Nameless, real names, David Mathenge has lived a life that most would admire. The man has accomplished a lot; A great career, a loving wife and two beautiful daughters.
I recently spoke to the celebrity and he was very candid with me about his marriage. He and Wahu have a very close friendship with DJ Mo and Size 8; who have recently celebrated their 6th wedding anniversary. Like DJ Mo, I asked the ‘Nasinzia’ singer the best advice he had received regarding marriage and who had given him that advice?
His answer was fascinating with the singer saying that the advice came in the form of a book. At the time the couple was having issues and his brother-in-law called him to tell him to read a particular book, as he knew the struggles he was going through.
I had an emotional awakening and my brother-in-law told me to read the book, 7 habits of highly effective people. When i read it I was in a state of trying to search for what is my contribution to the issues in my marriage. My mindset at the time was like I was a mjuaji. But after reading the book I started looking at how I could improve myself in the marriage and not on the other person’s performance.
If you keep focusing on the other person and the other person focuses on you nothing changes. When your partner starts seeing you do that, they also want to replicate and it kind of spirals in a positive way. It was about increasing my emotional intelligence.
Clearly, it has worked as the couple recently celebrated their 14th marriage anniversary.