Ben Pol tells if he expects spousal support after divorcing Anerlisa

It’s been a week since bongo singer Ben Pol’s tell all interview about splitting from Anerlisa.

In a follow up interview on July 30, Ben Pol was also asked if he expects divorce settlement from Anerlisa.

Clouds FM interviewed by Fridah Amani about marital property and how it will be divided. Also will his music reflect his personal life especially his marriage to Anerlisa?

“unajua kwenye jamii na mila zetu quality love hio hatunaga hiyo affection, kwa bahati mbaya au nzuri, haikua na quality, I could not cry to my parents about my issues in african culture its not right, i was looking for quality love, its a processs naweza hata kuzungumza na vijana, taking care of yourself maanake unakwa mfano nilivyokuwa mtoto nisinge sema mama sitaki ugali, labda saa ivv najipa zile vitu nataka, najihudumuia saa hivi,  I was looking for love, siwezi blame kitu chochote ni mahesabu ya kidunia, you can do nothing to change it, its a natural process tumekutana tumefanya tumepasuka, so I can’t pin point what led to the breakdown, of course lazima mwanzoni mkaexpericne differences”

He hinted that the marriage was rushed. and if he were to go back in time, what would he change?

“kukutana na yeye imkuwa na faida, kama kuna kitu cha kubadilisha labda ningekuwa kauzi kwenye mipango, ningesema ndo haifungwi sasa hivi subiri, mimi nime lezwa kwa enzi la mipangio, I was not forced into the marriage unajua mapenzi ni kucompromise, uanweza sema mimi sitaki kuvaa hivi, kuna vitu tuaadjust ili mpenziwako afurahi but in the process you lose your identity.”

Pre nup issues and sharing property?

“Mimi na aliyekuwa mke wangu hatukusaini chochote kwamba mali na nini, kuhusu mali pili, hatujachuma chochote kwenye ndoa yetu na tatu hicho hakikuwa kwa vipau mbele changu. Hamna”

“Nisiwe muongo kwa mikaka hii miwili muziki umekewepo lakini mimi ndio sijakuwepo sana kwenye muziki kutokana na safari za hapa na pale kuwa nyingi kiukweli kwa sasa ndio nuimerudi rasmi kwenye muziki watu wategemee vitu vingoni na mengi kutoka kwangu”

Ben Pol and Anerlisa together
Ben Pol and Anerlisa together

He was asked if he feels bongo music has lost it’s identity following numerous complaints from Tanzanians.

“I don’t want to comment if Tanzanian music is losing popularity or is trash as has been said by others. mimi kazi yangu kama msanii inanifunga kuongea I am not in a position to judge someone ele’s music or lost it’s identity, when it comes to good music i leave it to fans, mimi kusema ka mtandao? hapana”

Ben Pol is back to making music, and has released 4 new songs to test the waters.

“sipende sana ile idea ya EP nimetaka kutoa kitu sio album sio ingine, sitaki kuitambulisha kama EP. I decided to release songs because baada ya hichi kifurushi nitakuwa natoa EP, watu wasikilize wafurahie, mimi naanza safari ya album, naanza rasmi safari, hizi wimbo ni kama kifurahishi, sasa nimerudi kazini.”

 

Ben Pol and Anerlisa together
Ben Pol and Anerlisa together

 

On July 19th, Ben Pol in an interview with SimuliziNaSauti revealed the details leading to his split from Kenyan wife Anerlisa Muigai.

On Monday July 19th disclosed in an interview that the door has been closed on his relationship with Kenyan Anerlisa Muigai after multiple attempts.

This resulted in a back and forth, with Anerlisa telling him that real men don’t beg, they provide hinting that she was financially providing for him.

Maina Kageni corroborated this information, saying Anerlisa paid his way.

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Eric Omondi, Amber Ray wine and dance with Anerlisa

 

A huge entourage surrounded Keroche Heiress Anerlisa Muigai at  Onyx club Friday night 30th July as she hosted a gig along the Ngong road club.

From Eric Omondi to Amber Ray and Phoina the makeup artist, many came to show support for Anerlisa as they danced and drank to music.

The A listers were spotted trying major dance moves as Eric Omondi got ticked that rich kid Anerlisa was struggling to dance. He cheekily wrote ‘anerlisa and eric omomndi (1)

Anerlisa seemed to have had a fabulous time as Amber Ray gushed over her tiny waist, telling her the secret to being this tiny.

Prior to that Amber Ray had shown of bundles of notes that she keeps in her Jeep, and she told that the stacks were for her weekend hang out.anerliaand amber (1)

She captioned the videos “Are you even ready for me? Mko tayari”

Adding “Blessed weekend ahead and my weekend is sorted. Always make sure you secure the bag” Sher finished dancing along and counting the stacks of money.amber cash ekekdn (1)

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A relationship with a rich woman is always bound to fail – Ben 10’s told

Anerlisa Muigai’s quote about men needing to level up to a woman’s lifestyle was applauded by a man who called Maina Kageni saying young men should be ashamed to be exchanging body fluids for a rich woman’s money.

He noted that many young Kenyan men are living glamourous lifestyles, but all this is thanks to secretly dating older rich women who exchange money for twa twa. He called them lazy and told them to work their a**es off

“The worst thing a man can do is take money from a woman. men should spend on their women not vice-versa. Where does one get the energy to take money from a woman? As a man your work is to provide not to be provided for! Then you go show off”

Here is Anerlisa’s diss that excited Kenyans about men who live off women.

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@breegathoni2

Poor Ben Pol just gets randomly dragged for being fed

@shobanes
Relationship za yengs akiwa mafutani ajaaab mtu hawezi hata pumua na amani.
Every turn ni attack.

@joao_joe1
Utapata hata raia iko hapa kucharaza mizigo but dem won’t let you breath juu ameunda few thousands mbele yako

@DrKanyuira
Aaah Mjamaa angepiga mziki tu aachene na watoto wa geti kali.

@Karis_AFC
Hahaha hawa madem wa geti kali ni wa kupewa cable na kusonga. Usiende kuweka beacons hapo.

anerlisa draga ben pol abpout cash
@MurefuFredrick
Amerix hushinda amewaambia hamsikii. A relationship with a richer woman is always bound to fail. Na ikifail ile kuanikwa utaanikwa. The man should ALWAYS be wealthier.

@munene_is_me
Amerix is right. Men should not marry women with a higher level of financial status, age, academic status coz madharau ndogondogo lazima itaanzia mahali.

@TheBethwel
I’ve learnt through observation a good number of them if they argue with their partners…even if the partner has valid points in the argument they end up getting emotional and always remind them that they’re the one who provide most or all of the things they have/own

@Monteca89
She learnt the hard way. Women need a man with a bright future, men need a woman with a bright past.

@MurunduDouglas
This should be two way,MEN leave your women the way you found them or even better look for a partner your level. Yess that’s the energy Ok hand

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Anerlisa Muigai used to airlift Range Rovers to Tanzania for Ben Pol

Tanzanian singer Ben Pol broke up with Keroche heiress Anerlisa Muigai in what he described as a slow and painful affair after a short marriage.

The two got married in March 2020, and Ben Pol filed for divorce early March 2021.

Speaking in a July 18th interview with ‘Simulizi na Sauti’, the ‘Moyo Mashine‘ singer painfully revealed he has moved on and no longer has feelings left for Anerlisa, insisting ‘simfeel’.

“Yes, I filed for divorce and the process is going on. We separated last year for like one and half months, then in September, we got back together and in February this year, we separated again. I think I did my best from my end to keep our love, but I can’t change anything.”

Anerlisa Muigai
Anerlisa Muigai

Ben Pol lived a lavish lifestyle flossing for Kenyans that he was a man of means, but all that was thanks to Anerlisa who funded his vacations and cars he showed off on Instagram, living the ‘soft life’.

She dragged him hitting back that “Don’t upgrade his life leave it as it was. Look for a partner your level or an already established partner”.

Maina on Tuesday July 27, gave his take on the story saying they are both his friends, but divulged some details all the same.

“Anerlisa Muigai woie my ka sweetheart, me I don’t know why women help men, why are you being helped? Me I have never understood I don’t even know how a man can literally stretch out a hand and beg for money, aie. Ben was flying first class to Hollywood, eh nawe even if you are my friend Ben Pol bro ni nini? Ako Tanzania amerudi huko”

Malimu Kinga’ng’i sympathized with Bens position saying “atauza kashata huko asipotoa ngoma ingine”

Maina laughed adding “You know that lady alimzoesha hiyo maisha he even had cars airlifted to Dar for him, ma range rover, aie, he was left with nothing she took everything, he has nothing”

Ben Pol proposing to Anerlisa
Ben Pol proposing to Anerlisa earlier this year

 

 

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The NDA Anerlisa wanted Ben Pol to sign for their divorce

 

Tanzanian singer Ben Pol in an interview on Monday 19th July told that ex wife Anerlisa wanted him to sign a non disclosure agreement after learning he filed for divorce.

Ben Pol dismissed the confidentiality agreement arguing that “how do you gag someone from speaking about their life when they wish to?”

“I found the letter from her lawyers baseless because it was actually gagging me not to speak about my marriage. I mean if you are married you have the right to speak about your marriage if you want to, how then do you gag someone from not speaking about their lives if they wish to do so.” he noted about the NDA.

“That letter had no head or legs because how can you prevent someone from talking about his life? According to the Tanzanian law, she is still my wife, and therefore if she is my wife, this is still my marriage, which means it is my life, so I can talk about it. I just ignored it and, of course, reached out to my lawyers. What we realized was that the letter had no depth. Secondly, it came from a point of insecurity. I’m a gentleman, I just can’t go talking about the person I was involved with,” he said.

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Ben-Pol-and-Anerlisa-posing-together-1

The singer also blamed himself for ignoring signs that they couldn’t salvage their marriage.

The two got married secretly in 2019 and Ben Pol filed for divorce around March 2021.

Ben Pol confessed that the healing process has been slow because he really wanted the marriage to work and tried his best.ben pol

 

“When reports emerged on social media last year that we had split, things were bad, we were not on speaking terms. It is true, we had split for about a month and a half. Things were bad to an extent Anerlisa sent me documents from her lawyers asking for a separation. We were good until February this year when again the bubble burst. Again, we separated in episodes. We did not speak for three weeks, tried fixing things, and not long we were back in the woods and this time things were pretty intense,”

 

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“Never trust your tongue when your heart is bitter” Anerlisa hits back

Tanzanian singer Ben Pol on Monday July 19th disclosed in an interview that the door has closed on his relationship with Kenyan Anerlisa Muigai after multiple attempts.

He admitted that he no longer has feelings for her and that their split took a toll on him.

The two got married in March last year and Ben Pol filed for divorce early this year. He told that they were on and off again in 2020 but in 2021, they reunited for one last ditch effort that flopped.

“We separated last year for like one and half months, then in September, we got back together and in February this year, we separated again. I think I did my best from my end to keep our love, but I can’t change anything.”

Ben Pol proposing to Anerlisa
Ben Pol proposing to Anerlisa earlier this year

He also told that the divorce process was nasty that Anerlisa had her lawyers send divorce papers through email.

“Kwenye mambo ya  Divorce ina process zake, na kwa hivyo Bado zinaendelea. Na mambo nyengine kwenye upande wake number moja au mengine alikuwa amuekea misuli. Kisheria Bado tumefungua ndoa, lakini kihiisia zidhani Kuna mtu anataka kuwa na mwenzake, ” he said.

Anerlisa on Tuesday night hit back, with a cryptic message that hinted there was problems.

In three messages, Anerlisa wrote “A real woman avoids drama, she knows her time is precious and she is not wasting it on unimportant things”anerlisa a real woman avoids drama (1)

Another message said “Never trust your tongue when your heart is bitter”.

She also shared a meme that appeared to suggest she had learned a lesson. ” Street lesson ukienda place hau provide anything please usikae sana, no school will teach you this”

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“Siwezi, si mfeel” Ben Pol says about possibility of reuniting with Anerlisa

 

A video of Ben Pol being interviewed about the possibility of re uniting with Kenyan wife Anerlisa Muigai has emerged.

In the video, Ben Pol severally shakes his head vigorously to say no, after being asked if he will give love another chance.

“Mimi namwombea tuu alkini kumzimia? ah ah ah”

The interviewer repeated the question about getting back with Anerlisa asking “feelings kwake bado zipo?”

To which Ben insisted that “sina hisia wala si mfeel, unfortunately. Sasa hivi mimi namwombea tu heri mpoango yake, lakini kumzimia? ah hakuna kitu ina weza tokea kati mimi na yake mapenzi au mahusiano”

Ben Pol with Anerlisa
Ben Pol with Anerlisa

Anerlisa on her part has been writing cryptic messages about a certain someone. She also revealed that Tanzanians hate her saying “Tanzanians always like to abuse me and call me old but I let that pass because one day I would like them to support our business”

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Justified Anerlisa Muigai eviscerates troll who called her lonely

Anerlisa Muigai is one of the richest Kenyans alive. The daughter of the Keroche Breweries founders had lived the life of ostentatious wealth and luxury so much so that some Kenyans have resorted to attacking Miss Muigai.

Some of those Kenyans assume that because of the riches she has, that she should be happy-going against a well-worn phrase, “The rich also cry”, which Anerlisa has probably done over the years.

In a recent interaction, the 333-year-old had to deal with a fan’s incendiary insinuation that she should be happy because she was wealthy.

Anerlisa had posted a photo in gym clothes, with her caption explaining that she had just come from a morning run. “Morning. After morning run,” she wrote.

From the photo, one could see the Nero Water Company CEO leaning on the hood of a Range Rover while wearing Nike running shoes.

‘Nobody knows me,’ Anerlisa confesses to posting misleading stories to her fans

But some people see black in white and one of the commentators to her post accused Miss Muigai of being lonely, saying, “Rich but lonely! Money can’t buy happiness,” he wrote.

But Miss Muigai who has lost a sister and dissolved a marriage in the space of one year wasn’t playing around and went all Berserker rage on the troll.

“It does ***** and that is what you convince your miserable self? Pathetic,” she wrote. The followers of Ben Pol’s ex-wife came to her aid and called out the man supporting her nuclear response to the troll.

I for one can’t blame her for her response. If someone decides to come to my page to talk nonsense after I have posted something so innocent and innocuous then that person is asking for war!

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‘Nobody knows me,’ Anerlisa confesses to posting misleading stories to her fans

Keroche Heiress Anerlisa Muigai has admitted that she posts fake stories to confuse her followers and make them think they know her better.

Anerlisa shared on her Instagram page that there is nobody who knows her because she posts misleading stories. She added that she alone knows who she can confide in.

Early this year, she left her fans thinking she was expectant after she shared a video of herself holding the bump and captioned it; “How I feel today.”

She had earlier shared a video while at the Nairobi Hospital and captioned it, “Not every time you go to the hospital is bad news, God is good is all I can say. Feeling blessed with my mum in NH.”

Anerlisa’s relationship issues aren’t from a “lack of selfishness” but something more insidious

Well, she has said it, do not believe anything she writes.

“I am that person who will tell different stories to different people so when you go out and spread, I’ll know who to tell the real truth. I am also the same person who creates stories to make you think like you know me but actually, ‘nobody knows me.’ I like private life and those who can keep a secret.”

This information comes a few weeks after she and her estranged husband Ben Pol started divorce proceedings.

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We fail and make mistakes – Anerlisa says in heartfelt post after divorce

Keroche Breweries heiress Anerlisa Muigai has had a topsy-turvy year. From the tragic death of he younger sister, Tecra, to the start and dissolution of her marriage, it hasn’t been that straightforward for her.

Let’s not lie losing a sibling is already tough but combine that with losing a marriage that one had probably hoped would go the distance shortly after must be tough for even the toughest of us.

The whole thing must be a trip for her as she has been sharing insights this past month that show that healing and probably self-reflection are going on.

Yesterday, she shared a post on Instagram reminding people that nobody is perfect and that everyone makes mistakes. “We fail, we make mistakes. The best one can do is open a new chapter and pray to never repeat the same mistakes again.”

Anerlisa’s relationship issues aren’t from a “lack of selfishness” but something more insidious

This comes a week after Anerlisa had set her preferences for the man that she wants to date, stating emphatically that she was done dating men with kids.

Ben Pol and Anerlisa together
Ben Pol and Anerlisa together

According to the Nero Water CEO, her ideal man is expected to be wealthy, smart and have no kids. Let’s not forget that he ex-husband, Ben Pol had a child from a previous relationship.

In 2020, Anerlisa even attended the little boy’s birthday and shared photos, which she later deleted. Whatever is going on in her life, I hope that Anerlisa can reach a place of health and peace so that she can move on to bigger and better.

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I don’t want a man who has kids! Anerlisa’s dream man can’t be like her ex Ben Pol

Socialite Anerlisa Muigai is one of the most fascinating characters in the Kenyan entertainment scene. The main reason for that is the way she can changes perspectives on the goings-on in her life, particularly her relationships with men.

The Keroche Breweries heiress will always serve up interesting tidbits about her life on her social media and this weekend was no different.

Ben Pol with Anerlisa
Ben Pol with Anerlisa

You see, Anerlisa is done dating men who have kids. She shared this revelation on her Instastory on Instagram, answering questions about the qualities she would like in her ideal man.

Anerlisa’s relationship issues aren’t from a “lack of selfishness” but something more insidious

And shock of all shocks she wanted a wealthy man! How original? And not only that, she wanted the man to be smart too!

Anerlisa's wishlist
Anerlisa’s wishlist

What is noteworthy about her admission is that her former husband Ben Pol was a father of one. Could her preference show be based on her experience with the Tanzanian musician and his son?

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Her popular Tanzanian ex has a child from a previous relationship. Anerlisa was so invested in the relationship that she even attended the little boy’s birthday and shared photos, which she later deleted.

Who knows? But her advice comes hot on the heels of the I don’t want a man who has kids!

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Anerlisa’s relationship issues aren’t from a “lack of selfishness” but something more insidious

Anerlisa Muigai is an interesting study in the highs and lows that a well-heeled socialite goes through in her day-to-day life.

While most people would exchange their lives for hers in a heartbeat, what some wouldn’t count on is that her life is often full of disappointments-particularly in her relationships.

Not only has she dated some of the most handsome men on social media; from Ian Mugoya, Ben Kang’ang’i, to Don and now ex-husband Ben Pol.

2020 was an eventful year for Anerlisa, full of contrasts. Not only did she lose her younger sister Tecra in unfortunate circumstances, but she also got married to Tanzanian musician Ben pol soon afterward.

The marriage came as a shock, considering that she had lost her sister barely a month before. And from the word go the marriage was littered with rumours of infidelity and not seeing eye to eye by the two partners.

Anerlisa Muigai with Ben Pol
Anerlisa Muigai with Ben Pol

Not only that, the relationship looked like a long-distance marriage to keen observers making many wonder when (if ever) the two actually spent any time together.

And while the couple put a brave front in December with even Ben Pol releasing a love song with Anerlisa as his video vixen, that still wasn’t enough to save the marriage.

Early last month Ben filed for divorce in Tanzania with Miss Muigai hinting that she had acceded to his request later on in the month.

Anerlisa Muigai
Anerlisa Muigai

Now that she is a free woman, she has been making comments on her social media that hint at what might have been the cause of the demise of the relationship.

This week, the Nero Water CEO said that she is planning to become more selfish as a person. “The woman I am looking into becoming is a woman selfish with HERSELF, her FINANCES and her TIME.”

And that brings me to the gist of this article. I don’t think Anerlisa’s issue with men has been her giving nature. In fact, I think that is a positive in most genuine, reciprocal relationships.

Many times when you keep on having the same problem as Miss Muigai seems to have in her relationships with her revolving cast of men, one has to ask oneself the question? Who is the common denominator? Herself.

When I began this article I thought that I could wrap it up in a cute little bow but I now realise that her issues are too many to highlight of the top of my head.

I think her issues would best be dealt with by a trained therapist, but what do I know…

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Kenyans weren’t expecting Anerlisa and Ben Pol to divorce according to a Dec 2020 poll

Anerlisa Muigai and Ben Pol have been the subject of separation and divorce rumours since they got married in a hush-hush ceremony mid last year.

Not it has seems that the rumours were entirely true after Anerlisa hinted that she had agreed to sign the divorce papers initiated by Ben Pol.

We can now take a look back at an opinion piece we run on Classic105 that showed a majority of Kenyans weren’t expending the marriage to be this short-lived.

Ben Pol with Anerlisa
Ben Pol with Anerlisa

A backstory

Some of the eyebrow-raising incidents that caused many to wonder what was going on between the two (for those who can’t remember them) are below:

It started with Anerlisa and Ben Pol unfollowing each other on Instagram in August 2020, something that normally portends serious issues in a relationship.


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A few days later Ben Pol posted a cryptic message saying, “I needed some cleansing to do…”, with many wondering what was going on in his life?

A few months later, Anerlisa came out to say that she and her husband weren’t seeing eye to eye. This came about after a fan who took part in the artist’s InstaLive (which was very intimate) spread the word to her about Ben’s inappropriate actions that were allegedly taking place behind her back.

She revealed that she is “a person who likes to protect her image and strongly dislikes individuals who disrespect her”. She then went ahead to hint that Ben Pol did something that completely put her off, stating that “any husband should do the same to their wife”.


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Then in October this year, Ben Pol converted to Islam, something that came as a shocker considering that he and his wife had gotten married in a church.

That act alone showed a divergence of sorts between the two. Where was Anerlisa at such an important juncture in his life and was she supportive of such a life-altering decision?

Anerlisa with Ben Pol
Anerlisa with Ben Pol

The questions didn’t stop there as the couple kept mum about their issues fueled by the couple’s refusal to post images of each other or together on social media.

But all that changed in December 2020 with the release of Ben Pol’s song Kidani, with the two suddenly acting like all the hectic months after their wedding hadn’t happened.

Which led me to ask the simple question? Would the couple’s marriage be a successful one? The poll results revealed that Kenyans believed that the couple would indeed go the full distance.


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A screenshot of the results is below:

Anerlisa Muigai_Ben Pol poll results
Anerlisa Muigai_Ben Pol poll results

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All some people have is money”-Ben Pol writes after Anerlisa hints at signing divorce papers

Keroche Heiress Anerlisa Muigai has hinted that she might have put pen to paper and signed the divorce slip and soon their marriage will be over.

In a post via her Insta-stories, Ms Muigai, said that, “I would like to make it clear that I signed whatever was needed to be signed and I do not wish to be associated with anyone. My focus right now is career and my peace.”

This comes hours after Anerlisa was rumoured to have moved on to a new Tanzanian musician, allegations that still haven’t been substantiated yet.

It would make sense if she had signed the papers as she was recently spotted in Tanzania and now her statement suggests that she had gone to sign the divorce papers.

Trouble? Anerlisa unfollows and deletes hubbie Ben Pol’s photos from her Instagram page

This comes nearly 3 weeks after reports surfaced that Ben Pol had filed for divorced from his wife Anerlisa, just 11 months into their marriage for yet unstated reasons.

But he might have subliminally hinted as to the reason why in a post he made on his Instastories, throwing shade at Anerlisa for being rich but lonely and desperate at the same time. “Some people are so poor. All they have is money.”

The singer went on to link the Keroche heiress to fellow singer Ommy Dimpoz saying, “Malengo yako ya mwaka ni kufanya collabo na Fally Ipupa na kumzalisha “A” kizazi unacho?”

 

 

In January, the couple revealed that they wedded in a private ceremony in May 2020 in the leafy suburbs of Mbezi in Dar es Salaam, Tanzania.

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Anerlisa’s advice to ladies about getting pregnant is nice but with one major CAVEAT!

Keroche Breweries heiress Anerlisa Muigai is one woman who has been born with a silver spoon, something she doesn’t deny.

Despite this, she has tried to parlay her wealth and fame into running her Nero Water Company as CEO. Other than her business exploits, Anerlisa normally sees the clout she has as an opportunity to dole out advice to young ladies and girls.

She recently offered more counsel to the fairer gender concerning an issue that is close to her heart-On the type of men that young women should get pregnant for.

In an Instagram post, she told her fans that a baby is a commitment that women should not be boxed into having by their partners if they are not ready.

She told women that they are better off being left by their partners because of their uncertainty on having a baby rather than being forced into it.

“Dear young girls, do not get kids with somebody you are not sure about. You can date, get engaged, etc, but kids? That’s a whole a** commitment. Rather your partner leaves you because you are not sure about having kids than be forced into it. That is just my opinion, others have different views,” she wrote.

Ben Pol speaks for the first time on rumoured marriage issues with Anerlisa

While I agree with Anerlisa’s general sentiment, I have a problem with her advice on getting engaged to a man that a woman doesn’t see herself getting a child for.

As Anerlisa said, women should not get kids for men they aren’t sure about. In fact, they shouldn’t get engaged to men they aren’t sure about.

How are you going to commit to a man for future marriage and you aren’t sure about him. By the time one is getting engaged, they should be sure and right about the man, having even gotten input from people they trust who have helped vet them.

Another problem I have with the advice is that it doesn’t take into account the effective use of one’s time. I think that women who want kids should only seriously date men who they can foresee having kids with after the first few dates.

Time is a woman (and a man’s) most precious resource, she shouldn’t waste it on men who aren’t worthy in the first place.

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Ben Pol speaks for the first time on rumoured marriage issues with Anerlisa

Tanzanian artist Ben Pol and his wife Anerlisa Muigai have been the subject of scrutiny the past few weeks ever since rumours emerged that he had filed for divorce from her.

This came just days after Anerlisa had removed images of him and her from her Instagram page. Not only that, but she also removed his name from her official names and also unfollowed him, which is normally a sign that sh!t is going left.

This past weekend, Anerlisa set the internets alight with several messages that expressed her frustrations with men hitting on her constantly online, saying she can’t keep a man.

One of her messages decried the thirst among men waiting in the sidelines to swoop in once a relationship fails.

“The number of people always ready to take over somebody else’s position is the reason why most relationships fail. if you go through my dm you would think I had a contestant looking for a partner.”

“It’s really disgusting to also see people offering to marry me yet you don’t even know me personally. the reality is I am not looking for anybody and I am not free!!!”

And it seems that her recent outbursts have also put the normally secretive Ben Pol under the Kosh. The musician opined that it was ironic that people who give you marriage advice are those whose relationships have failed.

“Ushauri wa maana zaidi kuhusu mahusiano/ ndoa utaupata kutoka kwa watu ambao ‘ya kwao’ yamewashinda !! Sasa kazi kwako, unataka kuwa na akili nyingi au unataka kulicheza ‘densi’ lako kwa kadri unavyoliona wewe mwenyewe?”

One can see that both of the participants in this marriage are feeling the effects of the constant scrutiny about the state of their union.


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But what is interesting is that the two still haven’t addressed the pervasive rumours online in their recent statements. Thing is, they don’t owe us any explanation as is their right but that doesn’t mean we can’t speculate either.

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Ben Pol goes on vacation after decision to divorce Anerlisa

 

Ben Pol has been reported to have filed for divorce at a Dar Es Salaam based court. The singer married Kenyan businesswoman Anerlisa Muigai last year at a private white wedding.

The wedding was attended by immediate family only!

“When you replace judgement with curiosity, everything changes,” he captioned in one of his vacation photos

Pol, real name Benard Paul Mnyang’anga is currently vacaying at a hotel in Dodoma and no he is not alone.

“When you replace judgement with curiosity, everything changes,” he captioned in one of his vacation photos

The Moyo Mashine singer has been accompanied by his brother Japhet Paul Mnyang’anga as the two are having a bromance. Pol shared a photo of his brother and showered him with praises, describing him as his blessing

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Ben Pol and Anerlisa’s divorce rumours come just when the Keroche heiress has been stirring pregnancy rumours.

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Anerlisa shows off thigh gap and flat tummy killing pregnancy rumours

Keroche heiress Anerlisa Muigai might be undergoing a stressful period in her marriage but one wouldn’t be able to guess when they meet her.

The always-smiling socialite is out and about again and recently posted some videos on her Instagram stories that showed that she was living her best life.

Anerlisa enjoyed a nice meal on the morning of Sunday, April 12, before she went in front of a huge mirror to show off how amazing she looked.

In fact, she reveled in the knowledge that she had reached her body goals after many years of persistent weight loss goals as many Kenyans are well aware of.

The businesswoman noted she is now at 57 kgs which to her is exactly where she wanted to be, writing: “Finally got to my body goals.”

The Nero Water CEO has lost so much weight that she has actually gotten the desired thigh gap that some women aspire to have.

What is interesting is that her recent video clips will put paid to the rumour that she is pregnant despite many news outlets claiming that she had been spotted with a huge baby bump.

While Anerlisa might be thriving in reaching her weight goals, her marriage is another thing. Her husband, Ben Pol allegedly filed for the divorce at the Mwanzo Law Courts in Dar Es Salaam.

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Sources close to the singer say that the divorce plea is real and not a stunt aimed at attracting clout, despite the couple trying the knot in 2020.

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