‘I can’t be kept in the shadows for 11 years’ Side chick speaks up

 

Should the ‘other woman’ ever tell the wife that her husband is cheating and possibly has children out there?

“Side chicks” have been investigated, discussed and explained in many formats.

A woman weighed on on the topic and making that unexpected call to his wife.

All women who have been in relationships have either felt, explored, or entertained and seek revenge in one way: and that’s the “phone call” to the wife or girlfriend of the man.

This side chick called in to the Classic 105 show and narrated her experience of being with a married man and how she handled being introduced forcibly to his family.

Here is the scenario she painted to Maina and Mwalimu:

I’ve been with a man for ten years and we’ve been hiding and we have a baby. So this weekend I’ve been telling him to go and say to his people, but he is not doing it and it has happened for long so I decided to tell the wife and his father.

She explains her thought process when making the dreaded call:

I called them, I spoke to the dad and I find it so selfish to commit with someone for all those years and hide them. At least they know I can’t continue being hidden you can’t gamble with life so that if he wants me I continue, the wife has always known I am in the picture so it’s just formal.

The father said he cannot accept me because of religion, so when he found out I had called his father he is quiet, but at least now I am known and also I want to whether I will continue being with him, and I love him. God will lead us, as for now if he doesn’t want us I will leave his life, I want people to know I have been in his life for the last 11 years.

Dear Classic 105 fam, we want to know from you: Is she right for having called the family?

Are this woman’s motivations pure as she relayed more details about the affair?

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Should the ‘other woman’ ever tell a wife her man has another family, Maina asks

If you’re the child of a wealthy man out there and are not known to his family, what are you doing about it?

If you are a lady raising children by another man out there, what are you waiting for? Turning up at his funeral is so yesterday, Maina Kageni began the debate.

A Psychologist shares her thoughts on this topic first.

It’s important for the other man or woman to consider their motives for disclosing the affair, stressed Alicia H. Clark, a psychologist in Washington, D.C. Sometimes, after being spurned or pushed away, affair partners want to strike back or regain power by revealing the relationship. It rarely works in their favor, she said.

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“You may want to speak up to punish your lover for staying with their partner, or seek some level of legitimacy for a relationship that has lived too long in the shadows or dismissed,” she said. “Unfortunately, such disclosures seldom yield such satisfaction and may backfire.”

Maina who was egged on by co host Mwalimu Kingangi shared why he is covering the topic.

I met a colleague of mine yesterday, she is raising teenagers who were fathered by one of the wealthiest men in Kenya. The thing is his family have no idea they exist.

How are you protecting your children? How are you helping yourself, even God says he helps those who help themselves.

Read Maina’ fans thoughts on the topic below

Felix Agola(Mr President)..

Maina a relationship is like an investment and having a secret affair with someone’s man is like throwing capital in someone’s business where you get nothing in return
Carol Kungu..
@ItsMainaKageni @Classic105Kenya The ladies who get babies with men who hide them from the society r to blame themselves they shud ve not agreed to this arrangement in the first place……#MainaAndKingangi
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@Classic105Kenya Maina and Keng’ang’i this women are many so you want us to introduce all of them to my parents so what?If awoman gives birth for me let’s take care of the kids,introduction has no impact on our relationship.Good day

Sylvanus Ndaso..
Men who don’t introduce their wives to their families don’t value them….they don’t love them; they only married them for procreation.
@ItsMainaKageni

Rtd Captain Kale..
@ItsMainaKageni @Classic105Kenya Maina now lemme shock you, our mothers know our mipango ya kando, they know how many kids we have out there,and our mothers will take care of all our kids when we die,tell our women to keep off from our mali, they are strangers #MainaAndKingangi

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Is it normal for your spouse not to EVER meet your parents asks Maina Kageni

 

Even if you’d like to, you can’t avoid them forever. If you’re lucky, you only have to see them once in a blue moon. If you’re not so lucky, you find yourself needing to engage them a few times a year.

This formed the basis of the morning conversation on Classic 105, where Maina Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi argued out their points of view.

Ladies why do you live with men, have their babies and they have never seen your parents
How do your parents know where to reach you?

You cannot live with someones daughter and you’ve never met them,

if you’re a lady in one of those arrangement do you ever ask your self what your mother thinks?

His co host Mwalimu Kingangi whispered Maina let me tell you something this a very sensitive topic, out of respect there are lives you need to create.

Not all the times some times you cannot encourage you go every weekend, si umeppewa?

Hao wengine ni wezi, we are talking about those wamepewa na they have takena while, sio kila othe weekend unaenda huko,

Here are comments from listeners, contributing their personal experiences and opinions on the topic.

@kale_vincent..
There’s a reason as to why you’re called Mrs Kale, not the other way round,it simply means you belong to my family now, my parents are your parents. Your family members shouldn’t step in my house the way they want, only mine can

@abillalily.
I know of my neighbour who at his wifes death, and these traditions of ours could not bury his wife because he had never even taken a spoon to his wifes home. that man never appreciated the wifes family.
@pieremutongah27..
I miss those days when our parents organised and planned marriages for us. Hizi tunapanga sisi wenyewe hazipangiki…
@moniqueKimm..
@ItsMainaKageni Women should know that if you haven’t seen your in laws then just know you’re not a wife full stop!! @Classic105Kenya #MainaAndKingangi

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Here’s something you didn’t know about your husband disappearing on weekends

Tonight is the final of AFCON 2019, and he will disappear.

If your mans phone is switched off every weekend, here’s what you need to know, according to Maina Kageni.

‘Ni njama’ he shouted to girls.

What prompted this revelation that may prove embarrassing to Kenyan husbands?

He is fed up of women giving their men second, third, and even fourth chances when they make mistakes.

‘I am so mad at him’ friend speaks at burial of massacred Thome family

Girls, if you have ever been called by a cop on Sunday to go ‘pick up’ your manz, who was ‘arrested’, then hubby is up to no good.

Ladies have you ever given a man a second third, fourth chance and he just doesn’t get it. Do we understand the value of a second chance do we understand the value of forgiveness.

Do men get it? This is the weekend he will disappear and reappear on Sunday/Monday with the same excuse.

This is the secret men use: they’ve got someone at a police station, coz they will switch off their phone and that cop will call you on Sunday to tell you come for your man and you will go and he will come out with one shoe, that’s what a lot of men do.

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Ladies, Is it true there is always that one guy you will never get over Maina asks

It is highly likely your girl still holds a torch for her ex.

Maina Kageni on the morning show tackled this topic saying

I was being told yesterday that every woman has that one guy who still has access to your girl. If he calls she drops what she is doing.

I don’t know how one person can have so much control over your life. That person who disappeared from your life and then they returned.

This was based on the personal account of one woman who confessed her secret to Maina on air.

She said

I m divorced because of my ex boyfriend. I was married to another man then my ex got back into my life. Actually I got into marriage still loving my ex, and to date I still love him. He is married and once in a while he comes over for some good time.

 

Maina Kageni seemed to be enjoying this topic that he posed another question

Every woman has that guy who for life is gonna enjoy access to all areas.

Who is that man in your life and doesn’t it mess up your life?

There is something they get from that guy that they don’t get from you. She will never get over no matter what happens.

 

A woman also called in contributing her personal story to the debate

Aki my boyfriend does. I can’t get over him, we broke up five years ago and he went and got married, I am not married and anytime he calls me, I tremble when he calls me I stop what I’m doing, aki I go crazy over him, I go crazy thinking over him if he wants me he gets me, I will do anything for him even if he does me wrong.

Does that make sense to you Maina Kageni enquired.

Eve men were not spared this experience like this man who describes the humiliation by his wife

This happened to me a month ago. My wife agreed with her ex (a cop) that they meet in Eldoret on Wednesday. So my wife told me she will be going to a party with friends and will come home late. I told her it’s okay,  so she went, they met and came back early in the morning. Then I got suspicious and is saw how they met and forwarded messages to my phone. Later I waited for her to leave job then I showed her the phone. She walked out Maina, then a friend told me pole, we we are done she left me and the children

He continued his sad story

Maina you see these thing of giving freedom to women that is how marriages go bad it was a shock to me…we have three kids even the parents after hearing they were unable to talk, they can’t even talk to me.

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‘Why’? Maina Kageni whispers to Esther Arunga admitting to lying to protect husband

 
Former KTN TV presenter Esther Arunga admitted to misleading Australian police about her son’s death.
She told a court that she had gone to the bathroom on the night of June 17, 2014, only to come out and find Quincy hitting Sinclair in the stomach.
She said, her pastor, co-founder of Finger of God kept saying

THERE’S A DEVIL IN SINCLAIR’S STOMACH, I HAVE TO GET IT OUT.

The 38-year-old lawyer had lied to paramedics that Sinclair had fallen down the stairs.

Arunga is set to be sentenced on Thursday.

Esther Arunga admits to lying to cops about sons death to protect husband

Maina Kageni weighed in on the topic, asking women why they lie to protect their men.

I admire the loyalty aspect 100 per cent, but look at her she is facing sentencing for lying for her man, a forko jembe man, me if that happens I don’t know what I will do.

ARUNGAANDSON
Esther Arunga and son Sinclair

Is this love or stupidity? Maina posed the question.

In this case where a man in your life kills your child and you lie for your man, how?

Girls, have you ever lied to cover up for your man?

And they are never good for you. Why do you defend them, Maina asked.

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Morning Conversation: Kenyans have this habit of giving unsolicited advice

 
Kenyans are known to give unsolitcited advice on social media and in real life.
You receive a barrage of advice that leaves you feeling worse than before, because maybe you’ve already exhausted all those options, maybe you can’t afford those suggestions, maybe the prompts are inappropriate for your situation.

The tricky thing about unsolicited advice: as the giver it may feel helpful, but it’s rarely what the person suffering needs. In the end everyone feels worse for wear.

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This formed the basis for the mornign conversation on Classic 105 with Mike Mondo and Mwalimu Kingangi.

Mwalimu sought to know from Kenyans:
Why do Kenyans like poking their noses where they don’t belong in other peoples afairs. You know wazungus they mind their own business. Case example Bob Collymore, you know it has taken less than 72 hours because that was his wish.

Mike also asked: Why are we like that? We have a habit of poking our noses in things that don’t involve us, why are we this way?

One caller said
Us like Africans we are, we are used to certain things, and it wont stop. You see like how people have been left out of Bob Collymores fuenral plans etc, we must comment about it. We are used to eating property left behind by the late we dont go to their homes to mourn. We just want to see what wealth they have.

Another said
If there’s one thing I’ve learnt fom us losing Bob is that for you to be sucessful you don’t need to have a thousand or a million friends, you just need to have a small circle of those who believe in you. All those scenarios we are sseeing people talking about is that ill feeling that this guy made it against all odds. And that’s common for hman beings, someone wants to come to your funeraal not to eulogize but to see how you lived life. The guy had a simple life but he was one of the most peowerful CEO’s in East and Central Africa. Life is all about a few friends, being humble and bleiving in God. That’s it, you just need a few good friends.
Another caller added
You know we live in an egocentric world with people livign to rip you of the little you have. Like I was going through the last interview Jeff did the Vcollymore. He acknowledged it is very expensive for funeral, but we wnt to give the late beffiting burial. It is not impirtant anymore it is jus tour ego, we just need to accept people personal view of how they want to be treate donce they are dead.

Another added:
We just like being there, tunakuwa tuu, its very common to see some of us feeling important.

What do you think? Are we there to help in situations?