Today morning, Classic 105 presenters Maina Kageni and Mwalimu King’ang’i were discussing why people stay in toxic marriages.
Maina asked ladies why they would stay after regretting marrying the man they had married?
“You’ve realized you made a mistake, what is keeping you there?” he asked.
King’ang’i was quick to say that marriage is a contract;
“Have you ever heard about something called a contract. It’s for life that’s why you say for better for worse, why do you think its called pingu za maisha? You should’ve given your lawyers the document before you sign, you are legally bound, its a very powerful document.”
“So, how do you fix it?” Asked Maina saying that he has never understood why people stay for kids in the name of raising them in a complete family.
King’ang’i added that it is not easy to leave as there are so many people and factors involved.
One listener said marriage is not a bed of roses while another one tweeted ‘As long as I am not being beaten, I will stay and find my own happiness.”
Another listener said, “Choices have consequences.”
King’ang’i asked Maina why he keeps telling ladies to leave “And go where? Is there a place you have created for them?”
Another listerner narrated how she had been in a toxic marriage for ten years, ‘I was married for ten years. I enjoyed the married for only six years, the other four he would beat me and chase me away at night. My sister’s heart enlarged and she died because of love stress, I said I will not die. He remarried and after two years he started looking for me. It has been ten years and I am happy.”