Mike Mondo and Mwalimu King’ang’i had an interesting conversation today that concerned submission. Mike referenced an interesting comment a female caller had made where she advocated for submission in order to save many marriages.
“Women don’t respect their men anymore. Ladies also want to have their say in many marriages. Respect your man even if he is a fool.”
King’ang’i agreed with the woman’s statement saying, “There are some decisions that men make that are shocking. If women tell you some of the nonsense they go through, you would advise them to leave. The secret to a happy marriage is to submit even if your man is a fool.”
One particular female caller gave her own anecdote about submission saying, “When I was getting married, my mom told me that for a marriage to succeed, moja lazima akuwe ng’ombe. I had been married for 14 years and before we separated. Tulikuwa fahali wawili! How can you be a ng’ombe forever? It does work if one becomes a ng’ombe.”
Some of the other comments are below;
I broke up with my boyfriend one and a half years ago. He was book smart but not street smart-A woman said.
You cannot demand submission it comes naturally. If you provide and respect that woman she will submit. Respect that union-Man.
Women were always meant to submit no matter how Rich or sophisticated they’re, there can’t be two heads leading at homes-Man.
What is the definition of a fool? Did you marry him knowing he is a “fool”, then one got no option but to submit…let men be men-woman?
Very true….. I always see my mum doing the same n she doesn’t get mad…she allows him to fall into pits n still stands by his side..so frustrating for me-Woman.
Then am seeing myself single for life. Submission haiko kwa dictionary yangu as far as marriage is concerned. Equal. Btw, Fool fool or an educated fool-Woman.
As long as your doing your duties as a man submission comes automatic-Man.
What a waste of life. Submit? You are encouraging the spouse to waste her energy? This isn’t a kindergarten-A woman.