Judging from online conversations and with friends, the question of lover statistics is as compelling as ever.
It is understandable to be curious what number you are but what will you do if you love this person?
Too many men are still raised to see bedroom matters as crude competition, in which bedding a woman who has already had a lot of lovers counts less than scoring with a woman who is “hard to get.”
But I think the average guy’s worry is simpler than that. The more men his girlfriend has slept with, the greater number of lovers to which she can compare his skills. It’s easier to win a contest against two than against 20, he figures. And even easier to rank first when he’s the only one to have ever played the game. No wonder so many men are obsessed with finding a virgin.
A woman called in and told her story.
I have been in 20 relationships
I haven’t found him yet and I can go through another 20 declared a defiant woman.
that’s how I can learn them I have gone through 20 of them and I haven’t found mine.
Shoud it matter asked Mike Mondo to which Mwalimu responded sharply saying
You know you can have a masterkey but if you are a padlock it’s a problem.
Sasa what is she looking for Kingangi posed to Mike Mondo shocked she has gone through 20.
Congratulations Kingangi said
It’s good for a lady to maintain her values, you now when you go with a man they go with part of you spiritually so minimize that especially when you are a lady. The reason you see most marriages back in the day succeed is because the woman didn’t have many men.
But again, why is it so important to know an exact number? What difference does it make? Knowing whether a potential girlfriend has ever been in love before is important; discovering (slowly and patiently) how her past experiences have impacted her view of men (for better or worse) is important.
A male caller differed with men by siding with women on this issue. He said
Don’t be preoccupied with how many men she’s had. My cousin is those ladies who don’t like nonsense. She has been with more than 40 men in the past 15 years, so that should not matter whether she has had many men, just accept that she is with you. Why do we expect women not to have a past like men do?
Another female caller told off men shaming women
Stop being obsessed with my past that’s not your business, leave us alone and keep walking forward. I have 16 men actually probably more and they are all a problem. If I have to get to 100 men so be it. Kwanza Giriama men are terrible, it’s actually all Kenyan men you must sample. Hii kitu sio sabuni, haikwishi.