I have learned to guard my peace fearlessly – Kambua’s journey after child loss

Kambua is opening up some more about what she has learned after losing her second unborn child last year.

Taking to her Instagram stories, the gospel singer, wrote a lengthy post that we should all pay attention to.

I’m reading a book that i would highlight recommend for anyone grieving the loss of a child. The author points out that when a husband dies, you become a widow. when parent die you become an orphan. but there’s no title given to a parent who loses a child. when we don’t name things they remain out of reach. Losing a child not only affect the parents – it also affect the siblings, grandparent, auntie, friend, everyone who had hope of experiencing a child. what name do we give an aunty who loses a nephew or a niece?

Child loss is taboo. I have learned this firsthand and also through people i love who’ve walked the journey . The stigma, the shame, the criticism, the judgement, endless questions and unsolicited advise. But I have learned to guard my peace fiercely, and at all costs.

I remember a friend who would blog about the babies she had lot and could get comment like. ‘were tired of hearing about your dead babies. That’s how low we go.

Psychologists suggest that the death of a child is the most difficult death for survivors to endure. I will have to agree. B3cause I have experienced loss of a parent , grandparents, friends and nothing absolutely nothing comes close to the pain of losing a child . It literally paralyzes you.

I say this to urge you to extend grace to those around who are walking this journey. It is one of the loneliest journeys yet. And you need not say anything , just be there’

Still pondering ….Grief of any kind can be very inconvenient for those around you. I men how are you still stuck .Its been weeks , months, can we move on already? Guess what, your grieving friends wants to move forward so bad , they just sometimes don’t know how’

On this here my space, I will contineu to have uncomfortable conversations. Not just for me but for many others who dotn have courage to . Love always mama boys’

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