City women have told off Anerlisa Muigai for dispensing bad relationship advice.
Actually, they have told the rich kid that the advise is best suited for “side chic”.
Anerlisa was advising women not to call their men when they are out late at night.
“Ladies a piece of advice. I am not an expert in relationships but I’ll address two issues that stress women. If you want peace and happiness, please let your man be. This calling your man every minute because he is out of your sight needs to stop. Call him only if it’s urgent. You should never lack sleep because he left at 7pm and by 4am he is not back, he is a grown ass man who is fully aware of what time he should get back.”
The Keroche industries heir added, “On the other hand, his phone should be none of your business. You need to trust your man, you cannot stop a man from cheating. The more he feels nagged the more he wants you out of his site. Those who say that your man will cheat on you, I always ask them ” so should we call a press conference and address the issue?”nkt . It should really be none of their business. Put yourself first, love yourself, respect yourself and everything else should be last. Never stress yourself because of a man, if one relationship fails then off to the next one. Have peace of mind and relax. The only thing that should ever stress you are your children and work. Have a great Sunday.”
Here are the city women who do not agree with the advice at all. Sample some of the comments
nyanchamasamantha: Eish issa lie. My mans phone is our phone . We need to know who’s calling us . Who texted. What they said. Where my man is, is my business, I have to know who he is with what they doing & what time he will be home . 😂
njoka3: If we can’t share our phones why do we have to share our private parts? I won’t live in such denial, the truth shall set me free. Otherwise you both stunning 👌
wyckleff: Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhaahahaahhaahahahahahha women do not listen. I am a man and you need to hold your man accountable. #Usikanyagwe #Usidanganywe a relationship where you are being manipulated and used does not need to last longer than a fraction of a second.
monicahneash: These are common lines which area used by women in denial. You have to hold that man accountable. Snooping on his phone is not a sin…I will snoop until my eyes drop. If I didn’t snoop on my ex phone 2 years ago ~I would be a stepmother.
wanjiku_karugo_lawyer: But aren’t relationships all about compromise? Taking into consideration the other persons feelings and thinking about how your behavior will affect them? Not one party always bending over backwards to accommodate the other whichever the case maybe?
phoebe_ouma: So you are encouraging women to basically turn their brains into vestigial organs and ask for zero accountability. Accountability is the glue that ties commitment to the result! Good job Anerlisa 👍
sanfa_janira: This perspective of yours is from a side chick talking. We should hear it from a married woman too. I will call my man if he is late if he doesn’t like it, he can come to you coz am nagging. He will marry you and you will too will sound nagging! What goes around comes around sister.
neviswicky: Anerlisa, I always admire you but this is BS advice…. In essence you’re condoning men who can’t keep it in their pants, look around you, society is fucked up with fuckboys, failing families and teammates… We need to do better otherwise Let the Goyim know
phoebe_ouma: @wyckleff She’s already self professed that she isn’t an expert on relationships now she chooses to give crappy advice to women and lead them astray. People need to ask for accountability in all relationships, whether at work, whether a friend or a lover. Ask for accountability and if you don’t get it walk away!
ceo_likahouse: Yes dear, every single bit of you will pain.. But she said remember to always love yourself first because in the end, no one can change someone unless they are willing. So you both have to be willing to be perfect for each other in the midst of our imperfections… But we were separate individuals before we came together some partners want to be in their partners lives 24/7 and that is not healthy. That is all am saying. Give each other space to interact with other people as long as umeniambia utatoka na utarudi certain time.. But not for me to keep calling and texting in between as if am doubting you.. It is not fun
ceo_likahouse: If a man loves and respects you, a woman will not even need to call him or text. He will do it automatically because men are meant to pursue women and not the other way around
reneepics: That’s such a side chic mentality. You should know what your man is up to sometimes. He should be able to tell you where he is without you asking. And if it gets to the point where you have to snoop to get answers, then it’s because there is a reason to.
pearlkamau: It’s easy to say that but wait until a man you truly love hurts you thats when it clicks that one has no control over some emotions. You just find yourself completely shattered.
zippykazi: Nay. Nay . nay. Okay I will sleep. But nobody is above the set rules in” my relationship”. Respect is vital. Men. You maybe grown arse but u ain’t gonna shit all over the relationship. Are relationship where phones are no Go Zones . that’s smoke for unfaithfulness. U will tire for snooping but have a relationship where a gadget wont be an issue. Like leave the phone there. Assure me that I have nothing to fret about or feel like you hiding something. This rules are easy but are the kind of rules for someone whose accepted to be okay with the probability of being cheated on. #Resist# be on top of matters. Being late isn’t. Problem but it should be communicated and come from a honest place. This I don’t care what you do or who you are with where you encourages reckless behavior in relationships.
excellent.beauty.1: As much as I like the 1st part of your message, I fully disagree with the past part. Good relationship doesn’t just happen. Everyone has to work towards building a good relationship for their union. There is nothing wrong checking on your man who left and you don’t hear from him. What if something happened to him? Yes, nagging is boring but checking on the person you love can’t be seeing as nagging. As a woman I only agree with moving into the next relationship after giving your best and it still not work. Today we have a generation of ladies that are misleading many women but sending the wrong message that if a relationship doesn’t make you happy then leave. This is a dream! You are a role player and a big player in your marriage or relationship. You are not the end receiver of joy, peace and happiness but you are an architect to create what you want in your relationship. Let’s create a better society rather than being road runners of relationship as there is no individual whether man or woman who is problem free. And if moving is the solution, how many times should one move and now many partners should one have in their lives? Think distinctively ladies. Just because it is out on social network it doesn’t mean it is an example to follow.
ann.nyambura: All relationships has their own rules..I disagree with the time issue married man would always go out the whole night and no communication.Thats a no there must be ultimatums for everything.
sanfa_janira: True only side chics tell women to not mek their men accountable ati its nagging.
seemanp: Nowadays everyone has become an expert in relationships with the I am not an expert caption. Relationships are different and I see nothing wrong in checking up on your partner during the day or on how his day is going on. Ati only call when urgent!!!! Really? I don’t even give it second thought to if I should call him to update him on anything or nothing or just something I have seen that made me laugh.
margydorc: Wrong advice!!! There’s nothing wrong with knowing whereabouts of your partner. What if he was dying somewhere and you’re quiet or what if there’s temptation that you could help him overcome if you knew what was going on.
ikonyewacera: I would be worried if he is out there and has not communicated, and this would make me snoop his phone. And what example is he setting to the kids by coming home in the morning? No married woman will be ok with this. Myself, nay, this is no advice. A relationship is nurtured by both sides.
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