Category: Opinion

Comedian Crazy Kennar was a teacher before fame

Posted on by Elizabeth Ngigi

Comedian and content creator Crazy Kennar worked as a teacher before he joined campus.
Speaking in an interview with Dr Kingori on The Wicked Show, Kennar said he was a teacher at one of the schools in Lucky Summer.
He added that he used to be paid outside the school and along the roadside.

“After high school, I worked as an untrained teacher in the neighbourhood in Lucky Summer in Kasarani. The thing I can remember is the teacher who gave me the job used to pay along the roadside, he would greet me and shake my hand and in between our palms place the money there,” he explained.

Kennar said he started doing content creation when he joined university.

“I realized I had a talent when I was in campus. I started creating content with a phone that my brother bought for me.”

A case-study of comedian Mulamwah’s saddening and maddening love life

Posted on by Geoffrey Mbuthia
Comedian Mulamwah’s love-life is comic tragedy taken to a whole other level. Why? The comedian seems to have developed a taste for pain and self-immolation.

The reason for my extremely cynical and morbid introduction is that the comedian still hasn’t still gotten over his girlfriend Carol Sonnie, 6 months after she dumped him.

And why do I believe she dumped him? I wrote a whole piece explaining my logic and reasoning in the article below:

I think Mulamwah was dumped like a piece of trash by his lover Carol. Here’s why

Last week the comedian shared a message celebrating her as she turned a year older. As seen on his post, Mulamwah proved that despite having been unceremoniously dumped, he still has no hard feelings towards her.

His birthday message read, “All factors kept constant, help me wish her a happy birthday as she turns 23, you deserve the best day ever regardless, happy birthday ka ma’am , blessings @carrol_sonie.”

Call me a nihilist but the way the man is behaving leaves a lot to be desired. Why? Not only did Carol delete all their photos together on social media when she dumped him, but it also seems that she did it after he had done everything for her-short of deifying her.

His break-up message at the time informing Kenyans of the split had this very interesting snippet, “I always carried you on my shoulders; I don’t know what you saw ahead 🥺 while was too preoccupied making sure that you remain at the top. I always believed that when you elevate your woman she will stand in for you when you are at your worst…”

So you can sort of get my frustration at the man’s lack of self-respect. Why are you still saying sweet nothing’s to someone who dropped you like a hot potato? As they say in Kiswahili, Ukiachwa, achika! I believe that exes should be left in the past-like the landline telephone.

Another thing? Mulamwah is acting like Carol is the only woman he can date/marry in a world populated by many women! For a guy like him who has status, money and isn’t shaped like a potato, I believe he can have plenty of other options, were he to move on.

But what do I know…

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Esther Passaris loses her father

Posted on by Elizabeth Ngigi

Nairobi Woman Rep Esther Passaris is in mourning following the death of her father, which she announced on social media on Friday night.
Passaris described her 79-year-old father as a loving husband, an incredible dad and a doting Papou (grandfather).
“A part of me has died today. The heavens opened and ended my father’s suffering,” she wrote.
“A naval architect by profession, my dad achieved a lot in his 79 years. From building the first ship in Kenya, the MV Mwewe, to coaching and mentoring the young men of Ngome Football Club in Mombasa.”
A part of me has died today. The heavens opened and ended my father’s suffering.

A naval architect by profession, my dad achieved a lot in his 79 years. From building the first ship in Kenya, the MV Mwewe, to coaching & mentoring the young men of Ngome Football Club in Mombasa.

In another post, she said,

“Dad worked for Southern Engineering Company Limited, COMARCO, before incorporating HELMACO, which he led until retirement. But looking back, none of his achievements compares to the family man that he was…”

Passaris mourned her father as a God-fearing man who prayed for protection over his family and country.
“Though I’m heartbroken, it is well with my soul,” she said.

Hamisa Mobetto: A case study of women being their worst own enemies

Posted on by Geoffrey Mbuthia
Hamisa Mobetto unpacked a lot when she was interviewed by Wasafi media. The mother of two had a lot to speak about but the vignette that stood out for most was her revelation of the trials she had faced having a baby while dating Diamond Platnumz.

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Speaking in an interview with Wasafi TV Hamisa confessed that she had suffered three miscarriages before giving birth to her son, Dylan.

“If there’s someone who was 100 percent sure that Dylan was his kid, it was Diamond. I suffered three miscarriages before I gave birth to Dylan. During the pregnancy, we were together until the day I went to give birth.”

While I am happy for Hamisa and Diamond that they were able to finally get a child from their apparently short liaison, I still think the whole affair stinks to high heaven.

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My issue

What get’s me is that Miss Mobetto was perfectly OK to date a man that she knew was already dating another woman. At the time of her affair with Diamond, the singer had already had a child with Zari Hassan his first baby mama.

Not only that, his second-born Nillan with Zari would be born a few months before Dylan was born. Tiffah, Diamond’s eldest daughter was born in August 2014, while Nillan was born in December 2016, with Dylan being born in August 2017.

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This means that Diamond was seeing (sleeping with) Miss Mobetto for some time and not as a fling like we were made to understand. The rumours we had had at the time about the affair was that they met on the set of Diamond’s song, “Salome” where Miss Mobetto was the video vixen.

The joke doing the rounds since then was that Diamond would get kids on the first try because his pull-out game was as weak as Genghis Khan’s. But now that story can be put in the trash-bag as Hamisa revealed that she had 3 miscarriages before she got Dylan.

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That tells me that the two had had a long-term situationship-one that can successfully fit in 4 pregnancies(I am not a doctor but the period must not be less than 6-8 months).

According to data; women who know they’re pregnant, about 10 to 15 in 100 pregnancies (10 to 15 per cent) end in miscarriage.

Most miscarriages happen in the first trimester before the 12th week of pregnancy. Miscarriage in the second trimester (between 13 and 19 weeks) happens in 1 to 5 in 100 (1 to 5 per cent) pregnancies.

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Women are their worst own enemies

This brings me to my point; Miss Mobetto knew that the singer was in a long-term relationship with Zari but that didn’t stop her from still giving away the guava to him.

That Zari was pregnant with Nillan while Hamisa was sleeping with Diamond didn’t matter one bit to her. In fact, she slept with a married man so much so that she had multiple miscarriages during that time.

Dylan was not an oops baby but borne out of premeditated desire. She knew what she was doing with a married man and didn’t care what would happen when the world(Zari) found out. In Miss Mobetto’s world, it was (Me, Myself and I).

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Zari would later on dump Diamond in early 2018, attributing his philandering to her decision. Many of her fans blamed Hamisa for the break-down of the relationship, something I didn’t quite understand then as I blamed Diamond solely for not keeping his zip up.

But with this new info, I see Hamisa in an entirely different light, that of women being their worst on enemies.

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Tips: 10 Best ways to safeguard your ambitions

Posted on by Delyne Momanyi
We all have ambitions, the difference is the degree and level to which we are willing to go to be successful.

These can be easily killed especially when surrounded by negative people. However there are various ways of protecting them.

They include;

Be kind

Always be ready to learn and be corrected in case you are wrong. Ambitious people are always kind and humble.

Stay focused

Always avoid people that will drain your energy towards your goals. You have to be positive minded and focused to achieve your ambitions.

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Avoid comparison

Never compare yourself with other people because people are never the same. Never strive to be like someone who is much more qualified than you. This might kill your dreams and hopes hence may kill your dreams.

Have a you time

Create time for yourself once in a while. This will help you have a preview on how far you are fairing on with life and make amends in case of mistakes.

Faith

Have faith in yourself and believe in all the efforts you make towards achieving your goals. You are the first source of motivation before anyone else in your life.

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Do not backbite people

If you want great things to happen to you, then you should wish the same for others. Never talk about other people behind their backs or judge them because it might also happen to you. Use other people’s challenges as a lesson in your life to make something better.

Make wise decisions

Take time when making your decisions to prevent cases of regretting your actions. Never make decisions when you are either so excited or angry.

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Set attainable goals

Set goals that are reasonable and can be achieved. When you set goals that are far much your standards, chances are that you will eventually quit.

Have a watch 

Always be time conscious. Manage your time well and spend all your time in doing constructive work that brings positive impact to you.

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Tips: Consider these 10 alternative discipline strategies for your child

Posted on by Delyne Momanyi
What’s the best way to discipline your child?

Is it according to age, the act committed? Is it a thorough whooping?

This is something that many are struggling with today.

Tokeo la picha la best ways of punishing your kids

Some of the best ways include;

Reward good behavior

When you punish something wrong, always remember to reward them once they do something good. This will actually motivate them to be improving on a daily basis to be rewarded.

Silence

At times as a parent you can be upset in such a way that you utter hurting words to the child. Silence is at times necessary to avoid such incidents like the child running away from home or hating on you. Talk to them when your temper is controlled.

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Have a conversation with the child

Spend most of the time with the child. This will actually help you to know your child better and learn their weaknesses. Talking to them can actually be the best way of them to change their bad behaviors.

Create rules and boundaries

Always have rules and boundaries for them such that if they cross them, they are aware of the consequences.

Deny them some freedom

At times you can give a child much freedom which becomes their excuse to mess up some more. The best way to deal with this is either to limit it or deny them the freedom completely.

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Send away

Sending to visit grandma always works. Once you send them there, they will behave much better the next time to avoid being sent back their. This is because they will miss a lot of luxury especially if they live at the city.

Life examples

Give them life examples of people who have mad it in life and those that have failed. If you child for example steals something, give the examples of people who did it and the consequences they faced.

Giving advice

You should always ensure that you have a close relationship with your child. Never be a source of stress to them whenever you are with them. This will make them confide in you at anything hence it will be easier for you to know which area to give them advice on.

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Ban them from what they like

Most of the kids love watching animations and cartoons especially at the younger age. Ban them from watching their best channels for some time till their behavior changes.

Guidance and counselling

At times yelling and canning is not the solution as the child may not change. At times it may be something that deals with their minds and emotions. You can take them for guidance and counselling so that they may share their problems.

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10 common reasons why you are not losing weight

Posted on by Delyne Momanyi
You’ve been working out like crazy, but not losing weight. Many of us have been caught up in that dilemma.

Don’t despair! Here’s why you’re not losing weight..

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These are some of the reasons;

Stress

Increased stress levels impact your state of mind. Countless studies have shown that stress causes weight gain as opposed to weight loss in a majority of people.

Unhealthy eating

Keeping your weight in check involves being careful about what you eat. Eat a well balanced diet in the correct quantities.

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Full dependency on exercise

Some people tend to put all their efforts in exercises alone and after they see no change they give. Workouts should come hand in hand with healthy diets. If you eat a lot and workout at the same time you will gain a lot of weight.

Water

This is the key to health living. The body needs a lot of water for normal functioning of the body as it also prevents dehydration. Taking plenty of water will keep you full all the time hence reducing chances of hunger.

Tokeo la picha la person drinking water

Carbs consumption

Taking carbs on a daily basis won’t help if you want to cut on some kilos. Any food substance that contains sugar leads to weight gain hence should be avoided.

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Expecting fast results

Anything good takes time. When you expect quick results then there is a high probability of you giving up on the way. For better results you need to put more effort and be patient until you achieve your goals.

Processed foods

Processed foods contain a lot of sugars and calories that are not nutritious to the body. This is a no go zone if one wants to cut down the fats in your body.

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Eating a lot

At times we get to eat without paying attention to portions.don’t just fill up your plate and eat one big meal. Experts advise you eat six small meals a day.

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10 Ways in which you can be financially independent

Posted on by Delyne Momanyi
There are small financial rules that are basic for you to get financially independent. Understanding yourself is the number one basic strategy for you to use.

Tokeo la picha la financial independence

The basic rules include;

Budget

Make a routine of working with your budget. This can guide you in knowing how you spend your cash and when not to. If you have a problem of money management you can hire a financial manager to guide you through.

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Invest

Invest in money generating activities. You can build rental apartments or start any kind of hustle. Never depend on one income as at times things never go as expected and you can run out of cash. Always have a backup financial to help at your broke times.

Avoid debts

You must learn to differentiate between needs and wants. Accept when you don’t have cash to avoid having much debts. At times you might desire something which is not a need and you end up borrowing money to have it. This can be avoided when you give the needs a number one priority before anything else.

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Save a lot

Learn to save money in whichever way that you wish to. Make savings on a daily basis. You can set a target like each day or monthly. At the end of the day you will learn how to spend less and save more.

Plan

Have a plan on how you spend each and every cent you have.

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Understand your expenditure

Understand your pocket value and live with it. Never compete or compare yourself with someone who is financially stable than you. This might make you run out of cash easily hence borrowing to fit a lifestyle you can’t afford.

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These indoor plants are the best to keep in your house

Posted on by Delyne Momanyi
Do you love plants but don’t know which ones to keep?

We breakdown a list of super easy indoor plants that you will love to keep.

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They include;

Spider plant

This flower can fit any space in your apartment and especially on windows. It produces white flowers which spread a lot. This plant can survive for many years with minimal sunlight and water.

Begonia plant

This plant does not necessarily need flower to grow. It brings a cool color to the room especially when hanged by the walls or alongside the windows. It has different shapes and colors that include white and pink hence can match with any calm color.

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Maidenhair fern

These are the easiest plants to grow as it requires little attention. It does better in bathrooms or in areas where temperatures are low. You can also place it by the sink at the kitchen.

Red prayer plant

It goes by that name because its leaves tend to curl when there is no light and unfold whenever there is light. They only need a lot of soil beneath them which can keep it alive for a longer period.

Tokeo la picha la red prayer plant

Tropical bromeliad

This flower can fit any space in your apartment. It glows when exposed to light making the room lively. It can stay for a period of more than 4 years without withering without sunlight. It can be found in three different colors.

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Begonia

This needs a lot of soil and water to grow well. It has different colors including white which comes with green shadings.

Peace Lilly

It has small white beautiful flowers and green leaves. They produce their flowers hence more recommended for the living room as it makes it lively.

Tokeo la picha la peace lily plant

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Mint

The mint plant grows fast and it is also edible. They need to be kept moist and can be used as flavors in coffees and tea or even water.

Picha inayohusiana

Snake plant

These need very little water for growth and are hard to die once they grow. They give a beautiful view especially on the windows.

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How to register for the free Financial Literacy Webinar by FXPesa

Posted on by john arum
It’s here and it’s huge! Thanks to FXPesa, you can learn everything you need to know to become successful in online trading. FXPesa has regular training sessions every week. Wherever you are, you can join the free online webinar from any device.

On August 5th, 2021 at 1500HRS GMT+3, FXPesa will present the free Financial Literacy Webinar in Nairobi hosted by Equiti Brokerage CEO Brian Myers

About the Financial Literacy Webinar

Investing and Financial literacy aren’t options. They’re a necessity. This webinar will provide an in-depth insight into how to start your journey to financial freedom. Aspects that will be covered include:

a) Financial Literacy & the opportunities that exist therein, that is, trading global financial assets with FXPesa.
b) How to achieve financial freedom and the mistakes to avoid.

About Brian Myers (@brian_equiti)

Brian Myers has been CEO at some of the largest multi- award winning brokerages in the world. He is a thought leader in the finance space, contributing to CNBC and other media publications. He is passionate about helping to improve financial literacy across Africa and he has industry-leading experience in the Wealth, Trading and Fintech sectors.

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Diamond Platnumz deleting his son’s photos is an example of a bad father

Posted on by Geoffrey Mbuthia
Diamond Platnumz has deleted multiple photos of his son, Naseeb Junior whom he sired with Tanasha Donna. He only left only one photo on his Instagram page, an image that he put up in 2019 when the boy was born.

The reason why this move is very odd, is that the photos of the kids he got with both Zari Hassan and Hamisa Mobetto are still there in all their glory.

Diamond Platnumz with Zari and the kids
Diamond Platnumz with Zari and the kids

When asked about the move, the singer said that he was just on a random clean-up of his social media pages.

“Nimefuta posti nyingi sana, ata ukiona posti za wasani. Picha zangu nyingi pia nimezifuta. Nimependa sana za show,” he said.

The musician’s reason for deleting his last-born son’s photos is still suspect to me and many others with some wondering whether there was some bad blood brewing between him and Tanasha?

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It could be. Why? The undercurrents have been brewing since Diamond decided to visit Zarinah in South Africa in April.

First off, the singer spent an inordinate amount of time with the mother of his first two children, something he doesn’t do with both Hamisa and Tanasha.

Zarinah, Diamond, Mama Diamond, Nillan and Tiffah in the past
The couple with their tow kids, Nillan and Tiffah in the past

Secondly, Chibu and Zari looked so good together that many wondered whether they could be getting back together? And that’s not all, during this year’s Mother’s day, both Tanasha and Hamisa wished each other a happy Mother’s Day while conveniently ignoring Zari.

Diamond for his part played favourites again when he decided to name only Zari’s kids during this year’s Idd celebrations.

Zari Hassan with Diamond

 

We know that the singer speaks to his baby mamas privately and I think that what plays out in public is normally a manifestation of what is hidden.

I think that him deleting his sons’ photos might be a warning to Tanasha to toe the line.

My thoughts

Despite what might be happening between him and his baby mamas, I don’t think that Diamond should punish his kids. It is unnecessary and they become collateral damage for something that they have had no part in.

Diamond and Tanasha holding Naseeb Junior
Diamond and Tanasha holding Naseeb Junior in the past

At the end of the day, as a celebrity, his public indiscretions will affect his kids more than the average child. The bottom line, this is a poor example of fatherhood. Very poor…and Naseeb should not bear the brunt of it.

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Till death do us part! Milly WaJesus underscores marital vow with support for hubby Kabi

Posted on by Geoffrey Mbuthia
What Milly WaJesus is going through at the moment is anyone’s guess. But I do know that it is arguably her most stressful time as a married woman.

And of course, I am speaking about the bombshell her husband dropped yesterday that he had sired a child with his own cousin!

The news quickly became the trending topic on numerous social media platforms, with many Kenyans scandalised at the news that Kabi had carnal relations with his own cousin.

And many eagerly awaited for Milly’s response…What would she do? She acted quickly, coming out in support of the father of her only son, with a short and straightforward statement.

Not only did she have her man’s back, but also offered to help in raising the child. She wrote;

”Guys, as you can guess, this has not been easy. But you know, life is never easy. I understand that we all have a past. And sometimes that past is thought and hard to understand. But I am also a mother, and I know that every child needs love and support from the parents. As a mother, I will do all that is possible to assist my husband to support Abby, and to make sure that becomes integrated into our family.”

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I must say that her support has amazed me, a re-affirmation her marriage vow, “Till death do us part”. Why? The sheer scale of the thing he did! It takes a special breed of person to sleep with their cousin, especially when most traditional African cultures consider it taboo.

Not only that, but the man also lied about his interactions with his cousin when she first accused him of siring her daughter. He knew that there was a statistical possibility that Abby might be his daughter but still acted like the innocent victim, accusing the mother of trying to tarnish his name.

And for those saying that Kabi was a kid when this happened, let me remind you that he was 23-years-old when Abby was born! That is a man and not a boy.

While his sleeping with his cousin is completely legal, it still leaves me with an icky feeling about the type of man behind the cheerful veneer.

His wife clearly knows him better than I and the public do and has seen something in him that warrants her support. Also, the Christian faith that he and his wife profess speaks of a God who has forgiven all our sins and Kabi is that-forgiven by his wife.

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Anerlisa’s relationship issues aren’t from a “lack of selfishness” but something more insidious

Posted on by Geoffrey Mbuthia
Anerlisa Muigai is an interesting study in the highs and lows that a well-heeled socialite goes through in her day-to-day life.

While most people would exchange their lives for hers in a heartbeat, what some wouldn’t count on is that her life is often full of disappointments-particularly in her relationships.

Not only has she dated some of the most handsome men on social media; from Ian Mugoya, Ben Kang’ang’i, to Don and now ex-husband Ben Pol.

2020 was an eventful year for Anerlisa, full of contrasts. Not only did she lose her younger sister Tecra in unfortunate circumstances, but she also got married to Tanzanian musician Ben pol soon afterward.

The marriage came as a shock, considering that she had lost her sister barely a month before. And from the word go the marriage was littered with rumours of infidelity and not seeing eye to eye by the two partners.

Anerlisa Muigai with Ben Pol
Anerlisa Muigai with Ben Pol

Not only that, the relationship looked like a long-distance marriage to keen observers making many wonder when (if ever) the two actually spent any time together.

And while the couple put a brave front in December with even Ben Pol releasing a love song with Anerlisa as his video vixen, that still wasn’t enough to save the marriage.

Early last month Ben filed for divorce in Tanzania with Miss Muigai hinting that she had acceded to his request later on in the month.

Anerlisa Muigai
Anerlisa Muigai

Now that she is a free woman, she has been making comments on her social media that hint at what might have been the cause of the demise of the relationship.

This week, the Nero Water CEO said that she is planning to become more selfish as a person. “The woman I am looking into becoming is a woman selfish with HERSELF, her FINANCES and her TIME.”

And that brings me to the gist of this article. I don’t think Anerlisa’s issue with men has been her giving nature. In fact, I think that is a positive in most genuine, reciprocal relationships.

Many times when you keep on having the same problem as Miss Muigai seems to have in her relationships with her revolving cast of men, one has to ask oneself the question? Who is the common denominator? Herself.

When I began this article I thought that I could wrap it up in a cute little bow but I now realise that her issues are too many to highlight of the top of my head.

I think her issues would best be dealt with by a trained therapist, but what do I know…

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Is there any value in listening to Lillian Muli’s passionate relationship advice?

Posted on by Geoffrey Mbuthia
Citizen TV anchor Lillian Muli can be described as an open book, a lady who wears her heart on her sleeve. The mother of two often uses her popular Instagram page to air her thoughts, feelings, and emotions on something that has touched her heart or mind.

That’s not all, the mother of 2 by two different men is well known for using her page to give young girls and ladies advice, especially in the area of relationships and personal growth.

Some of her most popular posts online have been about her infamous relationship with her second baby daddy, businessman Jared Nevaton the Shabana FC owner.

In her now-legendary post that she has since deleted, Lillian called out Jared for cheating and branded him a community husband.

…I feel I have always put everyone else before me – Lillian Muli admits to fans

The furious post was a reminder that Lillian doesn’t play around when it comes to her heart and will embarrass and call out anybody who tried to do so.

And Lillian still isn’t shy to talk about her past relationships as evidenced by the answers she gives fans when they ask her questions. This year, Lillian dropped another bombshell when she said her biggest regret was in dating a serial cheater.

Now comes my question? Does the advice Lillian dishes out to her female fans especially as far as relationships go have any value to them?

Yes, it does. And by a lot. While her relationships have ended up in failure that doesn’t mean that she hasn’t learnt enough to pass down to younger Kenyan girls.

The value in Lillian’s advice isn’t in necessarily getting her female fans great relationships but in them actually avoiding toxic, time-wasting ones.


Sometimes perfect is the enemy of good and Lillian’s past can show her fans that having a good peaceful relationship might be better than getting a “perfect” contentious relationship.

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Karen Nyamu’s father threatening to disown her was a shrewd and brilliant move

Posted on by Geoffrey Mbuthia
Controversial lawyer and aspiring politician Karen Nyamu recently revealed the repercussions that her much-publicized cheating scandal with Samidoh (the father of her second and youngest child) had wrought.

Karen explained that her father was enraged and embarrassed by her social media posts that he disowned her.

“My father was very angry with my reaction over the Samidoh issue. My furious father told me to drop his name, ‘Nyamu’, from my name as I was embarrassing him with the social media posts. I was saddened to see my father hurt over the issue,” she said in a recent interview.

Although they may have settled their issues, what Karen said about her father telling her to drop his name is troubling to me.

Here’s why

I don’t think that her sin was so egregious as to warrant that type of response from her dad. I do believe that there are things that might make a parent not want to deal with their child-Things like being a rapist, a child molester, a serial killer, a mass murderer, or being a terrorist.

Were a parent to disown their child over the reasons above, I could see where they were coming from. But Karen’s case for me isn’t that cut and dry.

What is interesting is that the sticking point for Karen’s father wasn’t her cheating per se, it was her constant posting about her affair partner after the fact.

At the time, the issue was still too close to Karen for her to see the damage she was causing herself and those around her-She was being ruled by her emotions, something her father could well see.

I don’t know if her father was serious in his threat but I think it might have been a last resort to reign in Karen’s more destructive tendencies. And the disowning threat was the gamble he took. The funny thing is I think it might have worked.

Karen’s account has been a tamer and more docile place the past month.

But what do I know…

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Why the tragic bullying case in SA school was much worse than normal cyber-bullying

Posted on by Geoffrey Mbuthia
Yesterday, I watched a video of an incident that happened at a South African school that really broke my heart. In the video,  a 15-year-old student from Mbilwi Secondary School is seen being confronted by two other teens in the video.

One of the girls signals to the other and then slaps Lufuno “countless” times. According to a police report, the girl was attacked last Monday after blocking her perpetrator on various social media sites for sending her threatening messages.

But that wasn’t the worst part. What transpired next is what saddened me and got me teary-eyed. Police spokesperson Brig. Motlafela Mojapelo said Lufuno “reportedly went home in the afternoon and, on arrival, locked herself in the room and consumed an overdose of tablets. She was apparently found by her mother lying unconscious and was taken to Siloam Hospital, where she was certified dead on arrival.”

 

Her attacker, also 15, was arrested Wednesday and, according to police, will be prosecuted using South Africa’s Child Justice Act.

It is rare in this day and age that a story can get me worked up and the reason is this: What this girl went through was worse than cyberbullying, a nightmare that she couldn’t get away from.

It was cyberbullying 2.0( a term I have coined myself), a harsher, sadder and more insidious form made more pernicious with the proliferation of social media.

It is two-fold.

First off, Lufuno was cyberbullied by her attacker online causing her to block her online, pain and suffering that she could discreetly hide away from the public glare.

But after the assault on her person by her assailant, her shame and embarrassment at the hands of the torturer would become public(the recorded video), with no place to hide and heal.

See in the past when bullying happened, it mostly ended at the physical location where one had been bullied. But today with social media, one’s shame can be relieved endlessly on loop and trigger a sort of PTSD for the victim.

So it now goes beyond the physical bullying at school and becomes a nightmare a victim can’t escape even if they were to relocate and leave the school behind.

Their bullying is online now and that will be a constant psychological reminder to them. How does a young impressionable girl come back from this? I don’t know.

I have more to say but I will leave it at that for now…

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The accuracy in the statement that there are no stingy men

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Comedian Felix is one of the few comedians who can give a serious take concerning the social issues affecting the country. The man does it consistently and recently delivered one of his most brilliant takes on relationships.

In a recent back and forth, he stated that men aren’t stingy but just invest in women they see value in.

”There is no man who is stingy. There is nothing like a stingy man… Men will always spend when they see value, or they spend where there’s value… What value can he see on you to spend on you? Case closed.

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This advice comes at a time when the prevailing trope among many female influencers is that men are stingy and that no woman should spend time with a man who doesn’t spend money on her.

Felix’s advice is not only accurate it is true and I say that as a man who has been in relationships and seen his brothers be in relationships.

And let me clarify what true worthwhile investment from a man in a woman is; It normally consists of himself, his time(non-s3xual), money and leadership-all can best be summed up as commitment.

Most men place women in two levels; women they will only have s3xual dalliances with and the ones they term as ‘wife material’.

The women who are termed as s3xual conquests aren’t seen as fit to invest in as they are there for the short term. The caveat here is that these women will get some of the men’s time and money but they will not get their precious non-s3xual timewomen(3)

‘Wife material’ women are given the best a man can give; Himself. This constitutes of his money, his time and leadership.

And the investment isn’t just limited to the areas I have mentioned, the man will most likely put his life on the line for the woman he has invested in.

This can be borne out with many celeb relationships where the male celeb will only sleep with many women but will never commit to them.

Their commitment only happens for the women they deem fit for purpose. Just look at Jay Z and Beyonce. Before he met Beyonce, the rapper was an undercover player with many women in different area codes.

But after her, he invested his everything into her and one can see how far they have come.

 

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Anerlisa’s advice to ladies about getting pregnant is nice but with one major CAVEAT!

Posted on by Geoffrey Mbuthia
Keroche Breweries heiress Anerlisa Muigai is one woman who has been born with a silver spoon, something she doesn’t deny.

Despite this, she has tried to parlay her wealth and fame into running her Nero Water Company as CEO. Other than her business exploits, Anerlisa normally sees the clout she has as an opportunity to dole out advice to young ladies and girls.

She recently offered more counsel to the fairer gender concerning an issue that is close to her heart-On the type of men that young women should get pregnant for.

In an Instagram post, she told her fans that a baby is a commitment that women should not be boxed into having by their partners if they are not ready.

She told women that they are better off being left by their partners because of their uncertainty on having a baby rather than being forced into it.

“Dear young girls, do not get kids with somebody you are not sure about. You can date, get engaged, etc, but kids? That’s a whole a** commitment. Rather your partner leaves you because you are not sure about having kids than be forced into it. That is just my opinion, others have different views,” she wrote.

Ben Pol speaks for the first time on rumoured marriage issues with Anerlisa

While I agree with Anerlisa’s general sentiment, I have a problem with her advice on getting engaged to a man that a woman doesn’t see herself getting a child for.

As Anerlisa said, women should not get kids for men they aren’t sure about. In fact, they shouldn’t get engaged to men they aren’t sure about.

How are you going to commit to a man for future marriage and you aren’t sure about him. By the time one is getting engaged, they should be sure and right about the man, having even gotten input from people they trust who have helped vet them.

Another problem I have with the advice is that it doesn’t take into account the effective use of one’s time. I think that women who want kids should only seriously date men who they can foresee having kids with after the first few dates.

Time is a woman (and a man’s) most precious resource, she shouldn’t waste it on men who aren’t worthy in the first place.

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