We don’t marry the woman or man of our dreams, Kenyans confess to Maina

With their spouses out of their earshot many Kenyans confessed to Maina Kageni that they are not married to their ideal spouse.

They spoke openly and comfortably that they settle for whoever is out there because there is no such things as a woman or man of your dreams.

Maina had to listen to lots of people fret and complain about general, run-of-the-mill marital woes, and he thought to himself that he is lucky not to be married.

He said ‘I can’t believe what I’m hearing’.

Co host Mwalimu said it is human nature to want a perfect marriage but the reality is that ‘there is no Mrs right’.

The same view was held by countless callers who said the perfect husband or wife is a myth, and we all need to snap out of our dream.

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One man said ‘I don’t believe there is a perfect person in this world, we give ourselves one reason to live with that lady, we have a thousand reasons why we can’t live with her, you make her to be your dreams.

A woman described the madness of the fantasy of a perfect man saying ‘You will never met him. You take what you have that mad man and live together. My husband is not the man of my dreams, but we try to live with each other, so hakuna msee perfect, you can wait for the rest of your life.’

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Another male caller described his frustration with the thought of a perfect spouse noting that, ‘ Ati you are waiting for a perfect mate? You will wait forever. It’s only found in a dictionary, you just grab one and take each other slowly and that is how life goes, I am married to a woman who is not of my dreams. Because of the pressure from family to marry you just grab one and maintain it, ni kubaya, hakuna mrs perfect.

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Maina Kageni speaks frankly about KCPE fears and telling his mum

 

Over 1 million students sit for KCPE from Tuesday, October 29th.

Candidates are under pressure and so are parents.

While it is a stressful time for candidates, Kenyans are sharing kind words of encouragement and assurances.

Classic’s Maina Kageni reminisced his time sitting for KCPE years ago, and the fear of telling his parents the results.

The pressure on kids to pass is so high that Maina spoke emotionally about his own experience.

His most traumatizing time was wondering how he would perform in mathematics, a subject many of us find challenging.

He said

I got a C, it was my biggest fear, that was my worst subject and I was not even asked by my mum. She did not ask me anything, she just wanted to know if I did my best.

Mazematics was my worst subject.

pupils at westlands school for kcpe
The Classic 105 FM man began his primary education at Westlands Primary School. From here, he moved on to obtain his high school education from Laser Hill Academy.

 

Mwalimu his co-host suffered a far worse fate, after failing in his exam. He recounted his terrible experience telling his parents his results.

‘there was not much expectation for me from my parents, they told me enda upambane na ulimwengu. 

Here are others whose painful experience lives  in their memories

@AwSam_254..

Hello Maina. I failed terribly my KCPE Exams. I could not even make it to a public school. But through the support of my MUM and my high school Principal located in Dandora, I proudly stand-out as an Accountant by profession. #believeinyourself

@FelixxOtienoo..

Maina I had a major distaster in Maths, I didn’t do very well in my first round in kcpe but my parents didn’t even say I word about it, that’s when I knew the reason. But on the 2nd round I passed

Dear 2019 candidates, Classic 105 wishes  you the best in your exams.

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Women can’t become successful without a man’s financial help

 

Is a man in any way involved financially in the eventual success of women?

The issue of whether a woman can’t be successful without a mans financial help caused quite a buzz on the morning conversation with Maina and Mwalimu.

Men called in saying women can’t make it on their own and that a mans wallet is the key to a woman making any wealth.

Mwalimu Kingangi said

Behind every successful woman there is a man crying somewhere. 

There is a man ameisha amekonda kabisa because of this, we are talking about suffering men, kuna mwanaume amenyonywa ameisha

Back in 2013, a study published online in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.suggested that a womans success hurts her male partners ego. The study involved 896 people in five experiments conducted in the United States and the Netherlands.

It all was ignited by a classic fan’s comments hitting out at women that

You know we are the capital, kwa pesa za mwanamke lazima pesa ilianzia kwa mwanaume, where do they get their money from 

If you traced the source of a woman’s wealth, is it possible that a man contributed by financing her along the way?

 

Maina dismissed these thoughts as coming from men with fragile egos, sentiments supported by his female fans who responded harshly

@ivyonnes..
This is pure stereotyping……today’s woman is educated. That’s what this bitter men speaking are scared of. Let it choke them hard that today’s woman doesn’t need them to rise. They can do it. It’s not even debatable!
Periodttt!!!!
@SalomeManyaga..
Women are hard working and many we have made it even without a mans help!This mentality of there must be a man behind a woman’s success is total nonsense!😡

@suzzykabiru..
Why should men underestimate our strength, we nowadays don’t allow you to think on our behalf ,please apply logic when you gotta disagree with this.We are independent!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@Classic105Kenya
@carolkungu3548…
This is not the era where women r sat on she has ideas to make money and a future for her family…..so e need to make herown money an its not contributed by any man she uses her hands and mind….men stop undermining women…..#MainaAndKingangi
@NungaGitau..
The reason why most single moms are good financially is not because they are getting through men,its because of their hardwork since they can do several jobs to make ends meet because hakuna mwanaume atamkazia kufanya kazi flani bora n descent na inaleta chakula kwa meza.
Jennifer Kanyiri
@jennykanyiri..
kwani men think they’re the only ones entitled to have money and wealth? Today’s woman is educated and get her own money #MainaAndKingangi
@sheibahati..
The men saying that women can’t make it on their own are not only insulting hardworking women but men too who are a product of single mothers who singlehandedly raised their kids from scratch and never gave up. May God forgive them for their ignorance. #MainaAndKingangi
@sharon_ondisa..
You mean if I wake up 2day&decide am doin this,I’ll get my first capital frm aman?thea soft loans I can easily get for heaven sake!
In this case men r tryin to say they’re the only source of money Stupidity of the highest order

 

 

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‘If you are broke humble yourself’ woman tells men

 

Are you a woman with standards to keep and insists that a man must level up?

A conversation of women not settling for any broke man seemed to have touched a  raw nerve with men.

It all went down on Wednesday during the Maina and Kingangi morning show, after the musings of one women.

She told the co hosts that

Kenyan men are jealous, insecure, and stingy 

She was of the opinion that alot of men want women to settle for any man that is presented to them.

That’s the main problem, they are so insecure they are stingy so they want you to stay plain and I wish they would change their attitude, your woman should look good,

She is urging queens to stop settling narrating her experience

I has a man who always criticized me, oh ati my lipstick is too much, and when i look ashy he is very happy for me. He only used to give me money for food, and even that was tightly budget for lest I get extra money for makeup. He didn’t give me money to look good, it was all my effort.

She concluded saying ‘your king is worth the wait’.

Ladies should you compromise your standards just to be with any man? Drop your comments below.

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Is it true that Kenyan women live beyond their means? asks Maina

This question riled Mwalimu Kingangi who could not fathom how a women will spend 10k on her nails.

Living beyond your means for women is pretty easy to do in Kenya, owing to the sponsor culture. dded to this is the availability of accessing mobile lending apps.

Womana re borrowing to to finance their impulsive purchases, and feel no shame doing it. Read the story below about their confessions.

‘I’m the chairlady of CRB’ woman shouts about addiction to loans

Classic 105’s Maina Kageni posed this on Tuesday

I was told to ask you ladies by gentlemen:

why do Kenyan women live beyond their means? They want to look great on instagram but why must you have a weave worth sh100k?

A shocked Mwalimu Kingangi was astounded

this life honestly how are we supposed to maintain that kind of lifestyle?

Fans responded with mixed reactions below:
@ItsNdutaAkimani..

Its painful to accept that women can’t have it all at the sametime. A social life, a flourishing career, & money. Personally, I’d blame my folks cos they r the ones that ignite pressures that cause one to live beyond their means
#MainaAndKingangi
@kipskiplagat..
Maina they do live beyond what they have,u find a jobless woman who looking so good but you can’t see the source of money.But again wako na jamo wa make up,Douglas wa nguo,maina wa kiatu,kingangi wa nywele,wakanai wa road trips
@ItsMainaKageni
@MainaMugwe2..
maina Most ladies are suffocating under huge debts living beyond their own means, spending money they don’t have just to please other women #mainaandkingangi
@ItsNdutaAkimani..
I am 99% Kikuyu because the other 1% I refuse to by a 40k wig ama 4k on gel nails. Btw, Mimi huslay na dustcoats and doing my farming thing on my gram. Wacha kusema hatuko…twikuo muno. Enda uone matharu, waru, na ng’ombe hapo..
@suzzykabiru..
Maina Women are naturally expensive and the best part of it we spend our very money ata Kama tunaomba fare

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Should a wife be allowed to go out separately with friends every once in awhile? Maina asks

 

Has your mans jaw dropped upon seeing this question? I bet his first question is to know your intentions for going out and if they are noble, right?

On the Friday morning conversation, Maina said he got a very interesting SMS from someone who is so prominent in society, who is so up there in government it was incredible.

He posed this question to women ‘This morning ladies I want you to tell me how you go about it’.

The question from his friend sought to find out ‘how often should my wife go out alone or with her girlfriends?’

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When are married women just supposed to get away from it all and breathe?

A suspicious Mwalimu Kingangi pondered the reason behind her desire to go clubbing.

Where am I when she is going out, anenda wapi? Alone? No no no. Where is this she is going alone?

There are many reasons why women go dancing. The most popular reason is that they want to let loose – to dance their problems away and feel the tension eke out of their muscles.

@EveKoi2..
@ItsMainaKageni I’m allowed to go have fun with my friends(his sisters&cousins too) once in a while,the problem is when I come back sitaongeleshwa one week

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@mwixzip..
That’s why it’s very important for ladies to work and be independent #MainaAndKingangi that way hakuna mtu atawahi kukalia chapati

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@MangeShiko..
marriage is like a jail ukitaka kuenda out lazima uombe ruhusa yaani ata unaboeka na hiyo out sababu unapimiwa masaa ya kurudi like an 18yr old child but to hell with that lazima OUT WATU WAENDE KAREE KIIIIIII #mainaandkingangi

Girls, is your husband ok with you going out clubbing either alone or with girl pals?

Drop us your comments below this post.

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Why it’s expected that wives must cook for husbands everyday

Is it still important for your wife to cook for you Maina Kageni asked listeners on Monday morning.

If a woman can’t cook is she even considered wife material?

That was the discussion on Classic 105 on Monday morning as Maina Kageni and Mwalimu debated the merits and demerits.

Mwalimu was of the opinion that men shouldn’t marry a woman who can’t cook because ‘it is the only time a man feels important’.

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‘She needs to find way to figure out how she will cook, leave work alone, what comes first is the marriage, and those who say its because of the nails, you need to stop, and cook for your man mwalimu continued’

He added

‘That is not something to argue with, they have to create time and cook, not asking for pizza all the time’

Maina sought to know from Kenyans if it’s important for a woman in 2019 to know how to cook.

‘What were you marrying, a wife or a chef? Prompted Maina adding’ how can it be one of the qualifications for being a wife?

Here are views from fans:

Whether she is a CEO,Minister or even a President and she can’t cook for me, then what is her role as a wife?? a route to a man’s heart is through his stomach! #mainaandkingangi

@athman_melly.. Things a girl should know how to do before she is approved
1. How to milk a cow
2. How to cook (chapoo ikue)
3. How behave like a wife in front of visitors
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@walterodhis1..
asks any Luo and they’ll tell you that the Luo term of getting married is “dhi katedo” which simply going to cook. #MainaAndKingangi
@Isaack_Muthusi..
@ItsMainaKageni
There is only ONE special meal a wife should cook and present in a SPECIAL way to Husband, Other meals can be discussed and understood depending on situations. ..
@Classic105Kenya
Is this a bit too harsh? Drop us your comments below

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Kingang’i interrupted as woman loudly explains how they cheat

 

A woman won the praise of Maina Kageni after explaining to a confused Mwalimu Kingang’i what happens when wives are dumped in the village.

In a clip heard on air, the woman confronts Mwalimu after he said that the village is the best place for a married woman to live as the man hustles in Nairobi.

Before he could continue, the woman blurted out

If there are no jobs in Nairobi, why have you decided I go to the village and leave you behind in Nairobi? To do what if you also don’t have a job?

Are you counting cars? Huna kazi sina kazi umebaki ukufanya nini kuhesabu gari?

Mwalimu tried to offer an explanation for his statement, and said

Mimi nimebaki niangalie hewa ya pesa, you know things are thick, you know one of us has to stay and most likely it’s not you..

but the woman interrupted, explaining that

You stay in Nairobi at your own risk and if you think you are torturing your wife by telling her to stay int he village, wee kaa hapo, who do you think is ploughing me (unafikiri nalimwa na nani Wakunaji ni wengi…..)

You want me to slay with cows in the village? We met in Nairobi and started our life in the city, why do you want to kick me to the village?

You are sick there is no way you are remaining in the city, doing what? And furthermore let me tell you a secret, who do you think is sorting me out? You know those workers you hire? The one who has a six pack and milks the cow and digs the shamba, that is whom is sorting me out ehe, eheh ehe!!! (you figure it out )

Maina Kageni dug in with a similar view to the woman offering this advise to men for free

you stay in Nairobi at your own risk if you have a wife in ushago and think you are stressing her, heeh you stay there…

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Shagz is the best place for married women – men reveal relationship opinions

 

 

A 33-year-old man caused a racas on Classic 105 after stating that wives should be taken to the village, where  they are more valuable to the family.

The man said

we cannot keep moving fom one place to another with our wives, we must leave our wives at home so that they can stabilize our homes,

I’m 33 and she is 28 and she has been in ushago for three years since graduating.

His comments riled Maina who responded

why marry someone like that and two if your education means nothing why go to school and who said it’s your decision to determine where a woman lives?

Mwalimu, who loves to push Maina’s boundaries supported the mans views commenting that

Ladies need to leave their degrees at the door once married

Many men responded to the dumping wife in the villages, with some pretty warped thoughts on women and their role in a marriage
Bronson kip..
why’d she come with me to Nairobi then she becomes a barrier whenever i do what i do that doest need her? She better stay at home doing something constractive

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Dr.Ndegwa..
Siwezi uza ng’ombe 10 kusomesha bibi University alafu nimrudishe mashinani kuchunga ng’ombe 5. A spouse should be a teammate. Build together at one spot. I am
doug onali chanchima..
Morning bibi ni kule mashambani mie in town to struggle for the better life of her

skepticalbabaymeme

Oscar Saina..
maina economic situation in kenya will make bibi akae nyumbani ajenge empire
Dan Patrick..
but mr Maina, can u compare a wife in gishagi making 5k a day with city wife making 30k per month…?? If it develops my family ill go for it.. #MainaAndKingangi

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How long have you been with your man and why hasn’t he married you yet asks Maina

 

On the morning conversation on Classic 105, it was all about how ‘Ladies mumechomewa picha’ by Manu Chandaria.

Mzee formalized his mariage last week after 64 years of being together. They went to the AG’s office, signed a piece of paper and spent 9k and went back home.

Mwalimu questioned why Kenyan women are always in a hurry to marry men.

 hii haraka ni ya nini many Kenyan ladies want to marry so quickly. They take men mbio why the hurry why do they rush us so fast, where is the hurry?

Maina wasn’t convinced with this argument demanding to know how long women should take before asking for commitment.

if you don’t make your man commit, what do they do?

What are you doing with a man for seven years and he is not marrying you, how!! shouted maina

Do you know the kind of life that Manu Chandaria has given that woman? She has lived like a queen for those 64 years!

No no no they started from the bottom argued Mwalimu

Maina opened up debate to listeners on air and those online to contribute.

Ladies how long have you been with a man? A woman should never move into a woman’s house before marriage, you can build chemistry out there.

Ladies why have you been with a man for so long without getting married?

What are you doing in a mans house for five years giving him babies, aieee!!

How long have you been with your man and why hasn’t he married you yet?

A man called in with some deep thoughts

Why are you helping people who can’t help themselves, they bring themselves to us, and then they sit there like a tick. Kenyan women are gold diggers, they stick like ticks they don’t want to move out, they mark their territory and so they can’t be helped. We won’t marry them.

Another man said

I call it the emancipation of the boy child, finally we have a trick as a boy. I don’t have to marry her until I’m 100, I don’t have to sign papers, I am in a long term relationship about six years, and I don’t intend to marry her, let’s build a future together first, there is no hurry

Maina was astounded by his confession and advised his unidentified woman,

‘If your that’s your man, woman you are living a wasted life, sweetheart your are not a wife you are a maid with no options, six years and he has not married you ,what is he waiting for jesus christ to comeback?

If it’s been two years and he’s not talking of a future together, he is wasting your time, If he doesn’t even give you an engagement ring he is wasting your time, if he is living with you and doesn’t marry you he is wasting your time

Male caller

kitu ya kujiuliza ni moja tuu what was the objective of being with this woman? If it was children why waste money marrying her, we don’t just do things with no objectives in mind, like me let me not cheat you, you will never find me in a car written just married. I have better things to do with my money, the definition of money is go to her parents and that story ends there si they know me? This stupidity of marriage is useless, concentrate on life, she is here hearing em and I am not shaken, she is standing here listening to me

Another man’

there is no Kenyan woman who will stand with you from the bottom up,

Another man

I don’t think it makes sense to have a wedding if we are living together already, I am not married at 35 I’m not dating and if that time comes I don’t think it will happen immediately it will come after two or three kids

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Girls, do you expect men to refund money after a breakup Mike Mondo asks

 

Whats happens to property after a divorce or breakup?

This is the challenge facing one Kenyan woman who is demanding that her Masai husband refund everything she bought while they were in a relationship.

The woman called in to Classic 105, listing to Mike Mondo and Mwalimu the items she bought and her demands.

She angrily recounted

Their home they didn’t even have a toilet. He is a Masai guy so I had to build a toilet for the family. I built a mansion for the family but it is only remaining the finishing. I built two more houses that we were living.

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I built a gate of 35k. I bought a probox to be doing transport then we had to sell it coz the driver had some issues. I found a condom in his clothes. I asked him about it and he said maybe it came with the jacket. So I walked away,

I want everything back.

This did not sit well with Mwalimu Kingangi who blasted the woman.

Why do they have to revisit these things ? Why mpaka urudishiwe pesa ya gate, si imeisha why is it so hard to walk away umetenda meme nenda zako.

‘I swept my wife off her feet with 50 bob’ Man proclaims

Those are petty issues. Si imeisha? Pata potea. Wewe ndio ulienda.the funny thing is women dont forget even the little thing you bought for them?

Mike opened up the debate asking : Do you expect men to reimburse you for the things you did for them when you leave?

A male listener differed with her recounting his experience in the hands of a woman who used him

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Ati refund? Never it can’t happen. On this earth tenda mema nenda zako. I have also done for someone something. I bought for her a bag, and she told me I give her money for her hair and after she said ahsante and walked away. I was satisfied and went to my home. The world is like that tenda meme nenda zako.

A female caller said

I have been used by a man. If you live with a man my advice is don’t even give him a shilling. For what? So that you can find him with another woman? Men are mafisi. Kenyan men should not be helped out financially. My fellow ladies, please, please don’t give nay man nay money. Instead open an account and his the money there.

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Is it important for a woman to know how to cook in 2019 asks Maina Kageni

Ever heard a phrase that says, “Don’t marry a beautiful wife but marry a lady who can cook, for beauty fades but hunger does not.”

Maina and Kingangi in today’s morning conversation discussed if it was still important for a wife to know how to cook in 2019.

Maina posed the question: Are ladies still judged by their cooking? Where does she find time in today’s economy to cook?

 

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Maina was of opinion that cooking is a hobby that should be done when one is ready to.

One response from a man was that women MUST know how to cook because,

when we marry these ladies we normally pay a lot of pride price and so when they come we expect them to know how to cook or they rather remain at their parents’ home.’

Another caller said,

If my wife does not cook and leaves the house girl that duty then its up to her because the house girl will be my cook and maybe my food in future. This comment left Maina wondering as to how one gets to live with such a husband.

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In the current generation almost all ladies are employed so like any other person they go out to work in the morning and come late at night and so they won’t get enough time to prepare food because both share expenses.

In other words cooking should also engage two parties both the husband and wife.

A female caller was of opinion that the modern woman should cook for their husbands. She went ahead to say that just as the way the woman finds time to go to the market to buy the cereals and all that she should also find time to cook for the family and if not then she should stay single.

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Some of the comments were;

If a woman does not know how to cook then she should know how to gossips, she has to know one thing.

If your woman does not know how to cook don’t complain you are in a relationship not a restaurant. 

A woman who does not know how to cook is a scam.

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‘My dad told me to prostitute myself and earn some pocket money ‘Cries city woman

During today’s morning conversation on Classic 105, female fans called in to confess what caused a rift between them and their fathers.

The debate was brought about by Mondays topic on why men and women favor their mothers more than their dads.

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‘Every time he beat my mum my heart broke’ YY on abusive dad

The confessions were heart breaking and below are some of them.

“I was about to do my KCSE exam so I went to my dad to ask him for cash to go register for the exams, he blankly told me to go to hell.”

Another says

“My dad was a chaotic, he used to beat my mum senseless. I only learnt how it feels to sleep in a bed when I joined form 1.”

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As if that is not heartbreaking enough, another caller narrates how her dad threw her out with a one month old baby

“My dad took me to college, along the way I messed up and got pregnant. After delivering my baby, I stayed for 2 years without getting a job.

He came back one day feigning anger prepared to throw me out. When I questioned him, he slapped me so hard that I fell on the floor, my baby was only a month old.

Up to now I have not found a job and I am still struggling to pay rent and for that I will never forgive him. I feel if he never threw me out I would have had a chance to look for a job.

He told me to go out there prostitute myself and pay him back all the money he had used for my school fees.

He calls me but I do not receive his call because the pain of what he put me through is still there.”

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