Ladies, Here Are The Telling Signs He’s NOT Busy, You’re Just Irrelevant To Him

Really wanna give someone the ultimate insult? Call them irrelevant. It’s pretty much the worst thing you could be.

Irrelevant is the worst thing you could be because you’re so insignificant, no one even bothered to think of a more precise insult. Simply put, you don’t matter.

Needless to say, nobody wants to be called irrelevant. Especially not by the guy you like. That being said, whether we admit it to ourselves or not, there are times when you are, in fact, irrelevant to the guy you’re so obsessed with.

In fact, I would go so far as to say the reason you’re so obsessed with him is because you’re irrelevant to him. The problem is that instead of just accepting the fact that we don’t matter to him, we try to make up excuses as to why this guy’s not giving us the time of day.

“He’s not talking to me because he’s mad at me!” No, you’re not relevant enough for him to bother with being mad at you.

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“He’s not talking to me because he’s busy!” No, you’re not relevant enough for him to prioritize you over literally anything else.

“He’s not talking to me because he’s dead!” No, he just doesn’t want to waste another breath in his waking life conversing with you.

I get that it can be a little confusing. Maybe he is mad at you. Maybe he is busy! Maybe he is dead!

So, check out this list of surefire signs he’s not mad or busy or dead (or any other lame excuse you managed to come up with)… you’re just irrelevant to him

  • Your friends are sick of hearing about him, but his friends don’t even know who you are
  • None of his family members know who you are (that is if he even has a family because he’s never mentioned them).
  • He straight-up doesn’t respond to some of your texts.
  • You’ve never hooked up sober.
  • If you have hooked up sober, it was in the morning after a drunk hookup

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  • You guys have never shared a meal together.
  • If you have shared a meal together, it was either late-night pizza or hungover morning meals.
  • He Snapchats you more than he texts you.
  • You’ve never been on a real date with him.
  • If you have been on a date, it was one time. And it never happened again.
  • You’ve never spoken on the phone unless it was 4 am, and you needed him to buzz you up to his place.
  • He never wants to cuddle with you.
  • He chooses even the dumbest plans over you.
  • His friends (the same ones who don’t know who you are) always come before you.
  • You’ve told him a million personal things about you, and he can barely remember any of it.
  • He’s told you he’s “not looking for anything serious.”
  • He told you he was too busy to hang out, then posted a Snapchat story of himself alone on the couch.
  • Part of you is afraid that if you stopped putting in the effort, your relationship would completely fizzle out.

STOP WASTING YOUR TIME. You are cool, and fun and smart, and even though this guy can’t seem to appreciate that, I guarantee there’s someone out there who will.

Oh my! This is what men ALWAYS notice about you during sex

First off, the things we don’t notice: if your nails are chipping, your elbows are dry, or you have an ingrown hair somewhere along your bikini line. These are details that generally sail right past us. We’re more inclined to notice the big-picture behaviors that give us clues about whether we have serious chemistry. Are the sparks flying? Are we turning you on? Are you genuinely excited to be naked right now? These questions are important to men, and here’s what we look for to find answers;

Your Initiative

If we’re doing all the work and you’re just sort of hanging out to see what’s going to happen next, we’re going to think you’re not all that interested. So show a little excitement, eh? Take the lead in unbuckling or unclasping something. Roll us over, and get on top. Help us make this moment awesome.

The Way Your Body Moves

If you’re stiff, it puts a chill on the moment. We wonder if there’s a problem or if you’re feeling self-conscious. But if you’re revved up and sensual, that turns us on. We want to feel your body writhe against us. We want your chest to press against ours, to feel your thigh slide up between ours. The more you engage your entire body in the moment, the more we feel like you’re excited to be with us.

Your Eyes

Are you looking deeply into ours? Are you checking out our freshly naked bodies? Both options are good. What makes us uncomfortable is if you’re looking down (are you having doubts?), checking out your own body (feeling self-conscious?), or gazing off to the wall or ceiling (just bored?). So make sure your eyes aren’t telling us something you don’t want them to. Let us know you’re pumped to be here with us.

Your Breath

No, I’m not talking about whether it stinks (although—let’s hope it doesn’t!). I’m talking about how it sounds. Is it heavier than usual? Similarly, is your voice deeper? These clues tell us whether you’re genuinely aroused. You don’t need to play it up by panting like you just ran a 5 km or trying to mimic the deeper notes on an organ. But if you’re getting into it, let it show. Let us feel your breath against our neck, whisper something sexy into our ear, let us know you can’t wait for what’s about to happen. Our arousal feeds off of yours, so don’t be afraid to be visibly turned on.

If You’re Freshly Waxed or Wearing Expensive Lingerie

Hey—no judgment if you’re not. But the prep work implies that you were thinking about sex, and we’re all for that. After all, so were we. Glad we’re on the same page here!

Divorcées confess exactly what ruined their marriages

When two people promise to spend a lifetime together on their wedding day, they expect those vows to last forever. But even after swearing to be there through the good and the bad, sometimes the bad is enough for one person to serve the other with a stack of divorce papers.

But what does it really mean to have “irreconcilable differences“? From extramarital affairs to personality clashes, this is what ultimately caused these people to throw in the towel on marriage;


“About six years into my marriage, I found out my husband was cheating on me when I walked in on him with one of our neighbors. We had been married for a good chunk of time, but I had no choice but to file for divorce that same week. It wasn’t something I could forgive and forget. It was painful to say goodbye and start life over, but sometimes that’s just how life and love is. You think you know someone and that you’ll stay with them no matter what, but that’s not realistic. People break your heart no matter how many times they promise they won’t.” —Trisha A., 32

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“The only thing we ever talked about toward the end of our marriage was how we didn’t have enough money for anything we wanted. We were renting an apartment and wanted to buy a house, but we couldn’t afford to because we had stacks of credit card debt and student loans to pay off. It became a nightmare because every conversation and fight was about making more or saving more money. We drove ourselves into misery and just both decided this wasn’t the life we wanted to live. We decided to go our separate ways after two years of marriage and two years of dating.” —Carla H., 29

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“My job was super demanding. I was promoted to the role of VP of marketing for a tech start-up I worked at for three years. I was working 70 hours a week, minimum, plus weekends. My husband didn’t like this at all. Mainly because he would come home from work before me and have to make his own dinner and do his own laundry. I was anything but a housewife. He should have known that when he married me. I think he did. He just thought eventually I’d give up my career. But I kept getting promoted and loving what I was doing. In the end, he asked me to pick my job or him. We got a divorce. We were only married for a year-and-a-half, so it wasn’t that hard to split up.” —Jana L., 35

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“One thing I wish I did before I even said yes to getting married to this person was talk about serious topics like having kids and how we would raise these kids, meaning what values and religious beliefs we’d instill in them. About a year into the marriage, I mentioned that I wanted to start trying to have kids. He looked at me with utter shock. It turned out he didn’t want kids, ever. He swears he mentioned that to me when we were dating. I think he did once, but super casually. I thought he didn’t really mean it or he would change his mind. But he refused. I admit that I messed up by not having this conversation with him beforehand so that I knew he was so against having kids. Having kids was something I wanted enough that it made me realize I need to get out of this marriage.” —Mary J., 28

“When your family doesn’t gel well, nothing will. My parents didn’t like him or his parents. His parents liked me, but not my parents. Our backgrounds were completely different: My family is from Africa and his is from Texas. Because our family fought so much, it made us fight. Their differences became our differences, and it just wasn’t working out anymore.” —Jocelyn K., 27

Revenge is best served cold; this man learnt his lesson when he cheated on his scorned wife enough times

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. Until every man learns that, the rate of male mortality can only increase. While you’re busy thinking you’re hurting your wife beyond measure, be careful, watch your back because every woman has a plan and a come-back. The lady below gave her husband not a taste, but doses of his own medicine when she decided to get revenge for all the years she’s endured his cheating. Read on;

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“I cheated on my husband and am the happiest woman in the world. Ever since I got married to this animal I call my husband,he has constantly disrespected our marital vows and rub shit on my face. He does not just sleep around but I don’t know if he gives them my number to call me and mock me. I get lots of calls from different small girls insulting me and calling me names. Still my husband will have the guts to come home and throw my legs open, give me lots of infections and give me money to treat my self. 

I endured this for 4 years and decided to leave the marriage but I promised to cheat on him before I do. So I targeted his elder brother slept with him, targeted one of his elder sisters son who just clocked 18 years, slept with him and lastly I slept with his boss in the office which I have decided to be his mistress since marriage is just child’s play. When I was done I told him all about it, packed my things and left him but I was very lucky he did not kill me that night because he was mad and breaking things in the house. I heard he fought his elder brother and broke his head lol. I also heard he wants to kill himself, lol. That was how I left him. Am currently with his boss now and my life is better. His boss wants me to be his baby mama, so I need you all to advise me. Should I have a baby for his boss or just keep it straight and just sex? Don’t even tell me about karma cause I was innocent when other gals destroyed mine.”

Girls, why are you still with a man who is a serial cheater? Asks Maina Kageni (AUDIO)

A lady called Maina yesterday and said that she is tired of submitting. She has been submitting but her man has been cheating left, right and centre, being aggressive when confronted and is not willing to talk about it. She said she is fine with her child, she doesn’t need that kind of treatment.

Mwalimu felt that these men have no idea they are cereal cheaters. According to him, women throw themselves on these men and apparently because they have a ‘good heart’, women label it as cheating. He said that a woman wants to be the only one in a man’s life and that’s almost impossible.

Maina then asked; “Girls, you know he is a serial womanizer, why are you still with him?”

Listen in;

Ladies, If You MUST Know, Here Are 5 Signs To Tell If A Man Is A Virgin

It is very unfortunate you can’t determine a man’s virginity through intercourse.

The best way to be certain if your Mr. Right is virgin is to ask him outright whether he has had sexual encounters in the past.

As usual there are signs that easy give a man out if he is truly a virgin. However, if you feel too shy to ask him, read this article for clues…

Ask him politely

In men, there are no physical indicators to determine their virginity. This is unlike women where a hymen breaks during sexual intercourse and normally leaves a little bit of blood.

Find the right time and ask your man politely. Since relationships must not be built on lies, he will hopefully openly tell you everything.

Physical relationship with women

A man who is a virgin can be differentiated from a man who engages in sexual escapades by monitoring his relationship with women. A man who is particularly shy around women and is reluctant to touch them in any way is most likely a virgin.

You might notice that, when you or another woman goes to hug or touch him, he becomes agitated and awkward, without quite knowing what to do with his hands.

Test the waters

If you are so eager to know his sexual status, plan a date night and take things to the bedroom.

Most guys will accept your honest invitation and give you the best sex of your life but virgins will quickly whisk away even before you start foreplay. He will be very shy, unable to speak and not daring to look at you.

These signs might simply be inexperienced lovers who still haven’t overcome the jitters when getting intimate with a woman, as opposed to complete virgins.

Quick orgasm

Men who are having sex for the first times are desensitized to their arousal and can’t control themselves to last longer in bed. In worst cases, they might not reach orgasm or have difficulty climaxing because of anxiety.

They are nervous; always thinking about how they are performing in bed.

Clueless during love making

Having sex with a virgin can be the worst day of your life. How?

He begins by touching you clumsily and quickly, without really knowing what he should do and where he should touch. Moving their hands all over your body quickly and in a frenzied manner clearly shows they are virgins.

Girls, what would you do if your man says this about your hygiene?

Ladies, I get it, when in a relationship, your comfort zone is disrupted; You now need to shave or wax, do your nails and hair constantly, be neat and most of all, take baths, not just one. This young man took to social media complaining about his girlfriend’s poor hygiene, and it wasn’t pretty.

Read on;

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“I don’t know if I should call my girlfriend dirty. My girl is so porsh and hot, all her pictures on point and her dress sense is killing but I think she is dirty. My girlfriend goes to use the toilet but will never flush it very well, you must come and see stains of poo on the toilet sit and I will use my hands to wash it. First I felt it was a mistake until this kept repeating its self, I also noticed that each time I want to give her a head her butt smells poo poo and I just use my hands to cover my nose. I don’t know if she does not wipe her ass well or what . Sometimes when I want to help her throw her dress in the washing machine, I see stains of poo on her under wear and I get very irritated. This is a girl that will always remind me to wash my hands and have my bath before I touch her. Sometimes she will bluntly tell me that my breath stinks I should brush. Now how do I tell her about this without making her feel bad? I can’t stand this in marriage and our sex life has dropped because of this.she always say I can’t give head but how will I when all I smell is poo. Bom post please, I hope she does not find out this post is actually for her.”

Ladies, would you tell your girlfriend if you found out her husband was cheating?

The notion goes like; “Women are their own worst enemies,” but in this case, what would you advice a lady to do? Her friend’s marriage seems to be working, everything is okay until you are cursed with the revelation that her husband is cheating. You don’t want to lose her as a friend, you also don’t want to hide news that could potentially save her life. So, what do you do? This remains a controversial topic thus the lady below took to social media in need of advice. Read on;

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“I and my husband have been married for two years after dating for five years, so practically we have been together for seven years, ever since I knew my husband, he has one close friend,his paddy from the university, they are so close, if not inseparable. His friend has also been married for a year, I and his wife got to become friends, not so close though but we relate well as we are almost, if not age mates. She’s a nice warm person. Recently I got to find out that her husband is cheating on her with an older woman, the fact is that he is emotionally attached to the lady. I got to know through a chat he had with my husband on whatsapp. Right now he’s having a little rift with my husband because he told him to stop. Telling his wife is out of the question because I can’t even bring myself to say it, she might not believe me. And I don’t want to be a bearer of bad news. Maybe am being too emotional about it. Please advise me on how to let go of this? “

Ladies, what do you make of a male pastor who gives you bananas and cucumbers as gifts? Bothered lady is too terrified to go to church

Men are very cunning. They will sometimes do the weirdest things to pass across a message of sexual inuendo. Well, this ‘man of God’ could just be coincidentally giving a lady fruits that are shaped like the manhood, but it could be a tactic, and a dirty one for that matter.

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This young lady took to social media to ask other ladies if this pastor is playing dirty or is she just having a dirty mind, is she overthinking? Be the judge;

“I just want to know what to think so I don’t misunderstand my pastor. I work In our church as an usher,we always have meetings with my pastor on so many occasions but after service or any meeting he buys me fruits (banana), the first time I was so grateful that my pastor had me in mind,but as it continued I became very uncomfortable. Even on my birthday he gave me set of perfumes and a bunch of banana too. I traveled for xmas and when I came back he changed the fruit to plantain, it’s either he gives me unripe plantain or ripe ones, because he is a man of God, I cant say no or talk to him rudely but am not comfortable at all. Yesterday after our meeting in church he called me to his office and gave me a bag filled with cucumber saying he traveled and bought enough, I rejected it and told him I don’t eat cucumber but he insisted I give it to my siblings or friends but he bought it for me. We prayed and that was it. He has never asked me out or given a sign of sexual misconduct but these fruits he gives me, I don’t understand, let it not be my dirty mind playing tricks with me. I need the public to look into this let me know what to do and how to avoid this from this anointed man of God. Tomorrow is Sunday am even scared of going to church.”

Woman bashed on social media for desperately seeking advice on how to break up a marriage

This woman must have been demented thinking everyone would sympathise with her situation when she posted what was considered ‘garbage’, but to her surprise, she got bashing that made her wish she never asked. Read on;

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“I love married men so much,the ring on the finger is a complete turn on for me. All my life I have only dated married men and life has been too easy for me. Married men don’t stress you, they just bless you with cash and affection. They don’t even sex you that much they just want to feel you a little. My biggest challenge now is the married man am currently dating loves his wife so much but I love him more, am pregnant for him but he does not want the child. Please how can I make him drive the wife away and Marry me?”

This are some of the responses that made her wish she never asked;

break_or_makeup;” when you sell shame and buy disgrace 😏 it’s alright.”

ms_seyii; “This is where the importance of a wife’s prayers comes in..her plan surely will never work…remember No sinner will go unpunished!! Even after u repent!!”

yteeza; “You want advise to break a home?I pray the fire of the Holy Ghost will consume you. Have you forgotten what karma is? Let me remind you. It’s a bitch and will come back for you if you don’t leave that man alone.”

sophy_anderson;”Repent my sister, there’s no hope there because what God has joined together let no man put asunder.”

eno_louis; “I smell Idiocy… NEXT!!”

damuzikdiva; “I command the ministering angel of God that are watching over that man’s wife to chase u with a flaming broom of fire. For the fact that u wish evil on another, u will not know peace! If u dare to abort that child, the blood would be upon your head. Amen!”


In Case You Didn’t Know, Here Are 5 phases Of Awkwardness In New Relationships

Have you just entered into a relationship, or you are on the brink of entering into one?

You should expect early days of awkwardness, and uncertainty in the five areas listed below…

Learning of each other’s pasts

Learning about each other’s past can be a little awkward, especially when one of you has been a little wild and adventurous and has quite a lot to reveal.

When you get to that phase, try to be as open-minded as understanding as possible.

Getting comfortable with one other

You’ll also be at the point where you are not too sure of what is cool with your partner and what is not.

Time will take care of this, and soon enough, you both will be laughing at that awkwardness.

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When to have sex

Everyone has their own beliefs and ideas for when the time is right to get intimate with someone you’re dating.

At that point where you are really unsure of where your partner stands on the matter, it makes sense to sit down and have a good chat about it.

Meeting each other’s friends

There is also the awkwardness of meeting and getting along with your partner’s friends.

This will be so especially if you date someone from different social circles from yours.

To avoid this, partners need to advise their friends to be cool and be as friendly as possible before introducing bae /boo to them.

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Meeting the family

So this might necessarily not be something that happens very much at the beginning of relationships, but it poses some awkwardness too.

Being introduced to your partner’s family is usually a serious thing and it often shows that you are both headed towards something more serious than just a relationship.

This is why ladies and guys alike are often fretful and nervous about the date with their partner’s families.

How your relationship is positively affected by longer foreplay

It’s 2017 and women still wish men would do more when it comes to foreplay.

An improved, more adventurous and satisfactory sex life, and by extension, a better relationship.

Here are three great advantages of engaging in better foreplay in your relationship/marriage;

Sexual satisfaction

For couples that are in a sexual relationship, it has been firmly established that many women do not reach orgasm through penetration.

Whether or not your partner falls within this category of women, proper foreplay for the right amount of time is sure to leave her satisfied, and a sexually satisfied woman is far better than one whose sexual needs are not being met.

It increases intimacy

Most of the acts of foreplay are very intimate, and when you decide to pay more attention to doing it right and for a considerably higher amount of time, it is bound to increase the intimacy shared by you and your partner.

Reduces chances of cheating

It is a well-known fact, and experience has proven it as well that one of the things that push people into infidelity is sexual dissatisfaction.

Sex for women is not just about penetration. As a matter of fact, what happens before penetration is more important for women than actual penetration.

This shows just how important proper and adequate foreplay is, and when men oblige women and engage them in foreplay of the right manner and amount, then, surely the chances that such women will cheat is very slim.

And in the rare instance that they do, it is unlikely that it’ll be because of sexual dissatisfaction.

Man vows to impregnate wife every year to prevent her from ‘shaking her derrière’ to impress men on the street

Men get jealous and if pushed the jealous rage can become, but for some the jealous can sometimes be a source of amusement. This man took to social media to air his frustration.

Turns out his wife loves the attention, and she makes sure she’s noticed by men when she passes by. This irritates the husband who has tried to stop her, unfortunately this warning falls on deaf ears, prompting him to result to drastic but laughable measures. Read on;

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“My wife shakes her ass too much especially when she sees a man. This is becoming a very bad habit and I have cautioned but she won’t listen;  “Mercy stop shaking your yansh for strangers so you don’t get raped,” but she won’t listen. I can’t wait to get her pregnant so all this nonsense will stop for good, and I must make sure I constantly get her pregnant every year or 2 so she can grow up. My problem now is my younger brother is in our house for holiday and am not very comfortable leaving him with my wife alone in the house. What do u all think? Send him back home with an excuse or put a camera in my house?”

Former gigolo is shocked to find out his fiancee’s mother was one of his clients, now he wants out for this reason

Some things are best kept secret. This man took to social media to expose his past and it seems it’s coming back to haunt him. After giving up his career as a gigolo, the woman who supposedly tamed him turned out to be the daughter of one of his clients. This cringe-worthy situation can only get worse. Read on;


“Back in my uni days I use to be a gigolo that sleep with married women. Slept with lots of them that I have lost count now, not until after school I got a job and repented and now in a very serious relationship. It took me time to really make up my mind to marry her but because she has been a nice and patience girl I just had to choose her,added with the fact that she is carrying my child.I have her met sisters twice, not until the day we decided to Travel to go see her family officially before the introduction. When we got to the house I met just her dad, which he told us that her mum went to the market, the man was so nice and accommodating,we spoke about politics and football, he was my kind of person too. Not until her mum drove in, as soon as I heard her voice, something told me I knew that voice, so immediately she stepped into the sitting room, it was she. Her mum was one of my major costumers far back in school and I recognized her voice because of the way she moan very loud so her voice never left my brain. She recognized me too but we just played along. We left the next day but lodged in a hotel.
After that day I have not spoken to her mum again and she has not called me too, but am not comfortable with the recent development. I can’t tell my girlfriend and am scared that my girlfriend might be like her mother in future. Should I ask her to abort the baby? I just need a good reason to call off the relationship am really confused because I have a feeling that I might still sleep with her mum. I just need help please. Am blank.”

Girl Languishes In Shame As She Admits To Sleeping With Her Cousin

Every one has that favorite family member whom they relate to quite well since childhood. Some of them go as far as falling in love with these family members but can control it and these feelings eventually fade.

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This young girl had too much guilt after sleeping with her favorite cousin, who’s feelings were clearly mutual and now she cannot face herself. She took to social media to ask for much-needed advice on how to handle the guilt. Read on;

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“I have one favorite cousin we are very close so yesterday we were both in the house together so I went to his room to talk to him because we had something we were discussing about, in the process after talking he said I should pick the rashes at his back, from then he started touching me I was lost and the time I realized I told him to stop it but he was already overwhelmed by the whole thing, so he insisted and slept with me then tears rolled out my eyes and he started apologizing to me that he didn’t know what came over him. Right now am scared if there is a punishment in one’s tradition, I can’t get it off my mind because I will have to live with the thought all my life, how do I get over it. I have pleaded for forgiveness from God because I feel so ashamed of myself. Please, I need advice😔😩.”

Myths About Men That Might Be Ruining Your Relationships

It’s a New Year! And with it come goals to be even better in life and in love. However, here’s one big, bold relationship truth: If you bring the same old mindset and misconceptions about relationships into this “new” season, then you won’t have different results.

These myths include;

Men Are Intimidated By Your Success and Independence

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The real truth is that men are looking for a partner in love and not a “boss.” The “right man” for you is not going to be afraid of you or intimidated by you. He’ll appreciate all that you have to offer and look forward to partnering with you.

Having Standards and Expectations Will Drive Men Away


It’s very possible that it wasn’t your high standards per say that turned him off, but your delivery. If stating your standards comes with a defensive nature and attitude, then yes, it can be a turn-off. However, if it’s simply you just discussing your desires, then men who are on the same page as you (and that is the key) won’t run at the first mention of what you will and won’t tolerate.

ALSO READ; Heads Up Guys! Here Are 8 Signs You’ve Found THE Woman You Should Make Your Wife

There Are No Good Men Left out There

There are plenty of good men out there. And plenty of men that are committing and getting married. So don’t let a string of bad dates or the opinions of your friends cause you to lose faith that your partner is out there somewhere.

Your Husband Is Only Driven By Sex


Sex for men is an expression of love and it keeps them connected to you. And if you start thinking about it in those terms, then perhaps you’ll want to connect with them even more!

Your Man Wants You to Be Perfect

Stop putting so much pressure on yourself to be perfect in every area and give yourself some leeway. Your attitude will have a jump in the right direction the minute you do.

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Men Are Emotionless

Men have emotions just like women do, but it’s the expression of those feelings that might be different. This isn’t about good and bad, it’s just that he may handle and show his emotions differently.

Men Don’t Care About Your Needs

You can’t keep getting frustrated with him over things that you’ve never expressed. Communicate early and often and don’t leave him guessing while you’re just mad.

Help! My husband is a wrestling addict and he enacts it on me in the bedroom

When your man is addicted to porn, you know he’ll treat you like a porn star, but who is to tell how a man addicted to WWE would treat you? A married woman took to social media as a cry for help. Her husband treats her like an opponent and she fears he might result to violence. Read on;

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He’s the love of my life, my bestfriend and my soulmate. I love how playful and goofy he is but this man will not kill me ooohhh! My man is a WWE addict.He would run home from work, leave his food, stop in the middle of sex to go and watch wrestling. He knows all their names, entry music and moves. Like that isnt bad enough, he tries all these moves on me! Not like seriously though. Not violently. He’s never hit me but when he is hyped from watching a match where his favourite wins, he would call me to the bed and start cuddling me, next thing I would know, I’m up in the air above his shoulders and dropped on the bed in ‘batista bomb’ and ehm..he will take me to ‘suplex city’ and he would raise one of my legs with his arm and hit the bed thrice in 3counts. All the food in my stomach would just unsettle. This morning he gave me goldberg something hammer in the middle of getting ready for work! I’m even scared of his hugs and cuddles now coz he would just take me unaware and in a matter of seconds, I’ve been turned this way and that and before I can recover or understand, I’ve been dropped ungraciously from a height. He builds his muscles and walks like them. The worst part is that when I ask him about suspicious chats or female friends, he says THEY ARE HIS FANS!! Somebody help me!!! How do I tell him without hurting his feelings? It excites him that he can do all of that with me and his excited laugh and smile afterwards is something to live for but for how long?

5 secret languages of attraction

Have you ever wondered why sometimes the ladies who are not so beautiful get the best men in the game and manage to keep a long lasting relationship?

It’s because they understand the language of attraction. Attraction is what keeps a man glued to you and willing to stay with you. So let’s consider these languages so you understand how attraction really works with a man.

Body language

Truth is sometimes the words you say to a man don’t matter much, what does matters is your body language, the way you carry yourself, the confidence in your voice.

You can do this by sitting in a sensual position like a lady would, generally what I mean is holding yourself like you are the most beautiful person you’ve ever seen or heard of and you will see yourself becoming it and attracting men who believe it about you.

Eye contact

The eyes are one of the beautiful features of every human, the eyes are used to get attention and show interest.

So if you are connecting with a man try to hold eye contact longer than usual, it shows you are attracted to the person, shows self-confidence and it is a huge turn – on for any guy.

Flirting/sexual chemistry

One of the best ways to enjoy a conversation or new relationship is through flirting.

There’s no rule that says a lady cannot initiate flirting; do not be afraid to start things as long as you know what you are doing.


Self-confidence brings amazing results. This means having your act together almost at all times.

Many women cannot keep their composure when a man starts pushing their buttons, being upset or angry is unpleasant and reveals your insecure self.

Furthermore, make sure you are confident about discussing the topic” sex”. When you exhibit this, it will attract the kind of man you desire.

Tension and Anticipation

This is where you hit your game plan. Make your moves unpredictable, it brings out the excitement in a man. You have to place him where you want him to be.

The message that you want to send to him is, “I know that I could make a move right now, but I choose not to on my own terms. I’m going to keep you guessing… make no mistake about it, I’m in control of myself here, even though I love this and I’m staying.”