Vibes men pull that turns ladies off while approaching them

When a guy approaches a lady, the first impression that he makes will determine the answer he gets. At times there are some moves that a guy can make that can completely turn off someone.

Tokeo la picha la lady rejecting a man approaching her

These are some of the moves that can make one lose interest;

Intimacy on the first day. This will create a bad impression of you and your intentions towards her. Someone may actually think you have bad intentions towards them.

Everything good takes time. You should behave at your best because you are trying to win someone’s love. This also involves baby calling her yet she has not even said yes to your proposal.

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There are some guys who want to meet you today and have sex with you the next minute. This will make you a f*ck boy to that particular lady you trying to win.

However, you find the lady attractive it is not right to go that direction. This is because no one wants to be associated with a fuck boy.

The lady may be wanting to settle down with you but one you pull that kind of behaviour then you will lose the chance.

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Asking for pictures from them all the time

Moreso especially if you ask for nudes. Ladies like the kind of men that have some respect for them at all costs.

When you ask for nudes yet you just met it shows how disrespectful you are to that person. It is not wrong to ask for snaps from a person you admire.

It should be done willingly or when your bond has been well created and she feels comfortable with you.

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Asking too many questions. This is the most irritating thing that upsets most ladies. When you have met someone avoids asking too many questions about them.

They may actually think that you are interrogating them. They may either answer you wrongly or not answer at all.

Once you have known the name its good for the start and all other things will be clear to you as time goes by.

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Here’s A List Of Things That You Don’t Owe Your Partner

Being in a relationship doesn’t mean that you stop being yourself and start being someone different. A relationship should allow you to be yourself and even make you better. Your partner should respect you, but that can only happen if you learn to value yourself. There are things that people do in relationships that end up enslaving. There are things that you don’t owe your partner, the same way that they don’t owe the same to you … here is a list

1. The right to repeatedly break your heart – You cannot keep staying with someone who has repeatedly cheated on you, abused you or is physically abusive with you. You can forgive them yes but you don’t need to stay, you owe them nothing.

2. Me time’ Everyone deserves and likes to have their time alone by themselves to just sit, enjoy and embrace themselves. A time to collect your thoughts, plan things, work on you, enjoy your hobbies etc. You don’t need to be with your man 24/7/365 and vice versa. People who like being together always are controlling, that’s not love so don’t get it twisted.

3. Saying NO – It’s not a must for you to agree with everything your partner says or does. You should not be afraid to speak your mind and you should not say yes all the time. If you feel like saying no puts you in an awkward position with your partner then you need to re-analyse your relationship. If your partner loves you he doesn’t need an explanation every time you don’t want to do something.

4. The right to control your goals and dreams – Your partner doesn’t want to see you excel at work, climb up the social ladder, grow your business, chase your dreams? If at all there is no support from your partner in things that matter to you then wake up and smell the coffee. You are the only person who can kill your dreams, don’t let anyone else kill them for you.

5. The right to control your money – In as much as you may share finances, each one still needs to have their own cash aside. Sadly many people will have their partners control every little penny including what’s not theirs. You work hard for your money, it’s your right to control it, not your partner.

6. Eternal love – Times change, people change, life goes on. Sometimes even love fades away and we may meet new people. It’s only fair to you both if you’re honest. Don’t lie, don’t cheat, be honest about it because you both deserve happiness even if it’s by other people’s sides. You don’t owe anyone forever and vice versa.

Sbonza Ni Wewe! 5 compelling reasons why young girls should stay away from ‘sponsors’

Do you ever look through your Instagram feed and wonder how in the world your female pals can afford to take off to exotic holiday destinations, yet there you are trying to hustle to afford buying the Sh90 ‘imported mexican’ maize?

Sheesh! Kenyans on social media are known not to have chills when they respond in the comments section demanding that the young girl post a picture of the ‘sponsor’ behind the vacation.

Having a sponsor has become so fashionable, one can’t miss spotting a young Kenyan girl desperately holding onto an ‘ancestor’ as they are referred to.

I know it’s been said by most ladies in our generation who love dating old men, that they love ‘monied men for multiple reasons. Campus girls are notorious for dating ‘sponsors’.

Here are my five reasons why you should disown that ancestor BUT if you really must date one, how about you emulate the French President who married a much older woman for LOVE?

1.) Are you ready for a child or fun

If you want to wait to have a kid until you’re in your early 30s, your older man is going to be about 50. Having to run around after a 5-year-old is hard work, especially if it’s been that much longer since your man had a child. And trust me he will also need as much attention as the baby as you will be taking care of all his needs. He won’t be strong enough.Your kid will also have a challenge as most kids in school will mistake his father for his grandfather.

2.) You need to respect him like your father

He is older than you and he already has kids who are almost the same age as you, they respect him and the only difference between you and his kids is that you are sleeping with him. ‘So you need to know that age demands a certain level of respect. You will feel inferior and cant negotiate with him as easily as you would have with a younger man, which means you will literally be his adopted child more than you will be his young wife. Are you ready to be ordered around and be set for curfews?

3.) Your suggestions and opinions hardly count

He has lived more than you and seen more than you so by the time you settle down together, he’ll have amassed life experiences and won’t have time for your shenanigans. Your life will end up being smaller in comparison since your shared years will make up far more of your total life experience than his. He will make most of the decisions and you will have no say in the relationship as you will have to listen to daddy yo…. sorry your husband…. all the time. It’s not fun at all.

4.) You will make enough visits to buy Viagra at the chemist

At your age, I can imagine how much more you’ll be sexually active and you can’t get it all the time. Remember to him it’s not a big deal as he has had it all his life, so unless you’re fine with ‘starving ‘, think again. Then before you know it since you are a prisoner, you may have to ask the watch man or shamba boy to service you. Women supposedly experience their sexual peak at age 35, while men allegedly go downhill after turning 18..remember this is all  allegedly. Why take your chances? So think smart as money is not everything.

5.) Your Friends and his friends

The places you want to hang out, the songs you listen to, the dancing and fun you have will be worlds apart. He won’t be able to mesh easily with your crowd and will stick out like a graying, sore thumb at parties attended by fresh-faced 25-year-olds. Likewise for you at his friends’ gatherings. Most of them met his ex wife so be sure that his friends’ wife’s are not going to make life any easier for you. These women will specifically go out of their way to make you feel not welcome in their crowd. You become an automatic threat to them by being naturally prettier and having the all-powerful asset of youth.

If this doesn’t matter to you, do you boo.

Maina Kageni blasts Kenyan man who disappeared leaving his date to pay a sh37,000 bill

‘This is the height of bad manners’, shouted an exasperated Maina Kageni on Wednesday morning.

If you have been on Twitter, you must have stumbled upon a thread by a Kenyan dude who described how he left his date to pick up the Sh37,000 bill racked up during a date.

This guy takes these ladies out, they enjoy drinks, eat and have so much fun. But he does the unexpected and he bails out on them leaving behind a bill of ksh37,000.

Here is part of the thread, that will leave you in stitches or upset.

‘Nairobi living- A friend’s friend( a babe) invites me for a drink a few weeks back and later tell me she’ll be bringing friends. I go to meet her and get there before her and order my beers and chill’

Is that a man behaving badly or is it just being mean?


At this point, the chicks have mulikad him on social media.

Maina dug in, responding to this thread saying;

‘When you entertain a lady men, you must entertain her completely’.

KOT recounted their experiences with dating girls, saying majority of women take it as an opportunity to order for things they have never eaten or drank in their life.

He added;

‘Guys if you cant afford it don’t invite girls for a drink. Women never travel alone. Don’t guys know that?’

‘If you know you have a problem just say it guys, it’s bad manners to leave girls like that.’


Read more of the thread below;

Who is the problem here; is it the man or is it the women and their ordering habits?

Girls have you been embarrassed by a man like this?


Have you ever been taken for a date and abandoned there with a bill?

What’s your opinion?

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Gospel singer Hopekid flaunts new bae after dumping Yvonne

Hopekid likes them yellow yellow, just like his new pointie bae. He was recently spotted with a young lass as they shared intimate moments in public.

The dancehall singer was in the past involved with fashion blogger Yvonne Orio and their relationship seemed to be heading to the altar, until when they broke up over irreconcilable differences.

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Yvonne has moved on and recently shared photos of her baby shower for her first-born child, evident that Hopekid wasn’t the love of her life.

Hopekid Yvonne Orio

After Yvonne, Hopekid moved on to one Diana D Mumbe. Their relationship was on the low key but to see him with yet another woman is proof enough that he and Diana called it quits.


The Delilah hit maker is surely enjoying himself dating and it looks like this time round, a wedding might just be what he is planning to do.

Meet his new bae.



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Taxi driver picks up heartbroken woman who was dumped by her date and invites her to hang out

This is so touching for anyone who has been dumped last minute by a dude.

Twitter user @vickto_willy took to Twitter to describe a very difficult situation she found herself in after she picked up a heartbroken passenger who was in town visiting a guy.

Just go through the thread and have an inspiring day won’t you?






Things To Avoid Doing On A First Date

The worst thing that can happen of your first date is embarrassing yourself by putting on something totally inappropriate.Your date will judge you from the first impression you give, and that is why what you wear or how you wear it matters a lot. The Standard

What to wear to dates is a discussion everyone questions. With unpredictable fashion trends in the market, what not to wear should be the concern when you want to impress your date.

What to wear to dates is a discussion everyone questions. With unpredictable fashion trends in the market, what not to wear should be the main concern when you want to impress your date.

Don’t let your first date attire ruin your chances for a second date. What you wear is the perfect opportunity to present who you are before you say a word. To win your date over with captivating style, consider the location, time of day and weather as these factors will weigh heavily on your attire choice and stay away from our top five things you shouldn’t wear on a first date.

Too much make up

I agree make up makes the face look fabulous and stunning, but too much of it can make you look like a clown. Apply makeup with moderation, you do not want to embarrass your date. If you can’t moderate, then be natural, it’s best to be yourself.


Dress right for the weather

Do not wear shorts, a trunk t-shirt with ray bun shades during cold weather or wear a trench-coat and a scarf in the scorching sun. On the same note do not do heels if you cannot walk comfortably in them.

This will spoil your date. Remember we are doing first impression.

Avoid high heels.

Do a test before your date, if you can’t walk normally in them, leave them at home.



Branded clothes

That branded t-shirt or cap that was given on your company’s retreat is not something your date would love to see you wearing on a date, it will spark a different conversation especially if it is your first date.

You do not have to break a bank to look good. Try out monochromes dressing or color matching for great.

For ladies try dresses and avoid too tight dresses.


Sports outfit

Sports outfit looks great on a sports occasion but not on a date, sport gear makes you look less serious on a date. Wear jeans or a suit if you can afford one and you do not want to look like a joker on your first date.

Sport outfit makes you look like you were not prepared for that date.


Huge purses.

They make you look high-maintained which makes guys think you’re an expensive date blahblahblah, not fair but true.

Some may fear even handling you for that first date.


Don’t wear flip flops

This is one of those pieces that expands past the dating dont’s list, and more into the every day dont’s list.  If there’s one wardrobe piece that’s a total no-no, it’s the flip-flop. Unless you’re on a sandy beach for a tropical place, get those heel-smacking sandals out of here.





Sassy Singer Cece Sagini Reveals How She Met The Love Of Her Life Victor Peace

Cece Sagini, a well known singer narrates how they met with Victor, her fiance.

The couple speaks of the story of their blog. The main aim for the vlog is to share how they met and the story of their proposal which had already been out.

They were in the same nursery school, same primary school Hospital Hill, where Victor was a class ahead of Cece. Three years ago, Victor was having a shoot for Blankets and was supposed to shoot Sahara performing in Kenya.

While shooting, he saw Cece and he was like “she is pretty”. A few weeks later, while scrolling in his computer, Victor started checking out Cece’s pictures on facebook while stalking Tandioe a photographer he looks up to.


Cece walked in with a pizza pie and they started laughing and thats how they connected. At that time she was in a relationship that was ending.

Through Victor’s friend, he got Cece’s number and they started texting. They spent time together during practice sessions and would spend time together the whole day.

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To find another way of seeing her again, he planned what to do and he came up with starting up a video thing and he will be recording her music covers and there he asked Cece to be his Girlfriend and she said yes.

Seven months later, came the NTV proposal which was a shock to her because she was told to do a song. When she was singing, then when she was about to finish one song, Victor walked into the studio while she was being interviewed and he came down on one knee and proposed which got her so surprised and people were calling to confirm the news.


Should Single Women LOWER Their Standards In Order To Find Husbands? Kenyan Men Speak Out (AUDIO)

Ladies, would you lower your expectations to secure a relationship and have a man in your life?

Well on our morning conversation today with Larry Asego, that was the main topic, regarding single women who complain they can’t find good men, yet they have set very high standards and expectations for the men they want in their lives.

According to crazy Monday; “When it comes to choosing a boyfriend, these girls seem to have quite a high regard of themselves, such that the urban areas is teeming with disgruntled women who cannot find a partner.”

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The male writer went on to add; “As a woman looking for a soul mate, if you want to place your premium next to the stratosphere, you can only have yourself to blame if your love life is as hopeless as a dirty coop.”

Larry Asego wanted to know if this is actually a problem when it comes to single women not having or finding a man who they want to spend the rest of their lives with.

Some Kenyan men called and gave their views on this topic, saying that women who wait on perfect men will never get married, as others claimed that women need to lower their standards because a man may get better with time.

Listen to the full conversation below.


Love Endureth All: Skinny Young Kenyan Man Shows Off His ‘Momo’ LOVER, Looking Very Happy (PHOTOS)

Dear men, what’s your ideal woman when it comes to body size and weight?

There has been a lot of debate on whether curvy women look better than petite or average size ones and vice versa, but what I’ve gathered, it all depends on the man.

Some men prefer women with curves or who’re plus size, while others are more into ladies with petite bodies or with medium curves, so it’s all about preference.

But let’s be honest, most men are not very happy when their wives add too much weight after giving birth or when they get married.

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On several occasions I’ve asked men this question about women who stop taking care of their bodies or working out when they get married, which makes them less attractive to their husbands and trust me, that’s not a good thing for a marriage or relationship.

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But when a man dates or gets married to a big or plus size woman, you would expect him to be equally big or almost the same size, but to this skinny Kenyan man, it’s all about love.

The young guy got everyone excited on the internet when he shared photos of his lover, a woman who’s almost three times bigger than him, but that did not deter him from pursuing her.

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The couple looks mismatched because the man looks more like her son than a boyfriend, he can’t even put his hands around her waist due to her love handles. He even jokes about her curves, comparing her to a Range Rover.

The plump woman ‘momo’ looks very happy and comfortable with her young lover, and at some point, he shares a photo while he’s carrying the chubby woman on his back. Wow!

Is this really true love or is this a sugar mummy and Ben 10 relationship? Look at the photos below and be the judge.



Is Willy Paul MISSING His Hot Ex Girlfriend Whom He Was Set MARRY? The ‘Fanya’ Hitmaker Responds After Sharing This Loving Post

Celebrated gospel singer Willy Paul has kept away from controversy for a while now, which he attributes to focusing more on his music and personal growth.

Willy Paul real name, Wilson Abubakar Radido, recently dropped a new song dubbed Digiri, which seemed to be taking shots at Groove Awards for snubbing him in 2016 ad 2017.

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However, the singer insisted that was not the main reason he worked on the song, revealing that he was only encouraging up and coming artistes not to rely on awards or degrees in regards to music and life in general.


When the top artiste released his massive hit with Alaine, Yes I Do he revealed that he had walked down the aisle with the beauty, but it turned out to be a publicity stunt to market the song.

But who is the main lady in Willy Paul’s life? Well, we will have to keep guessing, but what I know is that he once had a very beautiful girlfriend that he was set to wed, but things didn’t go as planned.


Though the two have now gone their separate ways, they are still very cordial and once in a while, the gorgeous model shares videos dancing to Willy Paul’s songs.

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But this time round, the dancer decided to give her a shout out, revealing that he has no regrets when it comes to what they had, and calling her ‘good people’.


Willy Paul shared a photo of the young girl, looking elegant, with a short message that read; “#memories#tbt#goodpeople#noregrets.”

I reached out to the singer to ask if he misses her and if there’s a chance of them reuniting, but his answer was very vague. This is what he had to say;

That’s mine to know and mine to keep. No, I have no comment. 

I bet time will tell if the lovebirds will indeed get back together. Do they make a cute couple or not?









Mapenzi Tu! Former Tahidi High Actress And Hey Z Da Brand’s Ex Fiancée Flaunts Her New BOO After Cheating Claims (PHOTOS)

A break-up is the worst thing anyone can go through, especially if one of the partners is accused of cheating.

Gospel singer Hey Z Da Brand knows to well the pain of losing a loved one and the mother of your child because of infidelity claims.

The artiste, real name, Daniel Ng’ang’a Heho broke up with his fiancee and baby mama Mercy Njoki late last year after it emerged that she was having an affair with her boss.


Hey Z had proposed to Mercy aka Melody of Tahidi High TV series in January 2016 and the two had dated for about 6 years and had a handsome baby boy together, but as it would turn out, they would not live to see a happily-ever-after.

Mercy Njoki is a popular actress known for her role on local TV drama, Tahidi High a few years back and after accusations that she left Hey Z for another man, she never commented on the issue.

But months after their break up, she seems very comfortable revealing her new man, the same lad she was accused of cheating on her man with, by the name Bob Muriithi, and the two seem to be very happy and doing very well.


Mercy Njoki has been dating Bob for months now and from the time gap, it looks like they knew each other before separating from Hey Da Brand. The lovebirds have been hanging out and could have even have moved in together.

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Mercy and Bob also hang out a lot with former Tahidi High crew, Jackie Matubia, Abel Mutua and Phillip Karanja. Recently, the cute couple went for a romantic date. The actress shared sweet photos with her man, who she has confessed be in love with.

Check out Hey Z Da Brand’s ex-girlfriend with her new boo below.






‘I Was NOT In Lagos With My Ex Boyfriend’ Vera Sidika Rubbishes Claims That She Hooked Up With VIOLENT Nigerian Ex (PHOTO)

Vera Sidika shocked everyone when she recently took to her social media to reveal her past violent relationship with a Nigerian man by the name Yommy.

The bootylicious socialite decided to spill the beans after the man leaked her nude pictures which ended up being shared online, and no woman wants to be put in this position.

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Vera Sidika introduced this particular ex-boyfriend back in September 2016 after celebrating her birthday, and everything looked rosy and blissful, but what many people didn’t know was the painful reality she was going through.


The two would later break up, around March 2017, and Vera revealed that part of the reason for this was his violent and controlling nature, and on top of all that, he lied about his personal life and intentions for her.

Apparently, the man has a lot of baby mamas in other countries but only shows off one of his daughters, and to add on to that, he’s a former convict and had promised Vera that he would change, but this did not happen.

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From Vera Sidika’s posts, it was clear that the man was not happy when she revealed that she was single during a TV interview, something that pushed him to insult and abusing her because he was not very happy that she broke it off.


Vera was recently in Lagos Nigeria, before flying to Los Angeles where she’s having a blast as she mixes work with a little pleasure. While in Nigeria, where her new man lives, she showed off his expensive $5,000 Rolex watch, making it clear that she had moved on.

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But sadly, some fans thought that she had gotten back with the abusive ex, who resides in Dubai, with some even telling her off for exposing him but still enjoying his company.

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Vera Sidika decided to clear the air, revealing that she was not with her ex, Yommy, while in Lagos, making it clear that he was not the one who bought her some expensive Louboutin shoes she had showed off earlier while there.

I was not in Lagos with my ex. Please, I’m tired. My ex never bought me any Christian Louboutin in his lie ever. Since I broke u[p with him 2 months ago, moved on long time ago. Pls don’t confuse my past relationship to any present. Thank you.

Vera seems to be doing just fine as she shared a photo while in Hollywood, with a caption that read; “HAPPY CHILD.”




No More Kissing On The Lips: Here Are The Sure TIPS That Your Relationship Is On The ROCKS

Relationships don’t always run smoothly but a sexual anthropologist has shared the signs to pay attention to that tell you your relationship is over.

Bella Elwood-Clayton is an expert on relationships and said one of the main red flags that indicates the relationship is in a danger zone is when the excitement is gone.

‘When, actually, you’d rather just read a book. And he would prefer to play Warcraft. Every night,’ she told Daily Life.

‘The last time you orgasmed while looking into each other’s eyes was before jeggings came out’.

She says that the biomechanical processes that happen when we fall in love only last so long and it is around the six to 24-month mark that the honeymoon period starts to end.


Ms Elwood-Clayton believes that when the complications of life get in the way it often leads to couples being less infatuated with each other.

Differing financial values and the stress incurred from consumer debt and partner materialism. These are a top reason for divorce,’ she said.

She has stated that research has found that couples who disagree about finances once a week are more likely to divorce than those who disagree a few times a month.

Arguments are the main factor of whether Ms Elwood-Clayton believes a relationship will last or not.

‘If the same fight keeps cropping up, tend to your damn soil. Although conflict is part of any long-term relationship, be aware of intensity and frequency,’ she warned.


Although she recognised that as relationships go on couples occasionally become less sexually interested with each other, physical aspects are still important.

‘When you no longer kiss on the mouth every day. A sensual kiss says, I am still in love with you. You are more than a co-parent, a co-inhabitor,’ she said.

And these aren’t the only signs your relationship might be on the rocks.

Previously relationship expert Olga Levancuka, shared with Daily Mail her three factors in a relationship that prove it is time you should cut ties.

She believes that being a priority in the other person’s life is important and if you’re not, it could be a sign to let go.

She said it’s important to think about whether your partner has introduced you to important people in their life, whether they’re making future plans with you and whether they make important decisions that could impact both of your lives.


‘Being someone’s priority isn’t necessarily all about spending every waking moment together. It’s about playing an important role in each other’s life and being truly connected,’ she said.

She also recommended that you should be aware of whether you have grown apart, as people are constantly changing and evolving.

‘When was the last time you had a meaningful conversation with your partner and found you both wanted the same things in life?’ she explained.

‘Staying in a relationship because you’re used to it and it feels easy is more common than you might think but being in a happy relationship should be more than just inertia’.

Her final piece of advice is that you ensure that it is a balanced partnership, with both of you supporting each other when you need it.

‘If your partner requires you to be there for them all the time when they need you but are never there when you need them, then you should probably start thinking about moving on’.


EXCLUSIVE: This Is Why Willy Paul Will NEVER Date An UGLY Woman!

Nigeria’s boy band P-Square sang Nobody Ugly, a song that was dedicated to appreciate all the ladies in the World.

On the contrary Willy Paul is not for that. In an exclusive interview with Kiss, the Tiga Wana hit maker revealed that he was happily dating a woman of his dreams. He went on to add that the woman he is seeing is saved.

He told this writer;

“Yes, Willy Paul is dating. Ni msichana tu ajua Mungu”

He continued;

“Watu husema mwanamke ni tabia, hi ni ukweli mwanamke ni tabia but according to me mwanamke ni tabia, anajua God ama hamjui, ni mrembo ama si mrembo.”

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He went on to describe his ideal woman saying that he would avoid unattractive women to shun away from cheating;

“Mimi sitakudanyanya ati mwanamke ni tabia peke yake.Sasa alafu mwanamke ni tabia alafu uso akala? Si hio itafanya hata nicheat? Na mimi siwezitaka kucheat juu hata God Mwenyewe hawezini-allow.”

Talking about his alleged wife Alaine, Pozze confessed that the two had only done a collabo together and nothing more.

Check Out 5 VERY Simple Tricks That Will Help You Master The Art Of FLIRTING Successfully

I’m not sure how many of you remember Would Like to Meet?

It was a popular BBC show that taught people who struggled to find a relationship how to flirt, communicate and dress more effectively.

I was the flirting and body language expert and for years studied and taught body language techniques to all different types of people. Of all these techniques, those involving eye contact were the most successful of all.

Which is hardly surprising when you consider we communicate more with our eyes than any other part of our body.


Here’s five tried-and-true techniques that really work.

1. The four-and-a-half second scan
A normal face scan lasts three seconds, scan for four-and-a-half and it’s clear they’ve ‘caught your eye’.

Eye contact of more than 10 seconds between two people means one of two things: you’re about to fight or have sex (well, you want to anyway).

Prolonged eye contact produces intense emotional reactions regardless of whether it’s a fist or a pair of lips heading your way.

It activates the nervous system, raises our heart rate and blood flow and stimulates the production of certain hormones.

Just about everyone knows being watched is a sign someone’s interested, so if you want to subtly make your intentions known, this is the way to do it.

2. The slide and settle
Let your eyes settle on someone so they’re aware you’ve noticed them, then as they’re still watching you, slide your eyes around the room before settling back on them again.

This effectively says, ‘You instantly attracted me and you’re still the pick of the room even after I’ve checked out the competition.’

One other point while we’re on the topic of eye slides – if you’re interested, it’s best to break the very first eye contact made by dropping your eyes straight down, then directly up again to lock eyes after a few seconds.

If someone’s eyes instead slide away from yours to the side or upward and don’t return after a minute or two, they’re almost definitely not interested.

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3. The flirting triangle
Eye movement studies show we look at different parts of other people’s faces depending on the situation and level of attractiveness.

When looking at strangers or in business situations, we make a small triangle by moving our eyes from eye to eye, dipping them as we move across the bridge of the nose. With friends or in more friendly social situations, the triangle widens as our eyes drop below eye level to include the nose and the mouth.

With lovers and people we fancy, the triangle broadens even further, dropping below the mouth to include the breasts and other good bits like the genitals.

4. Blink if you fancy them
It’s easy to see where the term ‘batting your eyelashes’ originated from: if someone looks at us and likes what they see, they tend to blink more.

Because the brain associates rapid blinking with finding someone sexually attractive, the more you blink at someone, the more attracted you feel to them. This, of course, can be manipulated for your benefit! You can increase the blink rate of the person you’re talking to, by blinking more yourself.

If the person likes you, they’ll unconsciously try to match their blink rate to keep in sync with you, which in turn, makes you both feel more attracted to each other! Don’t automatically assume slow blinking means disinterest, however.


5. Wink if you want more
Nudge, nudge, wink, wink jokes and Carry On films have turned a once sexy flirt tool into a bit of a joke.

But, a quiet wink matched with a sexy smile can be incredibly bonding simply because it’s secret and implies the two of you are closer than others present.

So ignore the bad press: delivered at the right moment, a simple wink can be devastatingly effective.

Try a two-eyed wink for variation by blinking in slow motion, consciously slowing it down to half or a third of the normal speed (the average blink lasts one fortieth of a second).

LONELY HEARTS! 5 Reasons Why Some Ladies Didn’t Celebrate Valentine’s Day

So Valentine’s Day came and went, and lovers all over the world celebrated each other in one way or the other.

It’s obvious that this day is mostly made for those who are in relationships or are married, with most of the women having more of the fun since the day is somewhat considered a lady’s day.

Most of those women who celebrated this lover’s day were either taken out for candlelit dinners, received flowers, chocolates, teddy bears, shoes – all those cliche things – and for the lucky ones, some even received brand new cars.

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But the truth of the matter is that not everyone enjoyed this day or had fun. For them, this was just a normal day where they went about their typical routines, then headed back home.

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For those who didn’t celebrate Valentine’s Day, this may be because of their own personal reasons, and I cannot claim to know each one. How about we delve into some of the reasons that might have led some ladies not to celebrate this romantic day.

1. They Are Single
This is most definitely one of the obvious reasons why a lady could have decided to skip celebrating Valentine’s Day. If you don’t have a better half, then it would not sense unless you’re buying yourself flowers. For some single ladies, they decide to celebrate the day by appreciating family or close friends.

2. Valentines Day Is Not That Important
For some couples, this day doesn’t signify anything and at the end of the day, it’s all about celebrating love and your better half every day of the year. After all, who said that if your man or woman doesn’t treat you or buy you something special on Valentine’s, they don’t love you. Other ladies get presents every weekend…

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3. They Got Dumped The Day Before/Same Day
Yes, there are some guys or ladies who actually dump their better halves on Valentine’s Day and instead of celebrating love, you start nursing heartbreak. For some people, it’s not planned and issues just crop up towards at that time, while for some, they might have had a few options and it happens they decided to go for the other one instead of you.

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4. The Guy Went Missing/Quiet
When a man has more than one woman, most of the time he will pull a quick one on the side chick because he has to be with his main lady or wife. Some mistresses aka “clandes” usually know that this man will not be around and maybe the only consolation they get is him sending some cash.

5. Long Distance Relationships
If you are dating a man who works in another country, there’s nothing much you can do on Valentine’s Day, other than act like it’s a normal day for you. Of course, the man will video call or something of the sort, and wish you a good one, but his presence (or lack of) makes a big difference. But hey, at least you have a man.