We all have standards and habits that we can tolerate when looking for a suitable partner. Although some people set unrealistic standards, there are certain characters that one must have to atleast be considered as a potential.
Infact any woman in her right mind should be able to accept nothing less that these characters from a potential man.
Someone who doesn’t drink excessively – “I got so wrecked last night,” OR “I don’t even remember seeing you, I was blacked out.” = NOPE. Sorry boys, but that is a total turn-off. Sure, it was funny and sort-of expected back in college, but you no longer live in that age. Don’t be a sloppy drunk or gloat about your alcoholism. Grow up.
Someone who has emotional intelligence – As we get older, we realize we’re no longer living in a world where being smart equals being a nerd. Being intelligent and having the ability to have an intellectual conversation with someone becomes so important to us as we mature because we realize there’s more to life than spending time with some good-looking person. We want to be able to have stimulating adult conversations and healthy debates and if there’s nothing going on upstairs, well, that’s really difficult to accomplish.
Someone who genuinely cares about their family – If you’re rude to your mother? BYE. If you don’t have any sort of relationship with your family (immediate, extended, whoever) that’s a huge red flag, especially to someone who’s very family-oriented. Sure, when you’re younger you tend to go through a phase where you don’t find your own family “cool” and you’d rather hang out with your friends. That’s normal. But when you meet a guy later in life and family doesn’t seem to be a priority to him at all, it may give you a not-so-great glimpse into your future.
Someone who has basic, proper phone etiquette – Texting is totally fine — it’s the 21st Century, we all do it. But you want a guy who actually bites the bullet and makes plans with you instead of just texting sporadically. You want someone who’s responsive and gives you more than just a one-word answer or worse, the dreaded emoji response. He doesn’t drunk-dial or hit you up at 2am we all know what that means instead, he picks up the phone and dials your number to speak to you
Someone who truly respects women – He doesn’t use the word “bitch” or “hoe” when describing other women (or you). He doesn’t follow an abundance of porn accounts on social media. He is chivalrous and kind and polite. He treats you with respect and doesn’t talk down to you or berate you. This is crucial.
Credits: Allison Arnone