Tanzania to publish database of married men to tame cheating

 

Kenyans heard of this news and immediately wanted it replicated in the country.

News from Tanzania suggests that authorities will make public a database of the names of all married men, to stop cases of cheating.

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Reports suggest that single womens hearts are being broken by married men taking advantage of them.

So in a bid to protect women from broken hearts, the names will be published.

Dar es Salaam Regional Commissioner Paul Makonda said he has received a lot of complaints from women who were abandoned by their lovers after a marriage proposal, and that the planned database will help combat infidelity.

“I have been receiving complaints from women who have been promised marriage by men, yet the men didn’t fulfill the promise. I know women who have been paying bills yet the men walked away …” Makonda spoke.
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“If possible we will set up a database in the regional commissioner’s office in each region that every man who promises a woman marriage, this should be registered in the database which will allow women to check to see whether the person asking is married …,” Makonda said at a Monday news conference.
 

Here are mixed reviews of the planned database:

okwoche..
#Tanzania is to make its database of married men in the country public to help women know the marital status of their partners before they have a serious relationship with them. This came about following the number of women who claim to have been cheated on by men #CheatingMen

Basheer Chilungo..
Hope it works for those who didn’t know. In my little experience, single ladies are more attracted to married men and they advance to these men well aware of their marital statuses.

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Kennedy Ngûrî..
That does not even qualify to be listed amongst the superficial prescription to infidelity. The heart of man is desperately wicked and man is an inventor of wickedness. Website is so minor a thing to a wicked soul.

Alfred Steven 👉Sober-Man..
Silly idea to make a data base for all married men. Guys would always cheat if the need arises.

The farmer..
Govt accredited and certified cheaters…hahaha that’d be a 1st one

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Should the ‘other woman’ ever tell a wife her man has another family, Maina asks

If you’re the child of a wealthy man out there and are not known to his family, what are you doing about it?

If you are a lady raising children by another man out there, what are you waiting for? Turning up at his funeral is so yesterday, Maina Kageni began the debate.

A Psychologist shares her thoughts on this topic first.

It’s important for the other man or woman to consider their motives for disclosing the affair, stressed Alicia H. Clark, a psychologist in Washington, D.C. Sometimes, after being spurned or pushed away, affair partners want to strike back or regain power by revealing the relationship. It rarely works in their favor, she said.

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“You may want to speak up to punish your lover for staying with their partner, or seek some level of legitimacy for a relationship that has lived too long in the shadows or dismissed,” she said. “Unfortunately, such disclosures seldom yield such satisfaction and may backfire.”

Maina who was egged on by co host Mwalimu Kingangi shared why he is covering the topic.

I met a colleague of mine yesterday, she is raising teenagers who were fathered by one of the wealthiest men in Kenya. The thing is his family have no idea they exist.

How are you protecting your children? How are you helping yourself, even God says he helps those who help themselves.

Read Maina’ fans thoughts on the topic below

Felix Agola(Mr President)..

Maina a relationship is like an investment and having a secret affair with someone’s man is like throwing capital in someone’s business where you get nothing in return
Carol Kungu..
@ItsMainaKageni @Classic105Kenya The ladies who get babies with men who hide them from the society r to blame themselves they shud ve not agreed to this arrangement in the first place……#MainaAndKingangi
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@Classic105Kenya Maina and Keng’ang’i this women are many so you want us to introduce all of them to my parents so what?If awoman gives birth for me let’s take care of the kids,introduction has no impact on our relationship.Good day

Sylvanus Ndaso..
Men who don’t introduce their wives to their families don’t value them….they don’t love them; they only married them for procreation.
@ItsMainaKageni

Rtd Captain Kale..
@ItsMainaKageni @Classic105Kenya Maina now lemme shock you, our mothers know our mipango ya kando, they know how many kids we have out there,and our mothers will take care of all our kids when we die,tell our women to keep off from our mali, they are strangers #MainaAndKingangi

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What does a Kenya woman have to do to keep her man faithful Maina asks

The Classic 105 morning conversation was something that many Kenyans discuss either silently or in groups. And not one solution to the problem has been found.

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What am I talking about? Maina Kageni was asked by a lady to ask Kenyan men on air this question below:

What do we have to do for them to remain faithful to us? What do they want? We are ready to listen

What is it that Kenyan men want their ladies to do to remain loyal? Can you please give them a point breakdown.

‘I paid my own bride price but he keeps cheating on me’ Shouts woman

It’s very simple according to the thoughts of Mwalimu Kingangi who says women should do ‘nothing’.

wakae hivo wachane na sisi. They don’t need to do anything, there are things you can’t change.

You know when a man saw you on day one, that is the image they have, do you get it ? So this metamorphosis yako they are not part of it, they still have that mental picture of when they first met you.

A male caller totally agreed with Kingangi saying

‘There is nothing they can do, hakuna even if you whine your waist, there is nothing, men want diversity and we were made that way by the way.’

A woman also supported this point of view leaving Maina skeptical.

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‘I am not a man but I can tell you there is nothing that woman can do. I am a living experience.

I have given everything to the one I have, you can give a man everything but he will still go out, it’s only the man who wants, no matter what you do, it’s his vision not yourself.’

A similar view was held by two others in the thoughts below:

‘Listen good, a man was created with a default setting of being a polygamous man you cannot reset it, even the way you bought your phone you cannot reset it, you either work with it or nothing’

How sad is that posed Maina Kageni saying,

Are you telling me that you will just accept and go to bed knowing he is doing things challenged Maina as he asked for more reactions from listeners.

What’s been your experience girls?

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‘My married bae blue ticks me after I sort her out’ – Man confesses

 

Your chest collapses, your head spins and knees crumble.

This is the response we have all had when messaging bae.

Back when whatsapp introduced a feature known as blue ticks, the world celebrated.

However this feature has come to haunt many men.

Men in their quest to freak out asking Why didn’t she reply me? Am I not important? Doesn’t she want to be friends anymore?

‘My married side chick and I plan our off days together’ boasts Thika man

This fate befell on man who recounted on Classic 105, how his married girl blue ticks him often.

He told Maina, who sympathized with him

There is this lady who used to be my ex and everytime she has issues with her husband she wants me, but when they are on good terms nakula block. But when on bad terms she even calls me telling me she thinks about me, she only reaches out to me when her relationship is rocky, as an ex they only does so when times are rough, otherwise utakula block.

If you’re a dude looking for answers to blue ticking a user on Quora has answers. Read below the reasons:

– She realized you don’t know what you want with her. You are not stating exactly what your agenda with her is. Leaving her guessing is much tougher for her so she opts out instead.

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– You said or asked something that she doesn’t want to respond to, or has no idea how to respond to. Yeah, yeah, I know you’ll ask why she can’t just tell you she doesn’t know what to reply with. But these girls are hard to understand. Even I have no answer for that.

– She learnt something about you that turned her off. No explanation here.

– You did something wrong, did not apologize and are not intending to because you have absolutely no idea what it was that you did.

– You’re just being melodramatic and expecting that the girl will be first to initiate conversation. She may have blue ticked you, but she’s probably missing you and wishing you’d text her. The blue tick might make her feel guilty of texting first. Or maybe she’s just playing a little hard to get. So you got to up your game.

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‘My married side chick and I plan our off days together’ boasts Thika man

 

Love is messy and complicated.

Love is full of heartbreak, and it’s dramatic and unfulfilling.

Why do I say this?

This is the plight of a single man dating a married woman.

He confessedbragged about his love affair with her on air during a Classic 105 morning conversation.

He can’t seem to let go of his ‘woman’ who treats him so well, according to his vivid description of their affair.

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The man shocked Maina Kageni about how he is ‘eating’ a married woman, and ripping benefits from their relationship.

I take my off day together with my side chick. She is married with two kids, and she is paying my rent for sh25,000 in Thika.

By the way I am waiting for her, I am preparing breakfast. We will be in olympics until the evening, then she goes back home to her husband. 

Is he a slave to his heart?

He responded, ‘That’s how it is’ concluding the story.

Is there that one person from your past that you just can’t let go of? Tell us your experience by dropping comments below this story.

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5 Ways to tell if your spouse is cheating on you

In a relationship or marriage there are challenges that couples face. Cheating is one of the most rampant challenges. You may be lucky enough to find out or never at all. Here are some of the things that that will tell if your spouse is cheating;Tokeo la picha la how to tell your spouse is cheating

 

Hostility. This will happen when your spouse suddenly starts seeing changes in you that are not really true. You will hear things like, ‘nowadays you have changed or you are not the same person i married’.

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This maybe a reason of the spouse has found someone else that he or she is comparing you to. At times the spouse can start an argument unnecessarily just to make you mad for no good reason.

Using phone in private. This starts when you will notice that your spouse now receives their phones outside the house or in privacy. This includes passwords on their phones that were earlier not on their phones. If you also notice that your spouse now deletes messages and emails more regularly then they are probably hiding something from you.

Tokeo la picha la how to tell your spouse is cheating

 

Fishy conference meetings. It is okay for your spouse to go for meetings or business conferences. When the spouse starts going for more and more trips especially during holidays and working more till late nights then something is fishy somewhere or they are hiding someone from you. It may be a sign that they are seeing someone else.

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When your partner avoids cheating topic once tabled. At times you may spend time with your spouse taking about your relationship. You will notice that they are trying to avoid talking about the same at all costs. You might also find some funny texts from unknown numbers in their phone which may not be pleasing at all. If they respond like, ‘if u trusted me’ and such responses know that they probably hiding or lying about something.

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Faded emotional intimacy. During the first days of the relationship it is always working for everybody. The relationship is at its peak and at this point the couple is doing everything in a more romantic and intimate way to keep the bonding warm. Your partner will be appreciating you at all costs and for each thing you do. If you notice that your partner has lost interest in you or is less intimate with you than before then something might be wrong somewhere. Tokeo la picha la how to tell your spouse is cheating

It maybe that they have found someone else or having an affair with another partner.

 

More ways:

A list of Presidents who have cheated on their spouses

Have you watched the movie The Good Wife? If not, make some time this weekend and you will understand where I’m coming from with this article.

The movie portrays a woman who faces public humiliation after her state attorney husband is outed for political corruption and other personal scandals.

 

Here is a list of Presidents who cheated on their spouses.

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 Bill Clinton – Though she usually stays hush-hush about their marriage, she’s opened up on a few rare occasions, including on one episode of The Tyra Banks Show. Claiming she’s never doubted that her husband loves her, and crediting her resilience to her faith, she told Tyra, “I really had to dig down deep and think hard about what was right for me, what was right for my family.” Hillary’s advice to other spouses in her situation? “You have to do what is right for you — and that may not be what anybody else believes.”

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 Nelson Mandela

Their marriage endured his and hers incaceration.

Two years after walking out of Victor Verster Prison in 1990, Mandela announced that he was seeking a divorce from Madikizela-Mandela. She was having an affair with a younger colleague, Dali Mpofu, he said.

But the couple’s problems ran deeper, Mandela said. His wife only entered his bedroom when he was asleep. They had barely spoken in months. And since his release from prison, he had been “the loneliest man.”

 Silvio Berlusconi

Berlusconi, 72, was at the centre of a media storm pressuring him to explain his relationship with 18-year-old Noemi Letizia.

The flamboyant billionaire met the pretty blonde when she was 17 and attended her coming-of-age party, offering her a gold and diamond necklace priced at 6 000 euros. The estranged wife responded saying “I have always loved Berlusconi and I built my life around my marriage and my family,” said Lario

 Nicholas Sarkozy

Their marital drama took centre stage in 2010. The rumour that they were both cheating started on Twitter, then to blogs and websites everywhere.

 John  F Kennedy
John F. Kennedy remains one of America’s most respected and admired presidents more than forty years after his assassination.
In his book the Dark Side of Camelot, writer Seymour Hersh alleged the late loved too many women. The book described in detail Kennedy’s womanizing. Hersh relayed how Kennedy frequently used the Secret Service to help him smuggle women — it was often more than one — into the White House for daily trysts.

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‘I caught him cheating with a 16 year old yet I am pregnant for him’ Racheal

A Kenyan woman has learnt the hard way that it is not only death that can separate a man and a wife. Another woman can be the deal breaker.

*Racheal * is heartbroken after catching her husband sleeping with a neighbors daughter.

I caught my husband sleeping with our neighbors daughter in his car this night, I am 5 months pregnant. It was the most disgusting sight ever in my life.

I noticed he was not in the room and his phone was charging , so I called him but no answer.

‘My arrogant house help is pregnant for my husband’ Cries city woman

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I don’t know what took my outside to his car then I decided to pick up my favorite cd I was playing in his car, but first I went for the car keys and did not see it.

So I rushed out to the car to be sure I did not leave it open and I saw the car shaking.

I was scared at first be I felt someone was about to steal and move the car so I rushed and grabbed the car door handle.

They were foolish enough not to lock so I saw them.

Racheal adds that she feels betrayed because she is pregnant.

All I did was pick a few clothes and left to my friends house as my husband chased me around  naked.

I feel like dying because I can’t endure this pain. I can’t sleep I had to block him so he won’t kill my battery.

Is it too late to abort this child and pick up my life ? This girl he was sleeping with is just 15 or 16 years old.

What advice would you give Racheal?

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‘Karma has caught up with me for sleeping with married men’ Cries woman

An article published in a local newspaper has left many in shock.

According to the article, a lodging owner earns Sh84,000 per day by providing bedding services to couples, when business is slow.

Well Maina Kageni was left wondering why men always say they do not have money yet according to the article on Standard, men pay sh1500 per hour entertaining women in lodgings.

That is minus drinks and other expenses.

 

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A black couple on a date

According to Mwalimu King’ang’i, it depends on how a woman asks for money from her man, adding that if you nag and shout you will definitely get nothing.

A female caller confessed that years ago she used to date married men who spoilt her with loads of cash, but now her husband spends cash on other women instead.

‘5 years ago I was the side chick and I would get everything I wanted. Karma has caught up with me.

My husband does not come home, he does not give me money yet I lost my job two months ago.

He does not come home from Monday to Thursday. I only see him on Friday and only when he decides to come.

I never used to care whether the men I dated were married or not.

I know my man is cheating on me but I can only tell young women that Karma is a b#tch.

 

Another caller adds

Women should know that these guys are very cunning they make sure they are with their wife’s on weekends and spend time with mipango wa kando on weekends.

Every time I ask my husband for school fees he usually starts bringing issues of kwani where do I take my salary.

Once he steps out I usually know he is not mine but once he comes back he is mine.

If I ever catch him cheating that will be the end of the road.

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‘Are you still married?’ People share the weirdest texts received from an ex

Getting a text from your ex is never a good thing – they’re either desperate for an ego boost or want more than just a cuddle while watching Netflix.

That’s why this funny Instagram account Text from your ex is so relatable  –  collating various text messages from ex-partners from all over the world.

With over 2,000 posts and 2.6 million followers it seems that many of us can relate to the ex dilemma.

Some posts show just how rude ex boyfriends can be, while others hilariously show the put downs we probably should have used when our ex last text us.

The saying below proves that the statement below is one that runs through the minds of many.

I don’t have ex’s I have Y’s ,Like Y the hell did I date you?

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Below are the texts people have ever received from their exes.

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Another man learns the hard way what the definition of an ex means after being slammed.

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If you think you are having a bad day think of this person whose ex courageously confirmed she has been stalking him.

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‘My wife caught me in bed with my neighbors daughter’ Cries city man

A Kenyan man has been left licking his ego after he was caught by his wife in bed with his neighbors daughter. He is contemplating suicide.

The man who was identified as *James* shared his predicament with a local radio station saying that he is sorry about the mess he has created.

*James* says

The devil got into me and I slept with my neighbors daughter , the eyes saw and the body liked and my wife caught me in the act.

My wife went away to her sister’s place and efforts to reach them have been futile. I  only slept with my neighbors daughter once.

We did this in our matrimonial bed.

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Young couple in bed, looking away from each other
Young couple in bed, looking away from each other

I heard the door being knocked and on opening the door I met my wife standing at the door, at that moment I wished that the world would swallow me.

My wife and I have been married for the last seven years.

I have already written a suicide note because I feel I have reached my end. I only wish she can forgive me.

On being told that her husband has threatened to commit suicide, the wife says

He is late, he should actually hurry the process. It is the first time and I do not want to talk to him.

Chuma yake iko motoni and I am going back to that house he should wait for what awaits him.

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According to a study, there are many reasons why married people cheat. Upwards of 40 percent of married couples are impacted by infidelity, and despite the high percentage, most people—even those who stray—will say that cheating is wrong.

Risk factors such as personality disorders and childhood issues, as well as opportunities such as social media and poor boundaries, can increase the chance that one of these reasons will actually lead to some type of affair.

Frustration in the marriage is one common trigger—the cheater may make several attempts to solve problems to no avail. Maybe she had second thoughts about getting married or he was jealous over the attention given to a new baby and neither had the skill set to communicate these feelings.

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Husbands and wives reveal the BRUTAL SECRETS they keep from each other

 

 

A number of married people have revealed the biggest secrets they keep from their spouse.

As part of its Marriage: An Investigation series, The Cut asked a total of 16 married people to reveal the deepest, darkest secrets they keep from their partners.

Not knowing what their partner does for a living, despising their mother-in-law and stealing money from their significant other were among the responses given to the publication.

43-year-old Anton, who has been married for five years, said he never told his wife how much he loved the woman he cheated on her with.

He said: ‘My wife knows I had an affair, but doesn’t know how much I loved the woman I cheated on her with.’

Married for 40 years, Laurel, 65, said she regularly steals money from her husband without him knowing.

‘I’ve always stolen small amounts of cash from my husband and hidden it. I once got up to $1,300 and bought a couch,’ she said.

Another respondent, Vincent, who has been married for 18 years, said he ‘stalks’ his partner’s emails, texts, and bank account.

‘On some days I follow her every move,’ the 60-year-old added.

Another respondent, Panos, said they lied about the cost of their wedding.

The 39-year-old, who has been married for just two years, said: ‘I lied to my husband about how much our wedding cost. It cost close to six figures. He thinks it cost half that.’

‘I buy and sell things on eBay all night while she’s sleeping,’ 35-year-old Avi revealed about his partner of six years.

A reoccurring theme in some of the respondents’ answers revolved around their loves lives.

‘I don’t tell my husband how many pregnancy tests I take each month. We’ve been trying to get pregnant for two years, and I take the tests compulsively,’ 33-year-old Andrea, who has been married for seven years, said.

Alexa, 30, who has been married to her partner for two years, said: ‘I pretend I have a seven-day period so I can avoid sex a little longer.’

‘When we met, I told my mother and sister and all my friends about his big penis,’ added a respondent named Carolina, 55, who has been married for 20 years. 

50-year-old Jeff said he ‘despises’ his wife’s mother, while Dana, 43, said she ‘refuses’ to tell her husband about a threesome she had.

Dana, who has been married for six years, said:

‘I refuse to tell my husband the details of my threesome. I won’t say who it was with, or when it was, other than it was before we met.’

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Women reveal their worst kept secrets

Whether it’s for the sake of harmony or saving someone from feeling hurt, there are times when couples need to tell a small white lie.

And while both man and woman can be guilty of this, women recently confessed to some of the secrets they’ve been hiding from their partners.

One woman, Lola, 35, revealed how for the first eight years of her relationship she’d made every effort to pretend to like her partner’s family and friends.

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She said that pretense had now gone by the wayside and now she’s content to be considered ‘just a mad b*tch’.

Another says

“I discovered my husband of eight years had cheated on me. I was devastated, humiliated, and disgusted.

As we worked through our issues, I decided to sign up for Ashley Madison, the cheating website, and went on a six-month s3x bender. It was the best secret revenge ever! He still doesn’t know I’m active on the website.”

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Just when you think you have heard enough another confesses

“[With my first husband] I faked it every time to get him to feel like he had done his job. If I didn’t he would probably still be on top of me!

With my second husband, I just faked it from the start. I didn’t want him to keep working at it because I knew it wasn’t going to do any good.”

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Another woman confesses that she had to open up about being bis3xual

“I was afraid of how he would respond and that he wouldn’t want me anymore. About four years into the relationship, I finally came out to him because I felt like I wasn’t living authentically.

I couldn’t be me, and I realized I needed to be honest with him and myself. He took it a lot better than I expected and we stayed together for a few years before ultimately breaking up.”

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7 reasons why women cheat on their spouses

The drama between Vera Sidika and Otile Brown has us sipping cups of tea.

From cheating allegations, to poor bedminton skills. Kenyans have been treated to too much information.

Here are some reasons why women may cheat on their husbands:

  1. Poor bedmington skillls

Women like bragging about their men’s skills in bed. If your girlfriend does not, you have all the reason to get worried. You should take action before it’s too late. Boring s3x is one of the biggest reasons why women cheat.

  1. Fear of break up

Most ladies confessed to this. A large percentage of the ladies have multiple relationships just in case one goes sour or flops. No one wants to go through a huge heartbreak and in this case women tend to protect their hearts through building a sense of security through this other relationship

  1. Competition

This is a problem, especially to the women who are dating “beautiful men”. These type of men draw a lot of attention especially from the other opposite gender. This raises suspicion and mistrust in their women and if a women feels insecure she finds other alternatives.

  1. Lack of emotional connect

Women become easily attached to their men especially where intimacy is concerned. A woman will want to grow together in love with her man. If a relationship lacks the emotional connection, the woman suffers the most. A woman becomes insecure, unhappy, feels uncared for and alone. This is the reason why most women cheat.

  1. A need for change

If a relationship becomes too boring or they go through the same old boring routine, it becomes dangerous especially in marriages. After some few years in marriage, the zeal dies off. This changes the whole perspective of a happy marriage into a boring family life and if nothing is done, the woman will easily fall for any other guy who is passionate with her.

 

  1. Revenge

If you hurt her so bad, she will definitely forgive you but will never forget.  She still will scheme ways to just get back to you even after a decade of apology. She will always try to prove her worth by getting a better man. This is called revenge and is one of the major reasons why women cheat.

 

  1. Financial stabilitya

I know this is one min reasons from the women’s side. Currently, most of the women are in a relationship but still dog out for financial benefits. This might be due to the fact that their partner is jobless or earning peanuts and cannot support them fully. They still keep their partner at bay but still have all these other side dishes.

 

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‘My wife sends money to other men but refused to bail me out while admitted in hospital’ Men narrate why they love their Mpango wa Kando’s to death

Mpango wa Kando’s are here to stay and that is the bitter truth that married women are putting up with.

Men have become more bold with their Mpango’s and hard as it may to believe, most men would rather spend on their mpango’s than on their  wives.

Here is why

“I have a wife and I met her when she was not working. When she got a job her true colors started popping.

She was busy splashing money on other men and relatives and when asked she would answer back by telling me that that is her money.

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I got fed up and decided to look for another woman because she used to use her money out there on her colleague.

The Mpesa transactions were there but what hurt me the most is that one day I was hospitalized and she refused to clear my bill saying that she don’t have money.”

He adds

“My second wife is who bailed me out, and right now my wife is jobless but I do not give a damn about what she goes through.”

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Boys cheat more than girls, in exams – Activist Naomi Cidi

Girls have performed relatively better than boys in the 2017 KCPE exams because there was no cheating, activist Naomi Cidi has said.

While releasing the exam results on Monday, Education CS Fred Matiang’i said there were no recorded cases of irregularities in this year’s exam.

Cidi on Thursday attributed the better performance to the Matiang’i rules which sealed all cheating loopholes.

The political and human rights activist said in an environment where there is cheating, the males thrive better than girls.

“All these rules that Matiang’i has put in place has given us an opportunity to shine,” said Cidi, who spoke to the Star on phone.
Books-Introverts.pngThe top three students in the country in this year’s KCPE exams are girls.

She said she will mobilize all Kilifi women and go round schools rewarding the girls who scored 400 marks and above in the 2017 KCPE exam.

“It will be a Christmas present for the girls,” said Cidi.

She said the performance deserves a celebration because it has not happened in a long time and it should serve as a springboard for more success for women in the country.

The founder of the Coast People Forum said this is also the case in politics.

“This means even the women in politics, if we can be given a free and fair election, believe me we can shine. Examination and elections are always stolen from women,” Cidi said.

Cidi said even though both men and women cheat in both election and exams, the environment of confusion and chaos always disadvantages the women.

“In a level playing field where there is no cheating, chaos and huge sums of money involved, and there is only campaigning and studying, believe me the women will always shine,” said Cidi.

The former Kenya Airports Authority chair said women will thrive in politics if the game is cleaned because they have the potential.

“It is only the fair opportunity that is lacking,” she noted.

Women politicians and activists have been calling for affirmative action to increase the number of women in leadership positions, especially in Parliament.

-The Star/BY BRIAN OTIENO

 

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‘My Husband Is A Chronic Womanizer,’ Cries Frustrated Married Woman

A frustrated married woman has narrated her sad marriage life leaving many shocked. According to this woman, her husband, a father of her child has been mistreating her and he even disrespects her and parents.

She claims her husband has turned into a party animal, is a wife batterer and dates young girls and working-class women. This further claims that she indeed wanted to save her marriage but her husband’s actions speak a lot. Clearly, he doesn’t want anything to do with her again.

Here is her full story. Go through;

“I have been in this marriage for almost 5 years now and God has blessed me with one kid. The sad thing is my husband is frustrating me to leave. He hasn’t verbally asked me to but his actions speak volumes.

My husband is a chronic womanizer who jumps from single ladies to married women. He is also an entrepreneur and we both run the same business but he owns the business. Right under my nose, he dates the young girls and women working for us as long as he likes them.

He doesn’t respect me at all. He beats me up any time I confront him about his illicit affairs. His family is not helping on this matters because they always back him up. The problem now is that he has stopped eating my food and he comes home anytime he likes. I have separated my room from his because of his lifestyle. He has stopped telling me when he is going out and where he is going to. He goes in and out any time he likes and however, he pleases. He has also told me to stop telling him when I am going out.

I’m confused because he doesn’t even see me as his wife again. I have prayed and I have been to several churches for solutions but to no avail. He embarrasses me in the presence of our employees as he wishes. I am no longer finding it funny and he is always telling everyone including his family members that I want to kill and that I am also having affair which is not true.

He doesn’t have any respect for my parents and my family members. He wants to frustrate me to move out on my own so that he can then tell his family and mine that I moved out on my own. I really don’t know what to do, so I need your candid advice to avoid making regrettable mistakes.”

Credits: Motherhoodinstyle