‘I’ve been married for 18 years and my mother-in-law does not know where we live’ Brags city woman

During Yesterdays morning conversation on Classic 105, a male caller left women fuming after strongly stating that their mother’s come FIRST.

According to him, nothing can come between the two of them, and going by the responses a majority of men seem to agree with him.

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He says

“My case is different I am 35 and I live with my siblings, 3 sisters, my wife, kids and my mum.

  I can’t live in a good place and my mother is struggling.

To me my mum is everything. She comes first even when it comes to cooking her food is cooked first then ours follow.

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That statement elicited a heated debate and here is what the fans had to say on why men bring their mothers to live with their wives.

Another says

“My problem is being close to my mum,she is my mum. I can’t stay a day without speaking to my mum, that is why she has to stay with us.”

Another adds

“I have no problem if he treasures his mother. We all treasure ours. Love her unconditional yes, but don’t disrespect your wife in the process. I cannot live with my mother in law in the same house”

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Another male caller adds

“I live with 3 sisters, my wife, my mother and my kids and my wife is very Ok with that because my mother has not wronged her.”

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An agitated female caller blasted the men living with their mom’s, saying that they need to change their way of thinking

“That man has a mental disorder. Hio ni ujinga. I have been married for the last 14 years, yet my mother in law does not know where we live.

Whenever she gets sick we go to her place take care of her and come back home. How does one even go to live with his son?

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Those men who are speaking have not even gone through the traditional rites of giving out goats. My mother in law respects our space. She says that she has her own house so she lets us be.”

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Young Soul: Here’s why women go nuts over business tycoon Kibor (list)

Prominent politician-cum-farmer Jackson Kibor, 86 was recently granted a   divorce from his third wife Naomi Jeptoo, something that left him so happy.

The latest ruling came barely a year after Kibor divorced his second wife, Josephine.

Kibor had been married to the third wife for more than 43 years and 52 years with the second wife, who, he divorced in 2017.

Kibor had four wives, one of whom is deceased.

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Here are some of the reasons as to why women love Kibor

1. Money

Love him or hate him Kibor is loaded. Unlike Ben 10’s, Kibor has worked hard for his money, after all don’t they say that money makes the world go round?

Money may not be everything but it can give you a comfortable life.

2. He loves spoiling women

Unlike the Xaxa generation, Kibor is of the generation where men toiled HARD to win a woman. They ensured a woman was well clothed, well fed and obviously looking good.

Nowadays it is no longer news for a man to invite a woman out on a date just to feed her on air buggers.

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Eunita Kibor Kibor’s fourth wife and Josephine-Jepkoech Kibor’s second-wife

3. S#xual prowess

Back in the day men were fed on whole foods such as yams, organic greens, porridge and such but nowadays most men are battling s#xual dysfunction.

More and more young men throng fast food joints, that according to research has negatively affected their bedroom skills. Kibor is active all the way.

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Jackson Kibor

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4. To bear him children

Who wouldn’t love a father who is loaded for his kids? Financial security is a big deal for most women and by now you already know that Kibor is not just the guy next door.

Women throng his space and his life because he can give them security and one way of ensuring that is by giving him children.

5. For fame

Kibor loves the spotlight. For some women, interacting or dating Kibor is one sure way of catching the public’s eye. After all they say fake it till you make it

 

 

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AP commits suicide after shooting his girlfriend 19 times in Naivasha

An AP officer on Sunday committed suicide by shooting himself in the head moments after he shot and seriously injured his girlfriend in Naivasha.

During the incident, the officer attached to Kipkonyo chief’s camp in Moi Ndabi fired at her lover nineteen times with three of the bullets hitting her on the hips before he fled.

Trouble started after the officer who was allegedly drunk confronted the girlfriend who operates a Mpesa shop.

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The two had an argument according to a witness Saul Kimani.

“Thinking he had killed her, the officer retreated to the camp where he shot himself on the head and died on the spot,” Kimani said.

Naivasha deputy county commissioner John Opondo confirmed the incident and said the woman had been admitted at the Naivasha subcounty hospital in serious condition.

Elsewhere two suspected thugs were at the weekend shot dead in a botched robbery in Kasarani area, Nairobi.

The two are said to have been part of a gang that had been attacking and robbing locals when police were alerted.

The officers responded there killing the two and recovered a homemade gun from them. The bodies were moved to the mortuary pending further investigations.

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Migori man jumps inside coffin ready to die than live with wife

A man from Migori has left the villagers in shock after he approached a carpenter and had him make a coffin for him despite the fact that he is alive.

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The man identified as Awilo JaSiaya, hails from Siaya.On Thursday approached a carpenter and inquired about the price of a coffin.

 

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Alphonse Odhiambo the carpenter, says that Awilo even paid for the coffin Ksh 13,000 first hand.

“He was wearing a boda boda rider’s reflector jacket. We thought he was coming to buy a coffin for a burial somewhere else.

When we asked him who was going to be buried, he said himself. He then jumped inside the coffin and lay down,” Odhiambo said.

 

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JaSiaya then paid a motorbike rider to take him home while inside the casket. He was wearing a campaign reflector jacket with Siaya Governor Cornel Rasanga’s portrait.

Talking to the press JaSiaya said that

“Despite having very powerful relatives, my wife has been disturbing me, I’m fed up. So I planned this funeral because I am like a walking corpse,”

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JaSiaya testing his own coffin

He said he married his wife in 2000 and together they have three children. Their eldest daughter is  in Form Two.

But neighbours who spoke to the press said the man has been problematic adding that he was chased away from his home because of his behaviour.

Neighbours said the man has been beating up his wife in public.

“He once walked into Migori Referral Hospital morgue and told morticians that he had a body which needs to be preserved. He was restrained as he tried to get into a freezer,” a neighbour said.

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Zari responds to Tanasha Donna’s remarks about meeting Diamond

Tanasha Donna has revealed where she met Diamond Platnumz, a subject many have been wanting to discuss regardless of the fact it does not concern them.

A lot has been said but in a hearty chat with her fans,Tanasha has barred it all.

Tanasha met Diamond at a club two years ago, at the time he was in a live-in relationship with Zari Hassan. She says that they “never spoke until the end of last year.”

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Fans are skeptical if indeed the two are dating or nah!

Tanasha responded to a fan who asked if the Bongo star was getting time to spend with his family. The fan’s exact question was

 “Tell your man to be in his kids’ lives looks bad on the gram being with you every weekend but no time for his kids. “

Her response was:

“Don’t talk what you have no clue about. He loves his kids.”

That did not answer the question. In the past, Zari has called out Diamond for not taking time off his busy schedule to hang out with his kids.

Zari responded to this in a subliminal Instagram post that is obviously directed at Tanasha.

She wrote: “Oh this life.😂”

Adding, “Oh hun I actually didn’t respond in a bad way, but my question still stands. She is super sweet…”

Tanasha Donna alongside her boyfriend Diamond Platnumz
Tanasha Donna alongside her boyfriend Diamond Platnumz

Meanwhile, Tanasha has defended the news of her impending nuptials with the Tanzanian music heartthrob. When a fan asked her if her wedding was a mere PR stunt, Tanasha shot back:

“Absolute nonsense. Not at all.”

She also added that she is not planning to change her religion once she gets hitched to Diamond.

“I believe we all serve one God therefore we should respect each other’s religion and appreciate other people’s belief as part of their identity.”

Finally, a fan warned Tanasha that she will be played the same way Diamond played Zari and Hamisa.

But she defended her man saying,

“Clearly, you have no idea who I love then. Thanks for your concern though.”

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Adding that Diamond is “someone humble, honest, hardworking, loving and caring and yes he has them all.”

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Man sends SMS to wife to collect daughters body after domestic quarrel

 

Conflict of passion that ended in the death of the two-year-old daughter of a couple in Nairobi’s Ruai suburb.

The man, 23, only named as Mwangi, and the woman, 22, had domestic disagreement from Wednesday last week. The quarrel was all about the woman’s use of social media.

Their landlady, Leah Wanjiru, said she heard the woman scream on Thursday night. She woke her husband and they rushed to the couple’s house to help.

“We got there and I held the man’s hand, pulled him out so I could ask him what was happening,” she said.

“He told me the woman has been on phone the whole of Wednesday night and Thursday, even in the night.”

When Mwangi confronted her, she got agitated and started fighting him. He fought back, prompting her to scream, Wanjiru told the Star.

Wanjiru said as she spoke to Mwangi, the woman suddenly hit him with a stone on the forehead, rupturing the tissue and causing heavy bleeding.

“After first aid, I advised him to record a statement with the police,” she said, adding that she also advised the couple to separate as they solved their conflict.

On Friday morning, Mwangi told her that the woman had taken off.

“The lady told her husband her brother-in-law wanted to rent her a better house somewhere else. She did not disclose where,” the landlady said.

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The landlady Leah Wanjiru at her home in Ruai/Enos Teche

Later in the day, the man sent a text message to the woman, asking her to go get her dead child in the house.

The woman returned in the evening and found the lifeless body of her daughter in their one room mabati house.

The child was strangled using a leso and her private part was swollen. The woman reported the incident to Ruai police station.

Wanjiru said the couple had been together for barely three months. They had moved into one of her rental houses on Wednesday last week and had been there for two days before the incident.

“I had not even known them. They moved in and paid me Sh800, pending Sh200 they owe me for the rent,” she said.

A police source at the station said they are investigating the matter – a crime of passion.

The man alleged to have killed the child is on the run.

 

Nandi man hacks wife to death at chief’s home and then commits suicide after domestic quarrel

A 38-year-old man from Nandi County hacked his wife to death using a panga before hanging himself, following a domestic quarrrel.

The man from Kapkatet village had seperated with the woman who had gone to  live at her uncle’s home near Ndalat three kilometers away.

The man lured the woman to a home near Ndalat and hacked her several times after which he fled and was found hanging on a tree at his parent’s home.

The woman was identified as Ednah Kurgat, a mother of three children and she had gone to live with the uncle Philip Songok, who is an Assistant Chief.

Residents said the two lovers had separated last year after a domestic quarrel and efforts to reconcile them had failed.

Emily Sawe, who is an aunt to the woman, witnessed the incident and narrated how she pleaded with the  man to spare the woman, but the assailant turned hostile.

“She slashed her several times on the head and other parts of the body as I pleaded but he went on and killed her”, said the aunt.

The man later jumped over the fence and disappeared into the bush after the attack.

Villagers later found the man’s body hanging on a tree at his father’s compound.

Sawe said the assailant who was hiding on the fence, jumped in the compound after the deceased came out of the house and started to cut her with a panga.

He said the attack was sudden and shocking.

“She was loudly pleading but he cut her on the hands and neck and head with a panga causing her to blead extensively after she fell down”, said Sawe.

The assailant did not utter any words during the attack.

Police were called to the scene where they found a jacket, a mobile phone and  bottle of Vodka alcohol left behind by the man.

Area MP Vincent Tuwei and Deputy County Commissioner Sammy Makhanu visited the scene and condemned the attack.

“We have very high incidents of domestic violence in this area and that is because of high consumption of alcohol and drugs among the couples” said Makhanu.

Tuwei and the administrator asked residents especially couples to involve elders  and church leaders in sorting out domestic quarrels.

Makhanu said they would enhance the fight against alcohol and drug abuse in the area which has also witnessed high levels of crime.

“Killing or violence is not a solution. We should use alternative ways of solving domestic issues like involving elders or church leaders”, said Tuwei.

Tuwei said youth were most affected by use of drugs and alcohol and many of them also engaged in crime and such violence to resolve issues.

The two bodies  were taken by police to a private mortuary at Kapkaren in Uasin Gishu County.

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Woman stabs husband 35 times after he complained about her ‘mashakura’

A woman murdered her husband – stabbing him at least 35 times – because he criticised her cooking, say Russian law enforcement.

Slava Davydkin, 43, was killed after complaining there was not enough salt in a dish she served when guests came to their house in Penza region.

His wife Evgenia, 31, waited until he was asleep and stabbed him to death in front of the couple’s four-year-old child, say reports.

She later confessed to the killing using his angling knife – and is under house arrest.

The couple had quarrelled after the keen fisherman complained the dish she cooked was ‘bland’.

He claimed this meant she ‘did not love him’, it was reported.

The row continued after their guests – a couple – went to bed and the host hit his wife, she claimed.

She was provoked after the meal accompanied by alcohol, she told police.

After repeatedly knifing her sleeping husband, she woke the male guest and asked him to call an ambulance.

Paramedics pronounced the man dead at the scene.

The Russian Investigative Committee said in a statement: ‘During her interrogation, the accused explained that the reason for the row between the spouses was supposedly a bland dish served at the table.’

Davydkin told her it showed his wife does not love him.

‘If she loved him, there would be more salt in the food. After the guests went to sleep, the row continued.

‘The owner of the house offended his wife and tried to hit her.

‘The woman got angry, took a knife and inflicted at least 35 stab wounds to her husband.’

It later emerged she stabbed him after he had asleep.

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World’s richest man Amazon CEO Jeff Bezos’ steamy text message to lover revealed after announcing divorce

 

News is awash on social media of the expensive divorce that faces AMazon CEO Jeff Bezos after announcing split from wife.

The National Enquirer on Thursday revealed the steamy text messages bezos sent the TV anchor during their torrid eight-month relationship before his split from his wife became public.

The billionaire’s messages included: ‘I want to smell you’ and ‘I want to breathe you in.’ They date back to April 2018, nine months before Bezos announced he and wife MacKenzie were divorcing.

He told Lauren Sanchez, a helicopter pilot and former anchor of Fox 11’s ‘Good Day,’ among other things: ‘I love you, alive girl. I will show you with my body, and my lips and my eyes, very soon.’

In another, he said: ‘I want to hold you tight.… I want to kiss your lips…. I love you. I am in love with you.’

Bezos, 54, and Lauren Sanchez, 49, have been dating since June.

The National Enquirer claims they met for illicit trysts as often as six times in two weeks, and that Bezos took Sanchez on exotic holidays on his $65 million private jet and sent her erotic selfies ‘too explicit to print.’

A source close to Bezos told DailyMail.com that the Amazon founder only began seeing Sanchez after separating from his wife. But the Enquirer reported that the affair went on behind their spouses’ backs.

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Is Dennis Itumbi proving to be a good ‘son’ to the Maribe’s?

Jacque Maribe made her first public statement a few days ago after she went to court to seek access to her house, her phone and car. Basically, her life before all the drama.

The first time that Jacque Maribe was seen in public was a few weekends back when she landed in a chopper at MP Naisula Lesuuda’s wedding in Samburu.

But in a recent application filed in the court, Jacque is far from coy, she has called for the state prosecutor Catherine Mwaniki to be disqualified from prosecuting her murder case.

One thing we have to acknowledge is the ‘friend’ Dennis Itumbi is to Jacque Maribe and her family. He has been there for her from the first day the case kicked off.
Jacque appeared in court and Dennis Itumbi was there to support her and he sat in between Jacque and her father which made the internet make so much noise.

Dennis posted the picture on social media and caught the attention of many people on social media.

With the #Maribes in court yesterday. May Justice like a mighty stream flow and favor all. ( Photo Credits to the photographer)

The day he appeared in court he saw the stress Jowie is going through and supported the decision of the court to grant Jowie medical attention at Kenyatta National Hospital and if not the court will grant him the privilege of choosing a hospital he prefers.

Court:

Surely, we cannot hold a man in need of medication. What if he dies in our hands? Is it possible to allow the family to produce a car and prisons provide guard. I order that the accused be admitted at KNH today, whether Gvt owes KNH money or not. No fee should be demanded from the accused. If he is not admitted today, the court will allow him to seek medical treatment at a hospital of his choice. It is so ordered

 

‘I am sad I was not able to save her’ Mourns Mwingi man who found his wife committing suicide

A man whose wife committed suicide on Sunday morning is deeply depressed that he was not able to save her even after he found her dangling.

Benard Musyoki, who spoke at his home in Mwingi, said he entered their bedroom just moments after his wife, a 43-year-old teacher at Kakunike Primary School in Kyuso District, hang herself.

She was dangling, but still breathing.

“I am sad and disappointed that I was not able to save her when I entered the bedroom to find her dangling but still breathing and writhing in pain. I tried to lift her but she was too heavy for me,” lamented Musyoki.

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He says it took some minutes for him to find a panga which he used to cut the rope that was around his wife’s neck.

He said it happened too late as his wife died less than a kilometre as she was being taken to Mwingi Level Four Hospital.

“When I cut the rope and she fell down I tore her clothes and tried to resuscitate her by fanning her using a cloth but in vain.  I called for help from neighbours and as we took her to hospital, unbelievably she passed away,” said Musyoki.

He was speaking at their home in Nginyai village of Mwingi Central subcounty where villagers and relatives gathered to mourn the departed teacher.

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She was also the burial and benevolent fund representative for teachers in Kandwia zone.

Musyoki said he was at a loss why his wife decided to kill herself because they did not have any quarrel.

“She asked me for money to cater for some expenses incurred in a school building we are putting up but I told her I did not have money,” he said.

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He said they were the two of them at home as other children had gone for the Sunday school service.

“My wife just walked into the house and shortly called out asking me to take good care of our children as she was gone for good,” said Musyoki.

He rushed into the house only to find his wife dangling from the roof of their bedroom and started  the futile attempts to save her life.

A postmortem will be carried out on the body, which is being preserved at the Mwingi Level 4 hospital.

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30-year-old man kills child whose mother rejected him

Irate residents of Karagita estate in Naivasha have lynched a 30-year-old man who brutally murdered a six year old boy after the mother rejected him.

In a love gone sour incident, the man who was recently released from prison turned his anger to the minor slashing his neck leading to his death.

The minor who was asleep when the attack occurred died while been rushed to Naivasha sub-county hospital before the residents caught up with the suspect who left jail two months ago.

Emotions ran high in the homestead after the weekend incident as relatives and neighbors tried to come to terms with the attack that left many in shock.

According to Monicah Mumbi who is the aunt to the minor, the suspect had on several occasions threatened the family.

She said that in one of the incident, her sister who had a relationship with the suspect reported the matter to the police leading to the arrest.

“He left jail a couple of months back but he kept threatening that he would kill my sister and later turn the knife unto himself,” she said.

Tears flowing down her cheeks, Mumbi narrated how the suspect tried to attack her sister whom managed to escape leaving the minor alone in the house.

“He stabbed the minor all over the body before members of the public moved in and rushed him to hospital but he died along the way,” she said.

A community leader Moses Wanyeki narrated how the managed to grab the bleeding minor from the suspect and rushed him to hospital.

Wanyeki termed the suspect as a known criminal who in the past had been arrested on several occasions for a series of criminal activities.

“We were woken by screams and rushing to the home we found the man holding the minor and we rescued him but sadly he died while on the way to hospital,” he said.

A neighbor John Mwangi said that the couple had in the past quarreled after the woman decided to leave the man over his continuous threats.

“This incident has left as in shock after the man decided to kill the innocent boy who had nothing to do with the couples differences,” he said.

Naivasha OCPD Samuel Waweru confirmed the incident adding that an inquest file had been opened and the two bodies taken to Naivasha mortuary.

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MUST READ: Reasons why more Kenyan women are marrying two husbands

This situation was brought into the spotlight when cases of two Kenyan women with co-husbands was made public.

The term to describe the situation of women with two husbands is polyandry.

 

No such relationship was public in Kenya until the disclosure by Makueni resident Rael Mukeku that she is married to two men, and the arrest of a Migori woman, Maurine Atieno, and her two husbands following public outrage.

These incidents, both in September, sparked a debate on whether women should be free to marry more than one man.

Mukeku got married to her first husband, then the second man moved into their compound to join that marriage as a second husband.

Atieno and her husbands were rounded up due to public demand after neighbours discovered she was living with the two men in her first husband’s home.

She was first married to Robert Ochieng, siring two children with him before they separated and she got married elsewhere. She later returned to Ochieng’s home with her second husband, John Ochola, and the three continued to stay together as a wife and co-husbands.

Although only Rael and Maureen have opened up to having two husbands, lawyer Jemimah Keli says it is possible there are more women in such unions, despite the risk of public condemnation.

SOCIAL ENGINEERING

And Keli says there could be many almost similar arrangements, especially in cosmopolitan areas like Nairobi, where women could be with several men supporting them or living with them in certain arrangements, but not in the same house.

The lawyer says polyandry is a social engineering caused by changes in the society over time, and it doesn’t amount to a marital union.

“When a society evolves, all manner of dangers will arise, and there is good and bad about it. Women can say they are more empowered now, to the extent they can accommodate two men, while men may feel like they require help. For example, the second man in the Makueni case said he moved in because the other man was weak or was sick,” Keli says.

“So, since traditionally the role of a man is to provide for their family, the question is: could it be that men would want other men to assist them to perform that role? Would it make their burden easier? Those are the questions the society will ask itself.”

However, Kiambu woman representative Gathoni wa Muchomba and Rev Vincent Mulwa of the Christ Pilgrimage Restoration Centre say men in such unions are abnormal and devoid of manliness.

“But there is another problem I’m seeing today. More women are choosing to be single mothers with multiple s3x partners, and that could be the reason men are lacking wives. Not because women are not there, but because they don’t want to get married,” Rev Mulwa said.

“That could be the origin of the situation of two men finding themselves loving the same woman who has been cheating on them. And because no others are interested in being their wives, they agree to keep this one.”

Keli says polyandry is not an arrangement known either by the law or in any customs in the country. The Marriage Act defines all the marriages as a union between a man and a woman or between a man and women. Consequently, she says, polyandry cannot be called a marriage; it can only remain a relationship between several parties.

“Even polygamous marriages are recognised under that law as where a man is married to more than one woman. Maybe in another generation, we may want to recognise that a woman can marry more than one man. Then we will have to change our laws to accommodate that relationship as a marriage,” Keli said.

“But as the society evolves, different challenges will prompt law changes with time to address those challenges, to accommodate the new lifestyles, and then the law will decide whether that lifestyle fits to be a marriage.”

However, Keli rules out any criminal acts in women marrying more men. She says Mukeku, Atieno and other women in polyandry are not committing any offence punishable by the law, because it is just a relationship that is not defined under the penal code, and an offence has to be defined by the law.

ERODED MANLINESS

Mulwa says it is an inversion of God’s order of nature when a man ceases to be in control and the woman is the one calling the shots in a marriage, with the “subdued men” under her authority.

The cleric says there is no rationale for polyandry, and a woman advancing it is basically full of the notion of equality.

Wa Muchomba says men accepting to be co-husbands are grossly inept because “no cock wants to share”, while Mulwa says only men with severe mental problems can contemplate such unions.

The woman rep says manliness in Kenyan men is getting eroded so much that the boy child is under siege.

“To see a man in such relationships means they have no ego. We need to train our men to be men from when they are young. They are victims of erosion of manliness. The socioeconomic pressure we are exposing men to is what is making the male esteem and male personality get eroded,” she says.

She says the fact that the girl child is more empowered is one of the contributing factors, but it is not the only factor. The legislator called for more emphasis on boy child empowerment, not only financially but also culturally.

“The moment you see a boy child being told to go and cook, that is the beginning of the problem,” Wa Muchomba said.

“Today you will hear mothers assigning their sons domestic chores, like cleaning utensils and preparing vegetables. That boy is being raised as a “male girl” because the things we expect from them are not the male expectations but are for females.”

 

MATRIARCHAL SOCIETY

The MP said the rise of women in control of their homes and society, and the lack of role models in society for the boy child, is also a factor in declining masculinity.

“This is the issue of a matriarchal society, where the woman is in more control of her sons and husbands. The child is growing up with a house girl and is already being taught how to plait hair. When they go to school, most teachers are female. The boy child lacks exposure to manliness,” she said.

“Recently I was at Ndumberi Primary School, where I was celebrating victory of a team that had excelled in dancing competitions at the national level. To my shock, I found only one male teacher at the school, the headmaster. So tell me, who are all the children in that school looking up to? Just the female teachers,” she said.

The MP said the problem is how the boy child in the society is being socialised, “making our men lose their male esteem and behave and act like women”.

Rev Mulwa says the problem started with the discriminate empowerment of girl child, leaving the boy child disadvantaged.

He says it is all about women wanting to be equal to men, doing everything a man is doing.

“The problem is in the continuous empowerment, where women are easily in access of resources and jobs. And because we have made the marriage to be about resources, now women want to command a man who has no resources, and misuse them,” Mulwa says.

“That makes a new challenge to men, and where to get a wife from, and agree that since she has been managing us secretly, let’s continue in it. And all this is out of empowerment of women to make them equal to men, which is very wrong.”

By Joseph Ndunda for the Star

These latest photos of Machakos Governor Alfred Mutua and his wife Lilian will restore your faith in love

He is not afraid to heap praises on her and we adore that.

Machakos Governor Alfred Mutua and his wife Lilian keep serving us couple goals.

The two were recently spotted in their county in a ceremony to commission boreholes.

Lilian was faithfully by her husbands side and from how she looks at him, we can tell she is doing her best to ensure his success.

Plus she does make him look good. We are also loving her new updo.

Check out the photos that will leave their peers green with envy.

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Alfred Mutua and Lilian
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Governor alfred Mutua and spouse Lilian Nganga
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Machakos Governor Alfred Mutua and spouse Lilian

Your mother’s love life determines how many partners you have

Children tend to have the same number of romantic partners that their mother had – whether they witnessed her relationships or not.

That is according to a study of longitudinal data on more than 7,000 mothers and their biological children in the US since 1979.

Researchers say that the connection is not down to your social status or community, it is most likely that mothers pass relationship skills to their kids, which influence how they interact with everyone, including romantic partners.

There is no longitudinal data on fathers, largely due to the outdated but lingering view that mothers are the most important figure in a household.

Psychologists told DailyMail.com that fathers do have a very profound effect on their kids’ relationships, but since mothers are still the main stay-at-home parent for most Americans, it is likely their influence could still be stronger for now.

The report, published today in the journal PLoSONE, was based on data on more than 7,000 mothers and their biological children from the National Longitudinal Survey of Youth 1979 and the National Longitudinal Survey of Youth Child and Young Adult, which tracked the groups for at least 24 years.

The survey featured questions on partnerships, including those they lived with, those they didn’t, those they married, those they divorced.

It meant the team, led by Claire Kamp Dush, associate professor of human sciences at The Ohio State University, was able to cross-reference relationship patterns in the same family line across generations.

Both the number of marriages and the number of cohabiting partners by mothers had similar effects on how many partners their children had, the study found.

Kamp Dush, who has studied marriage trends and traits for years, said that one clear factor is that there are certain heritable traits, such as depression, which impact how we interact with people.

But our parents also provide a blueprint for how to be a social human being. The adults who raise us show us how to show affection, how to argue, how to apologize, how to introduce yourself, how your interactions may vary with older people or different genders, or neighbors or strangers.

Those traits, in turn, influence how we conduct relationships, whether we desire relationships or fear them, and how we instinctively act with someone we care about.

Kamp Dush says that dating has changed a lot – primarily citing the popular theory that ‘our expectations for our partners have gone up over time’ to a ‘ridiculously high’ standard.

But when it comes to picking someone to date, live with or marry, she believes there are some core elements that stay the same, such as how we critique one another.

‘I think some of these basic things that drive our satisfaction never change,’ Kamp Dush told DailyMail.com.

‘If you observe your mom being very critical to her partner or to you, then you take that into your own intimate relationship. We are learning similar ways of being in relationships from our mothers.’

It makes sense that a mother’s skills have such a strong impact on our relationships, according to Shirani M Pathak, licensed psychotherapist and founder of the Center for Soulful Relationships.

‘Children learn by watching,’ Pathak explained to DailyMail.com.

Every time a new client enters her clinic with marriage issues, Pathak soon steers the conversation to ask about how their family related to one another when they were a child.

‘That’s when we see how each person is playing out all these same childhood dynamics,’ she says.

‘We repeat what we know, we replay everything from our childhood.’

Though the Ohio State paper couldn’t shed light on how fathers’ relationships influence their kids, Pathak says that there is no doubt.

After 14 years in relationship and family counseling, she has found little evidence to disprove the myth that women seek men like their fathers for a relationship.

‘I do believe it’s true,’ Pathak says.

‘We are trying to recreate the experience because it’s familiar, it’s what we know. That’s why we will likely end up in relationships like that.’

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Willy Paul offers to warm Vera Sidika’s bed: ‘Njoo nikupe 500k na mtoto,’

Socialite Vera Sidika is now flirting with gospel singer Willy Paul after parting ways with Otile Brown in a nasty break up.

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Vera Sidika

Willy Paul shared a video flaunting his new Mercedes Benz a few days after showing off wads of notes.

Vera was among the many who congratulated Willy Paul for the new toy and she jokingly told him that he should make sure he returns the money she borrowed from her.

POZEE MAKE SURE UMEREFUND ILE 500K ULIKOPA KUTOKA KWANGU.

The gospel artiste responded:

WACHA MAMBO YAKO WEWE. NJOO MIMI NIKUPE HIO 500K MTOTO..LOL.

Sidika went ahead to ask;

WILLY PAUL COMING. HMMM DO YOU MEAN UNIPE 500K NA MTOTO OR YPU’RE CALLING ME ‘MTOTO’.

The Tam Tam hitmaker responded asking the well-endowed socialite to choose between money and a baby.

VERA, WHICH ONE DO YOU AND? PLEASE CHOOSE.

Below are the screenshots of the conversations

 

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Willy Paul and Vera Sidika conversation

Recently, Vera and Otile took to social media to insult each other over money issues and their failed relationship. She exposed Otile who had asked for a loan of Sh500,000 to buy a new car after ‘trading in his car.’ Sidika revealed that;

WHILE IN DUBAI, I BOUGHT AN EXPENSIVE WATCH AND IT WASN’T REALLY A GOOD TIME FOR HIM TO ASK ME FOR MONEY. IT WAS KINDA AN AWKWARD SITUATION AND HE ASKED FOR THE CASH TWO DAYS AFTER WE GOT BACK TOGETHER.

Vera was shocked how Otile asked for money from her barely a week after they got back together and she said;

I DECIDED TO TELL HIM THAT I DON’T HAVE ANY MONEY SO THAT I COULD SEE HOW HE WOULD REACT. BUT I WAS SURPRISED. HE WENT QUIET ON ME WHEN I TOLD HIM THAT I DIDN’T HAVE THE MONEY.

Otile came out to respond and he referred to Vera as a psycho.

 

 The two have been trending on social media and Otile even went ahead to release a song titled Nobody. In the song, he confesses that he’s not ready to settle down anytime soon.
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Vera Sidika and Otile Brown

Every woman has an Itumbi – Classic 105 fan Captain Kale advices men

The country is awash with tales of Dennis Itumbi and Jacque Maribe’s perceived close relationship, from the time she was in remand and he was writing cute messages to her release date.

This formed the Classic 105 morning conversation with Maina and Kingangi.

The conversation was about ladies who keep their exes close. As the other partner, how does it make you feel knowing that your partner is still close to their ex?

Captain Kale, one of Classic 105’s biggest fans responded saying;

@ItsMainaKageni @Classic105Kenya Maina all of us men are an “Itumbi” to a woman in one way or another. And we don’t complain because we’ll smash them after helping them. Kwanza ya Ex ni tamuuu, ni kama kukula retirement benefits #MainaAndKingangi

Wakanai another fan dag in with these comments;
@Classic105Kenya @ItsMainaKageni women are evil 😈 especially where love matters are concerned they ll sail back to their Ex without even thinking why they left, Women go with the better current option only trust yua biological mum the rest are suspects #MainaAndKingangi

According to some callers, exes are the reason of misunderstandings in marriages these days.

Another caller said “Maina your Ex is there to comfort you. I’m married and very close to my Ex. Him and my husband know each other.”

Girls, do you have an Itumbi in your life that you can bounce back to when things are thick?

Drop your comments below

 

A List Of 8 Gospel Couples Who Will Make You Want To Fall In Love

The gospel industry has been associated with controversies especially from artists who seem to be  drinking water and preaching wine, but despite all some have chosen to stick to the word and set a good example.

The bible says”He who finds love finds a beautiful thing”. There is no doubt love is a special thing and it gets even better when you have someone to share it with. Gospel celebrities are setting the pace and are a living proof true love exists. Here are celebrity couples that will make you run to the aisle pretty soon.

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After winning the Male Artist Of Year in the 2017 Groove Awards Ekodydda introduced her charming beautiful wife to the world. They sure look good together.

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Bahati and Diana Marua  sure are the hottest couple in town.They are still going strong and their undying love is evident not even a storm can separate them.

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If you thought the divorce rumors will keep them apart then you must think again. Dj Mo and Size 8 are one couple in the entertainment industry who give relationship goals to those aspiring to get married. The two tied the knot in 2013 and their love keeps on growing stronger.

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A year after his elder brothers wedding, Daddy Owen got married to the love of his life Farida Wambui in 2016 in a colorful invites only wedding.

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Back in 2015 Roy Smith Mwaita popularly known as Rufftone tied the knot with his long time girlfriend Susan Njoki and the couple are blessed with 2 kids.

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He introduces himself as a grateful husband to a lovely wife. This ‘Lingala Ya Yesu’ hit maker is a proud man. Pitson is married to the beautiful Carol Mwai.

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They have been married close to a decade. Mercy Masika and David Muguro meet in 2007. Mercy takes pride in her marriage and family as the parents to two gorgeous kids. David also doubles up as Mercy’s manager. It is evident that after so many years of marriage they are still deeply in love.

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The mellow gospel singer Joyce and sports anchor hubby Waihiga kept their relationship on the down low and shocked many when they walked down the aisle in 2015. Their Naivasha wedding was a sight to behold attended by only close family and friends.