This is how mobile phones and tablets are hurting your kids

Ask anyone about the benefits of technology and it probably won’t take them long to rhyme off a list of examples: it helps broaden your knowledge, connect with friends, both new and old, and allows you to see things you’ve never seen before. But what about the drawbacks? Here’s a major one: increased screen time is hard on your eyes.

In fact, more and more young people are wearing glasses to correct their nearsightedness. This trend has prompted optical health experts to determine if the use of electronic devices such as computers, tablets and smart phones is leading to a deterioration in sight that is reaching epidemic proportions.

Let’s take the example of Pauline — although she could just as easily be a David or a Jason. She is 10 years old and a studious child, doing well in school. Like any young person her age, she loves to use her tablet computer to study or have fun. She’s on it two hours a day, plus weekends.

Pauline may be in for a change, however. She has recently been diagnosed with nearsightedness and her optometrist has strongly recommended that she — and her parents — limit her use of electronic devices and spend more time playing outside.

Pauline isn’t happy. She thinks it’s not fair.

But her case raises the question: what is the link between the use of electronic devices and the appearance of myopia?

Forty per cent of North Americans are affected by myopia. The number of cases doubled between 1972 and 2004 and continues to grow at a rate that qualifies the phenomenon as an epidemic.

In Europe, myopia is prevalent among 42.2 per cent of adults aged 25 to 29 years, almost twice that of adults aged 55 to 59 years.

This suggests there is a real public health issue facing us — and not just the common problem of an error in the refraction of the eye which shows up as blurred vision when looking into the distance.

In fact, high amounts of myopia significantly increases the risk of major ocular health disorders such as retinal tearing (21 times greater), glaucoma (40 times) or cataracts (six times).

An eye that becomes short-sighted becomes longer. The stretching is proportional to the increase in myopia. The more the eye stretches, the more the retina, which lines the inside of the eye, becomes thinner. Symptoms such as cracks, abnormal development of subretinal blood vessels and bleeding may appear.

Ultimately, the very nearsighted patient has a more than 50 per cent risk of spending the rest of his or her life legally blind — in other words living with vision reduced by 60 per cent. This means that the length of their eye exceeds 28 mm (the normal length is 23 mm) or that the myopia levels exceeds six diopters. (Diopters is a unit of measurement used to calculate eyesight — the further away from zero indicates a worsening in vision.) It is important to intervene before this happens to avoid these levels.

(In Canada, legal blindness is defined by a visual acuity of less than 20/200 in the best eye with the help of glasses or contact lenses. A legally blind person therefore sees, at best, 20 times worse than a person with normal acuity.)

There are many causes of onset myopia. Genetics plays an important role but epigenetics — the environment in which the child evolves — is a more important factor.

And what has changed in our environment to explain the recent myopia epidemic? The impact of technology, which has seen a boom in recent years, is being closely examined.

For example, a rapid increase in visual problems has been noted since the introduction of the smartphone in 2007. While the device itself does not emit harmful radiation, it requires the user to read its screen at a distance of 20 cm rather than the normal distance of 45 cm to 50 cm. It has been suggested that this close distance boosts the risk of developing myopia by eight times, especially if both parents are myopic.

Ambient lighting also plays a role because the use of fluorescents, such as in classrooms, also promotes myopia. When a tablet is used in such an environment, the effect is multiplied tenfold.

Unlike books printed on paper, tablet and computer screens are optically associated with so-called chromatic aberrations. The shortest wavelengths (blue light) are perceived in front of the others by the eye, which generates a myopia stimulus. There is a dose and response effect here, suggesting that prolonged use leads to more negative effects.

Today’s young people don’t play outside as much as their predecessors and are heavy users of electronics. However, exposure to daylight has a protective effect against myopia. These beneficial effects are decreased, but not negligible, during less sunny months or when myopia is already present.

The purpose of myopia treatment is to reduce the rate of progression of the dioptric, but above all to slow down the elongation of the eye. If, obviously, we cannot play with genetics, it is imperative to influence epigenetics and therefore the environment in which the child evolves.

Therefore, using any electronic media before the age of two should be avoided, even if it’s only for a few minutes. A limit of one hour per day should be the rule for those between two and five years of age and the emphasis should be put on educational sites or applications that promote interactions between the parent and child.

While school requests should be taken into consideration, the use of electronic media should continue to be limited as the child gets older. A maximum of one hour, besides school work, must be observed for good eye health. A two-minute break after every 30 minutes of device use will also lessen harmful effects and exposure to a device should be avoided at least one hour before sleep.

Children should also get a minimum of 45 minutes of daylight per day. They can get this by walking to school or participating in such activities as regular outdoor sports.

The next step is to ensure the co-ordination of both eyes, from far away but especially close up. An optometrist will need to perform an orthopic check-up and correct, by exercise or optical means, any anomaly that may have been detected.

Finally, optical correction must be chosen with the goal of slowing down the progression. In rare cases, glasses with anti-myopia lenses may be prescribed. They provide a deceleration rate of about 30 per cent . Specialized contact lenses are often preferred and offer control ranging from 50 per cent to 80 per cent. The contact lens treatment is available from the age of seven, and will be periodically reassessed according to the child’s changing needs.

In short, myopia is not just a commonplace vision defect. It is a significant risk factor for serious eye disease. We must therefore do everything possible to slow its progress and protect our children’s vision — and that means also reviewing their relationship with electronic devices.

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Grandparents heartbreaking stories on being blocked from seeing their grandchildren

Grandparents are less considered when divorce between their children occur yet they are also victims whose pain is never talked about openly.

In some instances, divorce is inevitable especially in situations where physical abuse, sexual abuse, neglect and infidelity is involved but the society never thinks of what happens to the victims of the divorced couple.Margaret Atwood once said “Divorce is like an amputation, you survive but there is less of you.”

Grandparents are an integral part of children’s lives and when divorce happens they are also affected since they are separated from the kids as well thus  creating an emotional dent

Speaking exclusively to FEMAIL, two families have shared their stories about what it’s like to have a relationship with a grandchild ‘switched off’ when a partnership turns sour.

Says Jenny: ‘My son and his wife split up when my grandchild was three. They went to court and everything was fine for ten years.

He had an order and would see her at weekends. Suddenly, she couldn’t come to see her father anymore, we were told she was “busy” and then she was bought a puppy and we were told she “couldn’t leave the puppy”

‘For two years, there’s been no contact. She’s nearly 15 now and she was nearly 13 when we last saw her. We’ve been back to court to try and gain access but the judge said she’s old enough to make her own decisions on whether she wants to see us.

‘We understand that she’s growing up and things would change but we send cards, we send presents, we send money and we don’t get anything back. There’s no contact at all.’

I’ve lost her. It’s so sad; we all get together and have a wonderful time. I take them all to dinner and she’s missing…
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Great grandmother Edna, 93, reveals the impact not seeing the now teenager has had on her.

‘When we get all the children together at parties and it’s so hard. I’ve lost her. It’s so sad, we all get together and have a wonderful time.

‘I take them all to dinner and she’s missing. All my great grandchildren… and she’s not there.

‘At my age now, I want to see her. I see my grandson suffer. When he’s at these parties, he plays with the children but seeing him without his daughter…I go home and cry my eyes out.’

Adds Jenny. ‘We’ve always followed the rules. My son goes on, he’s okay but he’s very, very sad. He’s admitted to me that when he’s on his way to family get-togethers, he cries in the car. He puts on a brave face, but he has only one child and they were so close.’

She concludes: ‘The only way to try and get back in contact would be to go to the courts again and that means going through a solicitor, which costs thousands and thousands. If you’re rich, you’re fine but we can’t afford it.’

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When a relationship painfully and irrevocably breaks down with children involved, the rights of grandparents are often low down the list when a warring couple comes to court.

According to Daily mail under the current Children’s Act, indirect relatives including grandparents, aunts and uncles must go through the costly legal system themselves if they want to seek a child arrangement order (CAO) – with fees often spiraling into thousands of pounds.

While the Act is under closer scrutiny; earlier this year MPs debated whether the rights of close family members should be protected by law, for now, grandparents are often left feeling helpless – and bereft – when they are abruptly cut off from a child they love.

Speaking exclusively to FEMAIL, two families have shared their stories about what it’s like to have a relationship with a grandchild ‘switched off’ when a partnership turns sour.

Related image‘It’s like a living bereavement’: Susan Stamper, 69, from Lowick, Northants, hasn’t seen her grandchild for 20 years. Jenny Browne, 72, and her mother, Edna Cosnett, 93, say family get-togethers are no longer the same since Jenny’s granddaughter decided to stop seeing them two years ago

In May this year, figures revealed almost 2,000 grandparents were forced to go to court to win the right to see their grandchildren in 2016 – up 25 per cent.

Campaign group Fathers4Justice is backing enshrining the rights of grandparents into the law, but told MailOnline it remains cynical that the ‘Stone Age’ system will ever change.

Matt O’Connor said: ‘There are currently around one million grandparents with contact issues in the UK.

‘Grandparents go through double the heartbreak; they go through it themselves but they also go through it for their children.

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How could a court system be so cruel to treat people who are coming to the end of their lives so disrespectfully by not letting them see their grandchildren?
 Matt O’Connor, Fathers4Justice

‘How could a court system be so cruel to treat people who are coming to the end of their lives so disrespectfully by not letting them see their grandchildren?

O’Connor said the group had surveyed 500 grandparents affected by contact issues and 53 percent hadn’t seen their grandchildren in the last year and 28 percent hadn’t seen them in five years or more.

He added that 90 percent said that not seeing them contributed to depression, stress, anxiety and health problems while 88 percent said they worried about dying without seeing their grandchildren.

Great grandmother Edna Cosnett, 93, and grandmother Jenny Browne, 72, from New Malden, haven’t seen Jenny’s son’s daughter for nearly two years. Jenny has 11 grandchildren aged from 11 to 22 and says it’s heartbreaking to see her son suffer life without his daughter… 

Says Jenny: ‘My son and his wife split up when my grandchild was three. They went to court and everything was fine for ten years.

He had an order and would see her at weekends. Suddenly, she couldn’t come to see her father anymore, we were told she was “busy” and then she was bought a puppy and we were told she “couldn’t leave the puppy”.

‘For two years, there’s been no contact. She’s nearly 15 now and she was nearly 13 when we last saw her. We’ve been back to court to try and gain access but the judge said she’s old enough to make her own decisions on whether she wants to see us.

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The Children Act 1989 gave step-parents who have lived as part of a family for three years the right to apply for contact, but did not extend the same right to grandparents.

That means grandparents have to apply to the courts even to be given permission to make a request for some sort of contact, a lengthy and expensive process.

However, in May this year, MPs discussed a legal change that would establish a ‘presumption’ that grandparents, uncles and aunts should have access to their grandchildren, nephews and nieces after the children’s parents split up.

The proposed amendment is supported by MPs from all parties, who said some grandparents were being accused of harassment for ‘trying to send birthday cards or Christmas gifts to their grandchildren’.

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BBC presenter Dame Esther Rantzen, who campaigns for grandparents’ rights, said any new legal right would be ‘wonderful news for grandchildren’.

She said: ‘It is a relationship that matters so much and I have heard tragic stories of grandparents forced to try to prove there is a relationship. The law needs to recognize this relationship which means so much.’

Supporting the reform is justice minister Lucy Frazer QC, who said reforms were needed: ‘It is clear that the system could work better and I am keen to look into how we can improve it.’

‘We understand that she’s growing up and things would change but we send cards, we send presents, we send money and we don’t get anything back. There’s no contact at all.’

I’ve lost her. It’s so sad; we all get together and have a wonderful time. I take them all to dinner and she’s missing…
Great grandmother Edna Cosnett, 93, on not seeing her granddaughter

Great grandmother Edna, 93, reveals the impact not seeing the now teenager has had on her.

‘When we get all the children together at parties and it’s so hard. I’ve lost her. It’s so sad, we all get together and have a wonderful time.

‘I take them all to dinner and she’s missing. All my great grandchildren… and she’s not there.

‘At my age now, I want to see her. I see my grandson suffer. When he’s at these parties, he plays with the children but seeing him without his daughter…I go home and cry my eyes out.’

Adds Jenny. ‘We’ve always followed the rules. My son goes on, he’s okay but he’s very, very sad. He’s admitted to me that when he’s on his way to family get-togethers, he cries in the car. He puts on a brave face, but he has only one child and they were so close.’

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She concludes: ‘The only way to try and get back in contact would be to go to the courts again and that means going through a solicitor, which costs thousands and thousands. If you’re rich, you’re fine but we can’t afford it.’

Susan and John Stamper, 69, from Lowick, Northants, haven’t seen their grown-up granddaughter since she was three. Susan, who volunteers in a local primary school, has spent much of the last 20 years trying to contact her…

Susan Stamper, 69, from Lowich, Northants, has spent two decades battling to see her granddaughter, who has expressed a desire not to see her father’s family

Susan’s son and his nephew; she says not seeing his daughter has often left him in ‘a dark place’.

‘My son had a daughter in 1995 after buying a house and moving in with his ex-partner. While it was never ‘happy families’, for three years we saw our granddaughter.

However, in July 1998, my son came home to us when the relationship broke down and I haven’t seen her since that day.

While my son initially had a little bit of contact, we were shut out of our granddaughter’s life.

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After she moved away from where we live, I’ve tried in various ways to contact her but have never been successful.

I’ve got ten grandchildren and it’s a living nightmare. It’s a bereavement you can’t draw a line under…
 Grandmother Susan Stamper

I’ve got ten grandchildren and it’s a living nightmare. It’s a bereavement you can’t draw a line under.

I’ve spent the last 20 years trying to make contact with her, from appearing on This Morning to contacting the Grandparents Association, my local MP and even writing her a letter on Facebook.

The Salvation Army did manage to make contact but she simply said she wanted nothing to do with us.

I’ve watched my son suffer for 20 years too. He’s struggled with money and although he’s been through the courts, my granddaughter is now an adult and there’s little we can do.

Last year, after a few drinks, he admitted to me that he was in “a really dark place”. He’s tried so much but it’s never worked. In the last couple of years, I’ve felt like I had to do something. Raising awareness helps me feel like I’m doing something.

I just want her to give us a chance, to meet us, to make our own mind up about her. I’ve got a case full of presents and money in the bank.

She’s missed out on so much, she’s got a huge family and because she was the first grandchild she will never be replaced, there has always been a gaping hole.’

 

 

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Effective ways to train and ensure your kid eats healthy meals over junk

Research shows that a child’s eating patterns are developed early – even while still inside the womb,training children to eat healthy does not have to be so hard.

For example, they found children use their parents as foodie ‘role models’: when parents ate more healthily, so did their children, something they called the ‘parents provide, children decide principle’.

Parents should therefore focus on their own eating habits instead of insisting that their children eat foods that are good for them, they say. Other top tips from their research include varying your child’s diet, and pair less palatable foods with favourites – to offset the ‘yuck’ factor.

According to Daily Mail the foods and drinks children eat provide them with the nutrients needed for growth and brain development. Better dietary patterns are associated with better school performance, especially among children who regularly eat breakfast, have lower intakes of junk foods and whose eating patterns are of a higher nutritional quality.

Our Australian study in over 4,000 children aged 8-15 years compared eating behaviours with National Assessment Program – Literacy and Numeracy (NAPLAN) scores. It found more frequent consumption of vegetables with the evening meal was associated with higher test scores for spelling and writing. It also found more frequent consumption of sugar-sweetened beverages was associated with lower test scores in reading, writing, grammar, punctuation and numeracy.

We surveyed over 100 Australian parents and found most had tried to improve the healthiness of the foods their children ate. Parents did this by trying to increase vegetable and fruit intakes, or by reducing foods they thought contained sugar.

Many parents were worried about their children’s eating habits. They told us they wanted more support in how to talk about food in positive and encouraging ways. They also wanted to know more about how to help their children develop and maintain a healthy lifestyle.

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What can parents do?

1. Increase variety of healthy foods

Boosting your child’s variety of food and drink helps maximise their nutrient intake. Take the free Healthy Eating Quiz and use the feedback to boost the score for everyone in your family.

2. Introduce ‘new’ vegetables and fruit

A child might start with saying ‘yucky’ when introduced to a new food. This is a normal reaction to something new or unfamiliar. It’s frustrating as a parent – but it’s normal.

Try pairing new foods with all-time favourites. In an experiment, researchers offered children (aged 10-12 years) two kinds of chips (one familiar, one new). Some of these children were also offered a familiar ‘dip’ to go with it, while others were offered an unfamiliar ‘dip’. Those offered the familiar dip were more likely to try tasting the new food. Try this at home.

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Make some oven wedges by splitting potatoes and sweet potatoes into chunks. Line a baking dish with baking paper, spray with oil, toss in the wedges and spray again. Cook in a hot oven and turn frequently till soft inside. Serve with a low salt/low sugar tomato sauce.

3. Be a healthy eating role model

Monkey see, monkey do. Everyone wins when you eat the foods you want to see your children eating.

4. Have set meal and snack times and eat as a family at a table

It’s important parents and caregivers share meals with children and adolescents at a table during mealtimes whenever possible. This provides an opportunity for parents to talk with their children about a range of things, including nutrition.

Eating family meals enhances child and adolescent health and wellbeing. Children who share family meals three or more times per week are more likely to be in the healthy weight range, and to have healthier dietary and eating patterns.

In adolescence, having parents or caregivers present at evening meals is associated with higher intake of fruit, vegetables and dairy foods.

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5. Ask for some help

It can be hard to ask for help, or even to know where to go to get it. Australian data shows even among families where a child has excess weight or obesity and has attended a health service, very few families get advice or a referral to other health professionals for assistance with weight management.

If they do get referred they can end up on with a long waiting list or need to take time off work to attend appointments.

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Experts Offer Tips On How Cuddling Can Help Couples Conceive

Lifting your legs, making love under a full moon, drinking cough syrup, having sex every day: there are all kinds of superstitious and strange practices meant to help couples conceive.

While the vast majority of these fertility fixes are total fictions, science and anatomy give merit to at least a few, experts told Daily Mail Online.

One in every eight couples will likely have some difficulty conceiving. Infertility can be a result of a number of environmental and genetic factors, but there are a lot of moving parts – literally – involved in getting pregnant.

While some of these factors – especially timing – are out of the control of individuals or couples – reproductive and sexual experts told Daily Mail Online that some tricks might help boost couple’s odds, and they might even be fun.

1. Keeping the sex in sexy could help couples conceive 

The problem with having sex to have a baby is that it’s not very sexy, according Dr Sheryl Kingsberg, a psychologist who specializes in sex and reproductive therapy at University Hospitals in Ohio.

‘Sexual procreation is really bad for sex,’ she explains, ‘it can really kill a couple’s romance, so they need to make sure that they focus on pleasure and not pressure,’ to make a baby.

2. Having sex twice in an hour could as much as triple the odds of conception – but not if you do it every day

On the other hand, a 2015 study also found signs that if a man can go for round two within an hour, it might as much as triple the odds that he and his partner conceive a baby.

3. Foreplay, sex for its own sake and cuddling could all help you make a baby

‘Fertility can be a little challenging. Men feel like they have to perform, that causes stress, and that can cause problems with erections,’ he adds.

So while it may be helpful to have sex twice in a row, most experts say to only make attempts every other day, during a woman’s ovulation period.

But not matter how couples do it – in an hour or a week or a month – Dr Rossi says: ‘we can get them pregnant without them having sex at all, but that’s not what we’re trying to do…we want to make sure they have a happy sex life, too.’

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Fathers are more likely to feed children junk food when their mother is away

Ever worry about what your other half gives the children for dinner when your back is turned?

Your misgivings could be well-founded – if you’re a mother.

Research suggests that mums and dads are not equally concerned about ensuring their children eat healthily.

While mothers generally try to make nutritious meals, fathers are more likely to serve up a quick ready meal or takeaway when they are in charge, a survey found.

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They are also more likely to give in to their children wheedling for a chocolate bar or ice cream – and children are only too happy to exploit their fathers’ lack of commitment to a good diet.

Health campaigns focus on the importance of eating nutritious meals at home. But the sociologists behind the survey found dietary standards tend to drop when mothers are not there to enforce them.

The researchers, from Stanford University in the US, interviewed 44 families which had at least one teenage son or daughter. Each family member was quizzed on eating habits and how these changed depending on which parent was in charge.

Enjoying some Domino's Pizza

In 41 of the 44 families – 93 per cent – both children and parents said the father’s dietary standards were much lower than the mother’s. Publishing the findings in the journal Appetite, researcher Priya Fielding-Singh said: ‘Mothers are seen as committed to healthy eating, while fathers are often perceived as a barrier to it.

‘They often turn to quick, less healthy options – such as fast food and processed meals – explicitly avoided by mothers. Teenagers are not only aware of these distinct parental approaches but exploit them. When they crave less healthy products restricted by mums, they turn to dads.

‘In obliging these requests, dads can undermine mums’ attempts at healthy eating.’

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Miss Fielding-Singh said although many modern fathers play a bigger role in housework, family meal planning is still largely down to mums. And fathers tend to be more focused on getting their children to eat the right amount, rather than worrying about what they are eating.

She added: ‘Fathers may be less likely to place limits on snacks. And conventional masculinity norms discourage fathers from engaging in healthy behaviours.’

Some of the fathers interviewed admitted being unaware of what their teenage children were eating, while others admitted they cared less about it than their wives.

‘Many mothers, particularly working mothers, wish fathers would do more “foodwork”,’ she said. ‘But they also fear his greater involvement would pose a risk to the children’s’ dietary health.’

Previous studies showed children whose fathers eat fast food are more likely to eat it too, while having an overweight dad increases the risk of a child being obese.

Parents! Here Are 5 Constructive Ways Of Keeping Your Children Busy

Schools are just about to close for the April holidays. Many parents are probably conflicted about having to leave children home all day alone.

Well as the saying goes, “an idle mind is the devil’s workshop” here are a few fun ways to keep your children busy.

Encourage your children to join youth clubs

This is will help keep them engaged and will enable them to learn fun things with their peers. It can be a church group, a choir, a home-economics class where they can learn various activities such as cooking, sewing, candle making among others. This way their holiday will be constructive and you will not have to worry about a thing as it will be fun for the children.
Enroll them into holiday tutoring programs
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Assign different chores to your children
Yes, I know most of us just want to spoil our children rotten or simply treat them like royalty so that they don’t have to lift a finger. However teaching your children how to do chores is paramount in helping them become useful independent people in future. You most certainly do not want them to grow up without knowing how to wash their own under garments, do their own dishes, clean the places they eat and sleep. The list is endless but you would rather teach the young ones now how to take care of themselves and their households.
Develop or build their talents
For those whose children excel in extra curricular activities, holidays are a perfect time to get them to practice more on their talents. Take them to soccer and swimming lessons, music and dance classes or even to art galleries. It does not matter how old they are since they will meet lots of other gifted kids who are the same age whom they can interact with. This may in turn give them inspiration and help them blossom into the young starts that they are meant to be.
Take them to camp
If your child is an outdoor person, take them to camp as it may be fun and exciting for the child to be outdoors in mother nature together with other kids. There are lots of activities that your child can engage in that will teach him or her survival skills.
So now your children will still have fun and learn something creative and constructive during the holidays. Remember all work and no play makes jack a dull boy.

 

Aren’t They Dazzling? Check Out 10 Of Kenya’s Sexiest & SINGLE Celebrity Mothers

In the Kenyan entertainment and media industry, we have celebrities of all caliber, from single to married, to the talkative ones and even others who like keeping their private lives under wraps. Many times, we are quite interested in the ones who are single, especially single celebrity mothers.

When it comes to female celebrities, there are those who are happily married with or without kids and those who are single and don’t show a sign of settling down anytime soon. There are some who were married and are now separated from their husbands, and then we have the single mothers.

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So, how about we focus on some of the most beautiful single celebrity mothers in Kenya, as we also celebrate them for the work well done.

Being a single mother is not a walk in the park, whether the father of your kid/s is still around and you’re co-parenting, or whether he disappeared the day he heard that you’re pregnant.

As we list some of the most elegant celebrity single mothers in Kenya, we also applaud them for their good work, and the sleepless nights while bringing up their children.

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Here is a list of the sexiest and most gorgeous single mothers in Kenya, who have managed to stay gracious even after giving birth.

1. Grace Msalame
This stunning media personality is a mother of two adorable twins who are now 5 years old. Grace Msalame is a proud single mom, who co-parents with her baby daddy, Paul Ndichu. Her ex is twin brother to Janet Mbugua’s husband.

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2. Pierra Makena
She is Kenya’s top deejay who has worked her way through the entertainment industry over the years. The bootylicious entertainer is a first-time mother after giving birth back in July 2016, to a cute little girl, though she’s yet to show off her face. Pierra revealed in an interview last year that she is happy to raise her daughter alone since things she found out that she was pregnant after breaking up with the father of the kid.

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3. Lilian Muli
The top news anchor is no doubt elegant even after giving birth to her only child back in 2010. The sassy media personality was once married to Moses Kanene but she divorced him after claims of cheating and physical abuse. She has since moved and looks more stunning than ever.

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4. Victoria Rubadiri
She is not only beautiful but also very friendly and down to earth, and to add icing to the cake, she’s a mother to a pretty daughter. The NTV news anchor has managed to keep her private life off the public eye over the years, but what we are sure of, she is still a very gorgeous mother.

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5. Silvia Njoki
She’s one of Kenya’s top fashionistas and bloggers and she has made a name for herself in the fashion world. The ravishing queen of style is a mother to a cute, little girl, Lily, who occasionally features in her mother’s videos and photo sessions. Silvia Nkoji has maintained her sexy figure over the years and is aging like fine wine.

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6. Sage
She’s one of the most talented singers in Kenya, and has a child with celebrated rapper King Kaka. Sadly, things didn’t work out since the guy apparently wanted to be with another woman. The mellow-voiced artiste has managed to keep her sexy on even after giving birth and hasn’t let being a single mom affect how she looks.

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7. Kanze Dena
The Citizen TV news anchor is a beautiful soul who keeps her private life off the public radar, and has a way of appeasing viewers on TV. Kanze Dena revealed a few years back that she’s a proud single mother to a cute 10-year-old boy, though no one would have guessed. The TV presenter knows how to dress her body, using minimal makeup and keeping it natural.

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8. Brenda Wairimu
Her relationship with Kenyan rapper Juliani has been a bit complicated and the two are no longer seen together, neither do they post anything about each other on social media. The two are blessed with a cute little girl and Brenda has embraced motherhood since she gave birth. The model cum actress still looks like an 18 year and oozes charm all the time.

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9. Terryanne Chebet
The former Citizen TV business news anchor is a doting mother to an adorable daughter who has taken after her looks. Chebet, however, kept the child off the limelight for the better part of her early life, deciding to keep things private. Terryanne co-parents with the father of the child, who is said to be a prominent Kenyan director and producer.

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10. Caroline Mutoko
The former radio queen and public figure is a mother to daughter Theodora Nduku, whom she adopted back in 2011 when she was only 8 months old. The renowned media personality has an uncanny resemblance to the adorable little girl, who she calls the love of her life. Caroline Mutoko is not married and has never introduced her fans to any man in her life.

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Kenyan Parents, Here Are 8 Reasons Why You Should Avoid Sharing Your Child’s Photos On Social Media!

Technology has caught up with everyone nowadays, and social media platforms have made communication easier over the years.

People are now sharing beautiful memories on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter by posting pictures and videos for their friends to see.

Well, parents have also caught up with the popular trend and post photos of their children on social media to appreciate, flaunt or just update friends on their progress, but it looks like there are dangers that come with sharing these photos online.

If you are fond of putting up pics of your child on social media, here are reasons why it would be wise to stop it:

1. You may be stepping on your child’s anonymity and consent
While it may not be something we think about all the time, we’re essentially taking control of our child’s digital identity from the get-go.

2. Digital Footprints
Posting photos of your kids create a digital footprint — a kind of electronic paper trail — that forms their identities in a world they haven’t chosen to enter.

3. Losing Control of your images
Once you post a photo online, you lose control over it. Someone could easily copy the photo, tag it, save it, or otherwise use it — and you might never know.

4. Targeted Advertising
Data collection online more often than not leads to targeted advertising by social networks or sale of this data to third parties. This is the business model for most, it not all, social networks.

5. Digital Kidnapping
There is a growing crime called ‘digital kidnapping’ in which individuals or companies steal children’s images and use their images in advertisements or more sinister things.

6. You may be sharing your child’s location without knowing
GPS-enabled phones and location tracking integrated into photos by your camera or smartphone may offer up sensitive information like your child’s school address, your family’s home address, and other places you frequent like church or shopping centers malls. This can lead into child kidnapping.

7. You can’t take it back!
Once you’ve posted that picture, that’s it, there’s no way to take it back. It’s always out there, on a server, and even if you tighten up your privacy settings. A picture or video, once shared online, can, with a few indiscreet clicks by family or friends, become public property.

Even if you share the image then delete it, there is not telling that someone had not saved it to their computer already! Plus the introduction of screenshots just made it worse!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Dear Parents, Here Are 7 Things To Do If You Want To Raise Good Kids

Every parent wants to raise a good kid, but your little ones can’t do it alone; they need help and guidance from the adults in their lives.

According to human development researchers at Harvard, there are some guidelines supported by research studies that parents can look to for help raising a caring child, as well as seven tips to help put it all into action:

1. Spend time with your kids regularly and engage in meaningful conversation.
By spending time with kids regularly, they will learn to be caring and loving by example — show affection, take a genuine interest in their life, encourage their efforts and praise their accomplishments, ask open-ended questions to foster meaningful conversation, support them endlessly.

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2. Be a solid role model and a strong mentor.
Children will respect what you tell them to do when they see you doing the same, so pay close attention to the way you practice the values you’re urging your children to follow — honesty, humility, contributing to the community — as they will pick up on the way you act. Tell them when you make a mistake and talk them through the way you’ll fix it.

3. Send clear messages and prioritize being kind.
Caring for others is often encouraged as a top priority, so treat it that way by holding your children to high ethical expectations not only in your own home but at school.
Ask their teachers if they are caring during the school day, tell your kids that it’s important that they are kind to others.

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4. Provide opportunities to be caring by giving responsibilities.
When children are expected to do chores around the house, helping others will more likely become a natural opportunity for them to be caring in their daily routine.
Express gratitude and appreciation to them and motivate them to make giving thanks to others a part of their everyday practice.

5. Help children to “zoom out” to understand the range of hardships.
Children typically care about a smaller group of family and friends, but to expand their circle, try to talk about other communities and the different challenges people face.

Discuss issues and provide them with ideas of ways they could help fix some of the problems they see in their own community. Encourage them to listen to others, especially those who may be different than them.

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6. Provide opportunities for kids to take action, join causes, and do for others.
When your child is faced with an issue, help them take action and talk it out, and encourage them to work with others to solve problems. Try to translate their interests into a cause they could join and give them opportunities to talk about ethical dilemmas that come up both in real life and in the media.

7. Help children to identify feelings and resolve conflicts with self-control.
Encourage your children to identify their feelings and then provide them with the tools to manage them with control — deep breaths, counting until they are calm — and help them to resolve conflicts by also understanding the feelings that others are experiencing.

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Deadbeat Mums? Kenyan Women Reveal The Truth About Why They Dump Their Kids On Ageing Parents

Today on the morning conversation with Maina Kageni and King’ang’i, there was a very interesting and intriguing discussion about deadbeat women.

There was a certain feature in one of the local dailies, where the writer did not hold back about the sad tale of women who abandon their children at their grandparents in the countryside and then disappear to Nairobi or other urban towns.

According to the writer: “Contrary to popular belief, there are strange women who have no motherly or parenting intuition, so much that they burden their ageing mothers with the bother and struggle of raising their children.”

Th other revelation made was that most of them never keep in touch to know how the kids are doing, never visit to spend time with them and worst of all, others don’t offer any financial support to their ageing mothers to make it smooth for them to look after the kids.

This sparked a lot of reaction from others callers, especially men, but women came out to give their reasons for such situations. Listen to the audio below.

 

You Should Avoid Giving Your Children This…

Being a parent isn’t the easiest job in the world, in fact it’s probably the hardest and it comes with no salary, but we are not complaining. That being said, children are raised by their respective parents in different ways depending on their culture and social standing, and their needs vary. However, that should not be a reason why a child lacks manners because parents give in to their every whim.

As a parent there are things you should stop saying yes to, for the sake of your child. Here are a few:

Depending on staff for helpWe all need help to get us through the daily grind, but having staff attend to your child’s every beck and call is uncalled for. You are never going to raise an adult if your child depends on the staff for every small thing. Getting up and doing their own work is the first step towards being responsible. Next comes doing small odd jobs around house and taking care of the younger sibling. Even if you have the comfort of a staff, make kids used to taking care of their routine work. Try to limit staff strength and have them overlook and supervise the kids as they get ready to do things themselves. Believe us, it helps build confidence and is good for them in the long run.

Unlimited access to smart gadgets We stay in a tech-savvy world and it’s no wonder that kids demand smart gadgets, which we eagerly provide, too. But not many realise that gadgets need to be age-appropriate and the dependence on the same needs to be limited. Ever wonder why your kid is bad at math? It’s probably also because of him/her using the calculator to solve problems instead of using mental math. Unfiltered internet comes with its own disadvantages if the kids have unsupervised time on it. They might end up lacking real social skills, not to mention the dangers of getting exposed to strangers online.

Ready made school projectsAs a parent, you may want your children to have proper school projects and records so that they get the best of grades, but to achieve the same, it is not right to employ someone else to do it for them. These ready made school projects might help your child get straight As temporarily, but they are not going to come to aid when he/she himself has to attempt those in the future. This does not mean you leave them to do their own thing. Sit with them when they get the project, help them collect and assemble things together. Allow them to make an attempt and guide them where necessary. It might not turn out to be the perfect project, but they will surely feel proud of it if they have done it themselves.

Junk meals all the time – Fun, junk meals are much loved by kids, and sometimes, even the parents find it convenient. But taking them out for fast food treats or making pizza, pasta or noodle at home needs to be restricted. Because the health hazards it poses is not worth it! Plan meals in advance and make your kids develop a liking for regular homemade food. You might encounter resistance initially but just be stern with the rules of eating what is made at home. They might cry, whine and go to sleep hungry a couple of times but be tough and take a stand. Cut down the happy meal treats from once a week to once a fortnight, and then, once a month. You will see a healthy difference in your kids — it will make them more active and alert.

-TNN

Tips On How To Get Your Child To Listen

It can get frustrating as a parent to have to yell all the time to a child who cannot listen to you. In fact in some instances it can cause you an embarrassment especially when in public. Here are four no-nonsense ways to get your kids to listen.

1. Parent with consistency – Posting house rules in an obvious place, like the fridge, is only part of the job. You have to actually enforce the rules … consistently.  You don’t have to make the rules complicated. Even better, invite your kids to contribute to the list.  You can even make your rule list fun. For teens, the chart can even look like a workplace performance review — with a vision, mission and goals.

Just ensure that you consistently track the rules and resulting rewards. What works and what doesn’t? Change the list together according to your findings.Give your kids general directions and guidance to succeed, but don’t micro-manage. Do away with the speeches and the judgment. Kids respond to simple statements and consistent rewards and consequences. Remember to reward or praise them for their efforts.

2. Show your kids a little compassion – Kids make mistakes. Kids make poor choices as part of the process of learning to make better choices. Treat your children like human beings. Just because they handled their emotions poorly doesn’t mean their emotions weren’t valid.  

Avoid judgment. Find out both sides of the issue and acknowledge both children’s feelings. Reinforce the idea that lashing out is an acceptable response. This never, ever leads to peaceful resolution. Leading with peace breeds peace.

3. Coach your kids through the process – According to parenting coach Elaine Taylor-Klaus, “The coach approach helps parents learn to champion their kids in a positive, empowering way. The focus is primarily on learning and improvement, rather than correction and re-direction.” 

Practice active listening and stay in the moment with your child. Stop your chores and put your phone down for five minutes each day to find out how your children are doing. You may even repeat what they say to ensure you understand, then help your kids find their own solutions by asking questions instead of lecturing. Let them try a few solutions to figure out what actually works. Coach them through figuring out how to solve problems themselves versus just blindly “doing as their told.”When the solution feels like their own idea, they’re more likely to stick with it. 

4. Keep your cool – Try to remain neutral, like a curious scientist. Of course it feels frustrating when your kids don’t listen. But contain your anger and upset by keeping things in perspective. They’re learning. Following through on new behaviors takes practice. 

And if you do lose it in a restaurant when your son shouts “Bad Mommy!” at the top of his lungs because you won’t get him chicken nuggets for the third time in a week, be kind to yourself. 

Reasons Why Children Lie

As a parent one always endeavours to make sure they bring up their child in the right way so that they may be well groomed. No parent wants to have a brat or a liar but sometimes it happens. It may not be your fault as children lie for various reasons, that doesn’t make you a bad parent.

Here are three reasons why your child lies to you:

1. They see lying as an easy (and safe) option for solving problems – Before their brain is fully developed, our kids don’t have a clear grasp of cause and effect the way (most) adults do. In the moment, the benefit of being dishonest outweighs the risk of being discovered, mostly because they don’t think the risk through completely.

2. They’re trying to save face – No one likes to admit they’re wrong (not even kids). In fact, many adults have a hard time being honest when things don’t go as planned. Why would it be any easier for our children? This is particularly true for kids who have a tendency to make mistakes more than average.

3. They remember “the truth” differently – Everything in life is about perception. Have you ever walked away from a conversation and had a completely different recollection of it than someone else? Sometimes we genuinely think we did something, because we planned to do it, or we do it so often that it becomes routine. This is especially true for younger kids and/or kids with less developed working memory.

Here’s how do you address your child’s blatant lying (even if there are real reasons for it)? 

Be a good role model. Our kids hear and see much more of what we do than we’re aware of. Truth be told, we all have our own range of honesty. Few of us are completely honest (sometimes for the same reasons as above)

Reward honesty. When your kids tell the truth, thank them, even if it’s about something they screwed up! Sometimes you might even forgive a mistake if your child owns up.  If you tell the truth now, I’ll let you off with a warning instead of a consequence. You may or may not want to make this a habit, depends on your child and the situation. 

Show compassion. ​Being honest isn’t always easy, and there are some (almost) legitimate reasons that our kids don’t come forth with the truth. A friend of mine says, “All kids lie. It’s normal!”. If that’s true, then good parenting requires us to help them learn honesty, rather than punishing them for not doing something that’s pretty hard for adults to even do in the first place.

-Yourtango

 

Here’s How To Make Parenting Easy

Parenting isn’t the easiest job on earth, its fun a the same time overwhelming for many couples. They find it tiring especially considering the fact that there is work, school, business and other things to do too. It does get easier when the children get older.
Here are afew tips of how to make it easier:

Meditation – There are several kinds of meditations. Search online and choose the one you like. Everyone thinks you are doing something super serious.It’s a guilty pleasure, kind of like bunking class.

Podcast – Unlike meditation, podcasts can be recommend to everyone -if you have an excruciating commute, you are bored while you feed the baby, feel brain dead while you cook and clean etc. According to the internet, there are 1,15,000 English-language podcasts available online. You are bound to find one that interests you. It’s ideal for those who multitask and if parenting isn’t multitasking, we don’t know what is.

Stop caring -If there’s one decision you want to take to turn your life around, let it be this -don’t care a hoot about what anyone says or thinks about you. Not worrying about what other parents think about your parenting style, what the books say you should do, what in-laws, neighbours, even teachers say , will set you free. Then, it will be just you and the kid and that abundant resource called common sense.You’ll make mistakes, learn from them and grow -and by you, we mean you and the kid. It definitely beats trying to create impossible walls to climb only to find out that the wall you built stands between you and the kid.

Get off social media – The whole `My life as lived on social media’ thing, will really get to you. Between all your social media accounts, you see a constant parade of perfect families. They go on gorgeous vacations 12 times a year.You might still not be evolved enough to break all ties from social media, but you should learn to scroll quickly past the chronic gloaters, and feel empowered when you `hide’ them from the timeline. Try it. You’ll love the peace that follows.

Call in sick – In school, college and at work, at some point or another, we’ve all faked a cough on the phone and called in sick. Why not do that as a parent? If popularised, this could be a thing. One could announce to the world that one is sick and then just retire. Lie in bed all day , listen to music, read a book and at regular intervals, let out a groan. A day or two of this and you’ll come out feeling refreshed and rejuvenated.Spa days and retreats are for losers, this stuff is virtually effortless and free!

-TOI

Maina Makes 20.2 Million Shillings For The KNH Children’s Cancer Ward

Today October 30, Maina Kageni was in studio longer than usual in order to raise 10 Million shillings needed to support the Kenyatta National Hospital Children’s cancer ward, who are in need of specialised equipment used in treating needy children.

The urgently needed equipment includes Chemo Ports, Infusion Pumps and Chemo Chairs all valued at 10 million shillings. Alongside buying the equipment, the money raised will be used to give 350 families NHIF cover for one year which will help ease their financial burden.

Well the good news is in , as at this afternoon he had raised 20.2 Million shillings towards the cause under the hashtag #mainas10millionmission. We would like to thank everyone who participated and we appreciate whatever amount that you contributed.

First Born Children Are Smarter Than Their Siblings

First born children often born “by accident” or as a trial are said to be smarter than the children born after them according to a new study.

The study released from National Bureau of Economic Research found that firstborn children are excelling more in school than their younger siblings.

The report said it’s all about how parents treat them. The researchers noticed that parents become less “strict” with their children according to how they were born.

This has been observed in many families as firstborns “should know better” as a result, younger siblings school performance declines along with birth order.

During the study, parents were asked how they would respond if their younger students brought home bad grades and they said they would be less likely to punish them, whereas they would’ve punished the first-born.

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Should You Stay Married for Your Children’s Sake?

Maina Kageni has been receiving tons of messages from ladies claiming that 95% of married women stay in those relationships for the sake of the children.

During the morning conversation with Mwalimu King’ang’i, he posed this question to the ladies and the men were quick to answer.

So why do ladies stay in relationships that have hit rock bottom? Turns out that financial stability is the biggest factor according to the men.

The women need somebody to pay for the bills, provide for her even in cases where she is employed. Ladies, is this accusation true, if the children weren’t in the equation, would you still be with your man or is the money aspect also a major contributor.

Some interesting reactions from Facebook
Kim Kung: Kids are used as scapegoat! The real thing is financial security. A lady who has a well paying job wont keep up with bulshit becoz of kids. She will leave even with the kids. Most of these ladies arent always sure of how to start over bcz they are used to being provided by the guys! Either way, marriage is so commercialized today than never before… The day u marry, utaelewa somethings u discuss better!

Mary Mutunga Maina they stay because they want to stay. Am sure if they walk out they will manage. Ladies please trust ur selves and move on njia ni mingi za kuua panya. Many have done it so can u.

Juma Nyagah Bahati: Maina some ladies are just but expert liars… Tell me how can you live with a curable ailment all in the name of saving resources? If the kitchen is too hot for someone to comprehend with then I believe stepping out saves one from a possible suffocation.

Ker Amyson Williams: would 100%stay .We started dating way back in high school,10 good years together ,the ups and down are always there in a rshp.So i would definitely stay . In this era we living it’s very hard finding a perfect mate.

Emenike Ogwegwe Igwe: sometimes is not about kids,some of them stick around because they know that you’re the only who can accommodate their behaviors and falls.

Listen to the interesting discussion below

Footballer Obi Mikel Secretly Fathers Two Children With Different Women

Chelsea footballer John Obi Mikel has secretly been fathering two children with different women.

According to The Sun, the footballer is a father to a four-year-old son and a one-year-old daughter.

Obi accepted full responsibility and takes care of his children.

It’s been said that he bought a house for his son and mother and send her money for their upkeep and is keen on being part of the boy’s life.

Mikel also financially supports his daughter, who was born after the couple met at a London nightclub in 2013.

Mikel is now dating Russian businesswoman Olga Diyachenko and was quoted saying he has found love.

A spokesman for the footballer told The Sun: “This is an entirely private matter.

“John provides for and cares for his children and will continue to do so. He asks that their privacy is respected.