‘My husband washes me, plus my soiled knickers’ wife reveals

When you walk down the aisle, you take a vow to stick together through thick and thin.

It’s something we say but don’t really ponder for long because our wedding day is supposed to be happy, right?  So, what does it really look like to live out this vow?

That is exactly what one Kenyan man is doing, to the outrage of many.

He told Maina Kageni on Monday that he even washes her inner wear, especially when she wakes up late in a rush to scrub her panties. He says when he finds them when he get home before her, he will wash them for her, and put them outside to air. because she forgot to wash her panties, he helps her washing it. She cleans my boxers so why not?

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In another scenario, a female caller shocked listeners on Wednesday with her tale of what her husband does for her that is so romantic.

She narrated

I have a man. He washes my panties, I don’t tell him to do it, he just wakes up washes his and mine, and when I’m cleaning the house he also helps. I hate ironing clothes, so he does so and even for our daughters, he doesn’t complain.

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Cleaning floor using rag

Even when I’m sitting down at home, he cleans, this is a man I really appreciate I don’t have to tell him to do stuff. He also washes my panties, you know at times ladies soil their panties but he washes them. It’s not a matter of being controlled, there are men out there who are good, even when I’m sick he washes me, he takes a basin puts hot water, scrubs me and will serve me any food in bed.

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‘I wash my wife’s underwear’ husband of seven years admits

 

Today let’s talk about something many Africans consider taboo – men washing women’s underwear.

Fellas, would you wash your wife’s inner wear and do it religiously without complaining?

A man on Classic 105, described how his wife is a working women who is overworked and exhausted.

He has taken it upon himself to do the bulk of house chores and childcare.

I work and my wife works as well, we’ve been married for seven years, and sometimes our schedules are different.

While the majority of men choose to sit back and relax after work hours at home, he says

So what happens is if I’m leaving later than her or not going to work at all, I do the housework, like laundry. I look after the kids, even change diapers, I do everything, all the house chores, we don’t hire nannys.

Cleaning floor using rag
Cleaning floor using rag

He is so thoughtful about equality in his home that he washes her underwear.

I even clean her inner wear, and even when she wakes up late and I find she had soaked her inner wear in a bucket and forgot to scrub them, I will take them outside to the line and put them, I even iron.

Fellas, would you ever? Leave us your confessions of the sweet things you do for  your wife to make things much easier at home.

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Is there a problem with parenting today asks Maina Kageni

“Male teens need a dad to be the anchor that stabilizes their youth as they are pulled in every direction.” was the resounding theme on Classic 105, as hosts Maina Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi debated the topic of absentee dads.

This follows a third video shared online of a Kenyan boy spilling all sorts of vitriol. No, we will not share the clip here, search for it online using the hashtag #consolata.

The idea that there may be a parenting issue in Kenya was discussed on Classic 105.

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Mwalimu sought to know from listeners, who the father figure is, in households where single mums are raising male teens.

He also gave his take saying

‘They were chased away by the women, and alot of men want to come back in their lives but the doors are ‘locked’.

 

He added

most men were chased away and are not allow to see their children

Mwalimu went on to suggest that women are sacrificing their families for careers, something that Maina quickly responded to

so should ladies sacrifice more? Where are the fathers of these children? You know your boy is 11 or 12 and doesn’t it worry you that he is growing up without a mentor?

Where are you guys, why are you blaming single mothers, where are the fathers to these boys?

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Mwalimu noted that the best way to resolve teen problems is

They (fathers) need to be recalled, you know that’s a very critical age for boys between 11- 16 years

Where do you think the problem lies? Drop your comments below.

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‘My husband forbids me from visiting him in the city’ Kiambu wife confesses 

 

What is the point of getting married if you will not live with your wife, was the question Maina Kageni posed to his listeners after a woman confessed how her husband left her with his mother, with a silly excuse.

The husband thought it was a good idea to dump his wife in ushago (upcountry) with his mother and sadly is causing untold stress to his wife.

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She narrated to Maina Kageni

I’m a victim. I’m liviing with the mother int he same house and it’s been six years now.

He said that things are not doing good in Nairobi and he took me to his mothers house but he is living in Nairobi himself.

I’m with the mother in Kaimbu, but hatuwezi kaa wawili, there is pressure, nimejaribu kumpush anirudishe Nairobi akasema hapana.

It’s so hard here I’m like the maid, I do everything in the house for his mother, it’s not easy.

I have two children, I see myself living here forever, coz I have tried pushing him to remove me from here but he resists.

He doesn’t visit me often. The last time he visited was 2017 December, I went once to Nairobi and he chased me away saying Nairobi is not for someone like me

Can y’all see how she is being played by her husband?

Have you tried living with your in-laws? How did you make it work, or didn’t it work?

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I forgave my wife for cheating because.. I’m ALSO GUILTY

 

When is it advisable to come clean about adultery and when is it better to keep things hush hush?

A man beat a hasty retreat after initiating a probe on his cheating wife.

He began narrating his discovery

what surprises me most is that our women are so discreet in what they do

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Does this statement come from personally experiencing something? He responds firmly, without hesitation.

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I just found out, I bumped into it. It was just a coincidence, of course I asked who is this and you see the mos intriguing part of it is that even if you ask her best friend, she will never admit it too.

He has a theory why women cheat more than men, something Maina Kageni dismissed as completely macho.

women are the masters, at the same time they are also masters of suspicion they suspect their men because they are guilty

 

while he was quizzing his wife about the affair, did he bother to find out how long she had been cheating?

well I didn’t get to find out how long it was we just has to sit down and sort it out

Perhaps by now you are wondering how a husband can get past cheating. He explains how they sorted it out

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I gave her an option because after all I felt it was unfair just to tell her to go home and I also had a mpango wa kando at the same time.

So Hol’ up, he forgave his cheating wife because he was also cheating? will wonders never cease….

yes….. he responded and hang up his phone.

 

Dear Classic 105 fam, do you have some major tea to drop? We are listening.

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My wife eyes me like the Tom Mboya statue after checking my phone

 

The conversation on Classic 105 was about women going through their mens phones.

This topic was based on evidence Mary Kaitany produced in court in the divorce proceeding against husband Linturi.

Kitanys testimony included a revelation that she found illicit content on her husbands phone. She told a packed courtoom

“Initially it was cheating and just like other women, I would sneak into his phone. I became suspicious of his moves because he would come home later, didn’t want to give me my conjugal rights and he would be quarrelling,” Kitany said.

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Woman on phone

Classic host Maina Kageni was rather shocked by how messy the divorce case appeared.

Is there a Kenyan man without nudes on his phone? Is there a Kenyan man whose hone you wont go through and get upset? Why do you entertain those things, so why don’t you see them and delete them?

Is there a Kenyan mans phone you can go through and not find anything incriminating? If Kenyan men were to be divorced based on contents on their phone would anyone be left married?

Ladies why do you go to his phone?how do you get his pin number and what are the logistics to get it?

A man called in with his hilarious story of how his wife got hold of his PIN number to access the contents of the phone.

when you are happy in your marriage and are at home, they will try and sneak through your phone me I had a problem with my wife one day, I think they have eyes like a chameleone, one looks infront the other on the side, you see when your opening your phone when she’s next to you she is facing forward you are facing down and she has already crammed the PIN no matter how long it is.

The worst thing is you will never know when she has read your messages you have it in the evening you go sleep at the same time but when you wake up she is so mad at you. She is looking at you like that statue along Tom Mboya street.

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One day she told me something and what I heard was from the context of a text message on my phone. Unfortunately I had not even opened that text so I asked her kwani these days I live with a witch, coz I didn’t hear you come out of bed, not even a sense of movement,

So what did his wife see: a text or whatsapp message?

I work at a high comission so we have these groups so somebody had said and I like the way this guy is tall coll and hardworking you know it was just a compliemnt but to her it intepreted different.

In my phone I assure you there are no nudes.

Dear classic 105 fam, do you believe him or nah? Also drop your thoughts on womens habit of snooping in a mans phone.

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I’m 35 and tired of my husband, he can get a second wife – city mum shouts

The discussion this week on Classic 105 has been about accepting the reality that is second wives.

Most contributors confessed that they are either second wives, or are thinking about it seriously.

Take this unnamed woman who was unable to convince Maina that second wives bring stability in marriages. Her story is made for movies.

‘I met our husband when he was 33 years and was already married, he didn’t have anything (broke), me coming to the picture we have opened a business together. I have made his life better, this wife she was just sitting pretty I have made sure she is part of the company. Am I really bad, ameleta ID hata hajui she is a director of this company. It’s a  high time people knew second wives are not that bad.

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This prompted another woman to narrate how she is tired of her husband and is ready to welcome a second wife.

 I think sometimes sharing is caring. I have personally asked him to get another wife. It’s important msaidiane (help each other), sometimes it’s the man who you feel you don’t understand, so saa zingine maybe he needs to get another wife, a sample so we see whether he is the problem or it’s me, to see if he will improve or appreciate the first wife better.

Can you possibly wrap your head around this fact? She adds

I’ve been married for about ten years and we have children hatusumbuani, we are each looking for money, and the small quarrels, so I want him to relieve me of stress and take it elsewhere.

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Relationships are overwhelming, and he should kindly inform me if they also have kids, respect me, all I need is respect if we have to share akiskia aende naye kabisa ( if they want they can go and stay together I don’t care), me I don’t care, you can’t force emotions of someone, so if he feels he wants someone else let him go, for me I don’t think it’s worth fighting for a man,

I’m only 35, I don’t mind him getting another one, and I am okay with this all I need is him to be open and tell me

Crazy right? Like I can’t even begin to fathom this entire story.

Dear Classic 105 fam, have you ever heard such madness? Drop us your comments about your experience, serve some tea people!

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Man MOANS about ‘deadbeat’ ex for not taking care of their child

In an angry tirade, a single dad overwhelmed by bringing up his child alone, complained about the mother of his child being a deadbeat.

He said she has refused to be involved in the child’s life, and moaned to Maina Kageni what his experience has been.

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On Friday, the on air discussion was about deadbeat’s and men responding to the accusations.

A Male caller traumatized Maina when he recounted his horrific experience with a pregnant college student

I had an affair with a lady in College who was pregnant for me. When she was due I am jobless and because she was jobless I told her I would take complete care of our baby.

Can you guess what happened next?

She left for school after deliverying. I thought maybe she needs to study, so once a month she would come back to see the child.

Basically he is very salty about his situation

I used to wash the nappies, buy food. Maina let me tell you at 19 months they came back for the child, Maina do you know that she went to the Childrens court who allowed her to take the child. The worst thing ni amechukuwa ule mtoto not to be with the child but to take to ushago, now the baby is two years, and I have only seen the child once, she abuses me on SMS, and I decided it’s not worth going crazy because of being abused,

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Finishing his tirade he said

I stopped going, I decided never to go back, maybe I will heal if I think I don’t have a child anymore, let me tell you one thing about women, they are good at talking, not like men, some of us men are suffering

Dear Classic 105 fam, is this man the epitome of ‘made your bed, lie on it’?

Drop your comments below.

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‘I can’t be kept in the shadows for 11 years’ Side chick speaks up

 

Should the ‘other woman’ ever tell the wife that her husband is cheating and possibly has children out there?

“Side chicks” have been investigated, discussed and explained in many formats.

A woman weighed on on the topic and making that unexpected call to his wife.

All women who have been in relationships have either felt, explored, or entertained and seek revenge in one way: and that’s the “phone call” to the wife or girlfriend of the man.

This side chick called in to the Classic 105 show and narrated her experience of being with a married man and how she handled being introduced forcibly to his family.

Here is the scenario she painted to Maina and Mwalimu:

I’ve been with a man for ten years and we’ve been hiding and we have a baby. So this weekend I’ve been telling him to go and say to his people, but he is not doing it and it has happened for long so I decided to tell the wife and his father.

She explains her thought process when making the dreaded call:

I called them, I spoke to the dad and I find it so selfish to commit with someone for all those years and hide them. At least they know I can’t continue being hidden you can’t gamble with life so that if he wants me I continue, the wife has always known I am in the picture so it’s just formal.

The father said he cannot accept me because of religion, so when he found out I had called his father he is quiet, but at least now I am known and also I want to whether I will continue being with him, and I love him. God will lead us, as for now if he doesn’t want us I will leave his life, I want people to know I have been in his life for the last 11 years.

Dear Classic 105 fam, we want to know from you: Is she right for having called the family?

Are this woman’s motivations pure as she relayed more details about the affair?

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Should the ‘other woman’ ever tell a wife her man has another family, Maina asks

If you’re the child of a wealthy man out there and are not known to his family, what are you doing about it?

If you are a lady raising children by another man out there, what are you waiting for? Turning up at his funeral is so yesterday, Maina Kageni began the debate.

A Psychologist shares her thoughts on this topic first.

It’s important for the other man or woman to consider their motives for disclosing the affair, stressed Alicia H. Clark, a psychologist in Washington, D.C. Sometimes, after being spurned or pushed away, affair partners want to strike back or regain power by revealing the relationship. It rarely works in their favor, she said.

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“You may want to speak up to punish your lover for staying with their partner, or seek some level of legitimacy for a relationship that has lived too long in the shadows or dismissed,” she said. “Unfortunately, such disclosures seldom yield such satisfaction and may backfire.”

Maina who was egged on by co host Mwalimu Kingangi shared why he is covering the topic.

I met a colleague of mine yesterday, she is raising teenagers who were fathered by one of the wealthiest men in Kenya. The thing is his family have no idea they exist.

How are you protecting your children? How are you helping yourself, even God says he helps those who help themselves.

Read Maina’ fans thoughts on the topic below

Felix Agola(Mr President)..

Maina a relationship is like an investment and having a secret affair with someone’s man is like throwing capital in someone’s business where you get nothing in return
Carol Kungu..
@ItsMainaKageni @Classic105Kenya The ladies who get babies with men who hide them from the society r to blame themselves they shud ve not agreed to this arrangement in the first place……#MainaAndKingangi
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@Classic105Kenya Maina and Keng’ang’i this women are many so you want us to introduce all of them to my parents so what?If awoman gives birth for me let’s take care of the kids,introduction has no impact on our relationship.Good day

Sylvanus Ndaso..
Men who don’t introduce their wives to their families don’t value them….they don’t love them; they only married them for procreation.
@ItsMainaKageni

Rtd Captain Kale..
@ItsMainaKageni @Classic105Kenya Maina now lemme shock you, our mothers know our mipango ya kando, they know how many kids we have out there,and our mothers will take care of all our kids when we die,tell our women to keep off from our mali, they are strangers #MainaAndKingangi

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Is it normal for your spouse not to EVER meet your parents asks Maina Kageni

 

Even if you’d like to, you can’t avoid them forever. If you’re lucky, you only have to see them once in a blue moon. If you’re not so lucky, you find yourself needing to engage them a few times a year.

This formed the basis of the morning conversation on Classic 105, where Maina Kageni and Mwalimu Kingangi argued out their points of view.

Ladies why do you live with men, have their babies and they have never seen your parents
How do your parents know where to reach you?

You cannot live with someones daughter and you’ve never met them,

if you’re a lady in one of those arrangement do you ever ask your self what your mother thinks?

His co host Mwalimu Kingangi whispered Maina let me tell you something this a very sensitive topic, out of respect there are lives you need to create.

Not all the times some times you cannot encourage you go every weekend, si umeppewa?

Hao wengine ni wezi, we are talking about those wamepewa na they have takena while, sio kila othe weekend unaenda huko,

Here are comments from listeners, contributing their personal experiences and opinions on the topic.

@kale_vincent..
There’s a reason as to why you’re called Mrs Kale, not the other way round,it simply means you belong to my family now, my parents are your parents. Your family members shouldn’t step in my house the way they want, only mine can

@abillalily.
I know of my neighbour who at his wifes death, and these traditions of ours could not bury his wife because he had never even taken a spoon to his wifes home. that man never appreciated the wifes family.
@pieremutongah27..
I miss those days when our parents organised and planned marriages for us. Hizi tunapanga sisi wenyewe hazipangiki…
@moniqueKimm..
@ItsMainaKageni Women should know that if you haven’t seen your in laws then just know you’re not a wife full stop!! @Classic105Kenya #MainaAndKingangi

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Here’s something you didn’t know about your husband disappearing on weekends

Tonight is the final of AFCON 2019, and he will disappear.

If your mans phone is switched off every weekend, here’s what you need to know, according to Maina Kageni.

‘Ni njama’ he shouted to girls.

What prompted this revelation that may prove embarrassing to Kenyan husbands?

He is fed up of women giving their men second, third, and even fourth chances when they make mistakes.

‘I am so mad at him’ friend speaks at burial of massacred Thome family

Girls, if you have ever been called by a cop on Sunday to go ‘pick up’ your manz, who was ‘arrested’, then hubby is up to no good.

Ladies have you ever given a man a second third, fourth chance and he just doesn’t get it. Do we understand the value of a second chance do we understand the value of forgiveness.

Do men get it? This is the weekend he will disappear and reappear on Sunday/Monday with the same excuse.

This is the secret men use: they’ve got someone at a police station, coz they will switch off their phone and that cop will call you on Sunday to tell you come for your man and you will go and he will come out with one shoe, that’s what a lot of men do.

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Ladies, Is it true there is always that one guy you will never get over Maina asks

It is highly likely your girl still holds a torch for her ex.

Maina Kageni on the morning show tackled this topic saying

I was being told yesterday that every woman has that one guy who still has access to your girl. If he calls she drops what she is doing.

I don’t know how one person can have so much control over your life. That person who disappeared from your life and then they returned.

This was based on the personal account of one woman who confessed her secret to Maina on air.

She said

I m divorced because of my ex boyfriend. I was married to another man then my ex got back into my life. Actually I got into marriage still loving my ex, and to date I still love him. He is married and once in a while he comes over for some good time.

 

Maina Kageni seemed to be enjoying this topic that he posed another question

Every woman has that guy who for life is gonna enjoy access to all areas.

Who is that man in your life and doesn’t it mess up your life?

There is something they get from that guy that they don’t get from you. She will never get over no matter what happens.

 

A woman also called in contributing her personal story to the debate

Aki my boyfriend does. I can’t get over him, we broke up five years ago and he went and got married, I am not married and anytime he calls me, I tremble when he calls me I stop what I’m doing, aki I go crazy over him, I go crazy thinking over him if he wants me he gets me, I will do anything for him even if he does me wrong.

Does that make sense to you Maina Kageni enquired.

Eve men were not spared this experience like this man who describes the humiliation by his wife

This happened to me a month ago. My wife agreed with her ex (a cop) that they meet in Eldoret on Wednesday. So my wife told me she will be going to a party with friends and will come home late. I told her it’s okay,  so she went, they met and came back early in the morning. Then I got suspicious and is saw how they met and forwarded messages to my phone. Later I waited for her to leave job then I showed her the phone. She walked out Maina, then a friend told me pole, we we are done she left me and the children

He continued his sad story

Maina you see these thing of giving freedom to women that is how marriages go bad it was a shock to me…we have three kids even the parents after hearing they were unable to talk, they can’t even talk to me.

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‘Why’? Maina Kageni whispers to Esther Arunga admitting to lying to protect husband

 
Former KTN TV presenter Esther Arunga admitted to misleading Australian police about her son’s death.
She told a court that she had gone to the bathroom on the night of June 17, 2014, only to come out and find Quincy hitting Sinclair in the stomach.
She said, her pastor, co-founder of Finger of God kept saying

THERE’S A DEVIL IN SINCLAIR’S STOMACH, I HAVE TO GET IT OUT.

The 38-year-old lawyer had lied to paramedics that Sinclair had fallen down the stairs.

Arunga is set to be sentenced on Thursday.

Esther Arunga admits to lying to cops about sons death to protect husband

Maina Kageni weighed in on the topic, asking women why they lie to protect their men.

I admire the loyalty aspect 100 per cent, but look at her she is facing sentencing for lying for her man, a forko jembe man, me if that happens I don’t know what I will do.

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Esther Arunga and son Sinclair

Is this love or stupidity? Maina posed the question.

In this case where a man in your life kills your child and you lie for your man, how?

Girls, have you ever lied to cover up for your man?

And they are never good for you. Why do you defend them, Maina asked.

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Morning Conversation: Kenyans have this habit of giving unsolicited advice

 
Kenyans are known to give unsolitcited advice on social media and in real life.
You receive a barrage of advice that leaves you feeling worse than before, because maybe you’ve already exhausted all those options, maybe you can’t afford those suggestions, maybe the prompts are inappropriate for your situation.

The tricky thing about unsolicited advice: as the giver it may feel helpful, but it’s rarely what the person suffering needs. In the end everyone feels worse for wear.

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This formed the basis for the mornign conversation on Classic 105 with Mike Mondo and Mwalimu Kingangi.

Mwalimu sought to know from Kenyans:
Why do Kenyans like poking their noses where they don’t belong in other peoples afairs. You know wazungus they mind their own business. Case example Bob Collymore, you know it has taken less than 72 hours because that was his wish.

Mike also asked: Why are we like that? We have a habit of poking our noses in things that don’t involve us, why are we this way?

One caller said
Us like Africans we are, we are used to certain things, and it wont stop. You see like how people have been left out of Bob Collymores fuenral plans etc, we must comment about it. We are used to eating property left behind by the late we dont go to their homes to mourn. We just want to see what wealth they have.

Another said
If there’s one thing I’ve learnt fom us losing Bob is that for you to be sucessful you don’t need to have a thousand or a million friends, you just need to have a small circle of those who believe in you. All those scenarios we are sseeing people talking about is that ill feeling that this guy made it against all odds. And that’s common for hman beings, someone wants to come to your funeraal not to eulogize but to see how you lived life. The guy had a simple life but he was one of the most peowerful CEO’s in East and Central Africa. Life is all about a few friends, being humble and bleiving in God. That’s it, you just need a few good friends.
Another caller added
You know we live in an egocentric world with people livign to rip you of the little you have. Like I was going through the last interview Jeff did the Vcollymore. He acknowledged it is very expensive for funeral, but we wnt to give the late beffiting burial. It is not impirtant anymore it is jus tour ego, we just need to accept people personal view of how they want to be treate donce they are dead.

Another added:
We just like being there, tunakuwa tuu, its very common to see some of us feeling important.

What do you think? Are we there to help in situations?