They say a friend in need is a friend in deed and that if someone sticks by your side through your worst times they’re the ones who deserve to be with you through your best times and I agree to that.
But to some, they have seasonal friends who stick with them only during their sunshine days but come rainy season, they run away. Nominated senator Isaac Mwaura’s wife Nelius Mukami has revealed how friends matter especially during difficult times.
Isaac and Mukami Mwaura got married in a colourful wedding ceremony in 2015 and went to Bali Island, one of the best tourist attraction sites in Indonesia to celebrate their honeymoon and just like any other Kenyan, the pair flooded our timelines with photos leaving many green with envy. Mwaura proved that he was the best husband to Mukami and during Valentines day, he made headlines again after he treated her in the most special way.
The Mwauras were later blessed with triplets early this year but unfortunately, they lost two of the triplets. In a long Facebook post, Mwaura narrated how life turned ugly for him and his wife leaving many in tears.
“MUKAMI AND I EVEN LOST TWO OF OUR TRIPLETS (A BOY AND A GIRL) AND WE WERE LEFT WITH ONLY ONE SON AND A HOSPITAL BILL OF 11.2 MILLION TO CLEAR NOT FORGETTING THAT WE WERE IN THE MIDDLE OF PARTY PRIMARY CAMPAIGNS. IT WAS REALLY TOUGH BUT WE KEPT THE FAITH.”
Mwaura’s wife also took to social media to talk about friendship and clear that during her hard times, there were no friends by her side.
“Another thing I’ve learned about friendship is that you will often be surprised by who shows up for you and who doesn’t. Sometimes, the people you show up and show up and show up for let you down. And sometimes they show up and show up and show up for you and you let them down. And sometimes the people you’ve blown off or that you would blow off if given the opportunity are the first to show up for you. The key to long-lasting friendships, I think, is to weed out the ones who keep letting you down — not just once, but over and over — and to hang on to those who keep showing up, as long as they are people whose company you enjoy. The key to long-lasting friendships, particularly for the introverts who guard their personal time like it’s the last Twinkie on Earth — is to say no to enough things that don’t matter so that you have the energy and time to say yes to the stuff that does matter. Quality is better than quantity.
Be clear to your friends when stuff really matters. Obviously, you would hope most people would know that things like a wedding matters or a close loved one’s funeral matters or a milestone birthday party matters, but other things that maybe aren’t as universally meaningful or important can be overlooked and that’s when feelings are hurt and friendships are strained. So make things easier on your friends by telling them when something is important to you and if they still don’t show up and they don’t show up and they don’t show up, then MOA (move on already). Because life is too short to keep friends around just because you go back a long way and partied together when overalls were trendy the first time around,” read her message.
In a different post, Mukami who was answering a follower who had sent her a message on Sarahah.com app asking her ‘What do you think is the greatest mistake you think you have done in life so far?’
“Believing that the world deserves to treat me fairly since I try to be a good person . Believing that people will always reciprocate your good deeds with good. Thinking that bad things happen to bad people.. so many mistakes.”
There you have it!