Breakups are one of the toughest things that you have to deal with. No one is ever prepared for it at any point no matter how bad the relationship was. It drains you emotionally and physically, some people choose to party to ease the pain, others choose to drink, while others choose to cry themselves until they become numb.
Once you break up, your ex might want to be friends with you. Question is do you want to and can you deal with being “just friends” with someone you once shared your life with?
If you ever find yourself in this situation and you don’t really want to be friends and want to distance yourself from your ex, here are four ways to do so:
1. Cut the communication, even if it’s hard – When you still keep the communication with your ex, chances are, he’s going to assume you’re still into him. If you cut the communication off and keep the no-contact rule alive, he may think twice.
2. Don’t reply – I know you can’t resist replying to his texts, especially if you miss him too. But in order to stop the feeling and move on, focus on something that keeps you busy, like writing, going to parties, hanging out with your best buds or simply going to the gym.
3. Don’t show him you miss him – Even if you do miss him, don’t show it. If your ex is cocky, chances are, he’s going to use that fact against you to have you wrapped around his finger again. Do not give him the opportunity to waste you like an old burger he’s accustomed to eating. Be like the five-star cuisine he barely eats.
4. Even if he shows you he still cares, don’t let your guard down ever again – Despite all the things he did to you, you will still love him. Don’t ever let your guard down, though. If you do, you’ll go back to the first step in the moving on process again and again, until he gets used to it. He’ll think you are just going to forgive him, even if he messes up one more time.
These tips may not work immediately they will take time so don’t beat yourself about it or be too hard on yourself.