Tips: 10 ways for ladies to get over a breakup

It is normal to fall in love and be in a relationship. The problem comes when you break up and you find it difficult to get over it. Here are some of the ways to get over a breakup easily;

Tokeo la picha la breakup


Rebound. After the breakup, look for a strange person if you are comfortable with it. The guy should be an upgrade from your ex and don’t be in a rush with it. Spend time with him and talk about social matters, be good friends. This will probably help you forget about the past experience that you had.

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Create an ex-free environment. When in a relationship, we tend to create good memories which includes taking photos and buying each other gifts. This is important as it helps you remember about your ex. When you have broken up with your ex, it necessary to avoid or do away with anything that makes you remember what you had. Avoid visiting the places that you used to visit together during your happy moments, cooking their best meals, watching their favorites movies and also do away with all the gifts and anything that relates to them.

Avoid giving your relationship details to social media. This includes updating all your relationship statuses to your facebook walls. Once you breakup with the same person it will be hard to accept the fact that all those memories were all in vain as it is done. Once you delete the photos and all that you will make people curious into investigating your personal life.

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Avoid his friends and family. Meeting his friends and family will not only brig memories back but also make high chances of you two meeting. If invited to parties with his friends avoid going because you are likely to meet him there. It will be more hurting especially if he moved on already and you still have feelings.

Don’t blame yourself. Once you break up have it in mind that the mistake did not involve you alone, both of you. It may be that you messed up but it again involves two parties. When you start blaming yourself, you will  probably never get over it. Stay as positive as you can, and that everything happens for a reason.

Cry. This is one way of letting your feelings out. You may be so hurt that you just want to scream your lungs out. If that makes you feel better then it’s allowed for you to do so. You will notice that after crying you will be somehow relieved.

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Don’t be friends with him. At times you may feel that you cannot be without him hence you opt for friendship. This will never help as you may find one party wants to be more than friends yet the other is not interested at all because they found a new bae. You need to forget your past and carry on with life.

Cut your conversation with your ex. This involves contact, and not following them on all social media platforms. This will prevent you from stalking them online.

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Do not talk bad about them. This should be avoided especially when you are sharing your experience with your friends. Sometimes they can have pity on you making you to feel even more hurt that you never deserved the heartbreak.

Do not talk about your ex to your current. At times you may argue with your boyfriend and be like,’ my ex used to do this, my ex used to tell me that’, This shows that you have not yet given up on your past. This can also put your current relationship at risk because no one likes to be compared with exes.

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‘I pay my 38 year old boyfriend’s rent, school fees, I am only 26’ Cries woman

A woman has learnt her lesson the hard way after being played by a man she has been funding, all in the name of love.

She is now heartbroken she says.

Not only has she been paying his rent, school fees, shopping but she also warms his bed. The sad thing is that she is younger than he is.

I was dating this man who is 38 yrs now and am 26yrs old, we’ve been dating for over a year now but he ended the relationship for some reasons best known to him.

All the while I was dating him, I was the one giving because he doesn’t know. When I love, I love for who you are not what you are.

I paid his rent, school fees etc and always take him out for shopping, dinner, bought an iPhone X for him when he had no phone and always pray for him.

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I have never asked him for any money for the one year we dated. I’m going through heartbreak right now.

All I wanted was to build my life with him. I always complain about his inconsistency and he said he’ll change.

Three months I didn’t see him and I asked him what’s wrong,

He said he is going through some challenges now and he needs God’s help only. I asked him about the challenges he refused to disclose it to me. 

She adds

I am heart broken, what else will a man ask for that I haven’t given to him. I’m submissive to him. I’ve been trying to move on but I can’t.

I can’t fall in love again. I feel used and betrayed by him. Without me he won’t graduate from university.

I paid his school fees and accommodation fees in school also his shop rent.

I’m lost and my heart is broken. 

Do I dump him for going silent on him for three months or should I give him a second chance.

What would you advice the woman to do? Put your answer in the comment section tuone vile tutamsaidia.

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Is Dr Ofweneke’s Estranged Baby Mama Nicah Talking About His VIOLENT Lifestyle In This Cryptic Post? (PHOTO)

Celebrated comedian Dr Ofweneke and his ex-fiancée Nicah The Queen have been the talk of the town after they revealed that they had actually separated after years of what seemed like a healthy relationship.

The former love birds were at some point inseparable and during their time together, they were blessed with a daughter, though Nicah had another girl from a previous relationship.

Dr Ofweneke real name Sande Bush was the first one to confirm that he was no longer dating the beautiful gospel singer, which prompted her to come out and reveal the truth about the real reason the engagement was called off.


Nicah claims Ofweneke was violent towards her and had on several occasions physically abused her but she had opted to stay in the relationship because she thought he would change his abusive ways.

The two called it quits in September 2016 and now that their secret is out in the open, they seem to be dealing with the pain in different ways.

Dr Ofweneke is still on the grind but recently he was caught on video highly intoxicated  and was spotted being escorted out of the entertainment spot by a friend. Looks like he’s not dealing with the breakup too well.

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Nicah has deleted all her photos from Instagram, after people came out to criticize her, but as do all celebrities she returned to share a few distressed and at times encouraging posts on her social media.

But this time round, she seems to be attacking her ex and baby daddy, with a cryptic post that reads: “People have to pretend you’re a bad person so that they don’t feel guilty about the things they did to you.”

Well, is she talking about how Dr Ofweneke hit her and never admitted or apologized for it. Well, check out the post below and be the judge.