Singer Vanessa Mdee says she felt inferior among the rest while growing up.
Speaking on the final episode for the first season of Deep Dive podcast by Vanessa Mdee, she talked about inferiority complex with her bae Rotimi.
Both shared their experience;
Vanessa said she had to overcompensate because growing up she was physically small, shorter than everybody else.
“I did not see myself in great regard. My trauma comes from being teased as a child. So when I thought about my opinions, I did not speak as I grew older, I would overcompensate by being loud and the life of the party and have the final say.”
Vanessa added that her music talent saved her.
“What saved me is the fact that I know I was very talented and I was ahead of time with the music I put out. I recognised I was comparing my work’s reception to everyone else.”
Rotimi on the other hand said that growing up in a Nigerian household, his father wouldn’t let them have an opinion.
“And it is not abuse, it is parenting. If you are not careful you can grow up feeling like your opinion has no weight and everyone around you, their answers are the right ones so you start feeling inferior about yourself not knowing where it comes from.”
He added that the age of 17 years, his mum encouraged him by making him feel he was making sense.
“But my dad being a strong African man made sure he was the man of the house so his word was the final word and nothing else mattered. I started breaking away from that saying my decisions are smart, I’m pretty wise.”
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