Kenyans are known to give unsolitcited advice on social media and in real life.
You receive a barrage of advice that leaves you feeling worse than before, because maybe you’ve already exhausted all those options, maybe you can’t afford those suggestions, maybe the prompts are inappropriate for your situation.
The tricky thing about unsolicited advice: as the giver it may feel helpful, but it’s rarely what the person suffering needs. In the end everyone feels worse for wear.
This formed the basis for the mornign conversation on Classic 105 with Mike Mondo and Mwalimu Kingangi.
Mwalimu sought to know from Kenyans:
Why do Kenyans like poking their noses where they don’t belong in other peoples afairs. You know wazungus they mind their own business. Case example Bob Collymore, you know it has taken less than 72 hours because that was his wish.
Mike also asked: Why are we like that? We have a habit of poking our noses in things that don’t involve us, why are we this way?
One caller said
Us like Africans we are, we are used to certain things, and it wont stop. You see like how people have been left out of Bob Collymores fuenral plans etc, we must comment about it. We are used to eating property left behind by the late we dont go to their homes to mourn. We just want to see what wealth they have.
If there’s one thing I’ve learnt fom us losing Bob is that for you to be sucessful you don’t need to have a thousand or a million friends, you just need to have a small circle of those who believe in you. All those scenarios we are sseeing people talking about is that ill feeling that this guy made it against all odds. And that’s common for hman beings, someone wants to come to your funeraal not to eulogize but to see how you lived life. The guy had a simple life but he was one of the most peowerful CEO’s in East and Central Africa. Life is all about a few friends, being humble and bleiving in God. That’s it, you just need a few good friends.
Another caller added
You know we live in an egocentric world with people livign to rip you of the little you have. Like I was going through the last interview Jeff did the Vcollymore. He acknowledged it is very expensive for funeral, but we wnt to give the late beffiting burial. It is not impirtant anymore it is jus tour ego, we just need to accept people personal view of how they want to be treate donce they are dead.
We just like being there, tunakuwa tuu, its very common to see some of us feeling important.
What do you think? Are we there to help in situations?