To my dear ladies:
Ladies, it has been said that ya’ll are a very expensive commodity and most of the ladies sell themselves short for peanuts. It is high time you respect yourselves and know your value as a well-respected woman.
Stop being bitter from the past. Life is too short to keep grudges and always being angry over what happened to you in the past. Life, on the other hand, is sweet only if you open your eyes to see that for yourself.
Stop falling for looks and money. This act makes all women look like golddiggers and lazy in the fact they don’t want to break a sweat to earn a dime for themselves. Money and looks are not everything in a man, try looking at the other attributes that he may have, for at the end of it all these things are vanity.
Set your standards high. This doesn’t necessarily mean you are high maintenance, this simply means you want to differentiate from the rest. Those who cannot afford your standards should just keep moving on because you do not have time for broke ni**as with no future. But also remember, it is also very important to have your own before entering a relationship.
Close your mouth and listen at times. It has come to be known that women are loudmouths and do not listen in an argument or admit whenever they may be wrong and take advise. I would like to tell the ladies to be slow to speak and quick to listen for the Bible says,
“Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. Therefore put away all filthiness and rampant wickedness and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able to save your souls. But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks intently at his natural face in a mirror.”
Motivate each other. Women have been known to be their worst enemies. They compete instead of motivating each other in doing better. Hence why ladies are never happy and jealous of each other. Girls support each other for no man is an island, we cannot do without each other.
Don’t be naive. Never show that you do not know anything or have any experience in whatever you may be asked about. With lack of knowledge may result in you being used or taken advantage of for not being experienced at a given field or unsophisticated.
For my fellow men;
Stop being full of pride. Men are known for being proud in their accomplishments or how big their genitalia is. I would like to advise my fellow men to reduce their egos and humble themselves for we tend to like to exaggerate in activities of being strong or being se3ually active.
Men keep your se3 life confidential. It goes without saying, bedroom matters should be kept confidential. But men tend to publicize it like it is an accomplishment having bagged a shawty for either a one night stand or having bagged a hommies shawty.
Stop flexing like you got it all. Instagram will be the death of us all I must say. Many self-acclaimed men love to show off their wealth on the gram. This makes other people who watch their posts feel discouraged and want to commit suicide because they feel like they are not living their worth on this world. This tends to discourage people who work hard to earn their coins.
Learn to respect women. No man should be caught disrespecting a woman whatsoever. Also as a man, you shouldn’t lay your hand on a woman no matter what. This makes you less of a man.
Show off your girl and try to be faithful. Men are very proud when they bag themselves a pretty girl. Want to show them off as a trophy and it is a sign that you are proud of your lady and love her and not ashamed of his pick. But yet again, cheating scandals tend to evolve mostly on the guy’s side, but do not get me wrong, I ain’t saying women don’t cheat but all I am saying is that men should try to be faithful and love just one woman at a time.
Pick up a Bible and read my guy! Sin has warped our ability to clearly reflect God’s image. God’s Spirit uses the Bible to transform us to reflect the image of Jesus Christ in every area of our lives. As we read the Bible as individuals and with other believers, God grows us in godliness. God uses his Word to transform us into clearer reflections of his Son, Jesus Christ. It also rebukes us.
Teach your brothers the same. Let us all be our brother’s keeper. Let us all look after each other and help each other when we down. Life is a rollercoaster and we may never know when our turn may reach and may be our turn to seek for help or advise.