Kenyan Single Mothers Reveal The Agony They Go Through Dealing With Unsupportive Dads (Audio)

There was a very interesting discussion today on Maina and King’ang’i in the morning, as the issue of men who abandon their children went on another level, with women revealing the hardships they go through as single mothers.

Maina asked the listeners a straight forward question about dead beat dads; “Should men who abandon their children when they are young deserve to part of their lives later on?”

Why would a man demand to be part of a child’s life much later when they are grown up yet he rejected him/her and disowned the mother when she was pregnant and has never cared how she makes ends met or if the kid is going to school or if they have basic needs?

This conversation sparked a lot of reactions from both men and women to the point where a married man revealed that he has more than 20 children outside wedlock and was not ashamed to admit that he does not bother about them.

Listen to the drama on the audio below.




Single mothers could soon add dead beat dads names to birth certificates

CHILDREN born out of wedlock live in the dark without a full identity but they will have the right to carry their biological father’s name, if the courts agree with a single mother suing on behalf of her daughter.

In a potential landmark case that began Tuesday, the woman identified only as L.N.W., is challenging the constitutionality of the Registration of Births and Deaths Act. That law prohibits a mother from entering the biological father’s name on a birth certificate without the man’s consent. Many men refuse, wary of legal and financial responsibility.

Under current law, a child born out of wedlock faces discrimination and “lives in the dark and with an incomplete name and or identity,” said L.N.W. in a sworn affidavit.

The case before High Court Judge Isaack Lenaola is sure to generate controversy at a time when many mothers are naming and shaming “deadbeat dads”, married or not, who do not support their children.

Single mother L.N.W., represented by her lawyer, also challenges the constitutionality of the more recent Children’s Act that places sole responsibility for a child born out of wedlock on the mother, in the first instance. The father can subsequently acquire parental responsibility.

This means the father can only acquire parental responsibility if he applies to a court, acquires it through agreement with the mother, has accepted paternity or has maintained or lived with the child for more than 12 months.

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