David Beckham Treats His Newly-Single Son Brooklyn, 17, To a Boys’ Night After Chloe Moretz Split

It’s been a tough few weeks for Brooklyn Beckham, 17, after he split from Hollywood actress girlfriend Chloe Moretz at the end of August.

But doting dad David, 41, was on hand to mend the teen’s heartbreak on Tuesday night as he treated his eldest son to a night out at Noel Gallagher’s High Flying Birds gig at London’s Brixton Academy.

The father and son duo both donned white T-shirts and hats, heading in together to enjoy the former Oasis rocker’s performance in the venue. Brooklyn opted for a retro sleeveless Rolling Stones T-shirt, with his trusty black skinny jeans and black suede boots.

The aspiring photographer hid his newly highlighted hair under a slouchy grey wool hat, in spite of the late summer heatwave.

Brooklyn Beckham and David Beckham

David chose a brown cap and pristine white T-shirt for the night, adding a zipped up black bomber later in the evening.

But the night was not to end after the gig, with the former footballer evidently determined to put a smile back on Brooklyn’s face as he took him to an after-party at Tramp nightclub in Mayfair with his best pal Dave Gardner, the fiancé of Liv Tyler.

Brooklyn Beckham and David Beckham

Brooklyn and David have spent the past few months in Los Angeles where the Beckham family own a property.

Brooklyn spent time in New York studying photography and spent plenty of quality time with girlfriend Chloe, 19. Last week, it was revealed that Chloe and Brooklyn had split at the end of August.

The young couple spent much of the summer together, attending premieres and high-profile events as a couple, as well as gushing over their romance on social media.

Brooklyn Beckham and David Beckham

Previously the pair had openly expressed their sadness at being apart from each other – with Brooklyn-based in the UK with his family, and Chloe in Los Angeles.

The couple briefly dated back in 2014, before reuniting earlier this year and finally confirming their romance in May. ‘My boyfriend is a huge support,’ Chloe told Elle.com recently. ‘I mean, don’t get me wrong, I don’t need a man for anything.

Brooklyn Beckham and David Beckham

‘But when I’m feeling bad about myself, he’s like, “Stop. Look at what you say in interviews. Look at what you stand for. ‘Listen to your own words, because you’re as beautiful as you say you are”!’

Since the split Brooklyn has been spending time with friends, and taking his mind off the split practicing his skills at a London skateboard park.

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Keep Your Chin Up: 13 Thoughts To Help You Recover From A Break-Up

As with love at first sight, the pain of rejection affects the same areas of the brain as cocaine.  Love can bring on cocaine-like high in a fifth of a second. Brain wave studies reported by Stephanic Ortigue, Ph.D., identified “the cortical networks associated with passionate love.” But the reaction to the break-up can last for days.  In addition to emotional highs and lows, it can even include symptoms so severe that women in particular may find themselves in the emergency room with symptoms mimicking a heart attack.

Heartbreak pain is triggered by a hormone experienced after the loss of a loved one, a traumatic ending to a love affair, or  divorce. This sends the heart’s pumping ability into a type of freeze mode affecting the left ventricle. Dr. Elizabeth Mostofsky in the cardiovascular epidemiology research unit at Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center in Boston and Harvard explains that after the death of a loved one, the heart-attack risk is 21 times higher within 24 hours.

 After a breakup, long-term couples might feel as if they have lost a sense of self. Research by Dr. Celia Harris and colleagues at Macquarie University found that in terms of remembering by long term couples may develop interconnected or collaborative memories such as the names of musicals, vivid descriptions. Even if you are in a short term relationship, being left alone can  trigger anger, pain, and sadness. What is the solution?

13 Tips to Overcome Break-up Blues

After a breakup, even if you initiated the good-bye, you may find yourself crying more than usual and wishing you could crawl under the covers and stay there.  On the other hand, you may want to reach out to your friends and complain bitterly.  You may feel that you can never love again.  But love is always possible.  Here are some thoughts:

1. Start your days with gratitude:  By expressing gratitude you remind yourself of the good times you shared and how you have been freed to find a love who values you, a love whom you value.

2. Resist the temptation to talk unkindly about your ex-love: Speaking kindly will encourage you to maintain a positive focus.

3. Practice image replacement: If you find yourself feeling alone and falling into a dark hole, find a photo of yourself when you were happy and in love.  Focus on the inner you, the person you know to be lovable and deserving of new love.

4. Consider social media: If you go to a social media site and see someone who interests you, connect and be positive rather than recounting all the reasons for your recent break-up. Smile broadly and flirt.

5. Try using a gratitude journal:  Research from Gary Lewandowski (2009) has found that writing about positive aspects of a break-up increases feelings such as comfort, confidence, empowerment, energy, happiness, optimism, relief, satisfaction, thankfulness, and wisdom.

6. Be careful about expectations: When you meet someone new, be careful that you do not impose expectations upon the person. For example, if you wanted a more loving relationship because your previous relationship lacked warmth, do not see a romantic in someone who simply squeezes your hand.  And also watch for too much by way of public displays of affection.

7. Make a new relationship checklist:  Know the qualities you would like in a new partner. Think in terms of weighted averages.  If you find a new person who has everything you ever wanted on your wish list, but he/she is married for example, that one factor outweighs all the positives and that person should come off the list.

8. Guard against repeating the past:  A new person may have a different profession or different looks, but still have certain traits or characteristics of your past love, traits that precipitated a break-up. Look beyond looks.

9. Hug and be hugged:  Research has shown the value of hugs. If you have a friend in your life who gives good hugs — extend your arms, reach out, and ask.  That person may not be “the one” for you, or even “the one for now.”  However, the warm and loving arms of someone who is sensitive and caring by nature is like the sunshine – a little goes a long way.

10. Remain open to infatuation or even love at first sight with a careful eye: Keep in mind that you want a new friend or a new relationship rather than becoming what one friend refers to as “another notch on the bedpost of life.”

11. Make plans with friends who are upbeat, those who will encourage you to smile and embrace a new life about to unfold before you.

12. Embrace laughter: Before brooding about “alone on the holidays call a friend who makes you laugh until your sides ache. Keep in mind that laughter is attractive to both sexes.

13. Try mindfulness exercises: In “Three Mindfulness Exercises to Improve Your dating Life,” Ken Page who writes “Finding Love” at PsychologyToday.com advocates approaching dating as an adventure of self-discovery.
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Does Your EX Want To Be Friends? Here’s How To Deal With Them

Breakups are one of the toughest things that you have to deal with. No one is ever prepared for it at any point no matter how bad the relationship was. It drains you emotionally and physically, some people choose to party to ease the pain, others choose to drink, while others choose to cry themselves until they become numb.

Once you break up, your ex might want to be friends with you. Question is do you want to and can you deal with being “just friends” with someone you once shared your life with?

If you ever find yourself in this situation and you don’t really want to be friends and want to distance yourself from your ex, here are four ways to do so:

1. Cut the communication, even if it’s hard – When you still keep the communication with your ex, chances are, he’s going to assume you’re still into him. If you cut the communication off and keep the no-contact rule alive, he may think twice.

2. Don’t reply – I know you can’t resist replying to his texts, especially if you miss him too. But in order to stop the feeling and move on, focus on something that keeps you busy, like writing, going to parties, hanging out with your best buds or simply going to the gym.

3. Don’t show him you miss him – Even if you do miss him, don’t show it. If your ex is cocky, chances are, he’s going to use that fact against you to have you wrapped around his finger again. Do not give him the opportunity to waste you like an old burger he’s accustomed to eating. Be like the five-star cuisine he barely eats.

4. Even if he shows you he still cares, don’t let your guard down ever again – Despite all the things he did to you, you will still love him. Don’t ever let your guard down, though. If you do, you’ll go back to the first step in the moving on process again and again, until he gets used to it. He’ll think you are just going to forgive him, even if he messes up one more time.

These tips may not work immediately they will take time so don’t beat yourself about it or be too hard on yourself.

-Elitedaily

He was so into you … and then he wasn’t, here are reasons why

We’ve all rented a room or two at the “Heartbreak Hotel,” maybe even on more than one occasion. Sometimes, we say that we didn’t see the breakup coming (even when it’s approaching like a raging bull wearing a neon green shirt and pressing a blow horn). Other times, they truly do appear out of nowhere; everything was fine, until suddenly … it wasn’t.

No matter how a breakup comes about, they usually have something in common — three secret reasons your ex is likely hiding — secrets that keep him from fully expressing how he feels. You may think: No way … this isn’t the case. Not my guy! Your man was sensitive, open, and cried at the movies. But, all men struggle with these issues, which confuse them and cause them to bolt.

Understanding these issues can help you get over a bad breakup … or, possibly help you get your ex back. Here are the three secret reasons men break up with really great women:

1. He felt pressured and inadequate
Were you constantly chasing him? Did you want more love, affection, or sex than what he was doling out? Did you feel like you were frequently trying to “fix” things in the relationship?

If you can identify with any of these, there was definitely an imbalance in your relationship, and more than likely he felt pressured and inadequate in your presence. And it’s important that you know … that’s not at all your fault.

Most men run from emotional pressure like they’re running for their lives (because, in their minds, they are running for their lives). Emotional pressure challenges the underdeveloped part of a man’s masculinity and makes him feel ill-equipped to deal. In his mind, he feels like anything he does isn’t (and never will be) good enough for you. This causes men to naturally shut down and lock their hearts up like Fort Knox, rather than deal with any more feelings of pressure or inadequacy.

2. Your relationship felt competitive

If a man has to compete with a woman for control of the relationship, he not only feels inadequate, but also like there’s no place for his masculinity in his woman’s life. Keep this in mind: it’s very important.

This isn’t to say that a man should control the entire relationship, that’s unfair to both parties. Rather, a successful relationship has complementary forces where each person relinquishes control in certain areas. If this doesn’t happen, both parties end up in competition — both compete to win and, in the end, the relationship loses. This dynamic shows up in scenarios like these:

In a social context with friends! Did the two of you get in arguments about who was “right” in front of friends?​
Financially, who is the breadwinner? Did you make more money than him? And more importantly, was it ever brought up in a way that emasculated him? Relationally, did you constantly make the decisions in the relationship? Where to eat, what fun things to do, or what movies to attend? If he felt like you were against him instead of for him, he never felt fully capable of opening his heart because he was afraid of losing the “game” and getting hurt.

3. He didn’t feel respected
A man can’t build a life with a woman who doesn’t respect him. He has to feel that his partner has his back above and beyond anyone else — he must know that in his weakest moment, she will shower him with acceptance. Because, you see, here is the hidden truth about your value: you are the key to his greatness.

In order for him to unlock all that he has within him, including his tenderness and willingness to commit, he needs a deep and underlying foundation of respect. With a high caliber woman by his side he can take greater risks in life and actually experience more freedom than ever possible by himself.

So now that you know the reasons why he left, how do you start to get him back? It’s time to reflect and begin to take immediate action to rectify the situation if you still truly love him. Once you know how to breakthrough his defenses and touch the deepest part of his heart, he’ll feel an overwhelming calm and trust that you truly (finally) get him.

-Your Tango

These Are Five Emotional Stages To A Breakup

Breaking up is not easy and no one wants to go through that pain. However when it happens before it finally sinks in, there is a process that one goes through.

At first it will seem unreal before you finally accept your new status, here are the five steps:

1. DenialThat did not just happen. cannot believe we broke up. I thought he was on the verge of proposing!Maybe he was just joking about not wanting to see each other anymore? Maybe this was all a dream. In fact, he’s probably going to come through my door any minute, ready to apologize, dozens of roses firmly in hand. Possibly even propose! What a story to tell our future grandchildren! “Yes!” I’ll tell him. “I do! Yes! Yes!! YES!!!”

2. Anger– No. I don’t. He didn’t. No. No! NO! He did not come to the door, dozens of roses firmly in hand. He didn’t even come to the door empty-handedHow could he do this to me? How dare he?! Doesn’t he know how lucky he was to be dating someone like me?

3. Bargaining – was pretty lucky to date him, too. I’m going to get him back. I just have to send a sweet little email to tell him that it’s okay, I forgive him, and that he can come back now. I won’t even yell at him. (That much.) That carefully-worded email didn’t get a response. Nothing. Nada. Zilch. That’s weird. I just have to send him a sweet little text to let him know that it’s okay, I forgive him, and that he can come back now. I will probably yell at him, but I don’t have to tell him that in the text.

4. Depression – I’m not going to get him back. He’s not coming back. I’m going to be alone forever; I’m going to die alone. Everyone is going to get married except for me.  I don’t even have a plus one to bring to parties anymore. I guess it’s time to take up knitting like my old Aunt Zelda who was the family’s old maid. Now I will take over that throne. Oh wait, she’s still alive, so I can’t even take over the throne. Great, I don’t have a boyfriend and I’m not even special enough to be the only spinster in my family! Why, cruel world? WHY?!

5. Acceptance – I’m not going to get him back, and that’s okay. I’m going to enjoy single life for now — I can sleep diagonally on the bed, I can watch whatever movie I want to on weekends, and I control the TV remote. I choose what to have for dinner every night. I can go wherever I want, whenever I want, because I’m totally, blissfully unencumbered. The time will come when I’m married with kids and I have responsibilities, but for now, I’m not, so I’m going to enjoy it. I’m going to do all those things I always said I wanted to do, but never had time for because of him: getting into a good yoga practice, taking jewelry making classes, and joining my neighbor’s book club.

-Popsugar

Ways to end an “unofficial” relationship

Breaking up is hard to do whether the relationship was official or not. One of the parties will always be hurt more.

So what happens when you want to break up after you have lost interest in your “friend” after a few hooks up and hanging out? Maybe you do not want to talk about it and would really want to move forward?

There are several ways to break up an “unofficial relationship”:

Ghosting – Ever went out with someone a couple of times only to have them disappear? That phenomenon is known as ghosting. While this is an easy (and cowardly) way out, it’s acceptable if you’ve only been out a couple of times. If you haven’t been out that much with this other person and you don’t respond to their messages or calls, eventually you both can move on.

The Fade Away – The fade away is a slow burn type of break off. You’re not actually breaking up, because you were never really together. You’re not completely disappearing on a person, but you’re not making yourself available either. You start to reply to texts later and later, creating wider and wider gaps in communication. You just hope that things taper off. You’re leading someone on by not being direct. But it’s socially acceptable to use the fade away method if you’ve only been seeing someone for a short period of time.

Tapping Out – A quick text or call letting them know you’re no longer interested in pursuing this, is a direct and considerate way to end your unofficial relationship. You’re honest, strong, and sympathetic to the other person’s time and options. You’re tapping out for someone they have a better chance at connecting with. Hopefully, they’ll agree.

The “We Need To Talk” line- When you’ve made things official (as in boyfriend-girlfriend), a “we need to talk” conversation is the least you can do to break things off. Preferably you have this conversation in person, and are kind and compassionate with the person on the receiving end. Make sure to go in with a game plan. Don’t leave things open-ended or talk each other out of continuing a dead end relationship. You both deserve bigger and better things.

No matter which method you use, be clear in your decision to end things. Do not give false hope. Don’t offer friendship if you’d prefer to remain strangers. Don’t lie and don’t try to protect their feelings more than is necessary. They need to know the truth. That’s the end game here: above all else, end a relationship with honesty and empathy.

How to move on after a break up

Whatever the reason for breaking-up, it doesn’t make sense for you to wallow in sorrow for the rest of your life.

It’s ok to have some time to cry and get over the pain, but it’s more important to think about you and how you will move forward.

Clear you baggage – When you break up there is a lot of baggage that comes with it depending on how long you had been dating. Your baggage will mainly be caused by mixed emotions from anger, resentment, pain, sadness, regret etc. You will need to accept what has happened and let it go. It will not come easy or fast but once you accept the situation it will be easier to handle it and move forward.

Talk to a friend – This is easier for women as they have a group of girlfriends that they talk to about everything. However for men it is hard as most of them prefer to just deal with the emotions alone. It’s advisable to get a close friend with whom you are free with to talk to and express yourself. They may not lessen the pain, however by expressing your feelings it makes it a bit easier for you, as you let your pain out.

Pray – Whatever power you believe in pray, not only because you are weak but because there is a healing power in prayer. Plus it is also a form of therapy as you let out your fears and emotions with no fear of judgment.

Reduce contact with your ex- You broke up for a reason and as such the less the contact the better and faster for you to move on. Unless you have business that you do together keep away for as much as you can. Staying in touch will make it harder for you to move on.

Seek closure – You can ask your partner for your own peace of mind what were the reasons behind what happened. This will be painful as you are bound to be opening wounds that will take time to heal, but it will make it easier as you will learn from whatever it is that brought upon the break up.

Forgive – It will be difficult but it will give you peace. Forgive your ex-partner and move on with your life as holding on to resentment will do you no good.

Get hobbies – Go out and do what you love, be it swimming, dancing, travelling , hanging out with friends etc. It will get your mind off the stressful situation and besides it will be an opportunity to meet and build new networks. This will help relax your mind.

The Author, Ms. Chituyi is a relationship expert.

Funny break up memes

Break ups can be nasty depending on the people involved and how they deal with it. Many people try as much as possible to make it smooth but in most cases it doesn’t always work as planned.

With the increased use of technology, its not a surprise that memes are created for anything, break ups included. Below we will share some of the funniest, corniest  breakup memes around.

Some of the memes even explain what break up lines mean. See below:

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Man ordered by court to pay his ex-girlfriend after break-up

A man in Britain has been ordered to pay his ex-girlfriend £28,500(Sh4.1m) in a landmark ruling for unmarried couples because he promised her ‘the security a wife would have’.

David Southwell, 55, said he had never envisaged marrying Catherine Blackburn and had never promised her anything when they began their relationship in 2000.

The court heard the businessman had paid for the £240,000 home they shared in Droitwich, Worcestershire, and also covered the £100,000 mortgage, intending it should always stay in his name alone.

But the court heard Miss Blackburn and her two daughters were left stranded after the acrimonious break-down of their relationship in 2012.

Ruling on the case last year, Judge Daniel Pearce-Higgins QC said that Mr Southwell was ‘shrewd, cautious and guarded’ and had not wanted to marry Miss Blackburn because he knew what she would be able to claim should they break up.

Now a judge has ruled Mr Southwell, a claims handler, should give Miss Blackburn a £28,500 stake in the property to uphold his previous promise of security.

Handling a break up, the ladies way

Wake up, go to work, come back home, then find a guy-friend to go for a party and then repeat the same sequence of events the next day — that was 23-year-old Neeta Dave’s schedule for more than four months immediately after she had a break-up last year.

“My relationship of three-and-half years didn’t work out, so I didn’t want to leave any time for myself to think about it and be depressed. I tried to accommodate so much in a day that it leaves no room for any thoughts about it,” says Neeta.

Just like Neeta, many women end up taking a lot of steps to handle a broken relationship — irrespective of who took the shots, them or their partner.

Here is what women do in their attempt to move on after a relationship fall’s apart.

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