We need to understand why we are energetically connected or stuck in relationships that are not good for us, yet we know it.
Trauma bonding is the main reason why women cannot leave abusive relationships.
Women tend to bond with men that they have emotionally gotten attached either through intimacy, children, or conversation. As a woman, if you choose people who are not healthy in your space, you may tend to be very difficult because you do not know how healthy relationships feel or look like.
Your body doesn’t know that you are linking with an abusive person. A trauma bond is bonding with someone who is toxic, abusive. Trauma is what happens over time, it’s not like physical abuse or s33ual abuse. Does not happen once, but over a long time like being passive-aggressive.
Unless you are mindful of how your blueprint looks like, then you’ll be able to identify how an abusive relationship looks like.
When your friends and family see that you ain’t the same person, not the person you once were. Personality has changed, and they have seen things in your partner and ask things like, ‘why are you still with the person?’
You project your feelings to that person that you want to believe that the person you fell in love with is a good person but it’s normally a form of love bombing. It’s normally a hard pill to swallow when you realize that the person you came to love is not the right man for you because the guy was love bombing you and playing with your emotions.
It is never easy to accept that you are in an abusive relationship, especially when you have children with a toxic man. This is because you do not want your child or children to live without a fatherly figure because you still have hope on the person and you can still see that the man has room to change so you keep blinding yourself.
In order to stop this trauma bond, you have to accept that it’s an addiction. You need to accept that this person is no longer the person you fell in love with. Accept that the relationship is over and you’ve been addicted. Your happiness comes first, and you have to decide on it and stop making decisions that are not geared towards your happiness. Just do things that make you happy and want to try to do different things that will help you from digressing from the toxic relationship.