5 Rules to follow when someone buys you alcohol

Classic 105 Radio host Mwalimu King’ang’i has given tips that one should consider when another offers to buy you alcohol.

He says these ‘rules will ensure one gets to enjoy his alcohol without the fear of being embarrassed or ‘Kuchonga Viazi’

1. Laugh at every joke the person who bought you alcohol makes

Mwalimu says this helps in creating a balanced atmosphere where the ‘host’ doesn’t feel used.

2. If the person is bored contribute to the stories whether you know the topic or not

Staying silent might make you look like you are intimidated, it also makes the person buying you alcohol feel like you are embarrassed.

Prove you are not bored by also contributing to the discussion.

3. Do not ask about the bill

If someone is buying alcohol, do not ask how much it costs or try sneaking to look at the receipt. This will appear disrespectful considering you are not the one paying for it.

Only ask if you want to contribute to it, if not just shut up and enjoy your drink. The only thing you are allowed to ask is where the washrooms are so that you can create room for more beer.

4. Ensure that he gets home in good shape

You can do this by either helping the person hail a cab if they are too drunk to drive.

You can also offer to drive the person in case they are too intoxicated to drive the car themselves.

The other option would be for you to drive with the person in question and get them inside the house before driving off to your place.

It would be a shame to hear that such a person lost their lives in an accident because they were too drunk to drive.

5. Watch over their drink

We have heard of cases where people’s drinks get spiked.

Others die, and others get their money stolen from their bank accounts. Some people find themselves in unfamiliar places.

One way you can‘ rudisha mkono’ is by watching over the drinks of the person buying you drinks when they are not at the table.

If you find doing the things above hard, find your own money and fund your drinking spree.

Tips On How To Deal With A Breakup Without Alcohol

For many people the first thing they do after a breakup is go to the nearest bar and cry their hearts out as they drink, or lock themselves up at home with a bottle of wine and drink themselves silly. The truth of the matter is that it may feel right for that moment but in the long run it does nothing to help you deal with the pain.

According to various studies, how you treat yourself after a heartbreak will determine how fast or slow your healing process will take. This is because heartbreak is just as painful as physical pain. Instead of depending on the bottle to deal with the pain, here’s how to deal with it soberly.

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1Avoid contact – By this I mean, keep off all the places you used to hangout or all the places where you know you are bound to find your ex. Avoiding contact means that you should not call, text, email or snapchat them.


2. Get rid of things that remind you of them – For you to move forward you need to get rid of things that will remind you of them. Pictures, clothes, gifts and many more. You need to move on and the first step is to get rid of memorabilia. In fact studies have shown that unfriending/ unfollowing your ex on social media is a good step towards healing.


3. Talk to someone – Be it an aunt, friend or even a counselor if you may. Find someone who will be a the voice of reason that you need. This will not only help you in moving on but will assist in rebuilding your self esteem and confidence as well.

4.  Use your friends – When you are heartbroken there is one thing you need for sure; your friends. This is because you will need a shoulder to cry on, someone to listen and not judge and someone to be objective. Besides that you will need a team of people to surround yourself with to keep things off your mind and to simply give you a reason to smile.

5. Celebrate – Go out have fun, dance and don’t indulge in alcohol because chances are you will drunk dial or text them. Go on a vacation if you want to celebrate your single status. You only have one life, so why spend it in tears? Celebrate the new found freedom because it will be there for a while.


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Heavy drinking leads to deadly heart attacks by causing toxic iron to build up in the body

Heavy drinking leads to deadly heart attacks by causing toxic iron to build up in the body, new research suggests.

Women from regions where alcohol consumption is high have greater iron levels in their bodies and are more likely to die from heart conditions, a UK study found.

Excessive iron levels may cause ‘internal stress’ that results in plaque building up in the arteries.

Alcohol may also suppress the hormone that prevents iron from accumulating.

More than 1.6 million men and one million women in the UK live with heart disease, which is a major cause of heart attacks and failure. The condition causes one in every four deaths in the US.

Heavy drinking is generally defined as five or more alcoholic beverages in one sitting for men and four for women.

How the research was carried out 

The researchers, from Anglia Ruskin University, analysed 877 women with an average age of 50 who were living in sub-Saharan Africa. This region was chosen due to alcohol consumption generally being high.

The women, who were followed for around nine years, completed questionnaires on their alcohol intakes.

Iron levels were assessed by measuring ferritin in the women’s plasma samples. Ferritin stores iron and is a marker of the metal in the body.

During the study’s duration, 105 women died, of which 40 fatalities were heart related.


How much booze do you drink per week?

People who enjoy the occasional tipple are less likely to suffer a premature death than abstainers, research suggests.

According to Daily Mail, mortality rates are lowest in light drinkers, who have an average of up to three pints of beer or glass of wine a week across their lifetime.

The risk soars 20 per cent for very heavy drinkers who indulge in the same amount of booze – but on a daily basis, scientists at Queen’s University Belfast found.


And there is a seven per cent higher chance of an early death or being diagnosed with cancer for those who have never even touched alcohol.

 The scientists have now revealed the exact risk of dying early or developing cancer for men and women in eight different brackets of drinkers.

Current UK guidelines advise a maximum of 14 units of alcohol a week – six pints of average strength beer or seven medium sized glasses of wine.


Dr Andrew Kunzmann, lead author, said: ‘Previous studies have consistently found light to moderate drinkers live longer than lifetime teetotallers.

‘The evidence from cancer research gives a different impression – even light to moderate alcohol consumption is linked with an increased risk of cancer.

‘These differences have led to confusing public health messages about the health impacts of light to moderate alcohol consumption and what counts as drinking in moderation.’

Dr Kunzmann hopes the findings, based on almost 100,000 adults and published in the journal PLOS Medicine, will provide a clearer message.


Robust evidence 

He added: ‘Drinking alcohol is a personal choice and it is not our aim to tell people whether they can or can’t drink.

‘The aim of this study is to provide robust evidence so that people can make informed, healthy decisions about their alcohol intake.’

But he urged caution in the findings, as the reason why light drinkers have a lower risk of cancer or early death is still hotly contested.

Dr Kunzmann said: ‘It has been suggested light drinking may have beneficial effects on heart health, though this has not yet been proven.

‘Light drinkers may also be at a lower risk of premature death as they tend to be wealthier, so may have better access to healthcare and may follow other healthier lifestyle behaviours, such as being more physically active.’We feel it would be inappropriate to recommend teetotallers to start drinking based on these results given the uncertainty.’

NEVER Didn’t consume alcohol 5% 9% 7%
INFREQUENT 0-1 drinks each week 5% 11% 8%
LIGHT 1-3 drinks each week N/A N/A N/A
SOMEWHAT LIGHT 3-5 drinks each week -3% 4% 0%
LIGHT-MODERATE 5-7 drinks each week 3% 9% 5%
MODERATE 1-2 drinks each day 0% 10% 2%
HEAVY 2-3 drinks each day 9% 13% 10%
VERY HEAVY 3 or more drinks each day 19% 46% 21%

How was the study carried out? 

Health survey data on 99,654 adults, who were aged between 55 and 74, in the US was examined. They were followed for an average of nine years.

Participants had completed a dietary survey with questions on their alcohol intake at various stages of their life. Their answers were averaged out.

For the purpose of the study, researchers separated the volunteers into eight groups, based on how much alcohol they consumed – from never to heavy drinkers.


What did they find? 

Very heavy drinkers (three or more drinks each day) had the highest risk of dying early or developing cancer at 21 per cent.

This group were followed by heavy drinkers (two to three drinks each day), who were 10 per cent more likely to die young or get cancer.

Infrequent drinkers (one drink each week) had an eight per cent higher risk, while it was calculated to be seven for per cent for abstainers.

There was no extra risk of cancer or dying prematurely for somewhat light drinkers (between three and five drinks each week).

However, light moderate drinkers (five to seven drinks each week) and moderate drinkers (one to two drinks each day) faced slightly higher odds.

The study, which accounted for other known risk factors, such as smoking and diet, is one of the first to look at average lifetime alcohol intakes.

Kenyan Man Narrates How Alcohol Has Made Him Wake Up In These Weird Places

Have you ever drunk yourself silly and ended up in a hospital or somewhere you didn’t want to go?

Well, there have been several stories of drunkards, some funny others heartbreaking, of what happened to them at one point in life after they had one too many for the road.

A Kenyan man has shared his horrifying experience after he drunk so much and ended  waking up in an unfamiliar place the following day.

“Three things in life make men go through a lot of sh*t, na hyo ni pombe, pesa na pu**y. my love for these three unequalled. Kwa watu wanapenda pombe I can bet there are times you wake up from a night of drinking, unajipata place, ata haujui uko wapi, na kama unajua uko wapi kuna vile haukumbuki ulifika aje hii place. Take this one time in campus nilitoka kwa club at a time i cant remember, then the next thing naamshwa na makanga nilipe gari kable tutoke stage, apparently niliingia matatu za kuenda western nikalala wakafikiria mimi ni passenger nangoja gari ijae. fare ni mia saba, na kwa mfuko niko na pesa haiwezi fika mia, plus i know no one in western, na ni saa kumi na mbili asubuhi.

Sasa there is this one time I woke up in an unfamiliar place and I almost got a heart attack. I had travelled to some new town, biashara kiasi, halafu bahati nzuri I had a friend from campus who used to live kwa hiyo town. So I talk to the guy, tell him am in town for some small business, na we can catch up for some drinks later since it was on a Friday. The guy tells me nisijisumbue kulipa room, I can crash at his place, then we hit the club na pesa nilikuwa nilipie room. After mashughuli, nikashika mzinga ya gilbeys, got directions and then dropped at this guys place. Kukula early supper tukaanza kuteremsha hyo mzinga, by 9 ile mzinga ime run out, na sisi bado tuko sober tunashidwa form ni gani. The guys decides to return hand, akatuma msee wa boda mzinga ingine ya gilbeys. By 12 am pombe sasa imepanda, story tu niku reminisce the many girls tulikuwa tumekula in campus.

Siko sure kama mzinga iliisha, but the guy suggests that we hit the club now, halafu pia I concur, juu already tulikuwa maji ile mbaya, so pia bill ingekuwa less. Sasa mimi ni ule msee huwa siskii pombe kama inanilewesha until its too late na nimekunywa too much, kufika club tukadecide tutumie brown bottles atleast alcohol percentage iko chini. kwa hyo club kitu nakumbuka ni only drinking guiness nne ama tano na kununulia dame fulani drinks, with plans za kumchipo. after hapo nikama niliingia auto pilot, hadi time niliamka kesho asubuhi.

Sasa time ya kuamka ndio noma ilianza. I woke up kitu 5 am still slightly drunk. Kuamka hivi na kufungua macho napatana na kisogo fulani, iko na nywele fupi zimesokotana kiasi, and I am almost sure that this is my friends head. Nikaturn haraka I face the other side, juu ni common knowledge if two guys should sleep on the same bed, then ni lazima their backs face each other, deviation from this means your gay. After ku turn is when iI almost get a heart attack, on the floor hapo kando ya bed I see my boxer and my trousers. Wallai I felt some tears begin to collect in my eyes, sasa roho inapiga mbiombio, and my mind is on overdrive wondering what the hell is going on. Halafu more confirmation am in my friends house, ni the fact that I can also see my bag in some corner place niliacha usiku before we went out.

Then I hear the person besides me turn, and I can tell ako awake. i hear a hand on my back and I close my eyes and clench my teeth, fighting away the urge to kill somebody. “Hi, babe umeamka” ndio kitu niliskia next and I almost jumped with joy juu hiyo sauti nayo ilikuwa ya geus, I turn around mbio and the first thing I ask ni mbona hauna nywele. a close look at the girl, ika jolt my memory back, nikakumbuka ni dame nilikuwa na buyia drinks jana kwa klabu. I ask her why I don’t have my clothes on, akanishow tulifika nikajichocha nitafikisha threshold but nikalala hata before tumalize kumake out. I tell the girl wasiwasi alikuwa amenipatia, and she can’t stop laughing, that when she leaves the bed, akaingia kwa closet and showed me hizi kofia za nywele wanawake huvaa. Akaanza kunipea shi**y stories vile alinyoa ku signify a new stage in her life, but she still loves how she looks with her hair on and that’s why she wears wigs. Acha tuseme after hangover kuisha threshold ilifikishwa, na nikajipromise kupunguza intake yangu ya pombe,” HE WROTE.

source: KenyaTalk

Intoxicated Teens Are At Risk Of Life-Threatening Alcohol Addiction As Adults: Drinking Young Raises Your Death Risk By 47%

Getting drunk before your 15th birthday nearly doubles your risk of an early death, new research reveals.

Those who get inebriated at a young age are 47 percent more likely to die prematurely, a study found.

Researchers believe early drinking may increase a person’s risk of suffering a life-threatening alcohol abuse disorder in later life.

Drunk men

Lead author Dr Hui Hu from the University of Florida, said: ‘Early onset of drinking and drunkenness are associated with alcohol use disorders and therefore may play a role in elevated alcohol use disorder-related mortality rates.’

Other experts add excessive alcohol-consumption at a young age can increase a person’s ‘risk-taking behavior’ and lead to mental health issues.

  • How the study was carried out 

Compared to study participants who said they never got drunk, those who did so at least once before they turned 15 were 47 percent more likely to die during the study period.

Getting drunk at 15 or older increased the risk of death during the study by 20 percent.

Some 61 percent of the study’s participants said they had been drunk at some point, with around 13 percent of first-time cases occurring before they turned 15.

Of those who got drunk young, around 37 percent were suffering from an alcohol abuse disorder at the time of the interviews, compared to 11 percent of abuse sufferers who did not get intoxicated until they were older.

By the end of the study, 26 percent of those who got drunk young had died, compared to 23 percent of those who got drunk later and 19 percent who had never been inebriated.


  • Why early drinking is risky

Excessive drinking at a young age is thought to be linked to alcohol abuse in later life.

Dr Hu said: ‘Early onset of drinking and drunkenness are associated with alcohol use disorders and therefore may play a role in elevated alcohol use disorder-related mortality rates.’

Yet alcohol addiction may not be the only factor contributing to young drinkers’ early death risk.

Dr Hu said: ‘We found that an estimated 21 percent of the total effects of early drunkenness were mediated through alcohol use disorders, suggesting that many other factors in addition to alcohol use disorders may play important roles.’

Dr Michael Criqui, San Diego, who was not involved in the study, said: ‘We know that alcohol abuse leads to earlier mortality, but it is also possible that earlier abuse reflects other genetic or environmental characteristics that lead to earlier mortality.’

Early drunkenness may point to other factors such as risk-taking behavior, mental health issues or a lack of social or economic support that influences health and longevity.


  • How to interpret the results  

Dr Marcus said: ‘No one should interpret these data to mean that their fate is sealed.

‘On the contrary, these findings are useful exactly because they may help us identify those at risk so we can prevent these adverse outcomes.’

Yet Mr Joy Bohyun Jang of the institute for social research at the University of Michigan, who was not involved in the study, added that the study demonstrates an early mortality risk exists even among people without alcohol addiction, which all drinkers should be aware of.

He said: ‘Those with alcohol use disorders may receive attention to their alcohol use behaviors by practitioners or they themselves may be cautious about their alcohol use.

‘But what this study tells us is that those without alcohol use disorder may need the same level of attention if they experience drunkenness early in their life.’


How To Give Up DRINKING And Not LOSE Your Friends: Here Are Top Tips To Get Around The Awkward After-Work Drinks Questions

Are you determined to give up drinking without losing your friends? Here’s what you have to do, according to Anna Pursglove who gave up drinking 12 months ago aged 43 after embracing fitness;


We all play roles in our friendship groups: the organiser, the listener, the risk taker. When you stop drinking you create a new (and possibly previously unfilled) position. It will take the other women time to adjust.

When I first told my friends I had decided to back away from the booze, several said things along the lines of ‘but you’re the fun one’. This was hard to deal with at the time as it suggested that I was only capable of being fun half cut.

But I learned not to take comments like this to heart. They only show fear among the others that they may be losing you.

I hope the past 12 months have shown my girlfriends that I’m still me — it’s just I can now drive them home after a night out.



When you find yourself clutching a glass of sparkling water in the midst of a fizz binge, you will be grilled, so be prepared.

Women insist you tell them why you’re not drinking and they will harass you for an answer, whether you feel like discussing it or not. But I have generally found that male friends aren’t interested in whether I drink or not.

A clinical psychologist friend tells me this supports the behavioural theory that men are what experts term ‘self regarding’, while women are ‘other regarding’. In other words, it matters far more to women than men what their peers are doing.

Rather than endlessly listing your reasons, I find it much better to fib. Saying you are on a diet or antibiotics is the quickest way to get people to change the subject.


Newly acquired sobriety is extremely threatening to other women and you can expect to be cast in the role of the ‘wine police’ whatever you do. Friends who would once happily quaff a bottle or two in your presence will now treat you to a forensic analysis of what they have consumed . . . and when . . . and why.

You’re just going to have to grin and bear it, and be scrupulously non-judgmental.

Eventually, they will accept that you are not, in fact, hiding a breathalyser in your handbag, nor will you be counting the empties into the recycling bin, tut-tutting all the while. It just takes a while for your friends to realise this is about you — not them.



There are certain fundamental differences between drinkers and non-drinkers. The most prominent of these is that drinkers like to string a thing out . . . in order to squeeze in another teeny glass.

This will become apparent to you when you go out for dinner. The evening will start with cocktails, then the food ordering will take for ever while people peruse the wine list. There will be endless sendings-away of the waiter who has come to take your order because people are on their second gin and tonic, they haven’t even looked at the menu and they’re already starting to lose focus as the booze kicks in.

This can be frustrating, but there’s an easy solution — just skip the bits that don’t involve food.

Don’t turn up for the pre-dinner drinks at all, and get to the restaurant late. Get one of the others to order for you. You will miss nothing that won’t be repeated during the course of dinner.


An inescapable truth about a wine-free life is that you won’t want to stay up as late as the others do.

Studies have shown that — at least for the time people are actively drinking — alcohol acts as a stimulant (even if it has sedative effects later on).

This problem really bothered me at first. How could I maintain that female camaraderie if I was always the one sloping off at 10pm?

But here’s the revelation — nobody will even notice if you leave without saying goodbye.

It’s such a well-tested social trick that the etiquette-conscious French even gave it a name — ‘filer à l’anglaise’ meaning ‘to leave English style’.

Many has been the time I’ve nipped off quietly at 10pm, only for a friend to call the next day to say: ‘Oh and how about when so-and-so did such-and-such at midnight.’ The more people drink, the hazier they become about time.

Group of young people making toast at party


When the round is ordered at the pub, you’ll be forgotten because you aren’t drinking.

Don’t get huffy. After all, how much Diet Coke do you actually want to consume? And do you really want another of those ‘non-alcoholic lagers’ that taste more like something purchased in the solvents aisle at Homebase?

Instead of feeling slighted, see it as an opportunity to duck out of the round. You’ll spend a fraction of the money and it means you can get away when you want to without seeming as though you haven’t paid your share.


Despite your best efforts, there may be someone who isn’t willing to accept the recalibration of your friendship group.

This isn’t your fault. If pulling the thread of alcohol out of a relationship means it falls apart then know that there was never anything you could have done to save it. Other than to start drinking again.

And if a friendship requires a mind-altering substance to make it seem fulfilling, ask yourself; was it ever really that healthy in the first place?


Did You Know? DRUG-TAKING And Binge-Drinking Teenagers Five Times Likely To Commit SUICIDE In Their 20s

Teenagers who frequently binge-drink are more likely to commit suicide in their 20s, alarming new research shows.

Those admitted to hospital with alcohol-related injuries face a five-fold increased risk of killing themselves, it suggests.

The findings also applied to those who required medical treatment from taking drugs, being involved in violence and self-harm.

Professor David Cottrell, from the University of Leeds, who was involved in the research, warned that the NHS must do more to help these teenagers.

He said: “Clinicians have not fully appreciated the risks facing children and young people who arrive in hospital emergency departments having suffered an adversity-related injury.

“It is well established that children who self-harm are at an increased risk of suicide. But the research points to that fact that the risk extends to a much broader group.

Group of young people making toast at party

“Children and young people who suffered injuries through drink or drugs or violence also faced an increased risk of suicide or premature death through alcohol and drug behaviours.”

Sarah Brennan, chief executive of Young Minds, said: “This groundbreaking research demonstrates some of the interconnections between self-harm, substance misuse and violent injury – and the tragic consequences that these experiences may have.

“It is essential that we don’t think of young people simply in terms of a list of ‘issues’, and that we understand how distress can be expressed in different ways at different times.”

For the study published in The Lancet, the researchers, who teamed up with University College London, looked at anonymous data on more than a million youngsters over 15 years.

All participants were aged between 10 and 19 and had been admitted to various A&E departments across the UK.


Those whose injuries were due to ‘adversity’ – the result of drug or alcohol abuse, violence of self-harm – were twice as likely to die within the next decade.

This was compared to people who were injured in bog-standard injuries.

Young people in this adversity group were also found to be five times more likely to kill themselves in the forthcoming 10 years.

The exact suicide risk was found to be 7.2 per 1,000 for boys. However, for girls it was much lower at 2.5 for the same amount.

In comparison, the rate was 1.2 and 0.4 respectively for those who weren’t in the adversity group, The Sun reports.

The findings reflect the widely known fact that men are almost four times more likely to commit suicide than women.

Two thirds of all recorded deaths were attributable to suicide, drug or alcohol abuse, or homicide, the study showed.




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Alcohol Defeating War Against HIV/Aids Scourge In Western -Research

Alcohol consumption among persons living with HIV is hampering the war against the scourge in Kenya, a new study shows.

The study conducted by two researchers from Brown University showed that alcohol intake undermines the fight against the virus that causes Aids.

This is because as it makes one more vulnerable to engaging in risky sexual behavior.

Alcohol also undermines one’s health by reducing the efficacy of ARVs in the patients’ immune system.

The study done in Western Kenya focused on introducing a culturally adapted program, known as the cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT).

This will be used to promote alcohol abstinence among HIV persons.

“Public health research shows that alcohol may be a factor in more than 13 percent of deaths due to infectious diseases, including HIV,” read part of the study.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is a short-term, goal-oriented psychotherapy treatment that takes a hands-on, practical approach to solve a problem.

Its goal is to change patterns of thinking or behavior that are behind people’s difficulties, and so change the way they feel.

The treatment mode helps participants explore their thoughts, actions, and feelings in situations where the risk of drinking is acute so that they resist.

“This therapy was selected for the Kenyan since it works for both individual and group formats to reduce substance abuse,” read the report.

About 700 persons who are living with HIV and also take alcohol took part in the study.

The research showed that if the country had trained paraprofessionals, they could boost alcohol abstinence rates to 69 per cent.

This is just compared with just 38 per cent using the prior standard of care.

Paraprofessionals are persons to whom a particular aspect of a task is delegated but who are not licensed to practice as a fully qualified professional.

Kenya has 1.5 million people living with HIV. Out of this number, more than 800,000 of them are on lifelong treatment.

Currently, there is no ‘safe’ level of alcohol use recommended for persons living with HIV.

However, a number of studies have found that heavy drinkers and those with alcohol problems have lower CD4 counts than moderate drinkers.

The group is likely to have more copies of the HIV in their body.

Alcohol has negative effects on people living with HIV, both on their bodies and how they behave.

The effects of alcohol on HIV infection depend on how much a person drinks.

It weakens the immune system and lowers CD4 counts.

-The Star

Is Your Man Suffocating You?

Mwalimu had a question for the ladies this morning based on a call by a guy who said his wife calls his friends complaining that he is suffocating her. Apparently he comes home too early and his presence in the house is becoming too much for his wife to bear.

She says that she prefers a man who drinks, and spends his time out, with friends drinking or watching football as opposed to one who comes home early and stays around.  He is wondering why she is complaining yet he gives her quality time.

According to Maina, the man is suffocating her. Is there such a thing as a man giving you too much time?

Listen to the conversation here:

Study: Dating Changes You

Have your friends complained about how much you have changed since you started dating? well apparently dating does change you especially in matters alcohol that’s according to a new study.

According to one of the study authors Professor Brett Laursen from Florida Atlantic University, “The results confirm what most friends complain about — romantic partners are a distraction from friendships,”. It also is a stark reminder how the peer social world changes during adolescence. Same-sex friends become less important and romantic affiliations become more important,”

Similarity is the hallmark of adolescent friendships and not coincidently, most single adolescents report friends to be among their most important relationships.

However, the start of a new romantic relationship alters the balance of close relationships. As romantic relationships surpass friendships in terms of importance, adolescents are inclined to change to become more similar to their romantic partners, even if it means that differences arise with friends.

“Friends no longer shape drinking habits the way they used to. Romantic partners now dictate terms,” Laursen said.

In the first part of the study, participants (662 girls, 574 boys) ranging in age from 12 to 19 years, nominated friends and romantic partners, and completed a measure of alcohol abuse.

Friends with romantic partners were less similar on rates of alcohol abuse than friends without romantic partners.

The study was published in the journal Developmental Psychology.

Khloe Kardashian Rushes To Be By Lamar Odom As He Fights For His Life

Former NBA star Lamar Odom has been admitted to hospital after being found unconscious after binge drinking at a hotel in Nevada.

His ex, Khloe Kardashian is at his bedside as he continues to fight for his life in hospital; she is rumored to be making medical decisions for him as she is still his legal wife.

The 35-year-old’s organs are believed to be failing and he is in a critical condition after being found unconscious at Dennis Hof’s Love Ranch.

According to TMZ, Lamar is still in a coma, and breathing “with the assistance of machines”.

But the gossip website claims his heart is failing and he “is having serious problems with his kidneys and lungs”.

The site claims, despite the couple signing the necessary legal documents to end their marriage in 2013, an “extreme backlog” in family courts means the divorce will not become final for another two months.

Odom was allegedly at the ranch for a number of days partying with girls and taking a herbal substitute for viagra, TMZ quoted sources as saying.

Hof reportedly told the site that Odom was found unconscious in a VIP suite with fluid streaming from his mouth.

Study: Getting Married May Help You Stop A Drinking Problem

According to findings that appeared in the journal Alcoholism: Clinical and Experimental Research, finding someone to marry may help you cut back on alcohol or a drinking problem.

The researchers used previously collected data from a long-term, ongoing study of familial alcohol disorders.

They examined how the drinking rates of the participants changed as they aged from age 18 to 40, and how this change was affected by whether or not participants became married.

About 50 percent of the participants included in the study of familial alcoholism were children of alcoholics.

“Confirming our prediction, we found that marriage not only led to reductions in heavy drinking in general, this effect was much stronger for those who were severe problem drinkers before getting married,” said one of the researchers Matthew Lee from University of Missouri in the US.

He added on to say that drinking conflicts more with the demands of roles like marriage; thus, more severe problem drinkers are likely required to more substantially alter their drinking habits to adapt to the marital role.

The role incompatibility theory suggests that if a person’s existing behavioural pattern is conflicting with the demands of a new role, such as marriage, one way to resolve the incompatibility is to change behaviour, Lee explained.

Scientists believe that the findings could help improve clinical efforts to help these people, inform public health policy changes and lead to more targeted interventions for young adult problem drinkers.


Study: Not Having BFF’s Is More Dangerous Than Excessive Drinking

Do you have a good of close friends you can share everything with and just have fun? No? You need to have them.

According to scientists, those without a friendship crew in their twenties are at risk of early death.

The lead author of the study appearing in Psychology and Aging, Cheryl Carmichael, said: ‘In fact, having few social connections is equivalent to tobacco use, and it’s higher than for those who drink excessive amounts of alcohol, or who suffer from obesity.

According to the research, your 20s is the time to spread your wings and be a social butterfly. Lots of social activities during this period of your life will help you out later on.

By having a wide friendship network as young adults we build a tool set to draw on later in life – we find out who we are, meet people from diverse backgrounds and learn from each other.

Your 30s is the time to settle down and choose a gang of BFFs to frequent the same bar or cafe with every week. Those with meaningful friendships at this age reported a greater quality of life in their fifties than those without

The findings of this study was done on 222 college students in the 70s and asking them to track their social interactions at the ages of 20 and 30 in a diary. Exactly 20 years after the last diary entry, the participants answered an online survey about their well-being.


Which Drunk Personality Are You?

We all know that friend who becomes extremely bold when drunk yet they are the shyest when in their sober state. Then there is the other one who turns into a mouse when under the influence yet while sober they are usually the cat. Then the dramatic one who is just all over the place.

People react differently to alcohol and it tends to bring out ‘other” characters. Psychologists from the University of Missouri-Columbia have identified four types of drunk personalities.

The Hemingways: This group change only slightly when drunk, retaining a level of contentiousness and intellect. Around four in 10 of the participants fell into this group. They showed fewer reductions in the personality traits such as conscientiousness, which is defined as being reliable, organised and prompt, and Intellect -understanding abstract ideas, being imaginative – than the rest of the sample, when drinking.

The Nutty Professors: These drinkers become more confident and extroverted with a few drinks inside them. They also become less conscientious.  They change quite dramatically. They are the ones who suddenly gain confidence after imbibing a few. The character was named after the main character of two Disney films who is chemically transformed into a more outgoing character, these people are particularly introverted when sober and become much more extroverted when drunk. More men than women fall into this category and one in five participants overall.

The Mary Poppins: This group remains friendly, cooperative, compassionate and agreeable when drunk. Around 15 per cent of participants fell into this personality group. When sober, they score particularly high on the agreeableness scale, meaning they are friendly, cooperative, and compassionate. And their positive outlook remains as the night wears on.

They decrease less than average in conscientiousness, intellect and agreeableness when intoxicated,’ the researchers wrote in the journal Addiction Research and Theory. The Mary Poppins group of drinkers essentially captures the sweet, responsible drinkers who experience fewer alcohol-related problems.’

The Mr Hydes: This unfortunate group of people become less conscientious and intellectual, but more disagreeable when they drink. They are most likely to experience memory blackouts or be arrested. These people show large reductions in conscientiousness and intellect – as well as becoming increasingly disagreeable, when drinking.

‘In other words, members of this group, reported a tendency of being particularly less responsible, less intellectual, and more hostile when under the influence of alcohol than they are when they are sober, as well as relative to members of the other groups,’ said the psychologists.

The Mr Hydes made up 23 per cent of the drinkers, with more women than men.

Where do you lie? Which one are you?

-Daily mail

Full List of 385 Spirits Banned By The Government

The government has banned at least 385 brands of second generation alcohol as the war on eliminating illicit brands continues.

This ban comes days after President Uhuru Kenyatta declared that the war on the illicit brews wasn’t a ticket to destroy property. Uhuru was addressing Kabete MP, Ferdinand Waititu during a mass at St Paul’s Catholic Church in Kiambu town.

Here is the list of the banned alcohol brands and companies

Company                                                                                                                                                    1. Aberdares Beverages Limited BrandGoal
2 Aberdares Beverages Limited Royal Horse
3 Aberdares Beverages Limited Kick
4 Aberdares Beverages Limited Goal
5 Advance Limited Poond
6 Afrikaane Brewing Company Rhino Gin
7 Afrikaane Brewing Company Rhino Gin
8 Afrikaane Brewing Company Rhino Gin
9 Afro Prime Industries Ltd Tyson
10 Afro Prime Industries Ltd African Special
11 Agro Chemicals And Food Co. Ltd Patriot
12 Ambukas Wineries Ltd Turbo 4 Power
13 Ambukas Wineries Ltd Ambukas
14 Amsco Kenya Limited Black Jack
15 Amsco Kenya Limited Kings

Read the full list on: http://www.the-star.co.ke/news/read-list-385-spirits-banned-government

More youths prefer spirits as compared to beer, survey

More than 35 per cent of Kenyan youth drink for fun, a survey conducted by Kenya Alcohol Policy and Control Alliance (KAPA) has found. The report established various reasons for abuse of alcohol among minors ranging from age, gender and locality, with 84 percent of respondents below 18 citing peer pressure.

Alcohol promotional campaigns on radio stations lead in encouraging minors to take up the drink, the research reports. The study, carried out in five East African countries, reveals six per cent out of the 35 per cent are children below 14 years of age.

The report further shows that 21 per cent of those who drink are boys below 17 years with possible trends of an increased consumption. The survey conducted in Malindi, Kajiado, Murang’a, Siaya and Kilifi counties indicated that 71 percent of minors below the age of 18 have experimented alcohol.

Abuse of alcohol among underage girls was at 29 per cent while 71 per cent of their male counterparts were found to be alcohol addicts. Students’ Campaign Against Drugs (SCAD) programmes officer William Ntakuka said close to 10 per cent of children in counties with excessive alcohol consumption missed schooling opportunities as their parents were heavy consumers.

Speaking at a press conference on Tuesday morning, Ntakuka said failure by the current anti-alcohol measures especially those aimed at discouraging minors below 18 from taking alcohol is a major contributor to underage drinking. He said interviewees said they drink for fun and as a result of peer pressure, while others were given by their parents.

Majority of those drinking prefer spirits and other second generation alcoholic drinks because they are cheaper, get them high quickly. Beer comes in second with 58.1 per cent, muratina is third with 13.4 per cent, while 10 per cent of youth drink illicit brew. “We found out that many youths in the country consume wines and spirits with consumption rate standing at 59.8 per cent,” he said.

He said location of alcohol selling points near residential areas and laxity in observing laws governing sale, production, distribution and promotion of alcoholic drinks in the country is also a major factor leading to underage drinking. 65.8 percent of the respondents said there is an alcohol selling point less than 100 metres from their schools or homes.

Ntakuka said in an effort to fight consumption of illicit brew, the government is withdrawing alcohol without providing alternatives, a short term solution that might worsen the state of those affected. There is need for the government to re-evaluate the approach on alcohol control by state actors to migrate to a public health approach, he said.

He said only 20 out of the 47 counties had adopted the model on alcohol control.

– The Star

Pregnant drinking common in Ireland, England, Australasia

Twenty to 80 percent of women questioned in England, Ireland, Australia and New Zealand drank alcohol while pregnant, researchers said Tuesday, flagging a “significant public health concern”.

Though most had “low levels” of intake, the data suggested that alcohol use in pregnancy was prevalent and socially pervasive, said a study in the journal BMJ Open.

“New policy and interventions are required to reduce alcohol prevalence both prior to and during pregnancy,” the authors wrote.

The World Health Organization (WHO) warns that alcohol use during pregnancy can damage the unborn child for life — though there is no certainty about the dose at which it becomes dangerous.

The worst effects are seen with foetal alcohol syndrome — whose symptoms can include facial abnormalities, and physical and intellectual disabilities.

Drinking while pregnant can also lead to miscarriages, and premature or still births, says the WHO website, and pregnant women are generally advised not to drink.

The team looked at statistics from:

– The Growing up in Ireland (GUI) database of surveys of nearly 11,000 women who gave birth in 2008-09,

– The Pregnancy Risk Assessment Monitoring System (PRAMS), also in Ireland, with 718 respondents who gave birth in 2012, and

– The Screening for Pregnancy Endpoints (SCOPE) study based on interviews with 5,573 women between 2004-2011 from Auckland in New Zealand, Adelaide in Australia, Cork in Ireland, and Manchester, Leeds and London in England.

SCOPE had the highest overall reported prevalence, at 82 percent, of drinking during pregnancy, the team said, and GUI the lowest at 20 percent.

The number for PRAMS was 46 percent.

SCOPE also had the highest prevalence, 45 percent, of binge drinking while pregnant — measured as six or more units of alcohol per sitting.

One unit is about a glass of wine, a shot of spirits, or half a pint of lager.

Smokers were 17-50 percent more likely to drink while pregnant, the numbers showed. There was no comparison with other parts of the world.

“The amount of alcohol drunk varied across the three studies. Between 15 percent and 70 percent of the women said that they had drunk one to two units a week during the first three months (trimester) of their pregnancy,” the researchers said.

The number of units dropped substantially in all countries from the first to the second trimester, but the team said this was little comfort.

“Since most women who consume alcohol do so at lower levels where the offspring growth and development effects are less well understood, the widespread consumption of even low levels of alcohol during pregnancy is a significant public health concern.”

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