Woman laughs off giving up child to be raised by in-laws

 

Kenyan men often land the wrath of society for being dead beat dad’s who want nothing to do with their offspring.

But the tables seemed to have turned on Classic 105 after a mother called in confessing she gave up her daughter to her in laws and is happy with that decision.

Maina spoke about it saying

I need to talk of these mothers, because when this lady called in, it threw my head into a spin.

The woman talked about why she gave up her daughter to her in-laws and also how she has not seen the child since.

She told Maina

he was told by the parents… go take the kid we will take care of her… I said ok, come and take her. I have not seen her. I don’t need to be responsible for anything now, sitaki mastress

So how often does she see her daughter?

I don’t. It’s been a year since nilimwona

And why isn’t she bothered at all by this

because I don’t want anything to do with them

As a mother who has had a child taken from her, doesn’t she miss her daughter? Maina proded her

siwezi endea huko you know what? itakuwa balaa and she is four years and a half. Now I am ok. I just told God to give me that piece of mind.

This formed the basis of the morning conversation where Mwalimu Kingangi slammed women.

Maina said’ I can understand men not having an instinct but ladies…

Mwalimu dag in criticizing society’s perception of men

‘You know men love their children even those outside, more than women kufa kupona ni kukatazwa. how do you leave your daughter?

Is there something we don’t understand about this lady? What do you make of what you’ve heard from her? What do you make of her behaviour.

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Divorced Kenyan dad’s bitter fight for child ‘kidnapped’ ten years ago

The narrative is all too common: man meets woman, they fall in love, that may or may not lead to marriage or a long-term relationship, woman becomes pregnant, a beautiful child is conceived.

Cute right? Alas, the relationship does not stand the test of time, as the fairytale would otherwise have us believe. Things happen.

What is perplexing, however, is the tendency for women to use their children as ammunition, as part of an intricate ploy to somehow strike back at their ex-partner.

This retaliation is often due to any wrongdoing [ongoing or not] that may have been committed by the man in question – be that adultery, stealing, lying, etc. Ridiculous, I know – yet all too real.

Read this long read from a man who confessed to Maina Kageni his miserable story.

Some years back in 2010 I got a son  with someone and the lady was a drunkard and we went to court abput child custody.

I happened to win the case after pushing for around three months, so after winning the case she was given access then she got advice form her sister ( the child was now around a year two months) she kidnapped the child then I happened to see the child after three years.

He explains why he has been unable to get tough on her for so long despite the law saying he should have the child

I did go looking for the child. I got a court order and I tried following up but she was never arrested by the police. They usually say it’s a legal case. She used to stay in her mothers place and it was not accessible. What would I have done I could go to the nearest police station but the gates were locked. I wish you can understand that when you don’t have an access like a place that is gated it’s hard to access and there is way you can break it.

I have not seem my son for nine years, the warrant of arrest is effective the women can’t be found, and the grandparents don’t want to see me. I have tried my level best.

 

Morning conversation: Mothers who deny fathers access to their children

A feature aired on KTN on Monday night called Breaking Bonds about Kenyan fathers denied access to their children by baby mama’s.

This formed the basis for the morning conversation on Classic 105 Tubonge Tuesday with Maina asking: By the time you have been denied access, what have you done?

Mothers who deny fathers access to children following a divorce or separation is a highly debated topic, often dividing Kenyans.

The Breaking Bonds feature was a harrowing thing to watch as the guys wept and said they way they don’t have money but can be there emotionally for their children.

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Why would a normal woman who used to worship the ground you walk on say you can’t see your children? If you have been excluded from your children call me and explain Maina urged male callers.

Many fathers called in to explain why they don’t see their children.

This man recounted

Most women force pregnancies then they dump you and get your money. They are rotten tot he core.

Zari washes her dirty kinen in public, accuses Diamond of being a deadbeat dad

Another said

Nowadays women have been turned out to be hunters. They are hunting us too much. 

Another said

“Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned,” it’s just never okay for a woman to use a child against a man or vice versa.

Dear Classic 105 fam, what has been your experience in this issue? Do drop your comments below.

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Maina and Kingangi: The power of the tongue of a woman

Maina and Kingangi talked about the power of the woman’s tongue and they were asking about what a woman has ever told you that you will never forget.

Most of the responses were from them men saying how evil a woman can be.

One man called saying; my brother killed himself because of his wife. She used to deny him food and did not respect him at all in his own house. 

The men also commented saying that women should be handled with great care because they can be evil when messed up with. Some were of opinion that mothers were to be blamed for not bringing up their daughters in the right way.

A lady responded to this saying that, its fathers who spoil us not mothers. My father tells me about men and how they behave.

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Another man was of opinion that women are like balloons when blown they swell and will eventually burst if more pressure is added to them and so one should be careful when dealing with them.
One man said that men should also know how to handle their women because one cannot attack you with no reason there has to be something leading to that.

Ladies also commented on this.

One said, my husband once told me that the worst mistake i ever did was to marry you. I forgave him but i have never forgotten and that was 15 years ago and i consider myself single since then. 

I broke up with my husband because he used to say that he would prefer my mother than me because she had a nice figure that he ever wanted in his life and was a more established woman than me. I got i another boyfriend but i have never got intimate with him since we started dating. He knows about my story and  he knows am not confident enough and is ready to wait for me. Maina finds this to me the most incredible story ever heard.

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Maina and Kingangi ask whether men refund loans borrowed from their women

This week Maina and Kingangi have been discussing issues that deal with finances in relationships between man and woman.

Maina brought up the issue of men asking for money from their significant others and whether they ever returned the money.

Maina wondered whether men knew how important money was to women?

Kingangi meanwhile was of the opinion that most men return the money promptly. The reason he gave was that most women would nag the man incessantly until they got back the money, adding, ‘hiyo nyumba hailkaliki!’

Some of the responses to the conversation are below;

One man disappeared with my 2.8 million. He is now building a house with his first wife, even though he left a son behind – Response from a female caller.

They(women) are like thieves. They are suspect from day one. Die with your own mother. Pesa ya mwanake imelaaniwa – Wakanai.

I did her favour marrying her a favour and giving her children. She should thank me – Captain Kale.

When you are in love you have already helped him with more than 100k. I have given out 200k collectively to a man. Then he disappeared. It happened again. I gave the second man 10k. I have never repeated it again – Response from a female caller.

Head of the home should not sumbua his juniors – Response from a female caller.

The man should not borrow but ask. This means he isn’t seeking a loan – Response from a female caller.

Marriage is a couple taking each other’s assets and liabilities. Also if you can’t pay your father and mother, then how can you pay the person who is supposed to be one with you? – Response from a male caller.

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Maina and Kingangi ask whether wives should help their husbands financially

Maina and Kingangi had a fascinating conversation this morning regarding men asking their wives for money. Maina felt like this was a grave offense and that men should be self-sufficient, saying, ‘a man’s money is for the family, while her money is hers.’

He was scandalised that modern men had no shame asking their women for money, claiming that if the women did so, they would be the defacto heads of the homes. Kingangi meanwhile saw the sense in men asking their wives for money.

He said that these men also help their wives when they (wives) are in need. Why shouldn’t they get the same treatment. When comments were opened opinion was nearly split down the middle among the genders; with the ladies agreeing with what Maina was saying while the men largely agreed with Kingangi.

Some of the responses are below;

Huwezi sema mtu hana pesa aende akufe. Ulisalimia Mungu ndio upate pesa, Ananipatia pocket money – an enraged male caller telling Maina that it is o.k for his wife to help him.

What’s wrong with a that – Male response via text.

I will not give you any pocket money so you can drink with your male friends -Female response via text.

How do you give a man money to treat other chipos? – Female response via text.

I always give my wife money, when I don’t have, she should give me – Male response via text.

Till death do us part – Response from male caller.

Who said we need her money – Response from an enraged male caller.

My pride and ego do not allow me to deal with such men. My face will put a stop on them – Response from a proud female caller.

I once gave my man the man, thank God he didn’t take it cause I was dying inside -Response from a female caller.

I will give you business ideas and not pamper you money – Response from a female caller.

The Constitution or the Bible does not say that a man cannot be given money by his wife – Response from an enraged male caller

If you are broke forget about marriage. There is no way that I can give you a child and pocket money – Female response via text.

I have no problem helping men, equality – Female response via text.

I will never give my man anything – Response from a female caller.

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What value is there in a broke man asks Maina and Kingang’i

Maina and Kingangi today had an interesting conversation about the merits and demerits of a man who doesn’t have money. Maina was of the belief that a man like that should not be dating.

Mwalimu Kingangi was saddened that men who did not have money were treated so badly by society. He said that even the chicken and people in church don’t respect such a man.

Kingangi hoped that people would not only value a man based on his pocket but also the wisdom that he might possess, saying that God cannot give one everything.

But Maina quickly countered saying,

How can a man who has no money be wise? How come men are broke and the women have cash? Bila pesa you are a walking corpse among Kenyan women

The comments to the discussion came hard and fast with some of the responses below,

If you don’t money, you don’t make sense – Wrote a Classic 105 fan.

Another man tagged Maina saying

You can’t disrespect men like that, please drop the discussion

Please stop talking badly about men, wisdom from a man will sustain you. Wacha kutudanganya Maina. Mwanaume si pesa ni akili Response from a female caller.

Mwanaume ni kupanda na kushuka. I have been broke for the past 2 months. Ni mashetani! – Response from a male caller.

Cha muhimu ni health – Written response from a man.

Conclusions are made by people with money – Response from a male caller.

Broke man is a ceremonial husband – Written response from a woman.

A man is money – Response from a male caller.

I am a man who is helped by his wife. When I have money, we help each other, when I don’t have money she helps me. Just yesterday, my wife gave me 35k. She is even paying the bill for the car. She even paid 80k last month for it.

Money can buy you happiness -Response from a female caller.

A man who is broke and good in bed is the most confusing thing for a woman -Response from a female caller.

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The one thing that makes Kenyan women shout at their men in public

Ladies why do you feel the need to shout at your man in public?

An article in a local daily dubbed ‘The angry woman syndrome’ formed the basis of the morning conversation on Classic 105.

On the morning conversation on Tubonge Tuesday, Maina Kageni sought to know why Kenyan wives are always angry and why they don’t care about shouting at their husbands in public.

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A female caller narrated to Maina why she vents on the streets.

‘I was that good girl until marriage changed me’. revealed Purity.

Another said ‘inatokana na lack of conjugal rights. Nitakwambia kwanini. Mimi nilikuwa fresh form four nikapata kazi ya nymba ambayo nimefanya kwa seven years. Huyu husband na wife wanakosana juu ya bedroom. Mwanamke anaambia mume ni bure, shida si pesa, ni hawa watu wawili kutoka kwa bedroom. Fuatilia Maina shida si pesa. shida ya hawa wanawake si pesa, mimi natimiza zangu na sioni hiyo shida.

Maina responded saying ‘I didn’t even imagine that would even be an issue. Wow. ladies you are not saying that are you? So it’s all there. is that it?

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Sharon also called in and weighed in on the matter.

‘ukikuta umeshoutiwa know that you have failed as a man, know that you are not man enough for her. you are just a disgrace unajua it is the work of a man to shape the character of his wife, so if he can’t control his woman calm her down, she will get frustrated and shout every corner.’
@Maryiana96..
We ain’t bitter, they just can’t hear us.. How do yu make a man who goes on Friday and shows up on Sunday hear you! How…. They are big babies they only listen that way! @Itsmainakageni @classic105kenya #MainaAndKingangi

Another lambasted men saying
@carolkungu3548..
@ItsMainaKageni @Classic105Kenya This is not a ladies wish to ve such a bad temper its the way tormentation has invested in us especially when ur the first born and ur seen like a nobody and being mistreated too…..#MainaAndKingangi

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Felix differs warning
@FelixxOtienoo…
#MainaAndKingangi
@ItsMainaKageni
@Classic105Kenya
Maina most of this drama queens are usually ladies who struggle in academics or were academic dwarfs. I did that research. I had a girl friend like that it pained me more to be shout at by an empty debee.

what is your opinion about angry wives shouting on the streets?

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Maina and Kingangi debate whether wives make their husbands successful

Maina and Kingangi this morning had an interesting conversation concerning the importance a woman plays in building up a man.

Maina referenced a conversation he had with a woman last Friday who admitted that she was the reason her husband had become successful in life, saying,

I met him when he was in a rental that cost 12k a month. Now I am in our own house. Our children are in the best schools. They(husbands without direction) send 20k a week to mpango wa kando and bars. He says that I am the best and thanks God every day he married me. He is ahead of his siblings, just because he married me.

Maina agreed with her that women build up men but Kingangi was not buying that notion and said that women did push me alright, but it wasn’t helpful, rather it was more like nagging. He said that is why many Kenyan men were going to Uganda and Rwanda to thrive.

Kingangi also asked if he was pushing him away or pushing him forward, a question that Maina decided to ignore. Kingangi caused laughter by asking Maina why he wasn’t married if women could help a man so much?

Maina then opened up the conversation to the audience. It was a near even split among the genders with most men refuting Maina’s argument while the women agreed that they had a big part to play in the success of men.

One of the male callers said that the conception that that lady had brought up was nonsense. Captain Kale agreed with that man saying that women push you then when you make it they either kill you or divorce you.

Another asked on text how it was that retired President Moi had succeeded without a woman in his life. There is a difference between pushing a man and suffocating, another man wrote on text.

There was the rare man who agreed with Maina saying that a good woman can indeed help you. One female opined that anytime you try to help men, they say umewakalia.

Another male caller defended women and said that he sees the benefit his wife plays in his life. The caller added he got his wife when they lived in a house where he paid rent of sh3000. Now he had everything and he insisted that Mpango wa kando hawasaidii.

A female caller agreed saying that if you don’t push men, that they will be at a round-about for the rest of their lives.

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Maina and Kingangi discuss secret of how politicians win elections

Maina and Kingangi in the morning is normally the most interesting show on radio. The two spoke today about the recent Huduma Namba extension.

Maina said that before the president extended the deadline of the exercise, the registration centres were full to the brim but now that President Kenyatta had extended the period the centres were now empty.

The two noted that Kenyans will again fill up the centres just before the registration ends this week. This struck a chord with Kingangi and he had a revelation; that politicians win elections because they normally focus on the rural areas as those people are serious about following what politicians say.

Maina added that that might be the reason why Deputy President William Ruto spends a lot of his time in the rural areas.

Kingangi hilariously added that the people from mashinani already had their Huduma Namba’s on the 2nd day of the exercise! They, however, concluded that Kenyans should go for the cards sooner rather than later.

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Is 16 years old enough to consent Maina Kageni asks

The courts have proposed lowering the age of s3xual consent to 16 from 18.

Three judges, Roselyn Nambuye, Daniel Musinga and Patrick Kiage, ruled that time was ripe for the country to consider changing the Sexual Offences Act, citing lengthy jail terms imposed on young men convicted of defilement. They made the observation in a case where they reversed a 15-year sentence slapped on a man who had impregnated a 17-year-old girl, according to the Standard newspaper.

Classic 105’s Maina Kageni posed this question of age of consent, asking if this is a debate we should have.

This week I was with  group of teacher who said I need to discuss this 

Mwalimu Kingangi wants to know why judge think 16 years is ok for Kenyan children to become s3xually active.

16 unajua huyo ni mtoto wa form two, you know when they are looking butt these things mtoto wa America ni mtu mkubwa lakini wa Kenya ni mdogo sana.

as a parent we are not having that conversation, 16 years ngai weh, that thing whatever they are trying to propose, wacha it should remain 18 infact 20 years.

What is your interpretation of the recommendation for the age of s3xual consent?

Is there a different reality on the ground? And must we accept that reality and what did the court of appeal judges see?

A male caller supports the courts recommendation saying

you know we are running away from reality the world has changed naona 14 would have been better, hao tunajidanganya

A female caller shocked Maina when she made a confession and said

I wouldn’t blame them because unfortunately actually kids even from the age of 9 are doing it, I am a teacher by profession and when we talk to them they tell us they know everything. we need to empower our children because when you tell them don’t do it they go and do it and find out. In my class I have thee nine year old’s who have already had s3x. so we need to empower them and give them knowledge.

 

Morning Conversation: How do deadbeat dads live with themselves

On Wednesday, the Classic 105 morning conversation was about the new court ruling, that will allow children born out of wedlock to access their inheritance.

Today Maina Kageni wants to ask men one thing about being a deadbeat father:

‘You know you have a child out there, and you have never sent a coin to support that child. How do you live with yourself?

The fact that you have a child out there, doesn’t it bother you, Maina posed to deadbeat fathers?

Mwalimu tried to convince Maina that these mothers push men away, that is why baba mtoto does not help.

‘wanakwambia you are not a role model to the child. Kwanza when the lady is a bit stable haaa utaonanga huyo mtoto kwa TV champions league.

you want to go see your child unakatazwa.’

Girls is there any truth to this?

Men called in to respond to the allegations telling Maina that women are to blame.

One man said:

‘ nimemuuliza fees structure na amekataa, bila hiyo silipi!

 

Another Caller:

“Me and my ex got a child together. Then she got a job which changed her a lot. Sai ata siwezi ona mtoto.

Augustine chemiat Mwotei said:

Maina what these ladies to us wacha tu. When i want my daughter to pay me a visit or aende kwetu excuses huwa mob na nadaiwa fee na shopping aje heri you stay vile uko maina

Noah from Kilgoris said

‘kuna mke tulipenda nayyey tukazaa mtoto mmoja, na kuongea na huyo mtot ni shida atat kuchukuwa simu yangu ni shida, hawa watu wakipayta kazi hata kusalimia mtot ni shida, hakuna siku. Sisi wanaume tunapitia vitu nyingi dunia hii.

Nikitafut namba anabadilisha, nikijaribu kuongea na mamake anakataa. wananifrustrate bure.’

 

Girls you stand accused. Is this true? Drop your comments below.

 

Kenyan woman threatens to expose a media personality for using her and dumping her

Today during the morning on Classic 105 with Maina and King’ang’i, the discussion was about people who don’t want to move on after the relationship has ended. Mike Mondo, who is sitting in for Maina shared with King’ang’i how a lady caused fracas when he told her that he can’t do long distance relationship.

Mike’s ex was living in Mombasa and he was in Nairobi and when he broke up with her, she caused fracas and till date he has a scar on his hand after the lady bit him. He asked the listeners to join in the conversation and share their experience.

One lady shocked everyone with her story after she revealed that a media personality used her and left her high and dry. She vowed that soon and very soon she will make sure she exposes the personality because he really hurt her.

King’ang’i, who always defends men, was shocked by the lady’s confession on radio.

Listen to the full conversation below;

 

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Video of woman beating man in the streets of Nairobi causes outrage

Mwalimu is not a happy man this morning. We had this crazy outpouring of emotion when Nzomo was beating his wife in public.

He was hunted down and found where he was hiding, and according to Mwalimu no lawyer wants to handle his case.

Now this weekend another video went viral of a woman beating her man black and blue.

A man was this time being beaten by a lady. She was kicking and hitting him mercilessly because of Sh200. The kicks and blows were thrown to even his private parts and no one went to help that guy, why?

Mwalimu says no one is talking about that, and instead people are prising her.

So why aren’t we seeing as much outpouring of emotion right now as we did when Nzomo beat up his wife?

Mwalimu says a lot of men are being beaten by their wives. And that this lady has walked away scott free.

 

woman kicks man

 

Is it double standards? Who is going to help the boy child?

Girls, why are you beating your men?

How come no one caused an outcry this weekend when a video of a woman beating up a man went viral? Unlike Nzomo, no one knows this mans name or who he is is.

‘Hivyo ndo kunaendaga’ Kenyan man shocks wife after infecting her with HIV (AUDIO)

Niko sawa tuu’ is the one statement that men like to say when it comes to health and going to the doctor, regardless of the medical condition.

On Thursday on the morning conversation on Classic 105, a lady gave us  the most stunningly shocking statistics that on an average day out of all the people who go for voluntary testing, only one is a man.

On an average day the 25 people who go for voluntary testing, only one is a man.

This alarmed Maina Kageni who exclaimed;

‘So ladies, there you are taking care of yourselves then there are these lumps of diseases walking all over risking your health’.

Guys why don’t you like to get tested?

An angry woman called in and confessed the difficult moment she found out she had contracted HIV from her husband, who had kept quiet about his condition.

‘Mzee wangu alijua ni mgwonjwa na akanyamaza, so after two years mtoto alikuwa mgonjwa, na nikampeleke kenyatta, and it was discovered we are both positive’.

When she confronted him about it, he admitted with such a rude statement.

‘Aliniambia ati hivyo ndio kunakuaga. saa hii for the last ten years tunakunywanga dawa’.

Has she forgiven him?

‘No. it was hard to tell my child kwanini anakunywa dawa. lakini sija break hiyo news, bado tunaenda counselling’.

‘Alianza kutoka majiu, hapa nikasuspect kuna kitu. he started stinking like hell, na nikamwongelesha akaanza kukunywa dawa. saa hii, nimekuwa kama counsellor, ni ngumu sana kuongelesha wanaume’.

As a lady should you be worried by such?  Listen to the audio below of the conversation Maina Kageni had with men and women on the topic.

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Rafiki writer-director Wanuri Kahiu sings with Gotham Group

Is she gearing up to go worldwide? Kenyan movie producer Wanuri Kahiu has caught the eye of a top Hollywood management, film and television company.

Wanuri Kahiu is the brains behind Rafiki, a movie about a lesbian encounter, that has been banned by KFCB.

Rafiki (which means “friend” in Swahili), tells the story of Kena and Ziki — both considered “good” Kenyan girls destined to become “good” Kenyan wives who both long for something more. Despite the political rivalry between their families, the girls resist and remain close friends, supporting each other to pursue their dreams in a conservative society. When love blossoms between them, they are forced to choose between happiness and safety.

When it was banned in Kenya, KFCB tweeted: “Anyone found in its possession will be in breach of law.” Under national law there, gay sex carries a 14-year jail sentence. Despite the ban, it found international distribution through Orange Studios and MPM Premium.

“Wanuri Kahiu is a prodigiously talented and brilliant woman,” said Ellen Goldsmith-Vein, founder and CEO of The Gotham Group. “As an advocate for Africans, especially young women, Wanuri has established herself as a major cultural force. That she refused to edit Rafiki in any way to avoid the Kenyan ban is a testament to Wanuri’s courage and commitment to her creative vision.”

Her short sci-fi film, Pumzi, which she wrote and produced, is a haunting parable about a world without water, It screened at Sundance in 2010, won the Venice Film Festival’s “Award of the City of Venice,” and was named best short film at Cannes in 2010.

“In our difficult times, and I say this despite the serious themes in much of my work, I also believe film – and television – needs images of joy and frivolity as well,” said Kahiu. “My hope is that the whole dimension of the human spirit, in Africa and around the world, be reflected in my work.”

Kahiu is also the co-founder of Afrobubblegun, a media company that supports, creates and commissions fun, fierce and playful African art.

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‘You beautiful woman’, Listen as Maina Kageni gushes over woman who revealed it’s never too late to fall in love at 52 (AUDIO)

A woman who spoke to Maina Kageni about why it’s not too late to fall in love in your fifties has impressed many.

The woman had a message for women about finding love in your fifties proving that falling head over heels in love is the best thing.

She admitted to being a 52-year-old woman who had for the longest time never found a man worthy of walking down the aisle with. She stunned Maina and shut down Mwalimu Kingangi, with the two being left speechless with her beautiful love story.

‘I am 52 and never been married, and now I want to be married to my 65-year-old boyfriend and move to Malindi’, she beamed.

Yes I’m 52, I will be 53 in July. I never found the right man until a year ago. Actually I’m gorgeous to tell the truth. I’ve been told I sound like a young girl but I’m not.

In fact I found him via a dating site. We met up, liked each other and we are getting married in July. He is 65 years and previousy married twice, he has four kids.

Maina could not hold back his joy telling her,’ I am so happy for you. I wish you all the happiness in the world and if you invite me I would love to come to the wedding.

‘I will tell you my email address and you will be able to save our number ok, my goodness where is your kayamba mwalimu kingangi. You beautiful woman, you you happy women you, oh you blessed woman you…’

‘oh may you have a happy marriage darling, blessed’, the excited Classic105 presenter finished.