Habits you should avoid on the first date

The first impression is always very important because it gives a preview of the kind of person you are. These are some of the habits that you should avoid when on the first date;

Rudeness to service people

You have to try as much as possible to be kind. It is really a bad move when you start shouting at the waiter or talking rudely to them. If you don’t like the services there is always a polite way to address a mistake.

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This may make your date thinking that it is your way of addressing people and it may create a bad picture of your character.

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Talking about your past

You should have a flowing conversations that makes both of you comfortable. Try as much as possible to avoid talking too much especially about yourself. Always give the other person time to talk and express themselves. Do not talk about your ex in your conversation unless you have been asked. This may make the person think that you have not moved on. Try as much as possible to avoid that topic.

Bragging

Bragging about anything should be out of topic. Talking about what you do, properties you own and the positive sides about you is not necessary. This may make the person to feel uncomfortable especially if your lifestyle is not compatible with theirs. Try to be one level so that you may get along and be free with each other.

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Being on your phone most of the time  

If it is possible you can switch off the phone or put it on silent. It is disrespectful to be on your phone when you are having a conversation with someone. This shows that you are either bored or not interested with whatever the person is telling you at all. The person may be having a great interest in you but once you show that behavior you will actually kill the vibe.

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Bad manners

You should be of the best behavior when meeting someone. Avoid laughing unnecessarily especially if you are eating or talking very important issues. Make sure you observe all the table manners.

The suicide note a Naivasha butcher wrote over a broken heart

A twenty one year old butchery operator has committed suicide in Naivasha after his 18-year-old lover abandoned him for another man.

The victim identified as Francis Njuguna was found hanging in his room in Kinamba village 10km from Naivasha town.

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Njuguna who worked in one of the butcheries in the area left a suicide note in which he accused his lover identified only as Shiku for his woes.

In the note addressed to the teenager, the deceased told of his love and dedication to their relationship but the girl had continued to be unfaithful.

“I ask for forgiveness from my mother for this act which has been caused by my lover who has decided to move along with many other men,” said the noted in Kiswahili.

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Emotions ran high as police moved in to collect the body before taking it to Naivasha sub-county hospital mortuary.

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According to one of the area resident Ibrahim Nyutu, the deceased was in high spirits the previous night as he served his customers.

He decried the rising cases of suicide among youths in the country due to love affairs adding that there was need for counseling.

“We have recorded a very wicked spirit that is leading youths to commit suicide and its time we engaged them so that this evil trend can end,” he said.

A friend Peter Muchina said that the victim had confessed to them over the fall-out with the lover the previous night adding that he never contemplated suicide.

He told of their shock when he failed to report to duty on Thursday morning only for his body to be found hanging in his house.

“It’s a sad day that Njuguna has decided to take his life due to a woman and my advice to fellow youths is to move on after a relationship fails,” he said.

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Speaking on phone, Naivasha deputy OCPD John Kwasa confirmed the incident adding that the body had been collected and an inquest file opened.

He decried the rising cases of suicide among young people in Naivasha adding that substance abuse and depression had led to the cases.

“In the latest case the deceased left a note accusing his lover for the incident and the body has been taken to Naivasha mortuary and the next of kin will be notified,” he said.

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I have been dumped 3 times and have a new fiancée – Pastor Deya

Controversial miracle baby Pastor Deya is a man many have questions about.

Deya revealed in an interview heard by Classic 105, that his wife of 15 years divorced him, but in that time had dated several women with the full knowledge of his wife. They all dumped him, but all is well now, he assures Kenyans. He has a new lover and is deeply and madly in love.

His wife who stood by him in tough times left him as the long distance relationship proved too much for their marriage. He is not bitter, and actually is glad she moved on.

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My wife is the one who divorced me and I am accepting her decision and I have no problem.

I need to come clear with this that, Gilbert Deya is a divorcee and I will still remarry again.

When I was living abroad for 15 years, my wife was living in Kenya and while there I took on a relationship with another woman and it does not mean I was cheating just like the media portrayed it.

 

His tell all interview revealed his struggle with temptations and how lust drove him into the arms  of yet another woman.

My wife and I had already separated through immigration and after 5 years of not being together I could not continue staying by myself lusting over women hence why I went and told the church members and my wife also knew about it.

Well after taking this other woman in, things did not end well and as I was about to come back to Kenya, she refused claiming that I needed to marry her which ended up having a rape case after refusal to marry. 

 

He continued to narrate his experience blaming his failed relationship on distance and jail time that he experienced.

He repeatedly insisted he is not one to stay single and even after being dumped by three women he is open to remarrying, and as for now he has no limitations.

Deya cheekily confessed he is engaged to a young 26-year-old lady whom he is set to marry. The age gap is 50 years, something he insisted he likes.

I cannot stay single, I want to remarry and the lady that I decided to re-marry is a young lady who is 50 years younger than me which is in the line of my liking.

 

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Tips: 10 ways for ladies to get over a breakup

It is normal to fall in love and be in a relationship. The problem comes when you break up and you find it difficult to get over it. Here are some of the ways to get over a breakup easily;

Tokeo la picha la breakup

 

Rebound. After the breakup, look for a strange person if you are comfortable with it. The guy should be an upgrade from your ex and don’t be in a rush with it. Spend time with him and talk about social matters, be good friends. This will probably help you forget about the past experience that you had.

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Create an ex-free environment. When in a relationship, we tend to create good memories which includes taking photos and buying each other gifts. This is important as it helps you remember about your ex. When you have broken up with your ex, it necessary to avoid or do away with anything that makes you remember what you had. Avoid visiting the places that you used to visit together during your happy moments, cooking their best meals, watching their favorites movies and also do away with all the gifts and anything that relates to them.

Avoid giving your relationship details to social media. This includes updating all your relationship statuses to your facebook walls. Once you breakup with the same person it will be hard to accept the fact that all those memories were all in vain as it is done. Once you delete the photos and all that you will make people curious into investigating your personal life.

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Avoid his friends and family. Meeting his friends and family will not only brig memories back but also make high chances of you two meeting. If invited to parties with his friends avoid going because you are likely to meet him there. It will be more hurting especially if he moved on already and you still have feelings.

Don’t blame yourself. Once you break up have it in mind that the mistake did not involve you alone, both of you. It may be that you messed up but it again involves two parties. When you start blaming yourself, you will  probably never get over it. Stay as positive as you can, and that everything happens for a reason.

Cry. This is one way of letting your feelings out. You may be so hurt that you just want to scream your lungs out. If that makes you feel better then it’s allowed for you to do so. You will notice that after crying you will be somehow relieved.

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Don’t be friends with him. At times you may feel that you cannot be without him hence you opt for friendship. This will never help as you may find one party wants to be more than friends yet the other is not interested at all because they found a new bae. You need to forget your past and carry on with life.

Cut your conversation with your ex. This involves contact, and not following them on all social media platforms. This will prevent you from stalking them online.

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Do not talk bad about them. This should be avoided especially when you are sharing your experience with your friends. Sometimes they can have pity on you making you to feel even more hurt that you never deserved the heartbreak.

Do not talk about your ex to your current. At times you may argue with your boyfriend and be like,’ my ex used to do this, my ex used to tell me that’, This shows that you have not yet given up on your past. This can also put your current relationship at risk because no one likes to be compared with exes.

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What women wear that men dislike and don’t tell

When you want to please your man, your appearance matters a lot. There are some pieces of clothing that women wear that men dislike but they never tell. They include;

Hair extension and weaves. Most of these men prefer seeing their ladies in natural hair. How mortifying would it be if for instance your busy with your man then the wig falls off exposing matutua’s? Embarassing! What’s worse is if your weave or wig isn’t customized and there’s nothing as bad as an ill fitting tress.

When with your man try as much as possible to wear natural hair styles that suit your appearance.

UGG boots. These are the type of boots that ladies like especially in cold seasons. They are made from skin sheep with fleece attached to it which men say is animal cruelty. They prefer other decent boots to this.

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Excessive makeup. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder they say. Most men prefer natural appearances. Some ladies apply too much makeup yet less is more.

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 The 80 s outfits. This includes baggy long dresses and faded baggy jeans, that are making a comeback currently. This to men hides ones curves yet dudes want to adore.

Fake contacts. Many women are now spotting cosmetic contact lenses. While not bad, men find it weird to hang out with someone with blue, grey or yellow eyes.

They expect to see the real beauty of ones eyes.

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Leggings. Unless you are slim, this outfit is not good for you according to men. If it is necessary for this, then one should wear long tops or shirts to avoid looking like a person going for some workout.

Painted eyebrows. Ladies tend to shave natural eyebrows completely then draw on, leaving them with surprised expressions.

The painted on eyebrows leave a funny look which men describe as a cartoon look. Some are even not balanced because you find one is higher than the other.

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Fake eye lashes. It will be really embarrassing that you are talking with someone whose lashes are about to fall. Oops.

Excess perfumes. It is nice to have a nice scent but don’t over do it. What happens when the man is asthmatic? You don’t want to be blamed for his health complication.

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5 places Ringtone can search for a potential wife as plea to public fails

 

Gospel musician Ringtone has repeatedly asked the public to help him search for a wife, but this has not been fruitful.

Perhaps his search hasn’t succeeded because he is not putting in the work right?

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Here are five places he can personally engage in, in his search for a wife.

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  1. Dating Sites: Has he ever heard of this?• These sites enable you to overcome many geographical limitations. Online sites expand the range of people you might meet. You can contact others of similar interests that are beyond where you work, live, and worship.

     

    • You have a better chance of meeting people with similar beliefs. The websites either match you with people based on your preferences or provide tools that enable you to do the searching yourself.

  2. Church/Kesha’s: Since he is a religious man, perhaps he can consider doing the CU, or kesha things known to be loved by many equally religious Kenyan women? He can’t fail to find a potential spouse in those church forums.
  3. Library: Being religious, I believe he is looking for a serious kind of girl, and what better place to land the spouse of your dreams than at a library?
  4. Gender Forums: Searching for and finding a career woman has never been easier.
  5. Mutual Friends: He can be introduced to women by family, coworkers, classmates, or neighbors.

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Meeting a potential relationship partner does not have to be confusing or challenging, especially when you have a particular goal in mind. You will often have the best success when you look in the places and ways that will bring you in touch with likeminded people.

Good luck Ringtone, and do let us know if you make progress.

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Single and childless women are the happiest –  behavioral scientist

 

 
Men should get married to improve their wellbeing but women ‘shouldn’t bother’, according to a leading expert in happiness who says that unmarried, childless women are the happiest people in society.

Paul Dolan, professor of behavioural science at the London School of Economics, said yesterday that men benefit from marriage because they ‘calm down’, while the same wasn’t true for women.

‘You take less risks, you earn more money at work and you live a little longer. She, on the other hand, has to put up with that and dies sooner than if she never married,’ he said.

‘The healthiest and happiest population sub-group are women who never married or had children.’

Speaking at the Hay Festival, Prof Dolan added:

‘We do have some good longitudinal data following the same people over time, but I am going to do a massive disservice to that science and just say: if you’re a man, you should probably get married; if you’re a woman, don’t bother.’

Dolan’s latest book, Happy Ever After, cites evidence from the American Time Use Survey (ATUS), which compared levels of pleasure and misery in unmarried, married, divorced, separated and widowed individuals.

The study found that levels of happiness reported by those who were married were higher than the unmarried, but only when their spouse was in the room.
Unmarried individuals reported lower levels of misery than married individuals who were asked when their spouse was not present.

Other studies have measured some financial and health benefits in being married for both men and women on average.

Dolan said the findings could be attributed to higher incomes and emotional support, allowing married people to take risks and seek medical help.

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‘He pays my bills and rent in Karen with no strings attached’ Brags woman

A  Classic 105 fan has confessed that it is possible to have a relationship with a man with full financial benefits with no strings attached.

*Melisa* says she met her prince charming months ago and she is already reaping the fruits of that union.

I met this man 3 months ago in a casino and he has bought me a big car and is renting me a house in Karen and paying for my trips and we have no strings attached!.

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Well Kenyans are not convinced about this given the famous saying ‘vitu za bure zilisha enzi za Moi’.

Below are some of their responses.

Below are some of the reactions from Kenyans

@jchuizoAkikuambia umfungulie boot…..pliz remove the door….
@MKOtienoBImagine a big “car” renting a house in Karen & pay for trips just like that and she’s happy saying no strings attached. Wait until the owner of the “riches” comes for her blood.
@AwinoG: Look at where they met- a casino. Three months isn’t enough for this kind of commitment unless there is more than meets the eye. This doesn’t point to the goodness of the man. You seem ensnared by the bait of a seasoned actor- you will soon discover the meaning of his generosity
@rench2000Radi yake iko kwa njia!!!!  ATI no strings attached!!!!

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5 unrealistic things guys expect from girls

 

Trying to make sense of what a man wants from you can be difficult.

 

But here is a rundown of some of the things that guys expect from girls, that tend to cause a strain in relationships.
1. He needs a friend with benefit, but will never marry a girl who has had many relationships

Expecting a girl to be your friend with benefit for life is unrealistic. Won’t she find someone to marry, and wait just one minute is that even possible to be a friend with benefit for life?

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I have heard it said from many men that there are two types of chicks – the one to have funwith and – the one to marry.

 

2. Girls are expected to be natural ( we love you natural girls) but at the same time she must be super stunning

Even the moon has dark spots.
Okay, a girl can look good while being natural. But how can she manage to look SUPER S3XY without makeup. Sure, girls have natural beauty, but it doesn’t mean that you can expect her to look like you wish. Shouldn’t guys expect that a girl be caring, honest and all those nice things?

3. Be committed but not wedding crazy

Every girl has planned her wedding by the time she is done with college, whether or not she has a man.

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So expecting to date her without any mention of future plans is unrealistic.

The marriage topic WILL ALWAYS come up, and if she is committed to you, the subject will be there.

 

4. Being low maintenance while looking high maintenance

The expectation is that she should be both, but not trying too much.

If you want her to look like a “high maintenance” girl, you need to spend money on her for maintenance. The word itself says “high maintenance,” How can you expect her to look the same with almost no money?

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5. Being distant while still showing interest

Now this is confusing to girls. She can’t be turned on and off like a switch.

Guys, either you are in or you are out.

Is this true and what have you done when faced with such a situation?

Eight red flags to look out for in your relationship that signal it’s time to leave now

 

Australian dating and relationship expert Louanne Ward understands how easy it is to let emotion take over and ignore signals that things might not be as they seem.

She said many people ignore these warnings and enter into a relationship that might not be suitable despite the fact red flags were there from the outset.

Here, Louanne offers an eight-step guide that will help you recognise some of the more common indicators.

1. Rushing a relationship

‘Sometimes we meet somebody who swoops you off your feet and tells you everything you want to hear and they whisk you off on this lovely, magical journey,’ Louanne said in a recent Facebook video.

And as intoxicating this can be, the expert said this situation can be fraught.

‘These people are trying to manipulate the outcome of how things are going to work out and they are controlling the situation,’ she said.

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2. They are on social media but have no photos

If you’ve met through social media, watch for red flags, advises Louanne. One in particular is the person you’re dating has no photos of themselves online.

‘They say they are really private but often have lots of friends. They comment and like others’ posts but rarely post anything themselves,’ she said.

The reason this sort of behaviour suggests an issue is that it can indicate a person may have something to hide, the expert explained.

‘If you’ve connected with somebody on social media, this is something to be extra cautious about because if they’ve started a relationship with you on social media, it’s their potential fishing ground.’

3. They pursue you but tell you they don’t know what they want

There’s nothing more confusing than a person who makes the effort to date you but then says they don’t know what they want.

‘[They say] they really like you, they enjoy spending time with you, you’re really cool but they just don’t know what they want, or that they’re not even sure they’re looking for a relationship,’ Louanne said.

The coach is quick to point out that it’s important to read this as a sign this person isn’t available – and she recommends leaving as quickly as possible.

Louanne continued if you choose to ignore this type of behaviour because you believe the outcome could be different, despite their ambivalence, this may indicate you have a problem with self-esteem and self-worth.

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4. Watch for sudden outbursts of anger

Anger can be a tricky emotion to express in a relationship.

However, a sign there’s a potential problem is when a person you’re dating appears to lose their temper too often – and for no reason.

‘You start dating a wonderful person and things are going well but they are very quick to anger for no reason and they can turn on you quite quickly,’ Louanne said.

She added this type of behaviour can take a range of forms including storming out of the room, sending nasty messages or hanging up the phone during a conversation.

Louanne said while a person might apologise and offer a range of excuses, this sort of inconsistency can become an emotional rollercoaster.

‘If this is repeated behaviour, this is a red flag. It’s a definite no for someone to put you on a rollercoaster of anger and apology.’

5. One person controls the contact

During the early stages of a relationship, it’s normal to send each other a flurry of messages.

But the issue is when one person appears to be more in control of the situation.

‘You might send them a message or phone them and they don’t pick up or they don’t reply to your message straight away. Sometimes they can leave you dangling for hours or days,’ Louanne said.

‘Because when somebody needs to control when they can and can’t speak to you, it’s often an indicator there is a third person involved.’

6. They keep you at arm’s length and won’t commit

The expert said an inability to commit is often masked in vagueness – something that should be seen as a red flag.

‘You ask them to do something and they will say “I will have to get back to you” or “I’m not quite sure” or they just avoid making plans.’

It might be that a few weeks have passed since you’ve seen them, and while they will stay in touch, there will be no concrete plans to meet, Louanne continued.

‘Another telltale sign and a big red flag that you may not be the only person that they are seeing.’

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7. S3x is always a topic of conversation

There’s nothing wrong with talking about s3x but when this is the only topic of conversation or a go-to, Louanne says take note.

In particular, the coach said to watch for a person who might constantly question you about what you’re wearing or compliment you excessively on your body.

‘If these are people you haven’t sleep with yet, read this behavior as early stage red flags.’

Louanne also said another thing to watch for when being pursued by somebody who is highly s3xual is they may start sending you nvde photos of themselves and may expect you to send photos back.

‘As the relationship starts to develop, you may find yourself in a position where you’re sending photos that may make you feel uncomfortable,’ she said.

Louanne cautions: ‘It is a red flag when someone is asking you to do something that’s outside of your comfort zone.’

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8. Constantly telling small lies

In the early stages of a relationship, white lies might seem small and insignificant, but these can indicate a pattern of dishonesty.

Louanne said there are a couple of different reasons this is a red flag.

‘One is the person may be a compulsive liar or the person could be potentially seeing others, or they are trying to manipulate a situation to get their own way.

‘They are used to using lies to get their own way.’

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‘I pay my 38 year old boyfriend’s rent, school fees, I am only 26’ Cries woman

A woman has learnt her lesson the hard way after being played by a man she has been funding, all in the name of love.

She is now heartbroken she says.

Not only has she been paying his rent, school fees, shopping but she also warms his bed. The sad thing is that she is younger than he is.

I was dating this man who is 38 yrs now and am 26yrs old, we’ve been dating for over a year now but he ended the relationship for some reasons best known to him.

All the while I was dating him, I was the one giving because he doesn’t know. When I love, I love for who you are not what you are.

I paid his rent, school fees etc and always take him out for shopping, dinner, bought an iPhone X for him when he had no phone and always pray for him.

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I have never asked him for any money for the one year we dated. I’m going through heartbreak right now.

All I wanted was to build my life with him. I always complain about his inconsistency and he said he’ll change.

Three months I didn’t see him and I asked him what’s wrong,

He said he is going through some challenges now and he needs God’s help only. I asked him about the challenges he refused to disclose it to me. 

She adds

I am heart broken, what else will a man ask for that I haven’t given to him. I’m submissive to him. I’ve been trying to move on but I can’t.

I can’t fall in love again. I feel used and betrayed by him. Without me he won’t graduate from university.

I paid his school fees and accommodation fees in school also his shop rent.

I’m lost and my heart is broken. 

Do I dump him for going silent on him for three months or should I give him a second chance.

What would you advice the woman to do? Put your answer in the comment section tuone vile tutamsaidia.

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Euniece Njeri admits she’s SINGLE years after nasty divorce

 

 

Gospel singer Euniece Njeri’s biggest challenge to date continues to be her public split from her ex back in 2016, after walking out hours after the wedding.

In an interview on Milele FM, Euniece Njeri admitted her biggest struggle remains being ridiculed for leaving her marriage

‘ the biggest challenge may be 2016 when everybody was talking about me. That was very big for me. I was a runaway bride in 2016’

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‘ I had decided I was not ready’.

But she still walked down the aisle to say I do to him. Why did she go along with it when she knew all along she wasn’t ready to be someones wife?

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She defended herself saying

‘I got to church, but the biggest struggle was the aftermath’  

‘I felt like it was time to do this, and then it wasn’t, so I just changed my mind,’ she whispered.

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And I just didn’t change my mind, it was a God thing, so I didn’t just wake up in the morning and decided to walk out, it was a thing that was going on for a long time. It’s only that I made my decision a bit too late. 

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So has she remarried or is she dating?

‘No’, she said insisting she is single, and has no man in her life.

‘Wakati ukifika utafika, na nitawaambia’.

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Zari advises men on what to look for in the lady of their dreams

Ugandan businesswoman Zari Hassan is a classy woman.

She’s known for her taste for the finer things in life, she doesn’t stoop low. The estranged wife of Tanzanian crooner Diamond Platnumz is living large and enjoying life and is seeing a wealthy South African man.

 

Well, Zari, who also doubles up as a relationship expert on social media, has advised men to go for women with brains because they all have a ‘honeypot.’

FIND A WOMAN WITH A BRAIN. THEY ALL HAVE VAG***S

She also had a message to broke men, who always claim women demand a lot. She told them off, saying they aren’t the target market and they should stick to their lane.

NI**AS BE LIKE YOU HIGH MAINTENANCE. NAH BRO, YOU JUST BROKE

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Over the weekend the sexy mum left many envious after posting pics of herself in a bikini showing off her flawless body.

10 signals women send when they find a man attractive

 

Learn these subconscious body language cues and you might come closer to finding out whether the woman of your dreams is in love with you, too…

Relationship expert Tracy Cox spoke to Dailymail.

1. She flashes her eyebrows at you 

When we first see someone we’re attracted to, our eyebrows rise and fall in a small, rapid movement. If they fancy us back, they raise their eyebrows in return.

We’re not consciously aware of doing this rather bizarre Groucho Marx type gesture, but it’s supposedly the most instantly recognised non-verbal sign of friendly greeting in the world.

It helps us to attract friends and lovers because it makes us look more attractive by pulling the eyes open and allowing more light to reflect on the surface of eyes.

2. She is fidgeting with her clothes

If she’s adjusting her clothing or smoothing it (particularly over your hips), she’s preening – making sure she looks your best.

Another dead giveaway: looking down to see how many buttons she’s got undone (and emerging from the loo with a couple more open).

3. She’s flashing her wrists

It means she’s s3xually interested if she holds her wrist so it’s turned to face you.

Wrists are definite erogenous zones probably because back in the days when women wore neck to knee clothing, the wrist and ankles were the only flesh ever exposed in public.

4. Her hands keep moving into your space

We use our hands to signal interest by moving them closer to the object of our desire.

If she moves her hands across the invisible line that divides the table in two or into your personal space, she’s hinting she’s looking for more than just a friend.

5. She’s sitting with one leg tucked underneath her, so the inside of her thigh is exposed

If her head and body also point towards you, you should consider himself wanted.

She’s revealing quite an intimate part of her body: one you’d normally only see during sex.

6. She’s crossed her legs

The leg-cross (twining one leg around so her foot crosses behind her calf and also the ankle) is a potent, yet polite, sexual signal.Why?

Well for a start, it makes her legs look good because it presses the flesh to give the appearance of high muscle tone.

Which sends another subliminal message: our bodies show increased muscle tone when ready for sex as nerves and excitement make us tense and primed for performance.

7. She keeps on crossing and uncrossing them ever-so-s-l-o-w-l-y

The more a woman crosses and uncrosses her legs in front of a guy, the more interested she is in him.

She’s either subconsciously or deliberately trying to draw your attention to her legs and genital area.

8. She’s kicking one leg up and down, while crossed, or dangling a shoe from her toes

Either are strong, deliberate and obvious signs of sexual attraction.

Women will often cross their legs towards their object of desire and begin to slowly and seductively kick their foot up and down in a thrusting motion.

(If you need me to tell you why imitating thrusting is sexy, you seriously do need to get out more).

If she’s really, really keen, she’ll follow this up by slipping her foot in and out of her shoe (the old in-out-in-out thing again) or dangle the shoe from the tip of her toes (I’m undressing myself already/Wouldn’t you like these shoes off and under your bed?)

9. She’s touching her neck, mouth and lips a lot

It’s called autoerotic touching: touching yourself where you’d like someone to touch you.

As well as sending a powerful subliminal message (get your fingers over here!), it feels good! When we’re sexually aroused the blood pumps ferociously through the body, making nerve endings tingle and our skin much more sensitive to touch.

An even sexier version: she’s touching her mouth while looking at yours!

10. Whatever you do, she does

Nothing bonds people more instantly or effectively than mirroring someone’s behaviour.

We do it subconsciously when we like someone because we like people who are like us.

If someone’s doing what we’re doing, we feel they’re not only on the same level as us but also in the same mood we are.

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The 12 things YOU’RE doing that’s scaring men away

Ever started dating a man only for him to seemingly completely disappear from the face of the earth?

According to relationship experts, Laura Yates and Genevieve Zawada, it could well be down to 12 simple – but rectifiable – mistakes you’re making.

From texting too much to not having other interests, the dating gurus share the things you could be doing to scare men off.

Not having friends .Men are attracted to women who have an active social life. Having friends indicates that you have people in your life who want to spend time with you. That is alluring to a prospective partner. It also shows that friends are important to you and that the man isn’t the centre of your world. So therefore, he has to put more effort in to get to spend time with you. It also gives you so much more to talk about when you do spend time together as a couple. If women ditch their friends to spend all their time with a man, that can be a real turn off.

Being irrationally jealous… This shows buried insecurities and diminishes attraction rapidly. Men are attracted to women who have a sense of inner confidence and are generally, secure in themselves. If you show signs of jealousy (such as freaking out if he wants a boys’ night out), men pick up on this incredibly quickly so it’s wise to look at why that is and deal with any jealousy issues before you get into something too serious.

Texting too much .Men typically have a different perspective on texts. They use them for logistics and aren’t as big on texting as women. If you’re constantly texting a man, it conveys a sense of neediness and that you have a lot of time on your hands. To start with especially, keep texts relatively short, fun and flirty and avoid sending too many.

Not having any outside interestsMen are attracted to interesting women with passions, hobbies and things to talk about. You can only have these things if you engage in activities and interests outside of the relationship. As tempting as it is to want to spend all your time with a new man in your life, it’s so important that you keep doing all the things that you love because it makes you a far more interesting and enticing person to be with. It will also make you happier because you’ll feel like your life is more well-rounded.

If you’re constantly texting a man, it conveys a sense of neediness and that you have a lot of time on your hands

Baby talk… It’s not cute or endearing. It comes across as needy and immature so refrain from it!

Being possessive …Allow a man to also be free to keep doing all the things he loves. As soon as a man feels like he’s being restricted from other things in his life that he enjoys, it will put pressure on the relationship and it probably won’t be long before he starts to lose interest and want out. A couple thrive most when they allow one another to have a life outside of the relationship.

Talk badly of other women ...This also conveys insecurity. If you’re bringing down something about other women, it can give men the impression that you’re hard work and lack confidence in yourself. It’s fine to have opinions, but when it’s outrightly criticising or bitching about another woman for no constructive reason, that’s not an attractive quality to have.

Being a drama queen .…Creating drama for no real reason can suggest that you’re high maintenance. There’s a balance between reacting accordingly to something and blowing it way out of proportion. Being around someone creates or attracts drama can be really hard work and this is particularly off-putting for men!

Pushing for too much commitment too soon Whilst it’s good to know where a relationship is going, it’s also wise to let it evolve naturally and not put pressure on a man to commit. If you show signs of that, he will likely run a mile. If he likes you and values you that much, he will want to commit as opposed to being forced. You always have the option to walk away if it isn’t going where you want it to.

OversharingPart of building connection is being about to trust your partner with the more private things about you and that’s important, but you should avoid getting into all of this too soon. The relationship should begin on a level that is two people getting to know each other on a more fun and light hearted level, not baring one another’s souls, which can become very intense too quickly.

Calling the shots …Little Miss Bossy is not a good look when it comes to dating either, remember they have survived this long without you micro-managing them so continue to let them carry on the way they are happy with. If you feel you need to change them from day one then you are probably with the wrong man!

Expecting the man to pay for everything.. If this has not been agreed beforehand and even expecting him to get you home can scare a man off and think he’s wanted for money only. Always offer to pay even if he says no, at least you have offered.

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How to spot a lie in a text message

 

To help identify some of the most common red flags of an untruthful text, Australian dating expert Louanne Ward has listed the nine top clues to look out for.

‘Spotting a liar is a lot easier when you are face to face because you can pick up their body language cues,’ she said.

‘One of the best tools you have is your gut feeling and intuition but whenever you are looking for a lie in a text message add these all together and see how many times they appear.’

NON-COMMITTAL AND VAGUE ANSWERS 

‘These are answers like “I am not quite sure”, “it was probably”, “it might have been”, “maybe” and “some time around”,’ Louanne said.

‘If you asked someone “How is your day, do you want to catch up?” someone who is lying might say something like “I have a busy day ahead, not sure what time I will finish up I will probably just have an early night”.’ 

CHANGING THE SUBJECT AND CREATING A DIVERSION 

‘People do this because it’s very hard to tell one lie on top of another lie,’ Louanne said.

‘By creating a diversion they are moving away from the lie they have just told.’

TAKING A LONG TIME TO ANSWER A SHORT QUESTION  

‘You can see when somebody is replying, you can see the bubbles, so if you see if somebody is taking a long time it might be that they are distracted half way through but it could be that they are telling you a lie,’ Louanne said.

REMOVING PERSONAL PRONOUNS FROM MESSAGES  

‘These are things like I “my”, “we” and “our”. They remove them because they don’t want to personalise the message too much,’ Louanne said.

ABRUPTLY LEAVING THE CONVERSATION AFTER A QUESTION IS ASKED 

‘If they do that and don’t answer the question, when they message next time that question will usually be avoided,’ Louanne said.

USING COMPLIMENTS AND EMPATHY 

‘A liar might say something like “I’m not sure what time I am finishing up. My last client is a real talker but much rather be spending my day with you as you always make me happy”,’ Louanne said.

‘Don’t jump to conclusions but if it seems vague be wary.’

OVER-SHARING OF DETAILS THAT ARE NOT RELEVANT 

‘They do this to throw you off track,’ Louanne said.

‘A lie will sound something like this: “Tony and I decided to go for dinner and we were quite hungry so we found this place that had a $15 parmigiana. The parmigiana was good but they were really busy and it took a long time”.’

OVER-SHARING OF INFORMATION TO MAKE THE STORY SOUND MORE BELIEVABLE 

‘It is quite similar to the previous point but this time the answer is more relevant to the question asked,’ Louanne said.

‘When somebody over exaggerates and it’s a very short question that you ask and they are telling a really long story sometimes it is to cover up a lie.’

BEING DEFENSIVE AND USING QUALIFYING WORDS    

‘Qualifying statements include “if you must know”, “to be honest with you”, “it was actually” and “all I am saying is”,’ Louanne said.

‘When somebody has to qualify their words that’s something to look out for.’

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How I unknowingly married my childhood rapist and got pregnant for him

A Nairobi woman has found herself between a rock and a hard place after finding out that the man she is engaged to is the same man who raped her years ago.

As if that is not painful enough the woman in question is pregnant for hi,

She writes her thoughts in this note;

“I am in a dilemma right now…..when I was 15 years old I was raped…and I gave birth to a beautiful daughter even tho I wanted to abort her back then when it happened.

But cause of my health issue I could not….getting to my story when I grew up and wanted to start dating it was not easy because I was still insecure about what happened.

Exclusive: ‘I am not looking to get married any time soon’ – Mercy Kyallo

Rape

The guys I tried dating I pushed them away because if what happened to me…..later I met one loving, caring, nice and sweet guy, he was what I wanted in a guy.

I started dating him and to my surprise I became very comfortable with him and he loved my daughter unconditionally…. about six month into the relationship he told he had something he wanted to tell me.”

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‘I never want my parents to beg my exes for my burial place’ – Akothee

Holding her breath and expecting the worst, the woman says that the man confessed to being a rapist adding that he regrets his actions.

“He told me that when he was younger he has done some bad things in the past that he still regrets now and forever….he told me he has raped a girl before.

I was very angry and disappointed with him. I had to call off the relationship. He begged and begged for forgiveness for about 3 months, I later forgave him.

When we got back together 2 months later he engaged me….fast forward later I got to find out that he was the one that raped me😩😭…..through is childhood pictures.

I really don’t know what to do cause he is the first guy I was ever comfortable to make LOVE to me…..and I am pregnant!!!!!😭😭😭

I really don’t know what to do cause I have given him back his ring…..please help me I really do love him but…..he has been begging me, please help me .”

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Maina Kageni’s advice to girls on men who flee dates before the bill comes

 

Girls, if you have ever been left with a huge bill after your date disappears, read this.

Retired president Moi’s grandson is trending online after leaving his girlfriend with an unpaid bill.

Collins is Jonathan Moi’s son and over the weekend took out a girl for her birthday celebration in Kitale. The woman is Fai Amarios daughter.

According to reports, Collins deserted the woman at the hotel after failing to pay the sh100,000 bill.

She was detained for a week, over the incidence.

Who are these men who take women out for dates and are broke, Maina Kageni wanted to know? What happened to gentlemen?

A passionate Maina spoke out saying;

Ladies, it’s 2019 why are we tolerating this behavior?

Ladies are these the kind of men you date? His advice going forward this year?

‘You need to audit these men before you date them’.

Back in October 2018, socialite Pendo was arrested for failing to pay a sh117k bill incurred in a Westlands based hotel with her mzungu lover, Joseph Kner.

Mr. Kner is said to have left her stranded in their room with the bill unpaid.

She was taken to the police station with a source disclosing that:

She and her mzungu went to that hotel, sasa mzungu amemhepa, amemuacha na bill ya karibu 80,000. She was checked out by that hotel but at 8:00 PM, she hadn’t paid, akaitiwa makarao.

Several years back another socialite Laura Oyier was also detained in a popular city hotel over an unpaid bill, after he date took off.

Classic 105 fam, have you experienced such an unfortunate incident, and kindly share with us below.