Shockingly, This Is The Reason Most Men Fear Women Who Are Labeled As ‘Iron Ladies’

Situations, relationships and the current times have apparently created a ‘monster’ known as the ‘iron lady.’ This ambitious, hardworking, sexually liberated, allergic to lazy men and no-nonsense woman has left Kenyan men shaking in their boots.

With these qualities, these women have few suitors, mainly because no man wants a vocal, independent woman who will hold him accountable for his actions. Many men want a submissive, silent partner who says ‘yes’ to his every demand. They are required to settle for what the man is earning and surrender an opportunity to grow in the corporate world so as to feed her husband’s ego. Sorry to burst your bubble guys, but those days are long gone.

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Women have become key components for the growth of any business. They have even gone as far as making it in male-dominated positions and careers. This unique species is feared by men so much so that other women believe that if they get a Masters degree or buy a swanky house or car, they are bound to remain single for the rest of their life.

READ; Living With An Infidel, Physically And Emotionally Battered – Do Women Have 9 Lives?

We have all heard of women who are single simply because their success scares men. Some, who are invested in a relationship prefer hiding their success in order to keep a man which brings me to ask; must women dull their shine so that men can be comfortable?

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Well, ladies, men believe these so-called “iron ladies” make terrible wives. They apparently don’t take the time to nurture the family. This essentially means they do not attend to his every need. These women cannot be ‘tamed’ and that is the main reason men fear these women.

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These women have no time to feed a man’s ego and this irritates men to the core. They will never need a guy to fix the bulb, pay debts, change a tyre or buy gifts for them mainly because they’ve got it covered. Money can buy almost anything these days right…

So take heart iron ladies, at least you now know why these men will disappear once they learn your power.


Living With An Infidel, Physically And Emotionally Battered – Do Women Have 9 Lives?

A huge percentage of women, if not all, have probably been with men who have either cheated on them, battered them, financially disabled them or ended up humiliating them beyond measure. So why will these women rise to see another day, put a smile on their faces, go about making their careers beautiful with all the heartache? Is it the pain that drives them or

So why will these women rise to see another day, put a smile on their faces, go about making their careers beautiful with all the heartache? Is it the pain that drives them or do they have 9 lives?

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From time immemorial, women have been treated like disposable objects to men and mistreated. Their abilities not seen or appreciated.

Ladies, Here Are The Telling Signs He’s NOT Busy, You’re Just Irrelevant To Him

Their hearts are broken over and over again yet they go through the pain of bearing children, raising them on their own and still expected to have a career. Regardless, they end up letting their guard down when a man is involved. The question begs, why should they?

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Men were meant to be the heads of the home, priests who guide the family and lead them to what is Godly. In this day in age, however, women have taken up this role while their men are busy entertaining younger women. Many are wallowing in filth as they disown the very people that loved them when all they had to offer was love.

And for what reason? “The sex is boring, she gained weight, she earns more than I do, it gets boring being with one woman, the other woman made me feel like a king,” are just some of the nonsensical reasons for their behaviour.

My response? If your wife for 10 years hadn’t nurtured your kingdom for that long, these shisha smoking, Guarana drinking, yolo confused youngsters would surely spit on your face!

But at the end of it all, I feel that women indeed have 9 lives. This is  quite enough space to take a man’s crap and turn it into something beautiful.


The Effects Of A Broken Heart – Devoted Couple Who Were Married For 75 Years Who Died Just Days Apart

A devoted couple who were married for 75 years have been buried side-by-side at the church where they wed – after one passed away within days of the other due to a “broken heart”.

Jim, 101 and Hilda Leach, 98, celebrated their diamond wedding anniversary on December 9th, 2016, marking 75 years since they tied the knot in World War Two.

Just days after their family party in Rushton Spencer, near Macclesfield, Cheshire, Jim passed away peacefully with Hilda by his side on December 17th at their home.

But their family said heartbroken Hilda did not want to be parted from her husband – and on January 2nd, she also passed away.

READ; Ladies, Here Are The Telling Signs He’s NOT Busy, You’re Just Irrelevant To Him

Now the couple – who had two daughters, five grandchildren, and four great-grandchildren – have been buried during a joint funeral at St Mary’s Church in Bosley, Cheshire.

The church is also the same spot where in the couple got married, just as Jim was heading off to fight in the war.

Daughter, Anne Brooker said: “They were together for 75 years and mum said there was nothing to live for after dad died.

“Dad had seen everyone at the anniversary and said his goodbyes and it was his time to go, and when dad went it was time for mum to go too.

“It was a shock when mum went so quickly after losing dad but they kept going for each other. It was really emotional saying goodbye to both of them at the funeral.

“They got married in that church, their coffins were together at the service and they were buried together. They were together right until the end.”

As World War Two broke out, he met trainee chiropodist Hilda by chance at a dance.

Instantly smitten, the couple were engaged for a year before Jim was conscripted into the Army in 1941 so they had a quick wedding.


Daughter Anne described both her parents as “determined”, explaining how her mum stunned doctors years ago by fighting back to full health after contracting polio and being told she would never walk again.

She explained: “Mum and dad were both very determined. They were a wonderful couple.

“Family and community were very important to both of them. We’ll miss them very much.”




Ladies, Here Are The Telling Signs He’s NOT Busy, You’re Just Irrelevant To Him

Really wanna give someone the ultimate insult? Call them irrelevant. It’s pretty much the worst thing you could be.

Irrelevant is the worst thing you could be because you’re so insignificant, no one even bothered to think of a more precise insult. Simply put, you don’t matter.

Needless to say, nobody wants to be called irrelevant. Especially not by the guy you like. That being said, whether we admit it to ourselves or not, there are times when you are, in fact, irrelevant to the guy you’re so obsessed with.

In fact, I would go so far as to say the reason you’re so obsessed with him is because you’re irrelevant to him. The problem is that instead of just accepting the fact that we don’t matter to him, we try to make up excuses as to why this guy’s not giving us the time of day.

“He’s not talking to me because he’s mad at me!” No, you’re not relevant enough for him to bother with being mad at you.

Ladies Please Note; EVERY Single One Of These 10 Things Is Emotional Abuse

“He’s not talking to me because he’s busy!” No, you’re not relevant enough for him to prioritize you over literally anything else.

“He’s not talking to me because he’s dead!” No, he just doesn’t want to waste another breath in his waking life conversing with you.

I get that it can be a little confusing. Maybe he is mad at you. Maybe he is busy! Maybe he is dead!

So, check out this list of surefire signs he’s not mad or busy or dead (or any other lame excuse you managed to come up with)… you’re just irrelevant to him

  • Your friends are sick of hearing about him, but his friends don’t even know who you are
  • None of his family members know who you are (that is if he even has a family because he’s never mentioned them).
  • He straight-up doesn’t respond to some of your texts.
  • You’ve never hooked up sober.
  • If you have hooked up sober, it was in the morning after a drunk hookup

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  • You guys have never shared a meal together.
  • If you have shared a meal together, it was either late-night pizza or hungover morning meals.
  • He Snapchats you more than he texts you.
  • You’ve never been on a real date with him.
  • If you have been on a date, it was one time. And it never happened again.
  • You’ve never spoken on the phone unless it was 4 am, and you needed him to buzz you up to his place.
  • He never wants to cuddle with you.
  • He chooses even the dumbest plans over you.
  • His friends (the same ones who don’t know who you are) always come before you.
  • You’ve told him a million personal things about you, and he can barely remember any of it.
  • He’s told you he’s “not looking for anything serious.”
  • He told you he was too busy to hang out, then posted a Snapchat story of himself alone on the couch.
  • Part of you is afraid that if you stopped putting in the effort, your relationship would completely fizzle out.

STOP WASTING YOUR TIME. You are cool, and fun and smart, and even though this guy can’t seem to appreciate that, I guarantee there’s someone out there who will.

Divorcées confess exactly what ruined their marriages

When two people promise to spend a lifetime together on their wedding day, they expect those vows to last forever. But even after swearing to be there through the good and the bad, sometimes the bad is enough for one person to serve the other with a stack of divorce papers.

But what does it really mean to have “irreconcilable differences“? From extramarital affairs to personality clashes, this is what ultimately caused these people to throw in the towel on marriage;


“About six years into my marriage, I found out my husband was cheating on me when I walked in on him with one of our neighbors. We had been married for a good chunk of time, but I had no choice but to file for divorce that same week. It wasn’t something I could forgive and forget. It was painful to say goodbye and start life over, but sometimes that’s just how life and love is. You think you know someone and that you’ll stay with them no matter what, but that’s not realistic. People break your heart no matter how many times they promise they won’t.” —Trisha A., 32

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“The only thing we ever talked about toward the end of our marriage was how we didn’t have enough money for anything we wanted. We were renting an apartment and wanted to buy a house, but we couldn’t afford to because we had stacks of credit card debt and student loans to pay off. It became a nightmare because every conversation and fight was about making more or saving more money. We drove ourselves into misery and just both decided this wasn’t the life we wanted to live. We decided to go our separate ways after two years of marriage and two years of dating.” —Carla H., 29

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“My job was super demanding. I was promoted to the role of VP of marketing for a tech start-up I worked at for three years. I was working 70 hours a week, minimum, plus weekends. My husband didn’t like this at all. Mainly because he would come home from work before me and have to make his own dinner and do his own laundry. I was anything but a housewife. He should have known that when he married me. I think he did. He just thought eventually I’d give up my career. But I kept getting promoted and loving what I was doing. In the end, he asked me to pick my job or him. We got a divorce. We were only married for a year-and-a-half, so it wasn’t that hard to split up.” —Jana L., 35

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“One thing I wish I did before I even said yes to getting married to this person was talk about serious topics like having kids and how we would raise these kids, meaning what values and religious beliefs we’d instill in them. About a year into the marriage, I mentioned that I wanted to start trying to have kids. He looked at me with utter shock. It turned out he didn’t want kids, ever. He swears he mentioned that to me when we were dating. I think he did once, but super casually. I thought he didn’t really mean it or he would change his mind. But he refused. I admit that I messed up by not having this conversation with him beforehand so that I knew he was so against having kids. Having kids was something I wanted enough that it made me realize I need to get out of this marriage.” —Mary J., 28

“When your family doesn’t gel well, nothing will. My parents didn’t like him or his parents. His parents liked me, but not my parents. Our backgrounds were completely different: My family is from Africa and his is from Texas. Because our family fought so much, it made us fight. Their differences became our differences, and it just wasn’t working out anymore.” —Jocelyn K., 27

Guys, could this be the least harsh and probably sweetest way to get your girl to lose weight?

Some men can be so harsh when telling their girlfriends to lose weight. Treating her to good food and smothering her then later blantly telling her she’s fat isn’t the way to go. Remember, aside from her gorgeous body, you loved her for her awesome personality and that hasn’t changed. The gentleman below felt that the only way to get his stubborn girlfriend exercising is making it romantic through dancing, while cooking all her meals in a healthy way to get the results he wanted without her knowledge. He took to social media to pour his guilt. Frankly, I like this guy;

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“My girlfriend and I have been dating for over a year plus and she stays over sometimes. I’m one who likes to gym and keep fit. So she sees this as a nice thing, and to be honest, I think it turns her on to see my body and all of that, coz wen am back from the gym and I shower, she begins to act very sweet and the rest is usually censored. The only problem is that she wud never join me when I ask her to, even when I tell her she can just do it for the benefits. Don’t get me wrong, I like my lady’s body, but what do I do when she’s constantly eating unhealthy?

I recently came across this health and weight loss tea. I am actually not a big on any weight loss tea coz i believe that the right way is to exercise and cut down fatty foods. I agreed to use this tea because it helps achieve my beliefs.
I did my research and found that this brand seemed sincere. So, since my babe now almost lives with me, and naturally eats with me, I just add this tea (with edible content) into almost everything I cook for her. I make her tea with it, put it in our noodles and other meals that I prepare. When she asks why the food is green, I lie that it’s a special recipe and because she loves me, she doesn’t bother.

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For exercise, I make sure that we dance anytime she’s around because she loves dancing. She thinks its romantic that I dance with her every now and then but she doesn’t know that I am just getting her to exercise. She’s been losing some pounds and says she feels lighter for some reason she does not know. She used to have hormonal imbalance and problems with menstruation but all that is gone now. She says she sleeps better and is more active and energetic.
Please help me so I can know how best to tell my lady that my secret tea is the reason for all her recent joy without hurting her feelings.”

To the lovebirds, these are the 5 dangerous marriage trends to avoid In 2017

At its heart, marriage is very similar across times and cultures. Men and women were designed for one another. In other ways, marriage is continually changing.

In 2017, there are five dangerous trends to avoid in marriage:

Placing children before marriage to the detriment of both

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Children are important, but one of the best ways we can love them is by loving each other. Remember: when you put your children before your spouse, both lose. When you put your spouse before your children, both win.

Denying that struggling in one of the three major roles of a spouse isn’t that significant

A spouse is called to be three main things – friend, partner and lover. Too many husbands/wives ignore one of those areas and deceive themselves into thinking they make up for it in another area.  While it’s useful to build on strengths, each of these three roles must be mastered for a successful marriage.

Failing to create proper boundaries to protect themselves and their marriage


Good people will make bad decisions, in part, because they will have failed to create basic boundaries to protect themselves from temptation. If you don’t have several guardrails in your life – rules to live by in regards to the opposite sex, friends who care enough to ask the tough questions, and a true awareness of your ability to make horrible decisions – you are risking a lot.

Ignoring routine marriage maintenance

Couples must continually find ways to reconnect, check-in, and make sure the key components are working properly. Too many couples go months without a real conversation, a nice date, a break from the routine, or making a true connection. We are fooling ourselves if we believe our marriages can thrive without taking time to work on the marriage.

Waiting too long to get help

Every couple will likely need help both individually and together at various times throughout their marriage. Be quick to call a counselor if you go through a rough patch, have an issue you can’t make progress on, or just want to get a marital check-up.

‘I’m allergic to my husband’ woman suffers from a rare disorder of the immune system making her allergic to almost everything

Twenty-nine-year-old Johanna Watkins from Minnesota cannot kiss her husband Scott, or even spend time in the same room as him. She suffers from Mast Cell Activation Syndrome, a rare disorder of the immune system, which means she is allergic to almost everything, including her husband’s scent.

Johanna and Scott Watkins’s date nights are very different from other couples.

“Scott and I will try to watch a show together. We can’t be in the room together, because I’m allergic to him, but he will be three floors below me in a room on his laptop and I will be on mine and we’ll watch the show at the same time and then text about it as we’re watching it,” says Johanna.

Johanna lives in an attic room all by herself with sealed windows and doors, and air filters to purify the air. She has a severe form of Mast Cell Activation Syndrome (MCAS) in which the cells that are meant to protect her from outside threats mutate and start attacking her body instead.

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The symptoms and severity of the disease can vary from patient to patient, but it makes Johanna allergic to virtually everything and can trigger life-threatening anaphylactic shock.

Before she married her husband Scott in 2013 Johanna did not expect her condition to become so severe. She worked as a teacher and the couple used to love hiking together. Even then she struggled with unusual rashes, irritable bowel syndrome and migraines, but these ailments became much worse after the couple married.

“There were times three and four years ago, before we got the diagnosis, that if I was extra close to my wife, specifically if my face was close to Johanna’s face, she would cough,” says Scott.

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But it was only last year that the couple realised they had become unable to physically share their life together.

“We had noticed that when Scott would come in [to the room] I would start feeling worse and worse. My normal daily symptoms would just be aggravated,” says Johanna. “And then at one point he went to get his haircut and came back in the room and within two minutes I had started my anaphylactic symptoms and he had to leave.”

A week later Scott tried to see his wife again, but the same thing happened, and they realised their lives would have to change dramatically.

“It was this horrible reality that it wasn’t going to work,” says Johanna. “I was now reacting strongly to my husband. Before this I had reacted to my parents, to many, many other people, but it was horrific when it became Scott.”

The treatment and medication that is usually given to MCAS sufferers does not help Johanna, so at the moment the couple do not know when – if ever – their situation will change.

“There’s not an easy way around this problem. I want to keep Johanna safe and me going to see her compromises her safety,” says Scott. “One of the ways I can take care of her now is by not going to see her. I’m not going to endanger her life. We’re absolutely committed to one another and we’re going to wait as long as it takes to see if there is some kind of healing.”

Doctors are trying different treatments, but none so far have helped.

People reveal the moment they realised their former partner was simply ‘awful’

Breaking up is never an easy to do.

But for some, it’s the best thing they could have ever done.

People took to Whisper to reveal what made them realise their exes were ‘awful’ people after the relationship ended.

Some discovered their former partner held controversial views on politics and medicine, while others watched their exes go off the rails.

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One user confessed their ex had suffered a breakdown shortly after their split, forcing them to fear for their life.

‘My ex went crazy two weeks after we broke up,’ they wrote.

‘Literally. Dodged a bullet.’

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Another user revealed their ex-girlfriend believed vaccines were ‘unnatural’ and would never consent to her future children receiving them.

The author also noted his ex had never been vaccinated herself, leaving them even more relieved the pair had parted ways.

For one person, remembering the bad times became a good way to move forward.

Others found discovering their ex’s faults after the relationship ended often left them feeling righteous and better off.

Some contributors revealed their exes had become involved in drugs – either taking them themselves or giving them to others.

‘My ex got arrested for drugging girls at parties,’ one person wrote, noting they had definitely dodged a bullet by ending the relationship.

Another, who is now married and expecting their first child, said their ex is now using meth, while one person was told by their ex they had found a more cost efficient way to get a buzz.

‘I ran into my ex, who casually mentioned he was high on Windex,’ they wrote.

‘Glad I ended that relationship.’


3 reasons why pre-marriage counselling is good for you

Considering the rate at which marriages transform to divorces, it will be unwise of anyone not to be prepared enough before going into it.

Every form of advice is needed before venturing into marriage, and this is why pre-marriage counselling is a very important thing for couples preparing for marriage.

Below are three reasons why you should never pass up the chance to get pre-marriage counselling…

It’s a form of approval

Going for marriage counselling sessions with your religious head does not only afford you and your partner the opportunity of getting prepared for the married life ahead of you, it also serves as a form of final approval for your wedding ceremony to go ahead, if, after the counselling sessions, your Imam or Pastor says, you and your partner can go ahead and marry.

In addition, there is a strong likelihood that each meeting with them will include some prayer sessions too. That’s an added advantage, right?

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Third party intervention

While discussing marriage and reaching compromises, you and your partner might have a few unresolved issues.

Discussing these issues with a third party [marriage counsellor] will create a better chance of finding a common ground on them.

The experience will surely benefit you

Whether you go meet a professional counsellor or you choose your religious leader, chances are that they are married and they have a lot of experience in what you are yet to begin.

They would be answering your questions from both their experience and the experiences of several other people they have helped over the years.

This can only benefit you and your partner – in more ways than one as a matter of fact.

“I Love Another Man” People Confess Reasons They Regret Getting Married In Candid And Sad Posts

For many people, getting married is both the happiest day of their life and the best decision they’ve ever made.

However, others sorely regret saying ‘I do’, with reasons ranging from the selfish to the truly heartbreaking.

Plenty are sexual, with one woman admitting she misses ‘hooking up with strangers’ and a husband lamenting his lack of a sex life – although one woman says she regrets becoming a wife because her husband treats her ‘like a sex toy’.

Others are more emotional, as one wife admits she’s ‘in love with another man’, and one husband insists his wife is simply ‘taking advantage of her’.

One upset person said their spouse ‘no longer shows any love’, adding: ‘My heart hurts.’

One woman may simply regret the fact that she married a man, as she confesses: ‘I think I’m a lesbian.’

One person revealed they felt alone in their marriage, despite marrying their ‘best friend’. Some reasons were sexual, with one woman admitting she missed the thrill of sex with strangers.

One woman didn’t seem to have specific problems with her marriage from her end, except for the fact that her husband was making it clear he was so unhappy with her

One woman’s rather selfish reason for regretting getting married was that she missed the attention she commanded when single. Another woman’s concerns were financial, as she admitted her husband wasn’t ambitious enough

Check out the searingly honest posts below. Wow!

Man killed as lover sets house ablaze in Eldoret

A man was killed after his lover doused their house with petrol and set it ablaze at Shauri estate in Eldoret.

The middle aged jua kali artisan was burnt beyond recognition and residents said the two had been having domestic squabbles.

Police are looking for the woman who escaped after the incident. She poured petrol in the house as the man was asleep.

The man’s daughter Mary Njagi claimed that the attacker had been their maid.

Dead’ dad AWAKENS and lifts open coffin lid minutes before being buried alive

AN ELDERLY man who was thought to be dead and placed in a coffin by his children shocked his family when he sat up and asked them what was going on.

The 75-year-old pensioner had “stopped breathing” and had “cold feet and hands” when he was believed dead by his son, Huang Mingquan, and around a dozen other relatives.

The resident of Junlian County, in south west China, was already extremely weak to begin with and his family apparently thought he had finally passed away.

Courtesy ASIAWIRE BIZARRE: Pensioner was believed to be dead before waking up at his own funeral
Courtesy ASIAWIRE RESURRECT: The elderly man has been ‘coming back from the dead’ by lying in bed recovering“What’s happening? Are you preparing my funeral?”


So they were stunned when eight hours into the man’s funeral service, he opened the lid of the wooden coffin, sat up, and asked his children: “What’s happening? Are you preparing my funeral?”

He had seen the wreaths, ornaments, banners, as well as the gathering of relatives who had apparently all arrived to mourn his death – a process which would have continued for the next few days and carried on after his coffin had been put in the ground.

ASIAWIRE FUNERAL: Eight hours into the man’s funeral service, he opened the lid of the coffin
The man’s kids rushed over to lift their old dad from the coffin and put him back onto his bed, apologising for the awkward mix-up.

The pensioner, who is still weak and not eating much, has now spent the past two days since “coming back from the dead” lying in bed and eating porridge.

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Parents’ fury over sexist ‘dating assignment’ given to students at American school

Parents are furious after a Utah high school’s ‘sexist dating assignment’ which told female students they should be ‘ladylike’ and not to waste their date’s money.

Girls were also told to ‘be feminine’, ‘show respect’ and ‘if you think you’re too fat, keep it to yourself’, in the ‘Suggestions for the girls’ handouts by Highland High School in Salt Lake City, Utah.

Meanwhile, boys were advised that girls ‘like flowers and little gifts’ and to refrain from ‘gross noises’ in the assignment which asked students to go on a date that costs no more than $5.

Parents are furious after a Utah high school's 'sexist dating assignment' which told female students they should be 'ladylike' and not to waste their date's money
Parents are furious after a Utah high school’s ‘sexist dating assignment’ which told female students they should be ‘ladylike’ and not to waste their date’s money

But some parents have slammed the assignment as ‘sexist’ on social media.

Mother Jenn Oxborrow posted a photo of the two handouts — one for girls and one for boys — on Facebook.

‘Thanks for educating our kids, Utah Department of Education,’ Oxborrow wrote in her Facebook post, which had been shared more than 541 times. ‘We really appreciate you [sic] evidence-based misogyny.’

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Ladies Please Note; EVERY Single One Of These 10 Things Is Emotional Abuse

If you’ve never been involved with a cunning, pathological lying, narcissistic, abusive partner, you may not know what you’re dealing with.

When you date an abusive personality, you may buy into his charm, braggadocio and phony façade while downplaying his inconsiderate and questionable behavior. Or you mistrust your instincts that your boyfriend or husband is lying to you, demeaning and controlling you. Worse yet, you may think you are overreacting and crazy — as he claims you are.

If you are experiencing any of the following things, you’re in an emotionally abusive relationship;

Accusing and blaming: He shifts the responsibility and the emphasis onto you for the problems in your relationship. He says things, like: “It’s your fault.” What’s wrong with you?” “You didn’t remind me.” “Nothing I do is ever enough.”

Punishment by withholding: He refuses to listen, he ignores your questions, he withholds eye contact and he gives you the “silent treatment.” He’s punishing you! He withholds approval, appreciation, affection, information, thoughts and feelings to diminish and control you.

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Blocking and diverting: He steers the conversation by refusing to discuss an issue or he inappropriately interrupts the conversation. He twists your words, he watches TV, or he walks out of the room while you’re talking.

Contradicting: He disapproves and opposes your thoughts, perceptions or your experience of life itself. No matter what you say, he uses contradicting arguments to frustrate you and wear you down.

Discounting: He denies your experience of his abuse. He tells you that you’re hypersensitive or that you’re imagining things or that you can never be happy.

Disparaging humor: Verbal abuse is often disguised as jokes. The abuser teases, ridicules and humiliates you with sarcastic remarks about your appearance, personality, abilities and values. He makes fun of you in front of your friends and family because he knows you will avoid a public confrontation.

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General crazy-making: He uses a combination of distortion, blaming, forgetting, stonewalling and denial to confuse, frustrate and drive you to the brink of insanity. He denies the truth and twists your words, putting you on the defense.

Judging and criticizing: He harshly and unfairly criticizes you and then he passes it off as “constructive” criticism. If you object, he tells you he is only trying to help in an effort to make you feel unreasonable and guilty.

Undermining: He breaks his promises and he fails to follow through on agreements. He minimizes your efforts, interests, hobbies, achievements and concerns. He trivializes your thoughts and suggestions.

Forgetting: He “accidently”  forgets the things that are important to you. By doing this, he’s saying, “I’m in control of your time and reality.”

Now that you know the conniving, covert signs of emotional abuse, what are you going to about it?

Singer Fantasia Taylor talks about patience in seeking marriage and why she was so sure she was ready for marriage three weeks after meeting her husband (VIDEO)

The American Idol winner, who married hubby Kendall Taylor in 2015, 3 weeks after meeting him, seemed pretty confident saying ‘I do’. She took to her Instagram page after her wedding to share a bevy of beautiful wedding photos;

Fantasia Barrino, Wedding

Fantasia Barrino, Wedding

One adorable pic showed the now 33-year old singer flashing a giant smile while hugging her man just moments after they said “I do.” Barrino made for one gorgeous blushing bride as she stunned in her white wedding gown. The dress featured lace sleeves with flower details paired with a white crown around her head. As for her bouquet, Barrino held on to several red roses accented with jewels.

Fantasia Barrino, Wedding

Fantasia Barrino, Wedding

She posted this beautiful message;

“How Happy I am.. This Man.. God made him just for Me and me Just For Him.. This Man.. Covers and prays for me and my children EVERY morning.. This Man.. Loves My Father in Heaven and his name is God.. This Man allows me to just be a woman.. No more Hurt because King Kendall will never let that happen.. I’m off to just kiss, Hug and play in some water with This Man.. Look at Him in the pic YEP!! HE COVERS ME.. Be Happy with me you guys cause I’ve been thru SOOOOO much. Some stuff was my wrong decisions but all I ever really wanted was this.. Real Love. This Man and this smile is real.”

The couple is still strong and happier than ever. She was recently interviewed by Madame Noire where she opened up about her marriage and how she knew he was the one three weeks after meeting him.

Check out the video;

When I Met You… 😘

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In Case You Didn’t Know, Here Are 5 phases Of Awkwardness In New Relationships

Have you just entered into a relationship, or you are on the brink of entering into one?

You should expect early days of awkwardness, and uncertainty in the five areas listed below…

Learning of each other’s pasts

Learning about each other’s past can be a little awkward, especially when one of you has been a little wild and adventurous and has quite a lot to reveal.

When you get to that phase, try to be as open-minded as understanding as possible.

Getting comfortable with one other

You’ll also be at the point where you are not too sure of what is cool with your partner and what is not.

Time will take care of this, and soon enough, you both will be laughing at that awkwardness.

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When to have sex

Everyone has their own beliefs and ideas for when the time is right to get intimate with someone you’re dating.

At that point where you are really unsure of where your partner stands on the matter, it makes sense to sit down and have a good chat about it.

Meeting each other’s friends

There is also the awkwardness of meeting and getting along with your partner’s friends.

This will be so especially if you date someone from different social circles from yours.

To avoid this, partners need to advise their friends to be cool and be as friendly as possible before introducing bae /boo to them.

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Meeting the family

So this might necessarily not be something that happens very much at the beginning of relationships, but it poses some awkwardness too.

Being introduced to your partner’s family is usually a serious thing and it often shows that you are both headed towards something more serious than just a relationship.

This is why ladies and guys alike are often fretful and nervous about the date with their partner’s families.

How your relationship is positively affected by longer foreplay

It’s 2017 and women still wish men would do more when it comes to foreplay.

An improved, more adventurous and satisfactory sex life, and by extension, a better relationship.

Here are three great advantages of engaging in better foreplay in your relationship/marriage;

Sexual satisfaction

For couples that are in a sexual relationship, it has been firmly established that many women do not reach orgasm through penetration.

Whether or not your partner falls within this category of women, proper foreplay for the right amount of time is sure to leave her satisfied, and a sexually satisfied woman is far better than one whose sexual needs are not being met.

It increases intimacy

Most of the acts of foreplay are very intimate, and when you decide to pay more attention to doing it right and for a considerably higher amount of time, it is bound to increase the intimacy shared by you and your partner.

Reduces chances of cheating

It is a well-known fact, and experience has proven it as well that one of the things that push people into infidelity is sexual dissatisfaction.

Sex for women is not just about penetration. As a matter of fact, what happens before penetration is more important for women than actual penetration.

This shows just how important proper and adequate foreplay is, and when men oblige women and engage them in foreplay of the right manner and amount, then, surely the chances that such women will cheat is very slim.

And in the rare instance that they do, it is unlikely that it’ll be because of sexual dissatisfaction.