I Was Tested By My Fiancée And I Ended Up Giving Her A Sizzling Hot Slap

I tell you people have struggles out here.

A city man has confessed about how he was tested by his fiance to a point where he slapped her a gudu one.

Anyhow, the man wrote, “Last month I hit my fiancée (slap) Before you come for me let me explain. First of all I was so remorseful, my 32 years on this planet I have never been in a fight, I don’t hit women, I have sisters, my father didn’t hit my mum and I was taught not too. My girl has been picking fights, stepping on my nerves, it started in June, the 18th I remember cause she picked a fight with me for no reason, cursed me out, said mean things…

I took it as monthly mood swings but it didn’t stop so last week she did the most, the thing I hate most in this world.. after doing it I got upset demanded an apology, she gave me one of those “ehen oya sorry” but not actually sorry, walked passed me, bumped into me I said nothing and some hours later she repeated the same thing, that was when I lost it and hit her in the middle of another argument.

Immediately it happened I knelt down started begging and I have been begging ever since. I can’t even call her friends or family to beg cause I am so ashamed of myself.. so last week I finally convinced her to come over and with her best friend just to ease her a bit. To ensure her of her security even though I know it will never happen again. I just wanted us to talk….. I have never been made so angry, people say I am too gentle and nice so it got me thinking maybe I am not ready for marriage and I need to work on some things because we will have many more arguments I shouldn’t restore to hitting her , as I was explaining these to her while apologizing saying I need to be a better man and we should put the wedding on hold, my GF who had been vexing since with her friend just changed face.

She finally said she had been doing those things intentionally because I am too nice so she wanted to see the worst I can do basically her friends put the idea in her head, so she has been looking for my trouble all this while… I am still in shock.
now I am thinking differently;

1) Why would I want to be with a woman who can bring out that side of me?

2) is she desperate to get married ? Cause she was apologizing saying not to postpone the wedding. Why would u want to marry a man who is capable of hitting you? She is 27, together for 2 plus years.”

Here are some reactions from netizens.

mora_11: For about 4months sure? And it’s all a test 😫 if u aren’t certain anymore or want to ease of things, put things on hold and work things out. Her friends are bad news, if they are going to be advising her while married, u are in for it 😄. Remember “a broken wedding is better than a broken marriage” well what do I know 🙈 bye 👋

Cindynwokebirinwa: So she can’t make a decision herself except what her friends tell her to? Why try someone to know what he or she will do? Now she knows, she can settle down. Oga……do what’s best for you. If you wanna marry her, then do. If you still wanna put the marriage on hold to get yourself together, still good. This shouldn’t really be a big issue since you say you ain’t the violent type. But she should learn to do take decisions herself cos some friends can mislead

amb_brown: Pls don’t beg, the fact that a man should not hit a woman shouldn’t make her stupid… How will a woman be getting her man angry and don’t expect reactions… Stop begging..

yvonneajudua: My brother, you shouldn’t be with a person that will bring out the bad side in you.

odenjiji: It’s a lie. It wasn’t a test. It was a systematic approach to forever subdue you into submission. I’m not an advocate for violence, but you reacted foolishly by kneeling to beg. Still, she didn’t see that as an opportunity to reveal the “temper-unearthing-strategy” she’d been applying on you…not until you decided to pause the wedding preparations. She clearly didn’t expect that move, and impulsively made those comments. What makes this worse is that she’s blaming others for her actions. Wait a little longer before resuming any wedding talk. Be more observant.

omonyajudith: U don’t have to test someone to know what they’re cable of…Why in the name of the holy spirit would u Want to deliberately provoke anyone? OK, now he has hit her and I can assure u, he would not hesitate to hold bk if she omits again because she has unleashed the beast.

sherifoluwaseyi: Uhmmm but the truth is the testing worked on you.. She just wanted to know your anger limit… Even you would have never imagined that you can hit a lady.. That doesn’t make her bad or desperate… Cus when you eventually get married.. It won’t be testing again oo nd things far worse than that will occur you just have to play maturity as a man.. I think she did you a favor.. So sir.. Pls don’t hate the player.. Hate the game.. Good luck…

chidi_francisca: You are so lucky to have someone that loves you. She wanted to know the extent you can take rubbish, no one wants to marry a man that can’t protect her. She just wants to know you more. Don’t stop the marriage dear, everyone develops cold feet before wedding and you are having cold feet. Don’t let it control your actions. Have a happy married life.

__mhizqueen: When u are too cool and nice people use u……i use to be nice and cool before…..but now dont try me.

What do you think. Is it okay to test someone to those limits? And is it okay to condone violence in relationships to prove that he loves you?

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Wilson Sossion Responds To Allegations That His Wife Cheated On Him

KNUT Secretary General Wilson Sossion has come out to refute claims that his marriage is on the rocks. According to a story published in the Nairobian, Sossion parted ways with his wife Vivianne Kenduiywa barely a year after they said ‘I Do” in a secret wedding ceremony on April 29, 2016.

The controversial teacher representative caught many by surprise after a photo of his wedding to the love of his life was leaked on social media.


The paper reported that Sossion hired detectives after he suspected that his wife was having an affair with another man and after finding out the truth, he threw Vivianne out of their matrimonial home. We contacted Sossion for a comment on the story and he denied the claims saying that the story which was published isn’t true.

“Those are mischievous scandalous writing. I’m at home with my wife. We are doing very well as a family. I don’t know why someone cooked such stories.”

Wilson Sossion

Sossion and Vivvianne have also recorded a video to refute claims that there is trouble in paradise and here is the video;



Sossion remarried after his first wife Monicah, died in a road accident in 2012.

Dear ladies, here is how to know that you are dating an ‘ancestor’

It’s always a dream or rather wish of any woman to have a good life, a nice husband, and family. To many, this come true but to some, it doesn’t. We have seen many women of our generations ‘make it’ thanks to the new crop of men i.e sponsors who spend all their savings on these beauties. From showering them with expensive gifts to renting them luxurious apartments in the city’s suburbs, these species of men (sponsors) have indeed saved many from poverty.

Sponsors come in different ages. We have ancestors someone; who is twice your age and fossils; who are your father’s agemates or your grandpa’s age or even older. Dear ladies, here are 8 ways to tell that your sponsor is a fossil (someone old enough to be your grandfather and here are some of the interesting answers I got

1. Dress code

He wears those shiny oversized suits, a hat, and a leather jacket is a must (starter pack ya sponsor). They always dress as if they are going for horse racing events and so should you. He will never allow you to dress skimpily. If you spot a chic in a club dressed in a trouser, knee length boots, a leather jacket, and t-shirt, be sure she is with her sponsor.


2. Music

His type of music says it all. A fossil cannot take you to to a classy joint. He will take you to Mugithii Night or at his local somewhere in Kiambu, Muthiga, Dagoretti Corner or somewhere around Ruaka or Donholm for mbuzi choma and guaranas.


3. No selfies

He will never allow you to take photos of him or you two when you’re together. They are ‘allergic’ to photos maybe because they are old and rarely have social media accounts. They have a Whatsapp group where they exchange photos of naked women and discuss how they would smash if they are given a chance.


4. Choice of drinks

A fossil will never buy you Moet or other expensive drinks (izo onea tu kwa adverts). Most of they like these Guarana-guzzling generation. He will buy you a six pack knowing that you will pay letter in kindness. And for him, he only takes beer (local beer to be precise).


5. ‘Come with your friends’

He will always ask you to tag along with your friends whenever he invites you out. This is a chance for him to prey on your friends so be careful! Next time he will ask you for a threesome. Ladies, if your man asks you to invite your friends don’t.


6. Hang out joints

They will always hang out at their friends’ local pub. Every time he invites you out just know unapelekwa pale kwa Njoroge for mutura and supu ya kichwa. They like promoting their friends.


7. Oh! He will never satisfy you in bed. He cannot last long. Most are one minute men.