In many marriages or living situations, spouses go the extra mile for their loved ones.
It is not uncommon to hear a man or woman say they paid for their spouse to get a better education. The motivation being that things will get better financially for the family.
A female breadwinner revealed on Classic 105 that she put her husband through University, but he is ‘ungrateful’.
She explains her predicament
When I met my husband we both had diplomas and were employed in the same place, so when an opportunity arose for him to go to school, I supported him to go to campus.
She worked hard to support her husbands through school
I was paying fr his campus, I gave him Sh240k lumpsum money, coz he was going for regular courses to cater for fees and accommodation, so when he finished campus and he came back home, he wanted a better paying job.
He wanted to move into another job, and once again the loving wife helped him out
There was a job, but he didn’t get through, so he asked me for a favor to get it. I helped him get the job. In his former job he was earning 30k but the new offer was 170k,
The strategy of supporting her man did not work in her favor, as he soon showed his true colors
and the thing is when it was my turn to go to school, he didn’t support me, he didn’t even attend my graduation, but we are still together, I still love him, and now we are even building a house.
Girls, do you expect a big pay off later when you help your man?
A rather opinionated man made many upset after complaining that he doesn’t like being asked for money by his wife for her beauty needs.
”Every end month I pay rent, school fees and shopping for the house. Any other thing outside that bracket, is her own responsibility. Her money is hers to take care of herself. To add on to that, I don’t walk around with my wife for outings!
He admits that he goes to extremes to ensure that no money goes towards the salon.
I don’t walk around a supermarket with her, what for? I leave 300 bob everyday for her to buy food, if she wants to do other things that’s her bill to pay, not my money.
He is happy with her low maintenance look and has made a pact to continue with this lifestyle.
I go with my wife to the barber shop to shave her hair, because I don’t see why I should give her money for the salon. She shaves her hair and keeps it short, her nails are also short and keep them natural because I won’t pay her salon bill.
Do you think men freely spend on their fellow men but not as much to their woman?
This question was posed to Classic 105 listeners by Maina Kageni who wondered out loud why men are quick to drop big bucks on men but not their wives.
Why do you guys do it?
ladies if you went out with your men tonight, you will cry tears, coz first Kenyan men don’t buy a normal round, they buy mzingas claiming ati it has special offer, girls you should see how your men drink at night, and don’t bring money home
Girls, on a level of one to ten, how angry are you reading this?
How many times have you heard out there a married man bragging that his woman is fine, he doesn’t need to worry about things at home? Sound familiar?
This situation is very common according to one woman who called in to the Classic 105 show, to share tips on family finances.
Just read this quote first before we get into it.
Girls, it is your right to expect a man to pay for your dinner, your movie ticket, your club entry fee, or anything he has to pay for in exchange for your time. began comedian TV show host Steve Harvey.
The upset woman said to Maina Kageni that
the number one mistake women make with these men especially when you land yourself a stingy man is showing them you can be independent, especially financially.
You show a man you can take care of all your financial needs, rub it in his face? The day you come to him and ask for a coin, trust me aki sha zoea, whatever he will give you will be little or nothing knowing that you have money, when he gets used to being shown that you are financially independent?
You don’t hear them bragging out there ati my mama is a mama who sorts herself out. so this thing of miss independent it blows. the day you are needy that man won’t care.
So what should a woman do?
From the word go let that man spend on you let him take care of you teach him how to spend on you, so girls out there, let them listen
The drama surrounding the will left behind by Dutch billionaire Tob Cohen has left tongues wagging.
Classic 105’s Maina and Kingangi debated the matter, asking why Kenyans don’t like to prepare will int he eventuality of their death.
Maina asked 3 questions:
1. Have you written a will?
2. If anything happens today, does your wife or man deserve anything
3. Does your partner know where all your wealthy is?
This male caller was not too shy to brag that his wife is the sole heir to his estate and she knows it.
You have three major events in life; birth, marriage and death. There is no excuse for not writing a will. How can you marry someone you don’t trust? That is stupidity, no one forced you to marry her. My wife is the custodian of everything I’ve got. I have children with her, if I die everything goes to her. We have a joint account or in her name, and the gentlemanly thing to do is die before her, kwani hizo vitu ni za nini? Boss make a mistake and die and you will see how uncles will go for your things, I can’t come back to protect my wife and children from them.
This news obviously excited Maina who congratulated him in a special shout out.
When is it advisable to come clean about adultery and when is it better to keep things hush hush?
A man beat a hasty retreat after initiating a probe on his cheating wife.
He began narrating his discovery
what surprises me most is that our women are so discreet in what they do
Does this statement come from personally experiencing something? He responds firmly, without hesitation.
I just found out, I bumped into it. It was just a coincidence, of course I asked who is this and you see the mos intriguing part of it is that even if you ask her best friend, she will never admit it too.
He has a theory why women cheat more than men, something Maina Kageni dismissed as completely macho.
women are the masters, at the same time they are also masters of suspicion they suspect their men because they are guilty
while he was quizzing his wife about the affair, did he bother to find out how long she had been cheating?
well I didn’t get to find out how long it was we just has to sit down and sort it out
Perhaps by now you are wondering how a husband can get past cheating. He explains how they sorted it out
I gave her an option because after all I felt it was unfair just to tell her to go home and I also had a mpango wa kando at the same time.
So Hol’ up, he forgave his cheating wife because he was also cheating? will wonders never cease….
yes….. he responded and hang up his phone.
Dear Classic 105 fam, do you have some major tea to drop? We are listening.
The discussion this week on Classic 105 has been about accepting the reality that is second wives.
Most contributors confessed that they are either second wives, or are thinking about it seriously.
Take this unnamed woman who was unable to convince Maina that second wives bring stability in marriages. Her story is made for movies.
‘I met our husband when he was 33 years and was already married, he didn’t have anything (broke), me coming to the picture we have opened a business together. I have made his life better, this wife she was just sitting pretty I have made sure she is part of the company. Am I really bad, ameleta ID hata hajui she is a director of this company. It’s a high time people knew second wives are not that bad.
This prompted another woman to narrate how she is tired of her husband and is ready to welcome a second wife.
I think sometimes sharing is caring. I have personally asked him to get another wife. It’s important msaidiane (help each other), sometimes it’s the man who you feel you don’t understand, so saa zingine maybe he needs to get another wife, a sample so we see whether he is the problem or it’s me, to see if he will improve or appreciate the first wife better.
Can you possibly wrap your head around this fact? She adds
I’ve been married for about ten years and we have children hatusumbuani, we are each looking for money, and the small quarrels, so I want him to relieve me of stress and take it elsewhere.
Relationships are overwhelming, and he should kindly inform me if they also have kids, respect me, all I need is respect if we have to share akiskia aende naye kabisa ( if they want they can go and stay together I don’t care), me I don’t care, you can’t force emotions of someone, so if he feels he wants someone else let him go, for me I don’t think it’s worth fighting for a man,
I’m only 35, I don’t mind him getting another one, and I am okay with this all I need is him to be open and tell me
Crazy right? Like I can’t even begin to fathom this entire story.
Dear Classic 105 fam, have you ever heard such madness? Drop us your comments about your experience, serve some tea people!
Three women suspected to have murdered a prominent businessman and stacked his body in the sack will be detained remain in police custody as investigations go on.
On Monday, a magistrate court in Meru allowed police to detain three female suspects linked to the brutal murder of a businessman for fourteen days to enable police complete investigations.
Joel Kaberia, 45 was supplying meat to butcheries within Meru town after slaughtering a number of animals. Investigators are said to have recovered a hacksaw said to have been used to chop off the body.
Neighbors of the deceased said the two had been living together for about one and a half years.
Brigit Gacheri Gikunda, 22 who was the deceased lover was arraigned alongside Frida Mwari and Irene Kagwiria Mugambi.
The three were arrested on Saturday and have been detained at Meru police station. They did not take plea to murder charges as police asked for more time to complete investigations.
In a written affidavit investigating Officer Benson Sindani sought custodial orders of fourteen days to complete probe into the murder of the businessman.
Meru Principal Magistrate Monica Maroro said the suspects be detained at Meru police station until July 15 when the matter will be mentioned to confirm the status of the investigation.
On Saturday the brutal murder was the talk of town as residents tried to come to terms of how the deceased was killed and stacked in a sack.
Isaiah Gituma said Gacheri borrowed a pliers at 9am today as she shown neighbor’s one of her finger bite by her husband.
Kaberia’s brother Francis Koome said he lastly talked to his brother on Friday and they had some business to accomplish together as usual before his death. The family is now seeking justice for their kin and have appealed to police to do conclusive investigations to bring all the culprits involved to book.
Kaberia, who hails from Mbeu in Tigania West, had a two-year-old child with Gacheri. He has left behind two more kids born of another woman and two more from a separate woman, according the brother.
“We are shocked and saddened. I am following up and want to know why he was killed. He gave some job assignments to do,” Koome said.
His business colleague Francis Nkumbuku said they were forced to break into the house after the lady turned hostile to produce Kaberia whereabouts and wanted to escape.
They bundled her and escorted her to Meru town Police station.
In a lengthy letter she penned on their marriage anniversary, DJ Soxxy’s wife showered him with love and narrated their life experience as a young couple.
In the last 8 years we have challenged, tested, pushed, pulled, fought, raged and cried together. We have struggled. We have pushed each other to the limit and continued to ask for more. We have taken each other outside of our comfort zones, kicking and screaming. We have triggered each other in ways that brought us to our knees. We have tested boundaries only to test them again and again. We have chosen our own selfish needs and wants over the other’s. We have fought for our independence and freedom while trying to remain a team. We have navigated careers and our own personal growth while trying to evolve as a couple. We have let our insecurities and fears influence our choices and behaviors. We have failed each other again and again.
In the last 8 years we have also inspired, loved, laughed, encouraged, supported, surrendered, created and grown together. We have loved. We have patiently waited as we discovered who we are as individuals and the work we each want to do in the world. We have soothed, supported and held each other’s hands through the scary unpredictability of life. We have listened when we didn’t want to. We have moved through grief and loss together. We have waited when we were impatient. We have trusted when consumed with doubt. We have changed even when it was uncomfortable. We have taken risks. We have forgiven. We have shined light on the darker parts of ourselves. We have surrendered old behaviors, wounds and stories. We have learned how to bend without breaking our own sense of self. We have encouraged each other to keep reaching and chasing after our dreams. We have said yes to adventures that weren’t our own so we could watch the other shine. We have created, birthed and worked hard to raise two beautiful, kind, empowered children. We have chosen each other again and again.
Being together for eight years is not a walk in the park. Ciku says it requires dedication.
What I know for sure after 8 years of being married is that it sure isn’t perfect, it requires effort and awareness and is navigated by CHOICE. It is a choice that you make every day and then that every day becomes 1 year, 5 years, 10 years, a lifetime. It is a choice of choosing to return to each other again and again.. I love you @djsoxxy.
The K24 TV gospel show host also showered his wife with love on their eighth anniversary and his message read;
Today we celebrated 8 years of God’s faithfulness in our marriage.. Just like the years have been full of ups and downs, our 8th anniversary today has been full of exactly that.. Started the day having to rush @ciikuwasoxxy to hospital in a foreign land and spending half the day receiving medicine through her veins… either way, when God is in control, the story always ends well. I thank God for you and look forward to many more happy and fruitful years @ciikuwasoxxy Love you.
The mother of two commented on his post and she wrote,
I thank God for you too and after 8years you know when I say I love you.. I don’t just say it.. It comes from a deep point😘😘.
The narrative is all too common: man meets woman, they fall in love, that may or may not lead to marriage or a long-term relationship, woman becomes pregnant, a beautiful child is conceived.
Cute right? Alas, the relationship does not stand the test of time, as the fairytale would otherwise have us believe. Things happen.
What is perplexing, however, is the tendency for women to use their children as ammunition, as part of an intricate ploy to somehow strike back at their ex-partner.
This retaliation is often due to any wrongdoing [ongoing or not] that may have been committed by the man in question – be that adultery, stealing, lying, etc. Ridiculous, I know – yet all too real.
Read this long read from a man who confessed to Maina Kageni his miserable story.
Some years back in 2010 I got a son with someone and the lady was a drunkard and we went to court abput child custody.
I happened to win the case after pushing for around three months, so after winning the case she was given access then she got advice form her sister ( the child was now around a year two months) she kidnapped the child then I happened to see the child after three years.
He explains why he has been unable to get tough on her for so long despite the law saying he should have the child
I did go looking for the child. I got a court order and I tried following up but she was never arrested by the police. They usually say it’s a legal case. She used to stay in her mothers place and it was not accessible. What would I have done I could go to the nearest police station but the gates were locked. I wish you can understand that when you don’t have an access like a place that is gated it’s hard to access and there is way you can break it.
I have not seem my son for nine years, the warrant of arrest is effective the women can’t be found, and the grandparents don’t want to see me. I have tried my level best.
Bill Clinton – Though she usually stays hush-hush about their marriage, she’s opened up on a few rare occasions, including on one episode of The Tyra Banks Show. Claiming she’s never doubted that her husband loves her, and crediting her resilience to her faith, she told Tyra, “I really had to dig down deep and think hard about what was right for me, what was right for my family.” Hillary’s advice to other spouses in her situation? “You have to do what is right for you — and that may not be what anybody else believes.”
Two years after walking out of Victor Verster Prison in 1990, Mandela announced that he was seeking a divorce from Madikizela-Mandela. She was having an affair with a younger colleague, Dali Mpofu, he said.
But the couple’s problems ran deeper, Mandela said. His wife only entered his bedroom when he was asleep. They had barely spoken in months. And since his release from prison, he had been “the loneliest man.”
Berlusconi, 72, was at the centre of a media storm pressuring him to explain his relationship with 18-year-old Noemi Letizia.
The flamboyant billionaire met the pretty blonde when she was 17 and attended her coming-of-age party, offering her a gold and diamond necklace priced at 6 000 euros. The estranged wife responded saying “I have always loved Berlusconi and I built my life around my marriage and my family,” said Lario
Their marital drama took centre stage in 2010. The rumour that they were both cheating started on Twitter, then to blogs and websites everywhere.
John F Kennedy
John F. Kennedy remains one of America’s most respected and admired presidents more than forty years after his assassination.
In his book the Dark Side of Camelot, writer Seymour Hersh alleged the late loved too many women. The book described in detail Kennedy’s womanizing. Hersh relayed how Kennedy frequently used the Secret Service to help him smuggle women — it was often more than one — into the White House for daily trysts.
I heard the door being knocked and on opening the door I met my wife standing at the door, at that moment I wished that the world would swallow me.
My wife and I have been married for the last seven years.
I have already written a suicide note because I feel I have reached my end. I only wish she can forgive me.
On being told that her husband has threatened to commit suicide, the wife says
He is late, he should actually hurry the process. It is the first time and I do not want to talk to him.
Chuma yake iko motoni and I am going back to that house he should wait for what awaits him.
According to a study, there are many reasons why married people cheat. Upwards of 40 percent of married couples are impacted by infidelity, and despite the high percentage, most people—even those who stray—will say that cheating is wrong.
Risk factors such as personality disorders and childhood issues, as well as opportunities such as social media and poor boundaries, can increase the chance that one of these reasons will actually lead to some type of affair.
Frustration in the marriage is one common trigger—the cheater may make several attempts to solve problems to no avail. Maybe she had second thoughts about getting married or he was jealous over the attention given to a new baby and neither had the skill set to communicate these feelings.
Most of us swoon, and cheer when we see a man get down on one knee in public to propose to the love of his life.
But for one couple in Iran, their romantic moment was ruined after they were arrested for a public display of affection.
What is considered the perfect moment went down at a shopping mall, in Tehran.
The footage, which captures the moment at which a young man places a ring on the finger of his girlfriend at a shopping mall in Arak, Tehran, Iran, was condemned by Iranian authorities as it contradicted the country’s Islamic doctrines.
The couple, who were later arrested by police for breaking the country’s laws on public decency, have since been released on bail.
During the viral clip, the unnamed man stands inside a ring of flower petals shaped like a heart as his girlfriend stares at him and gasps with excitement.
The Iranian woman, who is stood next to red and white balloons laid out on the ground, then says ‘yes’ to the marriage proposal as her ecstatic boyfriend slips the ring onto her finger.
The happy couple then embrace each other as excited spectators cheer and clap at their romantic union.
However soon after the video was posted online and went viral, the couple were taken in by the police for breaking Iran’s strict Islamic code.
Arak deputy police chief Mostafa Norouzi later told the Shahrvand daily that the young couple’s ‘offense is very clear and there is no need for explanation’.
He added that it was unacceptable for the couple ‘to do whatever is common in other places of the world and disregard mores, culture and religion’.
Would you divorce your husband if you can’t agree on your baby’s name? This mom to be wants to
We have all read all too often of the battle between divorcing parents. From court records, to children chronicling their parents beef, we know what mummy and daddy are upto.
A pregnant woman is considering divorcing her husband over the name he choose for their yet to be born baby.
The wife shared her story on Reddit, titling the post “Divorce on Table Because Husband And I Can’t Agree on Baby’s Name.” In it, she explained:
“Hello reddit. This title might look funny but its an actual problem between me (23F) and my husband (24M). We’ve been dating for a year, been married for 2 years. I got pregnant like 7 months ago so recently we started discussing name for the baby. Ever since we found out it’s gonna be a girl my husband wants to name it like his ex’s name. It’s not any ex but the one he dated for long period of time and loved the most. In the beginning of our relationship we had many problems because of her but she moved away so the problems went away. He really loved her and he never hid that from me but I thought it was over once she moved away. Now he made it clear that he wants the baby to have that name and I can name the second child. When I asked him why does he want that name so badly he said just because he and his ex didn’t work out doesn’t mean he doesn’t want something to keep reminding him of her. He doesn’t understand how much its affecting me and keeps saying it’s just the hormones. Is he still in love with the ex or its normal that he wants to name OUR child like that. Thank you!”
A couple who lent their daughter Sh12.4 million have been left horrified by a court ruling that they cannot have it back – because they failed to draw up a contract.
David and Glenda Joy’s daughter Lucy insisted the life-changing sum, which helped her secure a home, was a gift, and a judge has ruled in her favour.
Now the parents say their lives have been left in ruins by her ‘manipulative’ behaviour.
Speaking following the ruling, the couple, both retired British Airways workers, said they mortgaged their home to lend Lucy the money because they believed it would help heal a long-running family rift over an inheritance.
Instead it has ripped the family even further apart.
‘It wasn’t meant to go this way,’ said Mr Joy, who suffered a nervous breakdown in the course of the dispute. ‘You trust your children, don’t you? Why would you get them to write an IOU? But it’s cost us everything.
I haven’t got a daughter any more. I constantly think about the phone ringing and being told, “Lucy’s been run over, are you going to the funeral?” That’s something I can’t answer.’
The couple thought carefully before agreeing to make the loan in 2009, after David’s mother left Lucy a £200,000, three-bedroom house in Slough.
David’s two siblings challenged the will, claiming Lucy had unfairly influenced her grandmother, who had dementia. Unable to settle the matter, David agreed to help Lucy in a legal battle which eventually cost the couple £73,650 in legal fees.
David was at one point so fearful of receiving another bill he would hide from the postman in the downstairs cloakroom. ‘He was like a haunted man,’ said Glenda, who is Lucy’s stepmother.
An out-of-court settlement was reached that required Lucy to pay £90,000, which she asked for her parents’ help in paying.
The couple covered the settlement and say Lucy suggested she could repay them by signing her grandmother’s house over to Glenda, then paying rent until the loan was repaid and the house returned to her – something she denied in court.
The couple insist they took out a mortgage on their three-bedroom home in Bude, Cornwall, only after making a verbal agreement. But a month after the money was paid, they asked Lucy when she would sign the house over. ‘She turned,’ said Glenda. ‘She said, “You’re trying to steal my baby’s inheritance, screw the pair of you”, loaded up her car and drove off.’
They haven’t spoken since.
‘Lucy’s whole attitude throughout was, “Dad can afford it”,’ David continued. ‘She had no qualms about letting me pay the lawyer’s fees.’
Yet Lucy, David says bitterly, thought nothing of privately funding IVF to have her son as a single parent while he and Glenda were ‘drowning’ in legal bills.
‘Glenda could see that Lucy was manipulating me,’ he adds. ‘I can’t get my head around it. When you love your children you can’t envisage things would turn sour.’
Last year the couple decided to take Lucy to court. But just over a week ago they lost their case.
Glenda said: ‘I still have bad nights over the injustice of it all – and our stupidity. I should have said, “sign something”.’
David added: ‘Lucy has got what she deserved. But she didn’t deserve to do it at our expense. Fighting over a £200,000 house has cost us everything.’