Take heart Ruth Matete – These other celebs have also experienced grief and loss

Ruth Matete has gone through so much pain this year that I can’t even begin to contemplate how bad it has been for her.

For her, Covid-19 is most likely a footnote in 2020, the bigger story for the gospel singer is that she lost her husband BelovedJohn Apewajoy barely four months after they had gotten married.

The similarities between Ruth Matete’s new song, “Damu Yako” ]] “It is well with my soul”

That event while tragic was made much worse after the Nigerian government prevented her from burying John, only allowing her to do so, 3 months after his untimely death.

Ruth took a break from social media to try and mourn in private, only emerging last month to update her fans on her progress.

Ruth who is pregnant with the late John’s son shared a heart-rending message yesterday. Ruth explained how tough the experience had been for her saying that she believed that she might have been taking a long time in the mourning phase.

“Truth is some days are very hard. When death knocks at your door, there’s nothing you can do. Some days, voices in my head tell me am taking too long in this mourning phase.”

But Ruth has promised herself that she will not be too hard on herself vowing to be patient in her journey.

I patiently wait for the day God will heal me totally. But then again, some days I doubt if this kind of pain can totally heal. So I ask God to give me a new heart instead. Till then, I’ll smile when God gives me a chance to. I will laugh when God allows me to. But above all, I will keep serving Him.

Ruth’s journey with grief mirrors some other prominent celebs who have also undergone the loss of a loved one. Some other celebs who have gone through harrowing experiences with loss are below;

Size 8 and Dj Mo

The couple had a miscarriage in late 2018 that threatened to harm the integrity of their marriage. Dj Mo said that they made sure they didn’t blame each other over the loss although they said the pain was too much.

Grace Ekirapa

The Crossover101 host has narrated how tough it was for her to lose her mother while she was still a young girl, saying that her mom who died nearly two decades ago had left a void that she couldn’t ever fill.

Willis Raburu and Maryaprude Raburu

Raburu and his then-wife Marya lost their baby girl on January 1st, 2020. That loss would be the beginning of the unraveling of their relationship.

The two are currently no longer together and one would be hard-pressed to give a reason for the break-up other than the grief they experienced after they lost their child.

Tedd Josiah

The experienced veteran music producer lost his wife and mother to his baby girl in October 2017. Since then, Josiah has mourned and remembered his late wife Regina Katar in numerous posts, showing that every person has their own way of dealing with loss.

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The similarities between Ruth Matete’s new song, “Damu Yako” ]] “It is well with my soul”

If I was to surmise Ruth Matete in one word, it would be, resilient. The singer has gone through a roller-coaster life that has seen her experience such crazy highs but also some of the deepest lows that would have broken some.

The dark-skinned singer has had probably the toughest year in her life, losing her husband and soon to be father of her first-born son in April.

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The number 9 symbolizes divine completeness or conveys the meaning of finality. Christ died at the 9th hour of the day. In this 9th month of the year, just as Christ died and overcame death at the 9th hour, you too shall overcome whatever battles you're facing, in the name of Jesus Christ. I know it's been hard. It's been tough! You have cried your eyes out. Experienced such excruciating pain. But that's because the gestation period is over!!! Oh my! my! The water is about to break!!! And you're about to give birth!! I promise you, that if you can only endure the pain, you'll enjoy the gain!! It's gonna be worth it!! Welcome to September. The month of completeness. The month of finality. #completeness #finality #newbirth #happynewmonth

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The couple had been married from late 2019 and seemed to be the dream couple but fate wasn’t on their side as her husband, BelovedJohn Apewajoy passed away due to injuries he suffered after a tragic gas explosion in their home.

Ruth took a break from social media and who could blame her for she had gone through a terrible patch in her life. But after her long period of mourning, the always smiling singer is finally ready to move on.

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One day I asked God why me, and He asked me who I would wish to go through it in my stead. That's when I stopped asking why me and instead asked God to show me the reason why He allowed me to face it. Because I know nothing catches Him by surprise. And all things work together for good, to those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. It's a few months since my late husband went to be with his maker, and I can candidly tell you, that I now understand why God allowed me to go through it. Do I still cry? Yes. But it gets better with time. I have made up my mind not to waste my pain. God must and will be glorified through my pain. Kindly subscribe to my YouTube channel. Link on bio. Thank you😊 #boldandcandidwithruthmatete #PstRuthMatete #ButGod

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And she has been making strides from the month of August, rejoining social media and speaking to her fans and followers.

“God must and will be glorified through my pain!” Widowed Ruth Matete speaks

But that’s not all, Ruth has been hard in the studio making music! Yes, you read that right! The singer showed off her new song on her Instagram page which dealt with her pain, frustrations and how God came through for her at her hour of need.

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I wrote this song amidst alot of pain and confusion. I needed healing for my soul. I needed provision. I needed peace. I needed deliverance from chains and shackles that had held me bound for a long time. I knew the blood of Jesus had power to do all these for me. So I wrote this song as a confession. I knew that if I confessed it, it would work for me. I pray that this song has and continues to be a blessing to you. As you listen to it, plead the blood of Jesus Christ over your situation, and watch it melt away like wax. Link in bio Remember to subscribe to my channel, so you can be the first to get a notification when I upload my new song, that am currently working on. #Damuyako #psrruthmatete

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Ruth’s song reminds me of the song “It is well with my soul” by Horatio Spafford. The song like Ruth’s comes from a place of pain and distressing difficulties.

Horatio who was a successful attorney and real estate investor lost a fortune in the great Chicago fire of 1871. But that wasn’t all, he also lost his beloved four-year-old son who died scarlet fever.

With these misfortunes, Horatio sent his wife and four daughters on a ship to England, so they could heal and unwind. He planned to join them later on but tragedy struck as while they were crossing the Atlantic Ocean, the ship was involved in a terrible collision and sunk.

More than 200 people lost their lives, including all four of Horatio Spafford’s precious daughters. His wife, Anna, survived the tragedy.

As Horatio thought about his daughters, words of comfort and hope filled his heart and mind. He wrote them down, and they have since become a well-beloved hymn, “It is well with my soul”.

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Very insensitive! Some Nigerians mock Ruth Matete after husband’s death

Ruth Matete has experienced terrible experiences in her life but none much worse than the untimely death of her husband Beloved John who passed away this past Sunday.

John died after receiving 40% burns that he suffered when a gas canister that he was changing at his home exploded. You would think that at this type of time that everyone who knew him and Ruth would be commiserating with her?

Ruth Matete's ex-husband
Ruth Matete’s ex-husband

But there are some who took his death as an opportunity to dig up some old wounds. For those who aren’t aware, Pastor Beloved John was of Nigerian descent and had a  previous relationship in Nigeria that produced 2 kids.

Ruth and her late hubby, Pastor Beloved John tied the knot in November 2019, in a ceremony criticized by many, who branded her a ‘husband-snatcher’.

Ruth Matete with her man
Ruth Matete with her late husband

However, when he was still alive the Nigerian pastor still thanked all his haters, affirming that he and his wife – Ruth Matete – were doing good.

‘May God comfort you…’ Read condolence messages to Ruth Matete by Kenyan celebrities

It seems that some people will not let Ruth mourn in peace and have used the opportunity to attack the singer who was carrying John’s unborn baby.

The singer with her late husband
Ruth Matete with her late husband

An online user lashed:

Ruth, you refused to tell John the truth. John was married here in Nigeria, blessed with two lovely kids. He abandoned his family in Nigeria and pitch a tenth with you.for you not have tell him the TRuth…God will surely asked you someday. Even after we his family members called you, send you messages on Facebook to desist from this act, you still hold on to another’s woman’s husband.

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The messages finished off by adding that Ruth should ask for forgiveness from John’s first wife and cautioning her that a man’s unjust ways lead to destruction.

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Kwani someone can’t add weight?! Ruth Matete speaks after pregnancy rumours surface

This past weekend rumours spread in the entertainment industry that gospel singer Ruth Matete might be with child. The news came as s pleasant surprise considering that she had gotten married in November last year.

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But as with everything in this day and age where a lie spreads faster than the truth, this great news has turned out to be just that-fake news. This all spawned from an innocuous photo that the singer had shared where she was posing with her husband BelovedJohn Apewajoye.

Ruth Matete with her man
Ruth Matete with her man

In the photo Ruth seemingly has a bulging stomach prompting a section of her Insta-followers to conclude that she was pregnant.

Ruth Matete with her husband
Ruth Matete with her husband

The reactions from her fans, forced the singer to clear the air, stating she was not pregnant but in case it happens she will gladly inform her fans. She added that the picture in question was taken at a time she had put on some weight, as a result of in being a settled relationship.

“With my pepper soup, trying to keep social distance😂No touching. No hugging. Mercy Lord. Just for your information this pic was taken in January. Second ,mtu hawezi tu nona? 😂😂😂 acheni hizo manze🤣 ni Ku settle. Kurekax. Ku enter rest. Time ya baby on board ikifika you will be so sure about it. Sisi ni wake wa kuvuruta tumbo mbele in week two🤣🙈,” reacted Ruth Matete.

Ruth Matete wearing many colours
Ruth Matete wearing many colours

Some of the congratulatory messages directed at Mrs. Matete and her hubby read;

emilynduku “Baby on board congratulations 🎊🍾🎉🎈 @ruth_matete”

katheygkui “You did not keep social distance we can see something…congratulations gal”

fridahtush “Eeh the kababy bump looks good on you 😍”

iamngaruiyaruth “Woow I like what am seeing in a distance, hope macho haudanganyi👏👏❤️

Matete’s husband is a contemporary gospel music minister and worship leader.

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