Maina Kageni had a question for men today? He wanted to know why many men took offence to a man paying for their women to go to university or get their Masters?
The man asked? ‘Why do men have a problem paying for a woman’s education and then they leave? It is just university. When men pay your fees. You are intimidated by a learned woman. Who told you she would leave?’
But King’ang’i was having none of it and went ahead to resolutely defend the Kenyan men’s honour. He said,
‘A man pays for a woman then she leaves. That is the most ungrateful thing I have ever heard. He pays for her university and even dowry. It is very bad. That is using someone. Ladies’ fees should be paid by her parents. She leaves you with matharau. We should see statements from accounts departments for who is paying the Masters program for them.’
One caller responded to the conversation saying that she had gained a lot from the man she was seeing, saying,
‘Why are you so angry. A car and a home you can repossess but a degree you can’t take back. He bought 2 cars for me. I told him to pay for my degree, which he did. He paid for my tuition and afterward I left after 6 years. Stop complaining and he also got something from me. That man is a stepping stone.’
Some of the responses from other listeners are below;
What do you mean they don’t owe you anything. They do-A male listener retorted.
I don’t pay even for my wife. What she has is enough-A man said.
I take care of a cow, then after all those years, someone else comes to take the milk. Are you the government of today. You educate someone and then they tell you that you are not of my class-Wakanai told Maina.
I will only pay for my children-A man told Mr. Kageni.
The worst mistake you will make is investing in a woman’s education-A smart man told Mr. Kageni.
I want to challenge these men. It doesn’t mean that because you educated me, I owe you. There is no way you can upgrade a woman without you upgrading yourself-man.