When I look at older Kenyan female celebrities, I often wonder, what would they tell their younger selves?
Would they look back at their younger selves and feel awful at all the turmoil they went through? I do admire someone like Akothee, who owns up to all that she did and went through, perhaps as her way of getting on with it.
But for those struggling with this, do read through the nine points and truth bombs you need to hear, according to an article published on Gurl,
It’s Okay To Be A Bi*tch
You’re going to feel like you can’t speak your mind or tell someone off because that would be “unlady-like.” I’m going to give you permission to say whatever you want. When your cousin tries to touch you inappropriately, you don’t have to be sweet. Yell at him, scream at him, and tell everyone what he tried to do to you. When that guy you go on a date with doesn’t listen when you say, “No,” feel free to get out of his car and find your own way home. Give him the finger while you’re at it. BE A B*TCH. Everyone else gets what they want- you deserve to have what you want, too
If You Feel Uncomfortable, Just Leave
You’re going to be in situations that you feel are very wrong, but you’re going to stay because you don’t want to make a fuss. I’m going to ask you to stand up for yourself in these situations. Bad relationship senior year? LEAVE. Creepy boss? LEAVE. Weird party? LEAVE. You are autonomous and you never have to stay in something you don’t like.
That Breakup Isn’t As Devastating As You Think It Is
You can’t see how you could ever love anyone else right now, but I promise you that you will find love again and it will be even better. The time you waste pining and wishing for this person could be much better spent on other things. I want to tell you that it’s okay that things didn’t work out between you two- it’s not your fault.
You’re More Beautiful Than You Know
You don’t think you’re beautiful. All you see are your flaws- that pimple on your nose, they way your stomach pouches, the droop in your right eyelid. But you are beautiful. You’re going to look back in fifteen years and say, “Wow! Why didn’t I realize it?”
The Hard Times Actually Do Get Better
I know the you don’t believe anyone who tries to comfort you with this cliché, but I’m telling you it will get better. Do you know why? Because you’ll get better at handling the ups and downs of life. You’re going to think about ending your life, but you shouldn’t waste your energy. Keep fighting, because this rough patch only temporary and is crucial to the story of your life.
Your Friends Who Are Doing Better Than You Will Have Their Struggles, Too
Jealousy is such a waste of time. Everyone, no matter how great their life seems, will have some sort of hurdle to surmount. It may not be tomorrow, it may not even be for five more years, but it happens to everyone. I know you’re going to be super envious of your friend, Kate, who gets cast in national musicals right out of college, but in a few years she’ll have to work just as hard as you do.
You Have To Learn To Make Decisions On Your Own
I know you are paralyzed with indecision because you feel that every move you make will change your entire life. That’s too much pressure! I want to take some of that burden off of your shoulders- one decision will not make or break you. Everything you do serves a purpose, so make a decision and let it go. Don’t torture yourself wondering if you made the “right” choice.
All Those People With The Latest Clothes Are Probably Spending Money They Don’t Have
You feel “less than” the girls with the expensive shoes and the Gucci shirts, but the truth is they’re not any better than you. They or their parents might even be in debt trying to “keep up with the Joneses.” Feel good about the fact that you only spend money that you have.
Stress Will Always Be There So You Have To Learn How To Deal
I understand that things don’t feel right. This isn’t the life that you thought you were going to have when you were a little girl. That’s okay. Plans change, life changes, it’s never perfect. There isn’t a “right” way to do anything. Even when you decide to go to that weird theater camp you hate during the summer sophomore year, you’re going to get great stories out of it. The truth is, you’re always going to feel stressed – you just need to learn how to get through it.