiku had something different in mind.

She decided to celebrate all the beautiful things she loves about him and the list is mind-blowing, Can you imagine she actually loves when he leaves his socks around?

“I thought I share some of my favorite things about my most favorite dude @djsoxxy .. ‘

“The way you look at me😍 the way you look at Eliana & Ethan.. Mickey & Zou (the dogs).. Dora, Goldie and the rest (the fish).

The way you look at your family and embraced mine, The way you value friendships,The way you look at Life.

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The way you handle both good and bad news..’ ‘I love the way you love God and you believe in Him..to the extent that I question if I love Him the way you do..

The way nothing moves you coz you know He’s got us.. Your faith in God is admirable’

I love how you leave your dirty socks at the door and your dirty clothes on my side of the wardrobe because that means YOU’ RE HOME.”

She added:

“I love when you obsess over a song or just some of your stupid stuff like the latest kikuyu stuff.. so when you’re away/am away I can watch or listen and feel as though you’re with me.

I love watching a good movie or series with you, I love taking drives with you, I love the way we speak our own language and how you can tell what I want to say..

I love the way when we are leaving the house together you drive carefully behind me till we part ways’ ‘I love how you let Me be Me.”

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Just when you think that Soxxy’s wife is done praising him, she adds

“I love you and in our 12 years of dating you have displayed what it means to love unconditionally and thru all circumstances.. .

You have loved me even when I didn’t love myself much I’m proud of the person you have become and look forward to all the good we will contribute ToGeThEr in the future.

DJ Soxxy

I thank God for you today and always and I thank God for the team that we have become.

Thank you for giving me the happiest days of my life. Happy Birthday my love! Inspired by Miley Cyrus.”

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Meet the most celebrated DJ’s in Kenya and their kids: Photos

DJ’s play a great role in entertaining us during giggs but most of us to do not take into consideration that some of them are parents who also need time to spend with their kids.

We look at some of the Kenyan spin masters and their kids

1. DJ Mo

Commonly known as Baba Ladasha, the gospel spin master is among Kenyan DJ’s who are parents. He is married to gospel artiste Size 8 reborn and they only have one child, Ladasha Wambui.

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2. Creme De la Creme

Dj creme is a proud father of two and his wife is expectant with their third child.

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3. DJ Soxxy

The gospel spin master is a father of two adorable kids whom he considers ‘miracle babies’ given that his wife had to battle with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome which made it difficult for her to get pregnant.

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4. DJ Kalonje

Dj Kalonje is a house hold name. His mixes are loved by both the young and the old and he is a doting father to kids whom he refers to as his strength.

Kalonje with his kids

5. Pierra Makena

Pierra is among the top female spin masters in Kenya, having created herself in an industry majorly dominated by men. She is a mother to one.

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Pierra Makena with her daughter

6. Dj Krowbar

Krowbar who is a gospel DJ is a proud father to two beautiful girls

Krowbar with his daughters

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