Depression, fear, timing: Reasons why some celebs are yet to bear kids

Motherhood is a journey most people love to experience and despite some not wanting to be mothers we can’t help but wonder what kind of mothers they’d be.

Would they scold or spoil their kids? That is something we can’t answer as we have to wait and see.

 

Below are celebrities who are yet to become mothers.

  1. Sheila Mwanigha

It’s undeniable that Sheila Mwanyigha is a beautiful woman, to top it all she is hard working a go-getter and we are sure if she was to get kids of her own they would be drop-dead gorgeous.

She had in the past talked on wanting twins

“My mum always tells me that marriage is God’s plan and He brings someone when one is ready and that being married is not synonymous with happiness.”

She added that she would also love to have children,

“I have a niece and she is the love of my life. I would love to have my own someday, maybe twin boys.”

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2. Joey Muthengi

The celebrated TV host has both beauty and brains. If she was to become a mother we feel she would make very cute babies.

She had however in the past said that kids were not in her list of priorities.

Partly in an interview with Yvonne Aoll, Joey was asked if she wants kids and she said no,

‘I’m not having any. I don’t want any.I also don’t think motherhood is an easy job. My sister has kids, my brother has a kid, it’s work.’

She added,

‘My parents have accepted it. It took my mum a while to accept that I don’t want kids, she thought it was just a phase, but now she’s come to terms with it. So, my parents and I are fine.’

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3. Corazon Kwamboka

The lawyer turned socialite has one of the most curvaceous bodies out there. A true figure 8.

They say that the apple does not fall far from the tree and you can imagine how beautiful or handsome her kids would be.

 

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4. Lola Hannigan

The former TV host has the looks, the brains and a body to die for. It would be crazy to eliminate her from this list after all don’t they say kids pick after their mothers?

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5. Vera Sidika

Even  Otile Brown was infatuated with this woman!

Vera Sidika has in the past hinted that she wouldn’t mind being a mother, but we are yet to see the results of that wish.

“When you meet someone, you feel like he is the one. It’s not a matter of time but respect and understanding. I’m 30 and I think I’m ready for kids,” Vera recently wrote on her social media.

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Before and after of Vera Sidika

6. Lupita Nyong’o

The darker the berry the sweeter the juice is a phrase that best encapsulates the first African woman to win an Oscar. She did so by playing the role of a slave.

In the movie, you couldn’t tell that a pretty woman lay underneath all the scars and tears but there was one.

It’s not clear whether she wants or does not want to be a mother though.

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7. Sanaipei Tande

The radio presenter started out as with the musical group called SEMA and has since flourished and branched out onto a somewhat successful solo career.

Sanaipei is a beauty to behold, curvy, confident and smart imagine what her babies would look like? She has in the past said she would love kids of her own.

“I would love to have a family, have somebody to take care of, because, let’s be honest about it, as a woman when we get past the age of 30, you start to feel a sense of loneliness.

And there is a lack of meaning to your life because there is nobody to live for, nobody to do things for. I look forward to that,”

8 Huddah Monroe

The socialite who started out on Big Brother is now an established “boss woman” and is still as beautiful to look at as she was when in her early twenties.

Despite altering her looks a little (what money can do) Huddah is and was a beauty going by her past photos. She would make cute babies.

We can’t wait for her to be a mum.

Huddah had in the past expressed her fear of becoming a single mum.

“It’s just sad that people crave to be baby mommas and baby daddies. No longer – MOM and DAD typa family settings…. and you wonder what’s the next generation gone be like?

For those asking why I’m not having a kid yet…. I’m waiting on God’s timing – plus MY BIGGEST fear in life is to be a single mom.

I CANT raise my kids without a father. Or a father figure. It’s important to me that my kids have their dad there,” she said. 

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9. Chiki Kuruka

Chiki is the fiancee of Sauti Sol member Bien and damn gal got looks.

Her fiancee Bien had recently hinted that babies will have to wait as they have too much on their table.

According to Bien, there is still time to date, get to know each other better before the kids come.

Captain Kale reveals ‘naming your wife in your will is a GRAVE mistake!’

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10. Anita Nderu

She is sassy, classy and beautiful and to top it all she is book smart.

Who wouldn’t make such a woman the mother of his kids? Whether girls or boys we are sure her kids would make most ovaries twerk.

Anita has however in the past said that she would only become a mother when she knows she can take care of a kid.

‘I don’t think most people realize how big of a responsibility having children is. So I am not willing to bring anyone into this world until I am sure I can take care of them.’ Anita said

Anita has in the passed opened up on battling depression.

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Almost half of new mums suffer from hallucinations – study

Almost half of new mothers suffer from frightening thoughts or hallucinations – but two thirds of these hide how they feel for fear of being judged negatively or having their baby taken away, a study has found.

Intrusive thoughts – which include killing or harming their child – are still taboo among mums with just 37 per cent admitting to others how they feel.

The most common thought is a fear that ‘something dreadful’ will happen to the baby, with 62 per cent vividly feeling this.

A further 44 per cent were plagued by the belief their baby might die, while 13 per cent have imagined killing or harming their own child.

The study by parenting site ChannelMum.com also found one in 50 even believed their baby hated them while one per cent were convinced their mother-in-law was trying to take their baby.

Two in five (39 per cent) felt their child and partner would be ‘better off without them’ and 16 per cent considered suicide.

An additional 31 per cent admit to having an irrational fear that someone ‘will steal or harm my baby’, making it impossible for them to meet or talk to strangers.

Yet despite 43 per cent of mums suffering these extreme thoughts, 65 per cent of those were never told pregnancy and parenthood could affect their mental health.

As a result, one in five (19 per cent) feared they were ‘going mad’ when they fell ill.

Half (49 per cent) of the mums who suffered were also scared of being ‘judged negatively’.

Some 43 per cent believed others will think they are a ‘bad parent’, while 26 per cent were ‘ashamed’ of being mentally ill.

The stigma is so great that a disturbing 17 per cent of mums who fall ill admitted they thought about self-harm to try to cope, with one in 20 going on to self-harm.

One of the biggest barriers to getting help is the fear your child will be taken into care.

One in five mums (19 per cent) who suffered mental illness after birth reported refusing to access help in case their child was taken away.

Official NHS figures show just ten to 15 per cent of mums experience serious mental health issues.

But as a result, some experts now believe there could be a ‘hidden epidemic’ of maternal mental illness, as 64 per cent of mums who fall ill never try to get a formal diagnosis so are missed by official figures.

Overall, the survey showed the most common mental health ailment suffered by new mums is anxiety, experienced by 68 per cent of women after birth, alongside 48 per cent who undergo insomnia due to worry.

A further 35 per cent battle Post Natal Depression, a third (33 per cent) become agoraphobic and 23 per cent are hit by panic attacks.

On average, women’s symptoms lasted three to six months, but 29 per cent felt mentally low for a year or longer.

Women were five times more likely to spot their own symptoms with 69 per cent realising themselves they were ill, compared to just 14 per cent whose partners detected they were unwell.

However, almost two in five mums who become ill (38 per cent) never tell anybody how they feel and just a third confide in their GP (33 per cent).

The most common way mums covered up their feelings was to pretend to be ‘fine’ when quizzed on how they felt, with 94 per cent admitting they lied about their feelings.

Lack of sleep was seen as the main trigger for mums falling ill, with 55 per cent believing this contributed to their condition.

A further 54 per cent said they felt ’emotionally overwhelmed’ as a new parent, alongside 39 per cent who admitted they tried to ‘be the perfect parent’.

Two in five (41 per cent) blamed hormonal changes while 14 per cent pinned the blame on ‘the pressure of living up to others on social media.

As a result, a resounding 80 per cent of mums want society to be more open about maternal mental health issues and the extreme thoughts mums can have.

Seven in ten (69 per cent) want ‘society to realise it can happen to anyone’ while 55 per cent seek reassurances that their child will not automatically be taken into care if they come forward for treatment.

ChannelMum.com founder Siobhan Freegard said: ‘If your body is broken after birth, everyone understand and supports you.

‘But when your mind is broken, mums still feel they have to keep it hidden.

‘These thoughts are disturbing and terrifying – but very often they are part of becoming a mum.

‘We need to talk about it, normalise it and make mums realise they are not alone. You are not different or ‘going mad’ just because you experience it – but you may need professional care and help.

‘I suffered from post natal depression and visualised extreme images after the birth of my first child then tried to cover it up, so I know exactly what women are going through when they hide it.

‘There is so much pressure to cope and be the perfect parent that when you are crying inside while everyone around you is smiling, it makes you feel you are failing your baby and your whole family.

‘Mums need to know they will get the right support and their baby won’t be taken away.

‘With care, compassion and the right treatment, you can get better quickly, bond with your baby and go on to be the parent you want to be.’

ChannelMum.com psychologist Emma Kenny added: ‘This research has highlighted the plight of large numbers of mums in the UK and evidences that even in 2018 post natal depression is still no closer to being effectively dealt with.

‘Good maternal mental health is something that every woman deserves, but due to the lack of knowledge and support this simply isn’t the case, leaving women to deal with some of the most terrifying and debilitating feelings at a time when they should be enjoying their positive new beginnings.

‘We need to address this subject openly, removing the shame and stigma so that mums no longer feel that they have to cope alone.’

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Mothers share their tried-and-tested methods for getting babies to sleep through the night

As any new mother knows well, getting your baby to sleep through the night is no mean feat.

From tears and tantrums to chesty coughs and acid reflux, both baby and mother can suffer from sleepless nights as a result of a restless tot.

Hoping to garner some insider tips from experienced mothers, one new parent of a four-month-old baby took to Mumsnet to ask for advice – and she was overwhelmed by the response as parents shared their clever tried-and-tested hacks.

Many of the mothers highly recommend Calpol – suggesting just a small dose to help baby nod off.

Other suggestions included Omeprazole, which is a medication to treat gastroesophageal reflux disease.

One lady suggested looking at the size dummy you give your little one. She wrote: ‘This might sound daft but what size of dummy are you using? Mine is on the 91st centile and I recently gave him 6-18 month dummies.

‘The 0-6 wasn’t settling him and wouldn’t stay in his mouth. The 6-18 stays in until he actively spits it out so it does help him get over into a decent sleep.’

Other simple hacks included feeding your baby upright, propping up their cot or using 15ml of Gaviscon with water.

Among the more curious suggestions from mothers was one who recommended staying off any medication and instead using dill water or simply boiled water that you’ve cooled down.

One lady recommended a treatment she buys from the US called colic calm, which settles the acid in the baby’s stomach and she hails a ‘lifesaver’.

Women who miscarry ‘more likely to conceive second time’

Women who experience a miscarriage during their first round of IVF are more likely to have a baby with further treatment than those who did not become pregnant, a study shows.

Experts said the findings could offer hope to couples considering whether to continue treatment after the devastating loss of an unborn child.

Around 1.5 per cent of babies born in Britain each year are conceived through IVF. More than 52,000 women had the treatment in 2014.

Although 27 per cent of IVF pregnancies result in a live birth, 22 per cent end in miscarriage.

Around 1.5 per cent of babies born in Britain each year are conceived through IVF. More than 52,000 women had the treatment in 2014 (stock photo)

Around 1.5 per cent of babies born in Britain each year are conceived through IVF. More than 52,000 women had the treatment in 2014 (stock photo)

But the latest study, by Aberdeen University, found the odds of having a live birth were 39 per cent higher in women who miscarried in their first round of IVF than those who did not conceive at all.

Study author Natalie Cameron said: ‘Miscarriage can be a devastating experience for any couple, but especially for those who have already struggled with infertility.

‘This, coupled with the emotional and financial burden of multiple cycles of treatment, can make many couples give up. We hope our findings will provide reassurance to these couples as they consider their options for continuing treatment.’

Researchers examined the records of more than 112,000 women who started IVF over a ten-year period from 1999.

The records, which are held by the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority, showed 112,549 women had IVF, of which 62.3 per cent did not get pregnant, 8.3 per cent conceived but miscarried and 29.5 per cent had a live birth.

The researchers found that after a second round of treatment, 31.7 per cent of women who miscarried in the first round had a live baby, compared to 22.8 per cent of women who had not got pregnant in the first round.

When couples had three rounds of treatment, 40.9 per cent of women who had originally had a miscarriage had a baby, compared to 30.1 per cent of those who had not conceived first time.

Researchers at Aberdeen University examined the records of more than 112,000 women who started IVF over a ten-year period from 1999 (stock photo)

Women who had a live baby through their first round of IVF were much more likely than other women to have another through subsequent rounds, with nearly half having a second baby within two more cycles.

Dr David McLernon, another author of the study, which is published today in the journal Human Reproduction, said it was possible miscarriage helped prepare the body for future pregnancies.

He said: ‘Miscarriage shows couples they can get pregnant, that an embryo will implant in the womb. If you keep trying you are more likely to succeed.’ He said the findings showed three cycles appeared to be the ‘optimum’ number to maximise the chances of having a baby.

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Do Women Neglect Their Men After Giving Birth?

Today’s conversation is about a man who called in the other day and said that his wife used to be adventurous, fun, spontaneous, loving and caring but all that changed after she gave birth.

He says things just went downhill from there, she stopped sending those sweet texts during the day or even calling. Basically she stopped being concerned about him and he felt sidelined.

Mwalimu feels that the man has a point. He agrees that women tend to ignore their men after giving birth.

Here  is what other people had to say:

Study : Wean Babies At Four Months To Prevent Allergies

A new study has found that babies should be given solid foods from as young as four months old in order to prevent allergies.

Introducing children to foods that typically cause allergic reactions – such as peanuts and eggs – at four to six months old gives them a higher chance of avoiding a food allergy later in life, researchers discovered. The advice is contrary to the current advice that children should not be given such foods until they are at least six months old.

In the US, the American Academy of Pediatrics also says solids should be introduced at this age.  In the UK, the national health services gives the same advice, and says introducing solid foods before this time may cause food allergies.

Earlier this year, a British study called LEAP (Learning Early About Peanut), came to the same conclusion. It found those who eat food containing peanuts three or more times a week from under the age of one rarely have reactions in later life.

Less than one per cent develop an allergy, compared with 17 per cent of children whose diet was peanut-free. Food allergies cause breathing problems, and can even be fatal, as the most severely afflicted can have a life-threatening anaphylactic shock when exposed to just a trace of the allergen in food.

The researchers said food allergies have soared 18 per cent between 1997 and 2007 in the US. A recent survey of Canadian households found eight per cent reported at least one such allergy. In the UK, up to eight per cent of children have a proven food allergy, according to charity Allergy UK. 

The most common allergens are cow’s milk, soy, peanut, tree nuts, eggs, wheat, fish, shellfish and sesame. Babies with parents or siblings who have allergies – especially to peanut – are at higher risk. 

LEAP found introducing these children to peanuts earlier – rather than later – reduced the risk of an allergy by up to 80 per cent. However, parents are advised  to seek a doctor’s opinion before introducing peanuts to their children.

Since the LEAP study was published, groups such as the American Academy of Allergy, Asthma and Immunology, the American Academy of Pediatrics and the Canadian Society of Allergy and Clinical Immunology, now say there is ‘strong evidence’ to support the introduction of peanut between four and 11 months in infants at risk. In the US, previous guidelines recommended avoiding potentially allergenic foods until children were one to three years old.

-Dailymail

Hilarious Video: Babies Discover their shadow for the first time

Do you remember the first time you saw your shadow? Probably not but videos of babies seeing their shadow for the first time are really hilarious. They have very different reactions when they see their shadow for the first time.

How do you explain to your child that the reflection he is seeing is just but a shadow?

Check out this funny video

Fewer Chinese parents than expected seek 2nd children

China’s push to encourage more couples to have a second child after decades of restrictive family planning policies has fallen short of expectations in the first year, state media reported Monday.

The National Health and Family Planning Commission received less than half of the expected two million annual applications for couples to have a second child, the official Xinhua News Agency reported, without citing exact numbers.

The world’s most populous country has restricted most families to a single child since the late 1970s, but the Communist Party has started easing controls, allowing couples to have two offspring so long as one of the parents is an only child, rather than both.

The change began with a pilot programme in the wealthy coastal province of Zhejiang before expanding nationwide. Couples must still submit an application to the commission before having a second child, and not all have been approved.

China has a population of 1.36 billion, the National Bureau of Statistics said last year, but its working-age population fell by 2.44 million last year.

Over-60s accounted for 14.9 percent of the total, it said, and projections show that they will represent one in four of the population — 350 million people — by 2030.

The new policy mostly affects couples in urban areas, where the family planning policy has been implemented more strictly than in the countryside.

But education and housing are expensive in cities, and reliance on children in old age is lower, making multiple offspring less necessary.

China’s birth limit policies have at times been brutally enforced, with authorities relying on permits, fines, and, in some cases forced sterilisations and late-term abortions.

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‘Language nutrition’ vital for babies

Talking to babies improves their brain development. The New Scientist reported this week that the “art of baby talk” was gaining popularity in US health policy, sending out a strong message that “language nutrition” – many and varied words supplied at a critical time – improves how a child’s brain develops.

Studies have confirmed this for more than two decades, but early childhood development has taken a long time to make its way onto government agendas.

“We’ve realised the need to simplify the message: the brain needs ‘food’ like the body needs food for best development,” said Sonja Giese, founding director of the Innovation Edge, a fund aimed at transforming early learning access and quality.

 

Beyoncé and Jay Z to try for second baby

Beyoncé and Jay Z are reportedly set to start trying for a sibling for their two-year-old daughter Blue Ivy before Christmas.

The couple – who already have two-year-old daughter Blue Ivy – are keen to expand their brood, with the 33-year-old singer reportedly planning to fall pregnant in Spring.

A source said ”If all goes well they’ll start trying for a baby before Christmas. She wants to be pregnant by spring.”

The news comes just months after the Crazy in Love hitmaker and her 44-year-old husband were said to be on the brink of splitting up when their joint On The Run tour ended in Paris in September.

 

6 Ways Technology Is Changing the Way We Name Babies

How addicted are you to your laptop and/or smartphone? Most moms are slaves to technology; they’re lifelines on days when the kids are extra draining, when you want to talk politics over poop, when you need to connect with adults some way, somehow.

Right now, you’re digging baby names that can be easily typed on the right side of a standard QWERTY keyboard. Truth! And, yes, there’s science to back up the so-called “Qwerty effect” … words made up of more letters on the right side of the keyboard are viewed more positively. Crazy, huh?

Turns out technology is influencing your choice of baby names … in more ways than one.

According to Laura Wattenberg, founder of BabyNameWizard.com and NameCandy.com, you are under the influence of technology during the baby naming process. Here are some of the ways:

1. The QWERTY effect noted by researchers may arise from the fact that letter combinations that fall on the right side of the keyboard tend to be easier to type than those on the left. Since most of us are right-handed, letters on the right are viewed in a more positive light.

2. You’re avoiding hyphens because computers mess up the punctuation. “We’re seeing more intercaps in names,” says Wattenberg. “It used to be Mary Ellen or Mary-Ellen, for example. Because of computers, we’re seeing more MaryEllen.”

3. Believe it or not, your cellphone contacts list influences baby names! There’s an advantage of being early in the alphabet, according to Wattenberg. When you open up your contact list, you are see people with A names far more than those named with S. It’s a pretty big advantage when it comes to the social lives of people with A names.

Read more:http://thestir.cafemom.com/pregnancy/177335/technology_affects_baby_name_choice