Maina Kageni brought up an interesting topic today. The enigmatic host was at a loss for words as to how men respond to their wives when they are asked uncomfortable questions.
The host said, “I learnt a lot yesterday. When a woman asks for something and you say no or nothing in response, why do you get upset when she asks for an explanation? She’s just asking a question. Doesn’t she deserve an explanation? Kwani she’s a baby?”
King’ang’i was of the school of thought that when men says no it should be enough. “When a man says no, its enough.”
Adding, “That is an investigation. DPP imeingia hao. Huyo ni Kinoti. It will end in premium tears. Wewe si mtoto. They are bullies. By the time she asks you a question, she has already done an investigation.
Listeners promptly chimed in with varying responses to the debate with most of the answers split along gender lines-The men insisting siding with King’ang’i’s thinking while the women sided with Maina’s thinking.
Those responses are below:
Whether its wrong or right, a polite response will not cost anyone anything-A lady said.
Whenever she asks you for anything, she knows she is on the wrong-A man said.
If you come to my house, you are under my care. I am not answerable to you. By saying no, I am trying to take care of her-A man said.
We know what’s good and bad for our women. Their fathers handed them over to us. We know what is good for them-Captain Kale said.
In my home I am senior Moi and Senior Kenyatta. My word is law-Wakanai said.
Once you give your wife freedom she will act well. Kwani ni mtoto? A man asked.
An explanation makes a difference-A lady said.
Women ask the question so they can start drama. The more you explain the more drama you will get-A man said.
You cannot argue with your wife and win. Even if you’re an advocate, you will lose-A man said.
What men don’t understand, is that when we ask them something we want the full explanation-A woman said.
The issue at hand has no compromise. A 2-year-old kid deserves an explanation over a man’s wife. The kid hasn’t experienced much so can be taught but a woman has more experience and a such shouldn’t deserve an explanation. A no should be enough-A man said.
I can never use the word sorry with my wife. When I tell her no, its enough and she should know why-A man said.
I am avoiding a lot of questions when I say no. You don’t need to question a man on a lot of things. When she asks a lot of questions she is trying to pima you-A man said.
A question from her will lead to another one and you will end up being rude-A man said.
Do we look like we are your fathers? Even if I don’t come home for a week, don’t call and ask where I am!-Captain Kale.
It hurts when men think that we need them more than they need us. It hurts. They should style up and give explanations.
In Islam you can’t do anything without your husband. Ni haram-A lady said.
Tell them we need an explanation for what we do. I need an explanation cause I have a mind of my own-A woman said.
Saying sorry will not stop you from being a man. My grandfather used to say that you shouldn’t say sorry if you’re right. Women are also human beings. Explanations are needed-A man said.
Mimi siwezi ishi na dictator like his words are final!-A woman proclaimed.