The relationship advice I see being peddled in women’s magazines is, to say the least absolutely horrendous. Why? The simple reason is that the advice is most times meted out by women about men.
I hope you see why that is a problem. A woman will never know what happens in a man’s mind, nor will a man ever know what happens in a woman’s mind; though the sexes try to believe that they do.
So, this brilliant article is a list of things women have been preached to about relationships that doesn’t help but destroys it; They are;
1. Men want independent opinionated women – Disagreeing is alright but this advice is oftentimes misinterpreted to mean a woman should be in her man’s face. This is one of biggest myths out there. I want a woman who will be my peace and not the cause of my migraines. A woman who knows how to talk to a man (manipulate) will get more from him than one who thinks fighting him is the answer.
2. If he loves you he will not sleep with anyone else (completely ignoring how men are wired as animals) – The act of s3x can be completely divorced from love by a man. Watch the video below for more great analysis;
3. Any advice that she gets from another woman that starts with ‘real men don’t…’-What does that woman know about the masculine experience/condition?
4. If he loves you, he will always make you happy – Another hoax. It isn’t anyone’s job to make you happy. That one is on you!
5. A big wedding is for a man to express his love – A big wedding doesn’t predict marriage success. Go look at HUGE Hollywood weddings and the subsequent divorce rate. The numbers are shocking.
6. Men should share their feelings – We do but to other male friends. And for those men reading this article, there is nothing that causes a woman to dry up more than an emotional man. Yes, even a broke man is afadhali!
7. What is good for the goose is good for the gander so date like men – A woman is at her most beautiful, vibrant and highest value when she is in her early 20’s., not her 30’s or 40’s like a man.
This is a painful truth but the same happens for men in their 20’s but in the inverse. Men in their 20’s are just useless compared to their female compatriots.
So when women are told to sow their wild oats in their 20’s, they are being done a disservice. Why? Those are the best years they have for getting a man of worth and value to be their husband.
8. Seclude him from his male friends – You fell for your man when he was with those men. The closest people to you are the totality of who you are. Those men helped him become the man he was when you fell for him – the one you fell in love with.
Why would you isolate him from people who have helped him grow? Iron sharpens iron as man sharpens man.
9. Your degrees and job title are top of the list of why a man is into you -Men are eyes (s3x) first, character second and other things(this is where you put the degrees and any other thing you think adds to your cred).
Your degrees and your title are good for your CV and will not build your relationship one iota!
In summary;
Men will never date as women do. We are different and complementary; which is a wonderful thing. What women find attractive in a man isn’t what men find attractive in a woman and it should be said as such.
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