You broke up a few months ago, maybe even years ago but he keeps texting you every other time. You think that maybe he has missed you and he wants to get back together but then you think to yourself after the pain he caused why would that happen?
Then again your heart misses him, you want him back BUT the texts are probably to ask you to visit him usually late night, last minute things or to see if you are still angry at him. You’re trying to move on but he keeps texting and you don’t know why ….well these are the likely reasons:
1. He’s stringing you along – When your ex texts you out of the blue, you can’t decode his true intentions from a few words on an LCD screen. He texts you, “How are you?” Maybe his ulterior motive is he secretly knows (but will never admit it) he unjustly hurt you and he’s worried about soiling his reputation with your mutual friends. “Can we still be friends?” can mean he wants to demote your relationship to “friends with benefits.” Or he may just be playing with you until he finds someone else.
2. He’s lonely – Your ex texts you at night; you thinks it means he misses you. Maybe he does miss you, but he doesn’t love you anymore but he misses the intimacy and the comfort of a relationship. He needs you to ease his discomfort about the breakup, but he doesn’t want you—he texts you because he wants a temporary, emotional Band-aid.
3. His stiffy misses you – Your ex texts you to hook up again. He’s drunk. He’s high. He’s horny. He sexts you because he wants to sleep with you without a commitment. If you can play that game, more power to you. But if you’re hoping a booty call means he wants to get back together with you, you may get your heart broken a second time.
4. He needs his ego stroked – Your ex may text you to see if you still love him and you still care—he wants YOU to want him. He doesn’t really want you back in life—but he wants to see if he can get a lovesick reaction out of you. He may try to make you jealous, giving a rocket boost to his ego.
Moral of the story: After a breakup, guard you heart when responding to your ex’s disingenuous text messages.