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Co-wives? Lessons every man should borrow from John De Mathew -List

Sarafina Wairimu and Caroline Waithira, wives to the late Mugithi Maestro John De Mathew have proven it is possible to co-wives without fights.

Below are a few tips that worked for them that other men can pick from.

1. Introduce them to each other

One thing that makes polygamy effective is introducing them to each other, whether they get along or not they will at least know they are not the only ones.

Gone are the days when co-wives appear during burials.

 Speaking about her experience Caroline said that De Mathew gave her an ultimatum.

‘He called me one day and told me he wanted me to meet his first wife. I was reluctant but he told me if I refused I could not continue living with him.’

2. Do not bad mouth one wife to the other

No matter how bad things might get, do not bad mouth your first wive to your second wife. Just sort your issues or talk it out with someone else.

Photos of the two widows John De Mathew has left behind

3. Do not teach the kids to be enemies

Kids have a mind of their own, so let them decide on their own if they want to be friends or not.

Sarafina, De Mathew’s first wife said that he never favoured the kids.

‘He would take our daughter shiku then pass by Caroline’s house and pick his son and take them out together.’

4. Let them create their own rapport

The temptation to want to force your wives on each other might be high but let them find their own way towards each other.

Speaking about their relationship Caroline, De Mathew’s second wife said that Sarafina reached out to her and that helped them be friends

‘She started texting how I was doing, before long we would bump into each other at the supermarket randomly,after that we started taking our kids for outings together.’

Sarafina added,

‘We became such good friends that our husband started becoming afraid of the friendship.’

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 5. Love them equally

Loving one woman more than the other and showing it is a recipe for disaster.

According to De Mathew’s wives, he loved them equally

Caroline said,

 ‘When he was at Sarafina’s place he would give her shopping money for both of us and she would send it to me via Mpesa.

If she was at my place he would do the same , not once did he favour one of us more than the other.’

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