City mum distressed after daughter writes chilling message about dad on Facebook

A city mum wept on Classic 105, after confessing to Maina Kageni the disturbing message her long lost daughter wrote on Facebook.

The woman, who gave up her two girls to her husband after their relationship ended, sobbed that she is in a catch 22 type of situation.

I got a baby when I was 17, in form Three. I got married to this man just because I had that baby. I didn’t know about contraceptives so in about a year again I got another one. This guy was really mistreating me i stayed for around eight years with the guy I was really frustrated He once threw me on the stairs (we used to live in Jericho) So I had to decide to to leave, He used to beat me infront of my kids so I had to leave.

She described how the girls were taken away more than ten years ago an has been desperately searching for them.

Right now it’s been over ten years I haven’t seen them and he refuses me to see the kids. I think he uses them as a way of balckmailing me 

She found one of the girls on Facebook and communication was swiftly ended after a disturbing message from the girl.

The mum described to Maina

As I’m talking to  you I’m crying. It is not that I don’t love my babies, but whatever that man took me through I was 17. In the ten years I’ve tried reaching out my elder daughter on Facebook and she told me ‘please don’t talk to me anymore because if dad finds out he is not going to pay my school fees. So I told her ‘ok I’m not gonna talk to you until you are ready.

The tearful mum admitted that since that encounter on Facebook, her daughter doesn’t talk to her but remains hopeful that the situation will one day change.

 

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Woman laughs off giving up child to be raised by in-laws

 

Kenyan men often land the wrath of society for being dead beat dad’s who want nothing to do with their offspring.

But the tables seemed to have turned on Classic 105 after a mother called in confessing she gave up her daughter to her in laws and is happy with that decision.

Maina spoke about it saying

I need to talk of these mothers, because when this lady called in, it threw my head into a spin.

The woman talked about why she gave up her daughter to her in-laws and also how she has not seen the child since.

She told Maina

he was told by the parents… go take the kid we will take care of her… I said ok, come and take her. I have not seen her. I don’t need to be responsible for anything now, sitaki mastress

So how often does she see her daughter?

I don’t. It’s been a year since nilimwona

And why isn’t she bothered at all by this

because I don’t want anything to do with them

As a mother who has had a child taken from her, doesn’t she miss her daughter? Maina proded her

siwezi endea huko you know what? itakuwa balaa and she is four years and a half. Now I am ok. I just told God to give me that piece of mind.

This formed the basis of the morning conversation where Mwalimu Kingangi slammed women.

Maina said’ I can understand men not having an instinct but ladies…

Mwalimu dag in criticizing society’s perception of men

‘You know men love their children even those outside, more than women kufa kupona ni kukatazwa. how do you leave your daughter?

Is there something we don’t understand about this lady? What do you make of what you’ve heard from her? What do you make of her behaviour.

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Divorced Kenyan dad’s bitter fight for child ‘kidnapped’ ten years ago

The narrative is all too common: man meets woman, they fall in love, that may or may not lead to marriage or a long-term relationship, woman becomes pregnant, a beautiful child is conceived.

Cute right? Alas, the relationship does not stand the test of time, as the fairytale would otherwise have us believe. Things happen.

What is perplexing, however, is the tendency for women to use their children as ammunition, as part of an intricate ploy to somehow strike back at their ex-partner.

This retaliation is often due to any wrongdoing [ongoing or not] that may have been committed by the man in question – be that adultery, stealing, lying, etc. Ridiculous, I know – yet all too real.

Read this long read from a man who confessed to Maina Kageni his miserable story.

Some years back in 2010 I got a son  with someone and the lady was a drunkard and we went to court abput child custody.

I happened to win the case after pushing for around three months, so after winning the case she was given access then she got advice form her sister ( the child was now around a year two months) she kidnapped the child then I happened to see the child after three years.

He explains why he has been unable to get tough on her for so long despite the law saying he should have the child

I did go looking for the child. I got a court order and I tried following up but she was never arrested by the police. They usually say it’s a legal case. She used to stay in her mothers place and it was not accessible. What would I have done I could go to the nearest police station but the gates were locked. I wish you can understand that when you don’t have an access like a place that is gated it’s hard to access and there is way you can break it.

I have not seem my son for nine years, the warrant of arrest is effective the women can’t be found, and the grandparents don’t want to see me. I have tried my level best.