We may have found love from the best man/woman on earth who made us feel alive like no one else ever did. This person changed our world and made us see things in such a different light. Things happen and we break up, we try as much as we can to move on but it seems impossible. It’s true that our past stays with us in one way or another, but if we wish to one day feel alive again, we must shift our focus to the future. We must focus on action.
Here are some tips to help you move on:
Give it time – Time does heal all wounds. How much time however, depends on the individual. If this is someone you never imagined yourself moving on from, then you’re probably going to need more time than you imagine. Don’t rush it. Don’t rush moving on. Don’t rush into another relationship. Just slow down a bit, and let time pass on by for a moment. Breathe.
Understand why you two aren’t going to work out and get closure – Closure is understanding why you two aren’t going to work. Regardless of whether you were dumped or were the one doing the dumping, if you’re still hung up on this person, then you’re going to need to do some reasoning with yourself. He’s bad for you. You’re bad for each other. You missed your chance. The timing was just never right. Or maybe, you just don’t have it in you to keep on trying. Find the reason you need to let go, and hang on to that instead.
Shift your mental focus from him or her and onto yourself – Minds drift, so we need to be sure to catch them and recenter our focus. Remember that you are the most important person in your life. That’s the way it was since the day you were born, and that’s the way it’s going to be until the day you die.
This doesn’t mean you can’t find someone in your life who’s equally as important, but it does mean you need to let go of those that are hurting. Get out of your head for a little bit. Don’t do something stupid, but do something. Don’t let your thoughts drown you; focus on the physical world.
When you begin to lose hope, focus on the numbers of it all – While time does heal all wounds, it can also form new ones. Letting go of someone who meant the world to you isn’t a simple task. Getting yourself to the point where you’re ready to seriously date other people is difficult. But what’s even more difficult is realizing that finding someone worthwhile isn’t as easy as you expected it to be.
If your ex was an amazing person, you’re not going to be capable of settling for less. You’ll need time and luck to meet another great candidate. The loneliness will surely kick in, but just remember that while there are billions of people on this planet, there are tens of thousands of potential candidates for the average individual. The odds aren’t too bad if you’ve managed to take great care of yourself since you broke up.
Understand that it’s all part of the learning experience – To live is to learn, so as long as you’re doing that, you’re doing a good job. You need to try and find some comfort in that. Be your story’s superhero. Be your champion. Do the things you want to do, and live life the way you want to live it. In the end, it’s up to us to make something both of ourselves and of our lives.
Give time, time so that it may work. Healing takes time so you should allow it to happen at its own pace. Don’t rush it.