How toxic relationships affect your health

We all go through good and bad days in our relationships, however a bad relationship can be a detriment to your health.
One study found that being in a negative relationship puts people at a higher risk of developing heart problems (such as a fatal heart attack)

Toxic relationships are dangerous to your health; they will literally kill you. Stress shortens your lifespan. Even a broken heart can kill you.

We give you five ways you can tell that relationship is toxic and having unhealthy effects on you.

1. Increased risks of coronary heart disease

2. Increased stress levels

3. Sleep problems

4. Anxiety disorder

5. Depression


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Mental Health: Keri Hilson reveals battle with depression


In a sit down on Thursday October 10, singer songwriter Keri Hilson revealed she fought a battle with depression for seven years.

October 10th marks World Mental Health day and the US singer joined hundreds to speak out about the condition that continues to affect millions of families.

She shared her struggle saying she went on a music hiatus in those seven years to deal with the challenge.

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A year ago she disclosed on youtube that

 I was bearing the weight of some personal and professional mistakes and they just weighed so so so heavy on my spirit, and I was just not myself,


I was at the pinnacle, you know? I was severely unhappy and then add to that, this is when I decide to jump out of an eleven-year relationship. Bad decision, bad timing,” Keri added.

Keri also took to Instagram to post an emotional yet encouraging message to her fans and followers:

Today is World Mental Health Day. I opened up about my battle with severe depression in January 2018 & continue to do work with @silencetheshame, @kerihilsonfoundation, & other organizations I’m compelled to lend my story for awareness & healing. I endured a lot of trying years, but like the last slide, I’m smiling BIG now (inside too). I am proud to say that although I still have healthy stresses to manage, I AM HEALED, and I did so without medication. 💊


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If you’re like me, you’ve encountered your own set of circumstances or traumatic events that lead you down a dark road. I’m here to tell you—you don’t have to succumb to a life of darkness. There is a way out. I’m writing a book on overcoming depression for you, and I hope it helps you and many others. ☀️ 🦋


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Depression pills can wreck a couple’s intimacy

Intimacy problems are a known side-effect of depression pills — but one that affected patients say they weren’t properly warned about by their doctors.

Worse, for some, these problems can last for years, even after they’ve eventually come off their medication.

Yet campaigners say patients’ complaints have largely fallen on deaf ears, with the medical profession and drug companies either saying that the symptoms were not connected to the tablets, or assuring patients their problems would disappear once they stopped taking them.

But, today, in a victory for these very patients and the Daily Mail, the European Medicines Agency (EMA) has announced it’s now advising that a commonly prescribed group of depression pills — namely, selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitors (SSRIs) — should carry warnings about the risk of longer term enduring dysfunction.
At the moment, SSRI patient information leaflets warn about the possibility of short-term problems, but not that there can be long-term issues or that these may persist, even after the medication has been stopped.

These drugs are a lifesaver for many people. However, the risk of problems has been downplayed or ignored say campaigners — one 2001 study estimated that 50 per cent of those taking SSRIs are affected to some degree, although product leaflets suggest just 10 per cent experience some temporary loss of function.

There has been no acknowledgement of the risk of long-term and, sometimes, permanent, problems.


Professor David Baldwin, a spokesman for the Royal College of Psychiatrists says why patients experience problems even after antidepressant treatment has ended is unclear.

‘This is poorly understood and has been hard to research, because of potential confounds such as ageing and physical illness, together with embarrassment about discussing intimate concerns,’ he says.







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How post partum depression put musician Laika Kenya on a music hiatus

Singer Laika Kenya says she quit music due to depression during and after her pregnancy.

“I got depressed after giving birth and I felt like I was under a lot of pressure. I most definitely needed a break,” Laika told Word Is on Monday.

Laika says she was going through emotional turmoil and that she had lost hope, thinking all is gone during pregnancy and after giving birth. She quit singing, sold her stuff at a throwaway price and moved to Mombasa, where she started life afresh.

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“It gave me time to make new friends. I even met the man of my dreams there and the rest, as they say, is history,” she said.

Laika is back with a new hit titled ‘Hello Baby’. “It is a love song I like singing about since it’s the best way to express yourself with few words in three minutes.”

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Mumbi Girls High School matron commits suicide


There was shock at Mumbi girls high school after its matron committed suicide in the school compound.

The 56 year old Joyce Mwinzi was found dangling from the ceiling of her house by two of her co-workers Tuesday, after the morning parade.

According to the school principal Esther Njeri said she received reports from the two workers that the matron who was in an acting capacity had taken her life.

Njeri said the two went to check on her after her husband Raphael Ngugi made relentless calls to them asking about her whereabouts.

“I asked them what they had gone to do in her house and they said her husband was concerned that she did not go home on Monday which was her off day,” the principal said.

She explained that Mwinzi was known to spend her off day with her family in Gatanga sub county.

Her husband, she further noted, retired as a cook in the school on December 31 last year, leaving her at the school and relocating to Gatanga.

The matron had worked in the school for 33 years in different capacities including as a ground-woman, before eventually rising to the matron position

Njeri noted that she last saw her on Saturday during the school’s prize giving ceremony during which she worked to everybody’s satisfaction.

On Sunday, she worked up to 10 pm at night after some girls developed tummy issues and she was called upon to check on them.

Area senior chief Charles Muna confirmed that Mwinzi took her life using a wall net.

Muna urged members of the community to find ways of venting their issues to avert such incidences.

“There have been very many cases of suicides which may be encouraging more people to take their lives,” he added.

Murang’a township MCA Jecinta Ng’ang’a on her part called on counselors who are engaged by schools to talk to students should also be counseling teachers and other staffers who may also be going through difficulties.

The 5 signs you are on the brink of a burnout 

While juggling the demands of a busy life can be exhausting, pushing yourself too far, and too often can leave you burnt out – a condition more damaging to your health than stress.

‘You no longer feel capable of caring about what’s important to you, to making any effort, or staying motivated,’ Reach Out explained.


What are the signs you may be experiencing burnout?

* Feeling exhausted and unable to perform basic tasks

* Losing motivation in many aspects of your life, including your work and friendships

* Feeling unable to focus or concentrate on tasks

* Feeling empty or lacking in emotion

* Losing your passion and drive

* Experiencing conflict in your relationships with co-workers, friends and family

* Withdrawing emotionally from friends and family

Source: Reach Out 

6 important ways to know you are falling into depression

May is the Mental Awareness Month.


A study by WHO ranked Kenyans as the 6th most depressed people in Africa.

The study suggested that men were more affected by this condition than women.

In regards to mental health, we have highlighted 6 ways you might know that you are falling into depression:

1. Lack of Appetite and weight changes

When someone is falling into depression, lack of appetite and slowly losing weight is a trigger that may result from mental health.

Loss of appetite and weight changes could be from very many factors but when it comes to mental health, you may find that it’s simply because you are stressed or just don’t want to eat at all.


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2. Feeling of guilt and self hate

“I hate myself” is a sadly common voice that people struggle with.

This inner voice is especially very active when one has had self doubt and hopelessness over a situation and it tends to lead to all the negative voices that weigh down your positive progress.


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3. Hopelessness 

People who are falling into depression tend to feel hopeless and have self doubt.

This distorts their minds to be one that they do not believe in themselves  and rather one that they are always doubting what they do.

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4. Lack or concentration

Excessive tiredness that results from signs of depression can cause a lack of concentration that continues for an extended period of time.

Stress and anxiety can also be part of the equation. Stress and anxiety could result to anything that is happening or what they feel could happen in future.



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5. Fatigue and body pains 

Feeling of body fatigue and body pains is one of the ways that one knows that they are falling into some sort of mental problem.

This may happen even after sleeping for 24 hours and even after so much rest, you still wake up tired.

Stress could also trigger fatigue and pains, this is because when one is stressed for a long duration of time, their bodies get worn out from all the weight of the stress.




6. Withdrawing from close family and friends

What happens to a depressed person is that they start to withdraw from everything and everyone.

This may include intimate partner, children, parents, siblings or other household members.

When this happens it does not mean that they are doing well or avoiding you, it means they just need help and they need it from you



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