Akothee is one woman who has blazed a trail in the entertainment industry. Not only has she succeeded in becoming a well-known star in the entertainment industry, but she has also done it as a single mother of 5 kids who isn’t afraid to tackle the tough issues that come with it.
In a recent hot take, Akothee decided to advise women who might be planning to turn away from their marriage. She stated that women should not use the excuse that they want to live like her.
Additionally, the musician claims that life on social media is not what it seems like and it’s very different from reality.
”It has come to my attention that I am misadvising women to walk out of their relationships. The problem is that you don’t understand my English. Please, if you’re married, stay in your marriage. Even our own parents stayed in their own marriages. Being a single mother is not pride, it is a circumstance. And we can’t change anything about that.”
Adding,
“Anyway, we’ve got to be strong to live this life. If you think you want to leave your husband because you think Akothee is living a good life, I will never showcase my frustrations online. You could be living a better life than me. But anyway, the choices are yours. If you want to leave your husband’s house, don’t leave with my name… You do not know what I’m going through off- cameras.”
While there are reasons not to stay in some marriages (like physical abuse and a financially unstable partner), just like Akothee, I have always advocated for people to stick it out in a marriage.
And my reason is simple-Do it for the children. The science is clear on the benefits children have when growing up in two-parent homes. Some are below:
1. Children growing up in homes where two parents who have been married continuously are less likely to experience a wide range of problems (academic, social, emotional, cognitive), not only in childhood but later on in adulthood as well (Amato; Howard & Reeves,).
2. In two-parent families, for example, children typically have access to more of the economic and community resources because parents are able to pool their time, money, and energy.
3. Family intactness has also been shown to have a consistently positive influence on earnings for prime-age males and is one of the most important factors (or shared the place of greatest importance) for females and children in determining an area’s dependence on welfare programs that targets poverty.
4. Family intactness has a beneficial influence on reducing out-of-wedlock births, increasing high school and college graduation rates, and even has long-term benefits such as higher employment rates.
5. Children living with married parents are more often involved in community activities such as soccer or other sports, take part in academic pursuits in local schools and other academic institutions that can lead to college, and eventually, a career.
6. Intact families tend to be more stable; parents tend to be more involved in their children’s lives and are more highly invested in their children’s success.
7. Children living with both biological parents are 20 to 35 percent more physically healthy than children from broken homes (Dawson).
8. A study by Kinard and Reinherz found that children from two-parent homes had higher scores on verbal reasoning than those from single-parent homes.
9. Manning and Lamb found that adolescents in intact families had higher levels of academic achievement and were less likely to exhibit problem behaviors in school compared to peers living in homes where single mothers lived alone or with a cohabiting partner.
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