‘My wife bought me a car and I cheat with it’ Luo man confesses

 

 

The saying hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, does not apply to this story.

A cheating husband who has been found multiple times with a side chick in the car his wife bought for him, is counting his blessings.

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The wife who has been busting her cheating husband is so forgiving, he feels guilty about it, but won’t stop cheating.

The man told Classic 105’s Maina Kageni that

if I carry a girl, I feel guilty and when she finds me she forgives me, she confronts me but forgives me

This confession arose from the morning conversation where Mwalimu insisted that Kenyan women never uplift their men.

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Apart from your mother you won’t find a women to uplift a man, from zero. Never!!! 

The Luo man called in to disprove Mwalimu’s theory with his personal account.

Ladies help men and they help a lot, they don’t shout about it. I am driving a car she bought for me, even sometimes when I drive a mpango wa kando I feel guilty. I think about what I am doing, but I can’t stop it. She doesn’t complain about the girls in my car, and forgives me every time.

I men how lucky can a man be? Isn’t he worried that perhaps her silence means something else?

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10 stages of a breakup we all go through

 

The breakup may have come as a shocker to you, and it’s important you take note of these stages of heartbreak.

You will eventually come out the side a better, stronger person, but getting there is a process and it’s one we all go through, no matter what our personal circumstances.

Stage 1: Shock/Denial.

You won’t be able to accept it at first, and will not let it known to family and friends that you’ve broken up with bae. You’re desperately hoping things will change.

Stage 2: Blinding rage.

You slowly become angry at the situation and your feeling of hopelessness. You snap at everyone and everything as a way to vent.breakup_7

Stage 3: Keeping to yourself

You become a recluse of sorts who is mourning the relationship. This is where one doesn’t see the sense in showering and all you want to do is stay in bed or sleep on the couch eating snacks.

Stage 4: Blaming yourself.

It’s normal to wonder what went wrong, and go over every single thing you did. Sure, it’s possible that you messed up, but it’s important not kick yourself while you’re already down too much.Breakup

Stage 5: Continuously crying over him

You will watch all the sad movies that will only serve to remind you of him. This is the tough part of dealing with your feelings.
Stage 6: Longing to hold him

You will stalk him on social media, and if he has not updated anything, you hop onto the feed of hi friends and relatives in the hopes of any information about him. Pining for him. Block his number and un-follow him sis, you will only continue to hurt yourself.

Stage 7: Acceptance

You realize that it’s over for good, and you’re starting to accept it. You’re no longer constantly crying and checking in on your ex.

 

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 8 Things couples do everyday to build a successful marriage

 
Here are some of the things people who want to help their partners be more successful– and make their marriage stronger–do for each other:

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1. They ask for help

People who want a successful marriage are willing to ask for help. For two reasons – they need help and know it will build the esteem of their partner.

2. They’re patient

Showing patience is an indication you care deeply for and have confidence in your spouse.

3. They set a great example

A good partner sets a good example and makes it possible for you to be a better you.

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4. They compliment, they recognize, and they praise

When you see a positive trait in your spouse, tell them, praise them and push them to do positive things with that trait. There is nothing as good as praise and appreciation from the person you have committed your life to.

5. They allow space and privacy

This means we share some things, others we keep private until that spouse feels the need to share their thoughts, hopes and feelings.

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7. They find happiness in their partner’s success

Great marriages work by teamwork. While one leads, the other follows.

8. They’re sincere and genuine

Sometimes we forget to say nice grateful words, or even go the extra mile for our spouses.

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8 sweet ANSWERS when bae asks ‘why do you like me’

 

No one and nothing can quite prepare you for this question.

Your mind races, your heart pounds really fast and the silence is threateningly loud.

Guys, when a woman asks you’ why do you like me’, what is your answer?

Is there a correct answer that a woman wants to hear?

Here are some really sweet answers to say when your girlfriends asks why you like her:

You are beautiful: You are like sunshine itself, and I feel better when I’m with you.

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You are funny: You make me feel more alive than anyone ever has.

You are smart: You teach me how to be a better partner. You encourage me, support me and let me know how I can best support you.

You know how to get things done. 

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You are passionate: I love you for your passion for life. It’s contagious.

You inspire me: You make me want to be a better person.

I can see a future with you by my side: You accept me for me. I don’t have to hide. You let me be myself, and I thank you for that. It’s amazing to be loved by you.

You complete me: Before I met you, I never felt whole. With you in my life, I am.

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5 painful signs you’re in a one sided relationship

 

The big problem of a one-sided relationship is that the person who is more committed in the relationship becomes less satisfied over time due to their needs not being met.

Here’s how to tell if you’re putting in too much effort

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1. They constantly bail on you
Do you find yourself making plans for dinner or lunch and then at the last minute, they don’t show up?

2. Your priorities are different from theirs

If the only way you can see them is if you fit around their schedule, then you might in a one-sided relationship.

Should you also have to travel long distances to see him, yet he never sacrifices to come to you, then it’s one sided.

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3. They never return the favor

Some people take more than they give, and it’s a sign you’re in a one-sided relationship.

4. You apologize when you shouldn’t have to

Do you apologize for things that aren’t even caused by you or for simply being yourself? If your partner is making you feel bad and putting you down for simply being you, then that’s a bad sign that they’re too controlling over your life.

 

 

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How to get a boyfriend fast with these six tips

 

 

We all desire to snag that man who will leave others a little green with envy. While it may be easy for some, others have such difficulty approaching a man. We have a few tips you could use and finally be with the Idris Elba of your dreams.
1. Flirt
It can feel good to flirt and be flirted with. Make a point to flirt with someone each time you go out with your friends or alone.

2. Practice being confident
Practice smiling in the mirror if you feel you lack confidence. There’s nothing more attractive to a man than confidence.

3. Wear clothes that make you feel like you own the world
Every girl has that outfit that when she wears, feels like she can move the world. Find a couple of these outfits that will bring out the best in you.

 

4. Improve your posture
Push your shoulders back when you walk into a room full of people, again like number 2 smile and look people in the eye. It does wonders.
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5. Start a new activity
For instance going to the gym, you are likely to find that man. Also try taking up activities like marathons. There are plenty of those in Kenya, where you can meet some pretty great men.

6. Smile
Times are tough in this country, but girl you could master up a smile. It also encourages a man to approach you and start a conversation.

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5 signs the guy you’re dating is immature 

 

Having an emotionally immature partner can impact the overall health of your relationship.

If you notice the guy you are dating likes acting like a player, then it’s a clear indication he is. Players are the epitome of being too immature and too self-centered for a real relationship.

Here are other sings to look out for in a man who is labelled as emotionally immature.

 

Can’t hold a job for a long period
A job is a kind of commitment, letting you know that if he can commit to a job, he is going to make things work out in his relationship.

Always late for a date
Showing up late on a date is a serious sign of disrespect. Clearly he doesn’t take your time seriously and doesn’t value the fact that you’re taking time out of your day to see him. If he can’t be respectful enough to be on time, it’s time to call it quits.

He whines when things don’t go his way
When a guy does this, it’s just disrespectful and unattractive. It only proves that he’s too much of a baby to deal with the problems that life hands us all.

He feels entitled to everything
Has he watched one too many movies where the “guy gets the girl“? If he throws a fit just because he isn’t with a girl that he deems sexy enough for him, it’s time to cut your losses. Life isn’t a Disney movie, and he needs to grow up and realize that. The entitlement issues he has will only become more apparent as time passes.

He avoids serious conversation
You can never really get him to commit to anything serious or at times he won’t own up to his mistakes. He will turn the tables and make you apologize.

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How to end a terrible date 

 

We have all experienced awful dates at one point of another. Whether you are married or currently dating, the terrible experience remains etched in our minds forever.

How did you get out of it, or are you one of those nice people who stick it out to the end? Don’t do this, it’s never worth the irritation.

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Here are 5 graceful ways to end a date:

  1. Don’t order a second drink: As you are slowly sipping you’re first drink and it dawns on you that the date is a disaster, don’t order another drink. When you give him the impression that it’s parte after parte, and his company is great. This takes us to the second point, which ties in to the first.
  2. Pay for our drink: Since you want to hastily exit, offer to pay for the drink, so that he doesn’t feel so bad about the date ending. You also ensure he gets the message that you don’t owe him anything.

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  3. Don’t make promises for a future date: Kenyans have a habit of using the words ‘see next time’, when we don’t really mean it. If it has become clear that the date stinks an have no plans to ever see him again, use words such as it was nice meeting you, or be clear and say you don’t want another date.
  4.  Leave after excusing yourself:  If it was a coffee date, or drinks, tell him you were meeting friends for dinner plans after. This mostly applies if it’s someone you have met for the first time and don’t want the date to go n for much longer. It may not apply if he is an acquaintance or a friends friend.Relationships
  5. Be honest: It’s awkward, but honesty is always the best policy. Tell him things are not going the way you want and leave. I often watch Kenyan dating shows, and get horrified as the two individuals prolong the date that degenerates into rudeness and name calling. LEAVE.

Dear Classic 105 fam, do you have other tips you use to exit horrific dates? Do share.

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‘She’s old and not going anywhere’ Mans reason for avoiding marriage

 

A man has been putting off getting married to his baby mama because he wants her to age, making sure she’s out of the market after wasting her time.

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Wanting to “test” the relationship a little longer before taking the plunge is a situation many Kenyan couples find themselves in today.

One of the main reasons your man may be uninterested in marrying you is because he wants to marry you when you are older and can’t move on.

They want you to commit to him for so long that you will have no other choice when you hit past 40 years.

The man called in to Classic 105 confirming this truth

What is the purpose of a wedding, as long as my heart wants you what else do you want?What’s the need of showing the public that I love you in a wedding yet after a few years we will divorce, si as long as my heart knows! 

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He continues

Look at the rate of divorce in Kenya. Look at today’s weddings, how many people are holding Sh2million weddings, then divorce soon after? What is the value of a wedding? 

So what is his solution or alternative to marriage?

It’s very simple he argues. Come we stay together, have kids and in ten to twenty years we will see how things are. At that point I also know she has nowhere to go, coz who wants a woman with all these children? Which man will marry her? 

t this point ladies I fail to see the logic behind staying with someone who doesn’t want to marry you if you want to marry. Perhaps some men want to wait for the right person, not you.

 

 

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10 things to stop doing if you’re unlucky in love

 

You have kissed 1000 frogs and not met the one yet.

If you feel unlucky in love, avoid doing any of these ten things:

1. Stop pitying yourself

It prevents you from finding someone else because of feelings of unworthiness. Many of us have and continue feeling this way. You are not meant to be alone.

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2. Don’t try so hard

We immediately jump back into the game with promises to do better next time. When you push yourself too hard you dont allow a genuine person to come into your life. People for your information smell a desperate person a mile off.

 

3. Hold no expectations

Having too many expectations of someone leads to disappointment.

Expect nothing and you’ll always be pleasantly surprised.

4. Don’t call him up

Listen sis, if a guy is done with you, let him go. Men should do the chasing, they love it..

5. Stop crying over them

Don’t waste your time crying over spilt milk. Crying over someone isn’t going to get you anywhere. Say thank you, next!!.

6. Keep some mystery

This is called TMI (too much information) A little mystery goes a long way. Keep yourself a little mysterious, that’s what keeps people’s attention.

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7. Stop blaming it on men

It’s not them. It’s you. This is all on you, because you keep going for the wrong person.

8. Stop going after the wrong guy

You may have a set mind what type of guy you like, however it is possible, you are focused on what shouldn’t be. Give another type of guy a chance.

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9. Be yourself

Simple.

10. Take a chance

You may surprise yourself with how well it goes.

11. Let go babe

Weka shida chini, mikono juu. It’s not worth holding on to for all the negative energy.

 

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‘ My man loves me yet I met him while procuring an abortion’ Brags woman

Does where you meet a man determine whether he will marry you or not ?Well this is the dilemma one woman has found herself in.

They say you can meet the love of your life in a bar, church or at a bus stop but for * Nelly she met him as she was visiting a clinic to carry out an abortion.

Yes you read that right. The problem is that every time Nelly gets pregnant he takes her for an abortion and she feels he is using her past to judge her.

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Narrating her sad ordeal on a social media platform, she says

” I met him on my way to go and do abortion, because he was so nice I opened up to him, told him everything and he loved me for me.

I wanted him to taste my body before I take out the pregnancy so we had S#x in the car that same day , after s#x he drove me to the place I did the abortion and even paid and bought me drugs . 

Since then we have been dating and he is so sweet .

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He does everything for me but I am scared he might not marry me I am scared because anytime we get intimate and I tell him I am pregnant, he will just drive me straight to where he met me and pay for the abortion

He even collected the docs number, I have 3 of his pregnancies since we met and I feel that he is judging me with my past .

Do you think he will marry me or should I ask just  him?”

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Below are some of the comments some full of wisdom while some are straight to the point

doyinsolatolulope:Some ladies eh,they r just a disgrace.. Mumu, he will marry you you think he is so stupid like you. Uncle is using you as a mopping stick. When u r not useful again then you will know whatsapp

goldshuga_zika:Helping you destroy your future & you ask if he’s gullible enough to wanna be part of what he destroys?….Hell no! You’re just a tool for distraction & evacuation. He ain’t dating but using you. I’m sure his real gf is somewhere prolly still a Virgin. Please grow up.

posh_alicia:Seriously!!! You don’t need to cos he will not marry you gosh!!! Wake up

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These are some of the ways to know your man loves you

There is nothing sweet as having someone who truly loves and cares for you by your side. These are some of the things that your man will pull to show that they care;

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Making you his priority

You will know someone loves you by the way they treat you. If you are a number one priority in his life or in everything he does then he does love you.

Always there for you

Someone who loves you will always be by your side in times of happiness and sadness. They will never have an excuse of being with you because they treasure you a lot.

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Interested in everything you do

You will see from his interest in you and whatever you do. This involves cooking, cleaning or even singing and dancing. The will always want to be committed to your activities and always offer to help.

 

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Asks for your opinion

Someone who adores you will always ask for your opinion and advice before doing anything in them. They will always consult you before taking any step rather than doing anything they want to.

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Respects your decisions

When you tell someone what you think about something and reasons for your decisions, that person has some love for you. It not only shows that the person respects your decisions, but also you in person.

Its all in his touch

You can also know if someone cares from their touch. The kisses, the hugs and even when you cuddle you will always have that feeling of love. You will always feel safe when around them.

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Confides in you

They will be honest with you on everything and always tell you the truth no matter how painful it may be.

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5 ways to handle jealousy in a relationship

 

 

There’s a general idea that a little bit of jealousy in a relationship is a good thing. It just “means your partner cares” or “shows that they don’t want to lose you.”

It should never be considered healthy. Jealousy is almost completely founded in insecurity or doubt, either in yourself, in your relationship or in your partner.

Because insecurities are always going to exist, the best you can do is manage your jealousy and make sure it stays under control, but you should never assume that jealousy is a healthy aspect of your relationship.

Here are some tips on how to deal with these feelings:

1. Try Journaling
Writing out your feelings in a journal is a good way to help move past the jealously you’re experiencing. Journals should not just be about your achievements, but also low moments in life and dealing with the outcome. It also helps you keep tabs on your jealous for future concerns.

2. Is it making you a negative person?
If jealousy is negatively affecting you, that you find yourself hating those around you, you must consider the ways it is negatively affecting you.By coming to terms with how it is making you behave you might be able t figure out future incidences and let it go.

3. Have a sit down with a friend
Talking to a friend about your situation helps alot. Our close friends are there for a reason — to be there for us when we really need it. Use these friendships to your advantage here, and talk out your jealously issues with someone who can provide an outside perspective to what’s happening, according to Psych Central. The outlet reiterated, though, the importance of making sure you’ve also discussed the issues with your partner, too.

4. Talk to your bae
If you’ve been overcome with jealousy lately, it might be time to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about how you’re feeling and why you might be feeling this way.

5. Get professional help
Sometimes, jealous is as a result of our insecurities.

 

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4 relationship habits most people think are normal

 

Read about these habits that we mistake as healthy but are actually dangerous patterns we develop in our relationships.

1. Keeping score of who’s doing what

Some spouses find petty ways of upsetting their partner to justify complaining about the others behaviour.

Because it shows that you two are not comfortable communicating openly and clearly with one another. A person has no reason to be passive-aggressive if they feel safe expressing any anger or insecurity within the relationship. A person will never feel a need to drop “hints” if they feel like they won’t be judged or criticized for it.

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2. Holding the relationship hostage
Blackmailing your partner to stay in a relationship is pretty common behaviour that people don’t think alot about. When one person complains and blackmails the other person by threatening the commitment of the relationship, that is a problem.

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It’s emotional blackmail that brings about alot of unnecessary drama. Any small challenge in the relationship is used as an opportunity to tell the other person they are not committed. This ‘crisis’ results from negative thoughts and feelings that are not being communicated to each other, and so make it out to be a threat to the relationship.

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3. Blaming your partner for your own negative emotions
Let’s say you’re having a bad day most probably from work related stress, and your partner isn’t exactly being sympathetic or supportive at the moment. Yet you want them to pay attention to you.

So you lash out at them for being what you call insensitive.

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4. Displaying a loving jealousy
When your spouse or partner gets mad when you talk, touche, call, text, hang out, with others and then takes the anger out on you, and attempt to control their behavior. This often leads to taking extreme action like hacking into your partner’s email account, looking through text messages while they’re in the shower or even following them around town and showing up unannounced when they’re not expecting you.

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‘I’m Jinxed’ Kenyan man in four failed marriages cries out

 

Do you find yourself jumping from one bad relationship to another?

It starts off well, then hits a snag and again you find yourself left feeling angry, disappointed and hurt.

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Same script, different cast and there is no happy ending.

A Kenyan man made this confession on Classic 105 admitting he is jinxed.

He has been in four relationships and none has worked to his liking.

He said,

These four relationships have been full of challenges

Terrible and disappointing experiences have left a bad taste in his mouth.

‘I’ve been in four relationships until today I don’t feel like having any. I feel comfortable being single. Relation hip number one was bad, this lady ran away with my money. Then I found the second one that one was full of drama, we had a business and she brought someone in and the business failed, we parted ways. The third girl involved her mother in our relationship. the mother used to make all the decisions about our life. I saw she wanted to control me so I left her. The fourth one was another problem. We were together for some time, in fact I wanted to marry her, but she later met a military man and took off with him.

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These dating experiences have made him lose hope in finding someone to be with.

I am not the problem in these relationships, because I provide, I give them platform, I have property, so what is the problem? 

If this sounds familiar, ask yourself if you have slipped into a bad relationship pattern.

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6 things not to do when your partner is threatening to break up

 

We’ve all been in the heat of the moment when angry words are said or actions are taken that we later regret.

Later, once both have cooled off and are seeing things more clearly, breaking up isn’t so appealing.
This leads to even more confusion and disconnection. When your partner claims that he or she will break up with you and then doesn’t actually end the relationship, you might feel unsettled, angry and wondering what your relationship status actually is.

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Here are a few we do NOT recommend:

1. Don’t call your partner’s bluff about breaking up unless you’re ready to really follow through.

2. Don’t call your partner a liar or other names that might pop into your head out of frustration.

3. Don’t ignore it or pretend that the threat wasn’t made.

4. Don’t leave and then go hook up with your ex or someone else to get back at your partner.

5. Don’t complain about how “crazy” your partner is to your friends.

6. Don’t play games too.

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There are all kinds of reactions that might seem tempting when your partner threatens to break up with you. It can feel manipulative and upsetting to hear the words “I’m going to break up with you” and not be sure whether or not your partner is actually ending the relationship.

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3 signs you can’t fix a toxic relationship

How many time shave you heard someone say that you should fight to keep your relationship?

That anything you are going through can be fixed?

Toxic relationships cause feelings of low self-worth, helplessness, fear, anxiety, depression, insecurity, paranoia, and even narcissism.

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Fighting to keep this relationship won’t change anything because one or both people have emotionally moved on. Perhaps they were never really there in the first place, or not in the way you needed them to be anyway.

Even worse, if your relationship is toxic, you will be more and more damaged by staying in it.

Fighting to hold on to something that is not fighting to hold on to you will ruin you. Sometimes the only thing left to do is to let go with grace and love and move on.

Here’s how tell you can’t fix it:

  • moodiness, anger, unhappiness become the norm
  • you avoid each other more and more
  • work and relationships outside the toxic relationship start to suffer

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What women wear that men dislike and don’t tell

When you want to please your man, your appearance matters a lot. There are some pieces of clothing that women wear that men dislike but they never tell. They include;

Hair extension and weaves. Most of these men prefer seeing their ladies in natural hair. How mortifying would it be if for instance your busy with your man then the wig falls off exposing matutua’s? Embarassing! What’s worse is if your weave or wig isn’t customized and there’s nothing as bad as an ill fitting tress.

When with your man try as much as possible to wear natural hair styles that suit your appearance.

UGG boots. These are the type of boots that ladies like especially in cold seasons. They are made from skin sheep with fleece attached to it which men say is animal cruelty. They prefer other decent boots to this.

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Excessive makeup. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder they say. Most men prefer natural appearances. Some ladies apply too much makeup yet less is more.

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 The 80 s outfits. This includes baggy long dresses and faded baggy jeans, that are making a comeback currently. This to men hides ones curves yet dudes want to adore.

Fake contacts. Many women are now spotting cosmetic contact lenses. While not bad, men find it weird to hang out with someone with blue, grey or yellow eyes.

They expect to see the real beauty of ones eyes.

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Leggings. Unless you are slim, this outfit is not good for you according to men. If it is necessary for this, then one should wear long tops or shirts to avoid looking like a person going for some workout.

Painted eyebrows. Ladies tend to shave natural eyebrows completely then draw on, leaving them with surprised expressions.

The painted on eyebrows leave a funny look which men describe as a cartoon look. Some are even not balanced because you find one is higher than the other.

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Fake eye lashes. It will be really embarrassing that you are talking with someone whose lashes are about to fall. Oops.

Excess perfumes. It is nice to have a nice scent but don’t over do it. What happens when the man is asthmatic? You don’t want to be blamed for his health complication.

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