i’m secretly planning to leave my husband of 27 years

She insists she bears no anger, but is firm she can no longer remain in a loveless marriage.

A woman revealed that she has made up her mind to leave her husband of 27 years, and he has no clue.

She said that despite all her hopes and dreams in the beginning, and all her good intentions now, it seems impossible to continue her marriage, according to her confession on air.

She said

‘I’ve gone through alot. When I married this man 27 years ago, I saw him as somebody who has focus, only to realize this man is nothing. This guy has gone to the best schools, colleges in Kenya but huyu mbtu hana mbele wala nyuma.’

I’ve gone through alot, I’ve persevered, and enough is enough she told Maina. Ive been gong home, coming back he comes abck to me I’ve tolerated alot right now I’m planning look for my own plot pack and leave. 

I’m ready to forego those 27 years and leave. I have four children, but right now I’ve had enough 

How long did it take her to realize she has made a mistake?

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She responded to Maina

this was after 15 years, but all along I was just saying this man is going to change but everyday it becomes words and words and words. I have waited, I have paid for the children school fees I pay the house rent, he comes he feeds breakfast, launch and dinner na hana habari hata. He doesn’t pay for anything. I pay school fees then go to the Headmaster, he comes to pay after a year then I’m refunded. That has been going on and on. 

Relationship experts say that when people harbor deep, which can’t be resolved, it could be time to let go.

My children have got to a point where they know their father won’t pay for anything, when I tell them to go ask their father for money they tell me afadhali ikae, It’s got to a point right now I don’t want to leave blindly, I am quietly planning my exit I am looking for a plot I build my own house that is what I am focusing on. I am just fed up That man has a good salary he is working with one of the best companies but he doesn’t own property, not even a chicken shed, and if you look at him, he seems a very respectable man every woman will admire that man.

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The woman said she could no longer remain married to someone for whom she had “no respect.”

but in reality hana mbele wala nyuma Ive wasted my time but I don’t want to regret it because if I regret it I will not move on I will just pick the pieces and move on, she finished

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Woman celebrates splitting from husband with divorce lunch photo

 
Hannah Renee Bell knows exactly how to act in her celebratory divorce photo op.

A photo she shared on her Facebook page to mark the end of her marriage shows her and her ex hubby showing they have removed their wedding bands, and are ok about it.

The picture has proved so popular online that people are now thanking Hannah is setting 2020 goals for couples who are not getting along.

Many who have read her post say Hannah is inspiring them to leave their own rubbish relationships.

Hannah said she wanted to represent ‘the strength to carry on’ after her relationship broke down.

Read her long post and see why she became an internet sensation for her joy filled caption.

It’s official. Yesterday our divorce was finalized. After our court hearing we had lunch together, ringing in our next season of life as friends and co-parents.

As we reflected on our 13 years of marriage, together we came up with 5 marital lessons we learned along the way:

1) Take the time to REALLY get to know yourself, your purpose, your vision, your priorities, and your core values before committing yourself to someone else for life. Get clear on your non-negotiables and on your deal breakers before saying “I Do”. Otherwise, your newfound vision can create division if it’s not in alignment.

2) Even if you believe you heard from God, there’s no need to rush to the altar. Take your time and enjoy the process of courtship, or you’ll find yourself getting to know each other after you’re already married.

3) Before getting married, make sure your priorities are compatible and don’t ignore core value differences. While marriage takes compromise, there are some things that can’t be compromised. Eventually, either you’ll try to be someone you’re not, or you’ll try to change the other person into someone they’re not and it won’t work.

4) Marriage takes work. Don’t underestimate the amount of work that it takes to build a strong marriage. Go to marriage seminars together before getting married, learn what it really takes, and make sure you’re both willing to put in the work together. If you don’t grow together you’re gonna grow apart.

5) Hindsight is 20/20. We may not be able to change the past, but what we can do is make the best of our current situation and of the future, out of love and respect for ourselves and for our son. Life doesn’t always work out exactly how we planned, but God can still get the glory from our story.

We truly believe all things work together for the good of those who love the Lord and are called according to His purpose. God can still make something Good out of our situation. We are both proud of the life we built together over the past 13 years. And through this marriage the most wonderful miracle was born, Jacob Victorious Bell. And for that we will always be grateful.

So here’s to new seasons, fresh starts, and new normals. 👐🏽

(Btw, no need to choose sides. You can love us both equally!! 😂)

*Edited: This post is NOT meant to advocate divorce, nor is it to celebrate our failures in our marriage. We choose to celebrate what good came of it and we hope others can also learn from our mistakes BEFORE marriage or divorce…

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‘Marriage is difficult’ Kenyan Housewife reflects on husbands ‘madharau’

When a woman divulges serious stuff about her marriage, you best be sure she has had it and the next step could be walking away.

A housewife sobbed while detailing the struggles she endures in her marriage to a Kenyan man.

Nasty fights have led to a troubled marriage according to a confession she made on Classic 105.

She revealed things are not in a great place

‘Men sometimes provoke us women into doing bad things to them’

She has been shut down emotionally

I have been provoked in my marriage. He shows me madharau because he is the breadwinner, and he knows I can’t do anything.

The tension is her marriage is so bad she has contemplated hurting her man

I vumulia for my children’s sake, I really try to vumulia but aii it’s too much, men have stress they bring home and the wife too has stress, so things may happen.

Dear Classic 105 fam, if your marriage is going cold, how do you keep it real? Drop your comments below.

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Singer Christina Aguilera opens up about surviving domestic violence

 

Her story is a courageous example of how using ones voice as a celebrity can help more survivors speak up and get the support they need.

Christina has opened up in an emotional Instagram post about her experience and how she is working to inspire others living a similar situation.

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She spoke about surviving the traumatic events and and years of abuse.

I remember often having to up and escape in the middle of the night with my mom & little sister, having just the clothes on our backs, to drive cross country for shelter at my grandma’s house.

She is now giving back to those experiencing violence

 Without that, I would have had to turn to a place like @shadetreevegas for shelter. I have so much respect and adoration for those who give their time and support to hear these victims’ stories and help them regain strength, self empowerment and provide resources for a better independent future.

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She further speaks about the shame and embarrassment people face

Some aren’t so fortunate to get out….which is why it’s so important to work together to put a stop to these horrific statistics. Moreover, this isn’t just an issue in the US, but happens all over the world, in too many homes!!
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We need to use our voices to speak up, reach out and help one another break these deep rooted cycles and empower each other to end these patterns. .

Other celebrities who have spoken out out about domestic violence include Kenyan singer Kush Tracey who accused Khaligraph Jones of battering her.

Even Nairobi Governor Mike  Sonko’s daughter confessed she was abused by her baby daddy, before ending the relationship.

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The revelation shocked her fans who encouraged her to speak out.

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Nicki Minaj opens up about past abusive relationship

 

Nicki Minaj in an emotional post on Twitter has recalled how she was so afraid during a past relationship.

Nicki who has been flaunting a new man, and hinting that they are considering marriage candidly speaks saying

I remember being so afraid to speak cuz I never knew when that person would be in a particular mood and I could maybe say one wrong thing that would get me hit. So the diff you see in me now is that feeling when a woman feels lifted up, safe, appreciated & unconditionally loved.

‘He used to beat me’ Saumu Mbuvi opens up about baby daddy

Nicki who has previously dated rapper Meek Mill shocked fans as she narrated how although people think she is a tough girl, the relationship proved otherwise

But I first had to learn how to love MYSELF.

 if you wouldn’t let a man treat your mother, your sister or best friend like that b/c you LOVE them, then you wouldn’t let a man treat YOU like that b/c you love YOU. This isn’t about judging. We judge too much. Lift them up.
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The drama and struggles she faced have now seen her offer advice to women in such relationships

 

 I rlly used to think love had to hurt. So I could never look down on anyone else. We are merely human. It’s not easy to leave. Especially in the world of IG where all ppl want to do is post relationship goal pics for clout & attention. A man should make you feel safe, not afraid
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The 36-year-old rapper concludes her lengthy piece saying
When u see a woman in a toxic relationship, rather than laugh & say mean things, try to offer sound advice from your heart & root for her to learn her worth. We’ve all been there. I saw my parents fight & argue non stop & never divorce, so I thought this was normal behavior…

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